People who complain they're fat but do nothing about it

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It depends how much interaction I have to have with them. Locker room chat wouldn't bother me at all - people can say what they like. I've been wearing a HRM these past few days and have been astonished at how few calories swimming burns compared with the MFP calculation. I mentioned it to a lady who was in the pool with me earlier and she said there must be something wrong with my monitor because "everyone knows that you have to eat lots of food to make up swimming calories". Fair enough...

I used to be in an office with a woman (just she and I) who used to complain about her weight all the time and I got a bit bored of it - especially when she started making comments about mine - I just told her to "Do something about it if it bothers her - or stop going on about it" - and definitely stop dragging my weight into her complaint.

I hope this thread isn't going to become a 'bash the fatties' kind of thing, it definitely has the potential - just depends how many pseudo-posters appear.

kelseyhere

I sit next to a lady at work who is like this. Everyday she complains about her weight and how she wants to get back in shape but there are always so many excuses...
...my manager keeps scheduling meetings over my lunch break (this manager left the company a month ago and she doesn't have a new manager yet to schedule meetings- plus what about the 30 minutes you spent gossiping this morning instead of working)
....i don't have time to eat my breakfast or lunch so i binge! (your yogurt is in your lunch bag right next to you and you've been on the computer the past hour- you had plenty of time to eat)
....I travel too much and you can't workout at hotels and all the food in airports is bad (that's why i bring my own snacks when i travel, and i travel too and have been able to workout just fine- maybe every hotel doesn't have a weight room, but that doesn't stop you from doing crunches, push-ups, lunges, etc. in your room).

Basically, I can come up with a simple solution to her every excuse. But do I? No. I tried for a while, but I've realized she has to make the decision to change. Until then, I lead by example squeezing in my lunch workouts when I can, eating my breakfast promptly by 9, eating my healthy lunches, etc. Hopefully it will click with her that I'm not doing anything that special, just exercising a few times a week and keeping my calories in check.

But yes, this is super annoying behavior especially for a full grown adult. People need to take accountability for their health and stop blaming it on others and their circumstances. Obviously everyone here has already taken that first step though!

lizziebeth1028

I have an extremely overweight friend who is always complaining about her weight...asking for advice and then shooting down everything I tell her. It's frustrating, I just tune her out now though. She'll never change!

Beauty0619

She isn't doing nothing about it. She is at the gym. That is at least a start. Everyone has to figure out their own way to get to their goal. Something has to click for her - not you - to get her to do the rest of the things she needs to do to lose the weight she wants to lose. At least she is up and moving at the gym. That is a heck of a lot better than a lot of people that complain about their weight.

Generally I'd say they were just just complaining, but like you said, she was in a gym. So she's not really "doing nothing about it". She's trying but not having much success. Hopefully she figures out something that works for her.

Now when someone is on the couch with Dorito dust covering their face.. THEY'RE not doing anything about it!

I agree with these. I think she is there, trying to do SOMETHING about it. She will figure out a right fit for herself.

I agee....she is there. so that's a start! everyone has to start somewhere. So if she is starting and complaining, so be it. She will get her lightbulb moment sooner or later.
I too, was a complainer. "I want to lose weight so bad!", "I can't do that..." blah blah blah. It wasn't until I saw a picture of myself at a wedding that I decided I had to do something. My weightloss has been slow but steady. A year and 29lbs later, it has clicked and will continuing clicking!

charcharbec

I have found over my last year of eating healthy and exercising and my girlfriend not being interested AT ALL with this, that you really need to let people do it in their own time. My gf used to complain ALL the time about being overweight, and now finally has made the decision to actually DO SOMETHING about it. Honestly--- I am SUPER proud of her. She is working out consistently and trying to eat healthier. When people tell her WHAT to do or even suggest things to do she is very VERY resistant to it. She wants to figure it out on her own, in her own time. Learn her own lessons. I think that's the best way to do it. However, I do understand the feeling of frustration when people complain but don't want to change.

Ondreacrandall

I agree. Be active about your own health and well being, or shut up about it.

chachita7

she might have been complaining but in reality she was doing something - at least she isn't still sitting on the couch... my response wouldn't had been a lil different - I would have told her about the site and how I have done it - her response on not changing what she is eating was exactly that no changing what she is eating to which I would have responded, I didn't go drastic change at first just portion control then lil by lil I started longing for other things...

there is this misconception that you have to make a drastic change to accomplish your goals - that is not really the case, for some a drastic change is easier than for others. When I first started this eating a cheese burger happy meal rather than a big mac meal was success... or having a medium fry instead of the large was a success... drinking diet soda instead of regular soda <--- see what I am saying... over time I started experimenting with healthier choices

Perhaps what this person needed was someone who could say to her... "You have already taken the first step, and 4 lbs lost is 4lbs lost, you don't have to change what you eat, just how much of it you eat and introduce lil by lil healthier choices"

HealthyBodySickMind

... She'll never change!

This is an additute we need to avoid. Anyone one can change.

Scorpioangel

It annoys me to no end. I have been told it's just "too much work" and that they "don't have time" like everyone else has more than 24 hours in a day or something LOL

chachita7

The OP did say they were in the gym locker so she is doing something...

LovelyLibra79

I hate when people who are overweight act as if there's "nothing wrong'. For instance..a friend of mine was trying to find a dress..she only can shop @ Ashley stewart or Lane Bryant...when we couldnt find anything..she blamed the stores! Her comment was " Why they don't make enough 2 x shirts for everyone"....really?

Hezzietiger1

I used to be just like that. I was lazy and I didn't want to change but I wanted the weight to disappear. Eventually, I realized that was a really silly thing to expect, then I joined MFP. People need to realize that weight-loss is not magic. Unfortunately, everyone needs to realize that on their own.

So true. I was that person also. I just had a facebook inbox today from an old friend who said, "What are you doing to lose all that weight." I told her... Cutting calories, busting my A** in the gym.. hard work and exactly what she needs to do. We'll see if she takes it or leaves it.

babygurl48

I am so annoyed with people like that. They don't understand that no matter what you do at the gym, it's only about 20% towards your goal. You have to eat right too, that's the main way to your goal. Diet and exercise have to work together!

agreed!

pundas

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