Telling people or not.

Elizabeth_C34

I try to keep it kinda quiet in real life. Sadly, people don't notice that much in my real life. That makes me very sad sometimes.

leaso75581

I have made the decision not to tell anyone except from my sister and my husband ( who is also trying to lose weight) that I am trying to lose weight.

Maybe I'm just worried about failing or I'm just waiting to see if people notice. Also I have had friends in the past who have tried to sabotage my weight loss.

I think as I am also doing this for me ( not to look fab - though a bonus) for health reasons and I think sometimes others don't understand that.

I'm just wondering if others out here are keeping it a secret

I have a co-worker who joined WW and decided not to tell. S/T when people know you are trying to lose weight, although they feel like they're being helpful, it can be a little nerve-wrecking. For example, if you treat yourself to a donut, the person would say, "Is that Weight-watcher's approved?" "You shouldn't be eating that!!" etc. It can be embarrassing and annoying. It has happened to me, so I totally understand your decision. Losing weight is different for evereyone, and if you want to keep it private, tht's your decision. There is nothing wrong with that. also, the compliments that will be coming your way will make it totally worth it!! lol

leaso75581

I try to keep it kinda quiet in real life. Sadly, people don't notice that much in my real life. That makes me very sad sometimes.

that's why you have us!! lol you're doing great. eventually "real life" will catch up.

neverstray

I have made the decision not to tell anyone except from my sister and my husband ( who is also trying to lose weight) that I am trying to lose weight.

Maybe I'm just worried about failing or I'm just waiting to see if people notice. Also I have had friends in the past who have tried to sabotage my weight loss.

I think as I am also doing this for me ( not to look fab - though a bonus) for health reasons and I think sometimes others don't understand that.

I'm just wondering if others out here are keeping it a secret

It is my opinion that overall, this is the best approach. And, when people notice downplay it too. If they ask if you've been dieting, just say "not really, I've just been paying more attention to what I eat." and that's it. They'll see the results. But, if you say what you are doing, I think sometimes, that's when the criticism starts.

tempted2touch

It's a need to know basis and if your weight loss doesn't affect them then they don't need to know :happy:

EchoOfYourPast

Ive talked about it to everyone....my co-workers didn't think i would last this long....my family is supportive...my husband is the absolute best....he goes on walks with me....and he has been eating somewhat better....if he wants fast food we get it for him and i make something at home...i keep snacks for him and snacks for me....i've got him eating more veggies He works away from home every 3rd day and they cook alot of unhealthy meals...(like ours used to be at home)...last night he had fried pork chops

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LisaF1163

I understand telling vs. not telling. I don't really mention it any more or less, because my goal is *always* to lose weight! I think everyone just figures I'm perpetually yo-yo dieting the way I've been doing, so they don't think anything of it - if that makes sense!:laugh:

khloe_rebecca

im not going to tell anyone, I want to see if they notice

jstrong123

I think if your gut tells you not to tell certain people you shouldn't. To me that says you know the people around you may be the type that would be more likely to work against you rather than with you. Some friends are supportive no matter what, which keep those around when you find them! Others I think have a fear that in your making your best self, they might lose you. I wouldn't share with the latter type.

graves2102

I'm doing exactly the same- I have told my boyfriend but none of my family. I don't want the pressure of having them notice or not, and plus I'm slightly embarrassed so it's best kept quiet for me Hopefully when the results pay off I will receive a compliment or two!

shosh413

i wish i didn't tell people- cause now it's embarrassing that i've been maintaining so long...

justgowithit17

gosh, all my friends and family know i desperately want to lose weight and that i've been wanting to for 2 years! i've just gained since then...i feel like a failure. i told my family and some friends that i was losing weight with mfp and was starting to track my calories. but the holidays have hit me and i've gained all the weight i've lost since november! ugh! the sad thing is it seems like they don't really care if i lose or not...

xveer22

I'm still young and not at all that fat. So if I tell people I'm trying to lose weight they'll think I'm anorexic. No one knows, only my best friend.

goron59

I treat it like any other personal information. I might mention it in passing to people close to me, or if they ask... and of course to people here (duh).

PinkyKiwii

I'm not!


Better to see the surprised expression on their faces! :bigsmile:

shandi_b

I've told my husband and a couple of my close friends and (the whole world on MFP). Other than that, nope - not telling anyone and a couple of reasons why: 1. I work with a bunch of guys that are think they are the food police at the best of times 2. My mother (who has been on a diet since as long as I can remember), always tries to compare or "one up" - sheesh I'm not in a competition with her!

So - nope - they can just be surprised when I succeed (and yes - this time *I will* succeed!)

mariagabriella

I told no one except for my parents.

The world caught on 2 months in, around April.

I didn't tell anyone cos I don't think it's really anyone's business that I'm losing weight, and I don't really like having people ask for advice or tell me that I'm doing it wrong cos I eat carbs etc etc when my progress has been better than theirs.

NeverGivesUp

I hate when people know that you have been losing weight and mention something about it each time they see you whether you have lost or not. It is completely annoying!!! I also hate when people want you to pin down a number on how much you have lost. How the hell can I remember how much I weighed since I last saw them.

tvanhooser

I didn't really tell anyone when I started nor when I really got serious about it 7 months ago and doubled my total weight loss in a fraction of the time. Not doing it to impress anyone but merely for health reasons like you said and I honestly don't much care what anyone thinks so I surely don't need to fish for compliments. My kids and my husband noticed that I was exercising more of course, cause that's SO not like me at all but I didn't try to explain or justify anything, just did what I had to for my own reasons. At 78 pounds down and 37ish to go though, it's kind of impossible to keep it a secret anymore. People are noticing -- which is fine. Can't hide it forever and I'm not self conscious about it, just not camping on any need for outside affirmation or approval. Funny thing is, if I look at pictures from a year ago, sure I can see some difference...I know I've lost quite a bit and my clothes confirm it but people keep telling me I look totally different but I just don't see it. I'm still me....just skinnier ....I liked me before, I like me now and I'll like me after. It's just not that big of a deal to me except for addressing my health issue. I guess it's because looking like this is really nothing new to me....it's what I've always been in my mind and I've been here before -- for most of my life in fact. But they don't know that cause they never knew me when I was this size or smaller. So for me, it's just back to business as usual. For them, it's a radical change. But whatever.....they mean well and those that matter like me at any size so no biggie.

Jen800

I told only my closest family and friends, and I feel like alerting those people helped me be accountable to myself. I knew there was no going back and I was doing it for myself this time, and that it was nobody's business except my best friend's and my family's. I am not planning to tell other people such as acquaintances. I think doing this also provides great motivation when someone you haven't seen for a long time comments on how different you look.