Newbies, beware.

sandrajune72

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Please see my response on Page 4 of this thread. We want ALL users to feel confident posting in the forums, and we have systems in place to improve the tone of the forums over the long haul.

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Just a friendly warning to all newbies, don't post topics asking for help or advice. I did and got shot down. :embarassed:

msdoan

Aw I'm sorry to hear that! Some days people get cranky around here but we aren't ALL a bunch of jerks I promise! Feel free to add me and I'd be glad to support you on your journey.

wftiger

And don't post how many calories you eat either unless you want a thrashing about that.

TylerJessilynn

What did you need help with? I'm fairly new, so maybe we could help each other!

Captain_Tightpants

Care to point us to the original thread so we can determine for ourselves?

sandrajune72

Thanks guys! I got upset because someone was quite rude to me. Nice to see there are nice people on here!

Brianabomb

I hear that! I have replied to a couple of posts asking for advice and I've not gotten any responses to my specific questions. It can be very discouraging for sure! i must say though, that my MFP friends are great though. Not all respond to my advice asking messages but all are supportive.

AmyW4225

It seems that some of the MFPs forget that they were new at one time. Not all of us are that way! :flowerforyou:

taso42

hardly a shoot-down
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/585774-what-s-the-best-excercise-for-your-tummy

Janet55555555555

I will help you!

Shayztar

Oh, and don't log cleaning, no matter how vigorous. Because apparently only hard cardio or weight training is an acceptable method of burning calories.

ElizaRoche

what???... I thought one of the points of this site was that! WTH... damn rude people!

ronkelley2

i have found that people are moody on here. and do not always think before posting!!!!!!!!!!!!

Erika1962

And make sure you do it the way THEY say or you're doing it wrong !!!

editnonnalynn

Sorry that happened! You can always go to the groups where like minded ppl gather to help each other. I am in a couple and they are VERY encouraging and helpful. I have seen some serious ranting and negative slams on forums, but for the most part people have been kind and fun and helpful, although the opinions aren't always what I'd do. Hope your future posts are more +++. (Looks like this one has a coupla nice responses so far LOL! ) Grace to you!

P.S. The kind response from your previous post was by debbiestine! She is one of the gals in my Made to Crave group! Maybe you could check them out!

IrishHarpy1

It's the nature of the internet, sadly... we're supposed to be here to support one another, yet some feel the need to exert dominance or something by being snarky. People can get pretty darned nasty when they can hide behind the anonymity of a computer screen. It's like they've forgotten what it was like to be new here.

Don't be discouraged, though. Not all of us are complete jerks who think they're all that and a bag of kale chips

Pauline3290

Just a friendly warning to all newbies, don't post topics asking for help or advice. I did and got shot down. :embarassed:
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I'm really sorry to hear that! As with any internet forum there can be unpleasant people but in the main I've found people to be really supportive here. I tend to read a lot of other people's posts and the responses and have learned a lot from those. I do hope your MFP experience improves.

MonicaT1972

Just flush the negative. It's like anything else on the internet, everyone has something to say and it's not always positive.

Feel free to add me to your friends. I'm always up for positive encouragement, answering questions etc.

anoroc751

Hi, I saw your post and also the responses you got. I think you may have been too sensitive. I don't think the posters meant to be rude. One poster shared where you could find the answers and the other with the cheeseburger comment was trying to be funny.

That's the disadvantage with posts like this, you don't see the persons face, inflection or smile.

I do believe you will get the help you need here. Stick around for a time and see what happens.

Good luck on your goals

sandrajune72

hardly a shoot-down
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/585774-what-s-the-best-excercise-for-your-tummy

Not very nice though.

MassiveDelta

Oh, and don't log cleaning, no matter how vigorous. Because apparently only hard cardio or weight training is an acceptable method of burning calories.

I dont think you understand

Thomasm198

hardly a shoot-down
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/585774-what-s-the-best-excercise-for-your-tummy

Quoting because it's worth repeating.

LabRat529

Actually, Newbies, the forums are awesome fun. Seriously. And there are some fantastic, helpful, smart and informed people out there. People tend to get "shot down' when they're promoting unhealthy behavior or spreading common diet myths. Sometimes people do this shooting down gently, sometimes not so gently, but it's usually done with the desire to help others. Unhealthy behaviors (like eating too few calories) and myths can jeopardize another's health or ability to succeed with their diet.

The waters can get a bit choppy. I'll freely admit to that. That's the nature of any forum on the internet. But I hope you'll put on a brave face and come and 'play'. Really, it is fun and rewarding.... discussion and debate is great way of expanding your mind and learning new things.

Best wishes, newbies!

delikium

I always make sure i eat back the calories i burned during food preparation.
the longer i take....the more peanut-butter i can smear... technically

mom23jmc

I have found this to be the case on most Weight Loss/Improvement sights. Keep in mind that there will always be people who delight at bringing you down and making you feel bad about yourself. Remember, calorie counts include what you worked off in a workout. I don't eat for food. You need to burn more than need to lose weight. I eat the recommended daily amount and then I work out. What I burned I don't consume back. I won't be guilted into eating my fitness routine. I do that for me. Just ignore the critics and enjoy your success and progress. You aren't here for them, you are here for YOU. That is the only person on here you should be concerned about.

delikium

i have found that people are moody on here. and do not always think before posting!!!!!!!!!!!!

because we're all hungry apes haha

MassiveDelta

The best exercise for your tummy is to put down the cheeseburger and slowly back away :laugh:

I'm sorry but is this supposed to be funny? Why are you assuming I eat cheeseburgers? I don't eat cheeseburgers, I never have. I'm not actually overweight, just trying to get a bit fitter. Why are you being so rude to me when all I did was ask for a little help? I thought people on here were supportive, obviously I was wrong.

See the laughing emoticon at the end....Yes that means she was joking. Lighten up

mfpcopine

I'm usually very helpful. But it doesn't hurt to search the site first to see if a question has been covered. I've been on this site for about 40 days and I've seen the same basic questions raised 80 times or more.

Shayztar

Oh, and don't log cleaning, no matter how vigorous. Because apparently only hard cardio or weight training is an acceptable method of burning calories.

I dont think you understand

?? Understand my sarcasm?? These forums can get really mean. About everything. Overweight people can't call themselves curvy. Slender people are too skinny. SAHMs are lazy. And people show too much skin in profile pics.

:laugh:

JD830278

I think that reply you got was pretty damn rude actually, and completely unnecessary. Don't let it frighten you away, build up a support network by adding people as friends. I mainly only browse the message boards because there are a lot of rude, crude and opinionated people among the nice MFP users.

anubis609

hardly a shoot-down
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/585774-what-s-the-best-excercise-for-your-tummy

Quoting because it's worth repeating.

Again.