Would you move for love?

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  • ArroganceInStep
    ArroganceInStep Posts: 6,239 Member
    I need some insight. Before I make a silly choice. Or the best choice.

    I just graduated college. I've got a decent resume, portfolio, and enough money saved to survive anywhere for two months.

    I wanted to move when my lease was up in August no matter what. I just didn't know where to.

    Enter a boy.

    Now I know what you're thinking. You're 23 years old Lisa. You're an independent, beautiful woman with a great career path set out before you. Don't throw it away for some boy.

    But just wait.

    I've had my share of ****ty boy experiences. This one I have known since I was 12. We met online while playing a game, and met each other in person once when I was 13 and he was 16. He moved to North Carolina and we hadn't seen each other since then. Enter now.

    I visited him last month for 2 days. It was incredible. So plans were made and he just got done visiting me the last 5 days. I've never meshed so well with one person. It wasn't just about physical attraction. It was the fact that everyone noticed we meshed like peanut butter and bananas. ketchup and macaroni. a company of thieves.

    Of course the topic came up about well, why don't you try North Carolina on for size? Pennsylvania is great and all, but try the south.

    The scary thing is. I really want to do it. Not just for him, but also because it's a push for me to leap. Otherwise I'm afraid I'll stay stagnant here and never move.

    What are your opinions?

    If you go and it's a horrible mistake, what will 75 year old you say about it?
    If you go and it's an amazing decision, what will 75 year old you say about it?
    If you don't go and always wonder what might have been, what will 75 year old you say about it?
  • andreacord
    andreacord Posts: 928
    I'd do it. If you love him and you feel he might be "the one" or at least "the one for a very long while, I would do it.
  • Princessbrene
    Princessbrene Posts: 112 Member
    North Carolina!? really!? HELL TO THE NO! I wouldn't live in NC if all the other states fell off the planet - don't you read the news!?
    Take your female, degree self to THE MOST BACKWARD and repressive state. better yet, WHY not just go back in time say ... 200 years.

    IF this boy cares about you, HE will move and NEITHER of you will ever step foot in North Carolina or any state south of KY (which is shady)

    NO NO 1,000 times NO!

    ^^^^^ This is assinine.
  • aymetcalf
    aymetcalf Posts: 597 Member
    Research cost of living, job market etc. Do not live with him. Date like normal people. All should be fine.


    ^^^^This.

    Agreed :flowerforyou:
  • sherrirb
    sherrirb Posts: 1,649 Member
    Research cost of living, job market etc. Do not live with him. Date like normal people. All should be fine.


    ^^^^This.

    ^^^^^^^^^^^ Agree 100%
  • MustBeTheRows
    MustBeTheRows Posts: 377 Member
    I would do anything for the woman I love.
  • ChevyChick88
    ChevyChick88 Posts: 356 Member
    DO IT!!!!! Do you really want to sit back 5, 10 or 20 years from now and wonder... what if?
  • VoodooLuLu
    VoodooLuLu Posts: 636 Member
    dont ask strangers ask the people who know you and follow your gut
  • abberbabber
    abberbabber Posts: 972 Member
    North Carolina!? really!? HELL TO THE NO! I wouldn't live in NC if all the other states fell off the planet - don't you read the news!?
    Take your female, degree self to THE MOST BACKWARD and repressive state. better yet, WHY not just go back in time say ... 200 years.

    IF this boy cares about you, HE will move and NEITHER of you will ever step foot in North Carolina or any state south of KY (which is shady)

    NO NO 1,000 times NO!

    ^^^^^ This is assinine.

    ^^^What she said. "OMG, NC voted against gay marriage! If you move there, you'll end up barefoot and pregnant because omgzzzz they're all sooooo backwards!"
  • MNguerita
    MNguerita Posts: 199 Member
    I did it and I love my husband to death, but I don't exactly enjoy my job and sometimes my husband makes me madder than heck! Would I do it again? Yes, but like a lot have suggested I would definitely have your own place and do the dating thing first, because you may not get that later if it leads to marriage etc. I know everyone's husbands are great right? Maybe, maybe not...just take the time to get to know him and be certain he is who you think he is and that you like him the way he is defects and all because chances are he will not change. A new place is an adventure , just make sure you are ok on your own so that if things don't work out you don't feel obligated to stay with him because you don't have any here else to go.
  • ilanawithani
    ilanawithani Posts: 18
    "The only thing that matters is just following your heart and eventually you'll finally get it right." -The Ataris

    Couldn't have said it better myself...
  • abs0830
    abs0830 Posts: 319 Member
    I'd move, but probably get my own place if I had the funds.

    Story: My husband moved from Missouri to North Carolina (and then 2 years later to Virginia) for me. We were just out of a college and had been dating a few years. He moved because I asked him. He had better options for a career in the mid-west, but I wasn't going to be there. If you don't do it, you may wonder later what would have happened if you have.
  • WhittRak
    WhittRak Posts: 567 Member
    I say...GO FOR IT!!! Don't move in with him though. Find your own place first and go for the adventure! You are young, go live life! So it's scary for some people because there is a boy involved? I say...life is an adventure, go live it! The boy (guy) is just a bonus! :0) Best Wishes!:smile:

    Best advice ever!
  • ejohndrow
    ejohndrow Posts: 1,399 Member
    I moved to another state with a guy I'd only known for a couple of months. The relationship only lasted a little over a year, but I don't regret the deicision at all. As someone else said, make sure it's for you-but in my opinion go for it. If I hadn't made that decision I may not be where I am today. Just be careful whatever you do.
  • Nelski
    Nelski Posts: 1,607 Member
    I moved for love and now we are married so I made the right decision. Take the chance if it feels right.
  • nursevee
    nursevee Posts: 344 Member
    Look, I'm gonna give you a kick... in the right direction.

    Life is FOR LIVING. We take chances and make spontaneous decisions. Some are brilliant and some suck *kitten*. Truth is, you could make bad decisions in PA.

    There isn't a whole lot of distance between NC and PA anyway so in all honesty I think you'd be nuts not to go for it.

    I'm an Aussie and 6 years ago I met the love of my life online. I flew here (U.S) on a wing and a prayer for 4 days and fell madly in love. I don't care what you call it, it was amazing. 4 years ago I left Australia for the U.S and I haven't looked back.

    Sometimes it's a case of "if it looks good, it probably is" and sometimes it's not but if you never go you will never go. Don't live regretting what 'could' have been. DOwn the line, if things work out you can figure out if you want to relocate together.

    Do it. You can still have your whole life ahead of you. The one thing you can say is that you took a chance.

    Good luck!
  • Indy_Cent
    Indy_Cent Posts: 45
    Yes, I would leave it all.
    I would start anew, in a foreign place.

    Home is where the heart is, and my heart is with her.
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    at 23 I moved from Harrisburg PA to DC for me and at 26 I moved from my career in DC to Charlotte to be with my love. I got a job, got an apartment, and saw him on the weekends and the random week night dinner. It doesn't always work out, but it worked out for us. I think if I wasn't with him I still would have stayed in Charlotte, I love it here.

    I always figured I'd go somewhere . . . here is somewhere.

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