Heartbroke and defeated...

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  • Mzfoster0517
    Mzfoster0517 Posts: 83 Member
    Yes don't listen to your doctor, people are successful everyday and you will be too!!!!!!!! Stay motivated. Keep your head up add me as a friend if you would like too. This site helps to motivate me and stay on track. I often say doctors are over paid and don't half of the time know what to tell us.
  • dianacom
    dianacom Posts: 30 Member
    first, let me say that exercise is a small part of losing weight.Exercise is good for you and essential to a healthy life style but for losing weight, it's mostly about what you eat. If you don't want the lap band don't do it. For me, I had about 60lbs to lose. I tried the hcg and it worked well only because it taught me to eat correctly, helped me to break bad eating habits and taught me what food were best to stay away from. I have no medical facts, but only my own experience, it helped reset my metabolism so now that I'm off, I am still losing. Whatever diet you go on, you need those things.

    I totally agree with the post that suggested to track EVERY thing you put in your mouth. I'ts amazing how the calories add up and we don't even realize it.
  • donna_glasgow
    donna_glasgow Posts: 869 Member
    Please copy this to your browser and watch...please don't give up...there is always hope. Feel free to add me as a friend.

    http://youtu.be/qX9FSZJu448

    thanks for that link ... i cried .... brilliant story!!
  • Athena413
    Athena413 Posts: 1,709 Member
    Time to find a new doctor. Your current one is an idiot.

    ^This
  • sl1ngsh0t
    sl1ngsh0t Posts: 326 Member
    My fiancee's aunt got the lapband and lost over 100 lbs. She gained it all back because she didn't measure portions, didn't calorie couns, and never exercised. Just goes to show that weight loss happens through using a combination of different things. If you don't want the lapband, don't get it. Maybe see another doctor. Second opinions are necessary when it comes to advice like this.
  • Medtech2004
    Medtech2004 Posts: 55 Member
    I agree your doctor is an idiot. Just look at some of the success stories out there, people who have dropped 200 pounds +. Don't be discouraged, keep trying!!
  • tabulator32
    tabulator32 Posts: 701 Member
    Your doctor is trying to sell lapband surgery and should lose his license.

    You lose weight the same way you gained it...ONE DAY AT A TIME.
  • reggie2run
    reggie2run Posts: 477 Member
    I agree with all here....its time to get a 2nd opinion and another doctor. Surgery is not always the answer.
    Like one of the posts here, I thought I was eating pretty healthy and working out like a maniac but I gained almost 30 lbs. Figured as long as I was active, it didn't matter what I ate. Boy was I wrong,
    Now I watch whatever I put in my mouth for calorie, sugar, sodium and fat content. And I fuel my body with the good things it needs to perform as it should, to do the things I want to do. I also listen to my body and take rest days when needed. It took me a little while to come to that realization.

    You have it in you to do this. You are stronger than food. Stronger than anyone telling you otherwise.
    Please add me if you'd like. Together, we can do this.
  • happyfeetrebel1
    happyfeetrebel1 Posts: 1,005 Member
    ok 1 - dont think it is beacause you are too big your doctor thinks you need the lap band or any other WLS. 2- do not believe anyone who says having the lap band or any other form of weight loss surgery is the easy way out, Since when is surgery easy??? REALLY? 3. Weight loss surgery is a TOOL to help you lose weight. Some need the tool more than others.

    I had vertical sleeve gastrectomy in Aug 2011, and I work my butt off every day, I have changed my relationship with food, I have done NUMEROUS consults with shrinks and other docs before I could even proceed with the surgery. Easy my butt!

    It is nothing to be heartbroken over, the doc was trying to give you OPTIONS to HELP you. I am not saying run out and have surgery but look within yourself, your relationships with food, etc because sometimes weight loss is not just what you eat, but how you eat, etc.

    Hang in there and if you wish to talk or vent I am here for ya.

    This!

    If anyone thinks surgery is the 'easy' way out..they are clearly just not informed. Yes, I now eat less..but I exercise and work out like a fool..and eat protein like crazy

    All of the things that never worked for me, now will..simply because I chose a tool to make my life easier. Once you start researching you'll realize it's not EASY at all..the risk of relapse is huge. You throw up a LOT. You have to be super careful what you eat..not easy

    Every time I hear the 'easy way out' I wanna rip out my hair, lol

    /get off soapbox
  • Lovely135
    Lovely135 Posts: 161
    I hear you and I can honestly tell you that I can feel your pain. I have more that 100lbs to loose. we can do it. So many times I think about surgery which I cannot afford. I decided to do it on my own. I have been at it so many times. I am always starting over. I lost then I gained. At the end of the day don't give up to prove that doc wrong. other people have done it so can you and I.
  • littledeak
    littledeak Posts: 17 Member
    Please do not give up. Many people have lost over 100 pounds. It takes time, patience and the will to try. Please ignore your doctor's advice.
  • LeggyKettleBabe
    LeggyKettleBabe Posts: 300 Member
    So I have been at this for a while now and have lost 6 lbs, keep in mind to be at a "healthy BMI" I need to loose 100 but going for more like 66lbs...I work out everyday 7 days a week, wear a Polar F7 to track my burn eat pretty good and pour my heart and soul into weight loss. Today I went to the dr b/c I have been having such a hard time...she recommends that I consult a dr about a lap-band....:cry: Apparently I am so big that I have no hope of dropping of the weight. I'm sure she thinks I am crazy- I broke down and cried in her office. :embarassed: I am planning on starting Insanity Saturday- tomorrow is my last day of RI30 ( I have done 60day straight of Jillian) now I really don't see the point I am big - will always be big and the only thing to help is a surgury that I can not afford :frown: :cry:

    Thanks for the vent I needed it

    Do not let this stop you. My dr told me im too fat to work out. I have lost 35 lbs in 4 months. I work out daily. Doctors largely use opinions and biases. Get a dr that is sensitive to people your size. There are plenty of people on here that have lost 100, 200, 300 lbs.
  • walker001
    walker001 Posts: 116 Member
    Quitting is not an option, so don't you dare do it. I lost over 80 lbs with out any surgery. It is not impossible. You just take ODAAT (one day at a time) Get some walking in which is the easest to do right now. Or do something that you really like to do, so you will stick to it.
    I have a saying and I say it to myself all the time IF IT TO BE, IT IS UP TO ME !!!!!

    I will be your friend as well. so you can do this. With NO surgery, find yourself a new Dr.
  • HFD68
    HFD68 Posts: 16
    Soooo... not to bash doctors or anything... but when mine moved away, thank God, i ended up trying a licensed Nurse Practicianer. She is amazing!!!! She actually looks at me when im talking to her instead of a computer screen. She is non judgemental, but can dish out the tough love when she needs to. She told me with so many drs going the specialty route LNP are filling a niche. She has power to do all sorts of things, just like a dr., including write prescriptions. She is the best medical care i have had in my whole life!:smile:
  • carramel0705
    carramel0705 Posts: 183 Member
    I started at 237.5 in January looking to lose 115 lbs , so far i have lost 36.6 lbs .
    take a couple days off from exercising and keep just under your calorie limit . if you are set to 2lbs a week change it to 1.5 lbs for 1 week and eat those calories , reevaluate in a week and see if that helps , i changed mine from 2 lbs to 1.5 when i stopped losing.
  • AbbeyRysMom
    AbbeyRysMom Posts: 101 Member
    That's crazy!!! Please keep in mind, doctors used to prescribe cigarettes and phen-fen! (different generations, though!)... and the thing that gets me, is doctors take MAYBE 1 nutrition class in UNDERGRAD education. They have absolutely zero continuing ed on the subject. I will never take nutrition advice from a doctor.

    Please don't give up!!!
  • ShrinkRapt451
    ShrinkRapt451 Posts: 447 Member
    Speaking as a doctor, let me tell you a few secrets.

    1. Most of us get very little, if any, training in nutrition and fitness in medical school.
    2. We can be as susceptible to the current treatment fads as anybody else. Lap band is not nearly as invasive as gastric bypass, so a lot of docs think of it as substantially less of a big deal and are more likely to recommend looking into it.
    3. Many docs do not know how rigorous the pre-surgery preparation is. Or how long it takes.

    What this means is that taking advice about weight loss and nutrition from a doctor must be done with some caution and a grain of salt. Speaking for myself, I now know (because I myself am making the effort to lose in a healthy way and have done a lot more reading on the subject) much more than I ever did before it was personal.

    One question, though: did your doctor really say to you that you're too fat to do it on your own? Or did you assume that's what she meant because she suggested that you talk to a surgeon? (By the way you phrased it, I'm guessing the latter.) Because if she's a GOOD doc, she knows exactly how much time and effort you'll put into losing weight, even WITH a surgery, and she also knows that surgery is not a "fixed forever" solution. She'll think of it as a tool that can be helpful, and not a personal judgment or an indication that you're a failure as a human. And she'll know that, even if you talk to a surgeon to get more information about what surgery would mean for you, that whether or not you choose that option is YOUR choice, not hers and not a surgeon's.

    So please take a deep breath, think about that conversation again, and decide for yourself whether you'd have any interest in learning more about the option of surgery. Knowing that it takes a long time of preparation and evaluation before you'd be approved, even if you want it. And that it takes diligence and hard work if it's going to be successful, both in the short term and the long term. And that it IS an expensive option, which is not always covered by insurance. If the answer is "no thanks," then let your doctor know you calmed down and thought about it, but that you're going to use other tools that have good evidence to support them, like logging your food and using the support of others who are going through the same thing. And ask her for a referral to a registered dietician.

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