Bashing on the Forums

MeliciousGibson

Hello, everyone! This is going to be a heavy topic - so either settle in or hit the "back" button.

I used to visit the forums a lot and participate with the discussions from time to time. What I've been seeing more and more of has me shocked, dismayed, and plain old angry. Negativity, rudeness, and bashing.

The most recent one that I finally had to speak up about was on the FUN & GAMES forum...the person who was bashing had NO experience with what the OP was talking about, but felt the need to post her high-and-mighty opinion of the topic. If you don't have anything to contribute other than negativity - don't post! It's that freaking simple!

On other boards, people have their own opinion of what works and what doesn't, and they present those opinions as facts. There are as many conflicting facts out there as there are personality types! I have heard one "expert" claim that carbs are bad while yet another says that due to my blood type carbs are good! Of course, I'm talking about natural carbs, not over-processed empty carbs.

People post on the forums for advice, opinions, support, motivation, general venting, or for fun. Isn't there a phrase that most of us heard when we were little, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all". What makes you feel good about bringing someone else down? Is that how you try to elevate your own "status"? Shame on you...

How would you feel - or more accurately how did it make you feel - when you post something on the forum boards and get those nasty responses slamming you? Crappy, huh?

Just knock it off and try to be a better human being.

secretlobster

I don't appreciate your tone

84jeepster

too funny acg!

cmriverside

You could have just hit the back button. This is worse.

Dave198lbs

I don't appreciate your tone

lol

UponThisRock

In terms of nutritional science, I don't buy the "you can use science to prove anything" excuse. There is objective truth to be found.

secretlobster

THANK GOD YOU ARE HERE, UPONTHISROCK

THERE IS A PROBLEM ON THE INTERNET

PapaverSomniferum

people on MFP are jerks.

they're cranky because they're hungry from calorie restriction, sore from working out, tired from the combination of the two. they haven't had a bite of real cheesecake/pizza/snickers bar in too long. they haven't gotten laid. they've had to smell raunchy bo, protein shake farts, and overpowering perfume at the gym all day and they have a headache. they've quit smoking, cut back on the caffiene, and eliminated soda from their diets. and on top of that, they probably have secret low self esteem, which brought them to this torturous lifestyle in the first place.

so they take out all their misery on others on the forums. it makes them feel better about themselves.

once you understand this, the forums are quite fun.

if you're a troll

badgerbadger1

I ated a banana.

UponThisRock

I ated a banana.

never got a chance to thank you for that

secretlobster

the forums are quite fun.

if you're a troll

Nooo all my secretssss.....

joejccva71

I ated a banana.

AlayshaJ

*****?

secretlobster

never got a chance to pay you for that

Fixed

BrettPGH

Simple reminder that not everyone in life is nice. The internet is no different. You can block anyone you want for any reason. But to try to lecture the internet is an exercise in futility.

GasMasterFlash

...the person who was bashing had NO experience with what the OP was talking about, but felt the need to post her high-and-mighty opinion of the topic. If you don't have anything to contribute other than negativity - don't post! It's that freaking simple!

Not every opinion shared is going to be positive. Debate is healthy, so long as all parties can do so in a respectful manner.

On other boards, people have their own opinion of what works and what doesn't, and they present those opinions as facts. There are as many conflicting facts out there as there are personality types!

This is something that one must deal with in real life. We are constantly bombarded with conflicting opinions and advice. Just as in real life, it is up to the individual to sift through the information and do his/her homework to uncover the facts.

People post on the forums for advice, opinions, support, motivation, general venting, or for fun. Isn't there a phrase that most of us heard when we were little, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all". What makes you feel good about bringing someone else down? Is that how you try to elevate your own "status"? Shame on you...

Sadly, too many people -- both in real life and in the forums -- interpret differing opinions as personal attacks. Part of being a rational, mature adult is being able to distinguish criticism of an idea from personal criticism.

How would you feel - or more accurately how did it make you feel - when you post something on the forum boards and get those nasty responses slamming you? Crappy, huh?

No. I understand that nobody here really knows me. I appreciate that not everybody will agree with me -- even those folks on my friends list. In fact, a couple of them had quite different opinions in a recent thread about how a gal handled a situation with a stray kitten. A couple of friends took some jabs at my opinion. Was I offended? Of course not. I respect their opinion, just as they respect mine. No need to get buttsore about it.

onedayillbeamilf

I'm hungry.

SofaKingRad

Awkward30

In terms of nutritional science, I don't buy the "you can use science to prove anything" excuse. There is objective truth to be found.

becoming_a_new_me

First...I do agree, things have gotten out of hand

Second...

Qarol

Isn't there a phrase that most of us heard when we were little, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all".

I never heard this growing up. It wasn't until I was an adult and heard another adult say this. I looked at her like she had a 3rd arm growing out of her forehead.

LauraMacNCheese

First...I do agree, things have gotten out of hand

Second...

Will be humming the Indy theme for the rest of the day...

_Elemenopee_

:sad:

AmberJslimsAWAY

Yes mom...

_SusieQ_

Isn't there a phrase that most of us heard when we were little, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all".

I never heard this growing up. It wasn't until I was an adult and heard another adult say this. I looked at her like she had a 3rd arm growing out of her forehead.

I prefer to quote Steel Magnolias...

You know what they say, if you don't have something nice to say, come sit next to me.

badgerbadger1

never got a chance to pay you for that

Fixed

Will you help me cut a bish for stiffing me out of the two cheeseburgers he owes me for that?

Sumo813

THANK GOD YOU ARE HERE, UPONTHISROCK

THERE IS A PROBLEM ON THE INTERNET

One of my favorite verses in a song...

"... the cretins cloning and feeding / and I don't even own a T.V."

Thing that says it all. Where there is an open forum, stupidity will find its way there. All you can do is let the ignorant remain ignorant and enjoy the show. Because there's no point in trying to match wits with the witless.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

I'm so glad that we all limit our opinion sharing to topics we strictly have experience with . . . phew.

By the way, you are all now intolerant to gluten . . . I have exposed you.

classycouture

taso42

just what are we talking about here? carbs? they're bad right?

SergeantSunshine_reused

I think some times i see posts that turn into an unnecessary flame war.

But most of the time what many call "bashing, attacking, rude" is really not at all. You disagree, give an opinion and its OMG this is a support site!!! balhhh complain and such. Many are too sensitive :P