Bashing on the Forums

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  • onedayillbeamilf
    onedayillbeamilf Posts: 966 Member
    Isn't there a phrase that most of us heard when we were little, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all".
    I never heard this growing up. It wasn't until I was an adult and heard another adult say this. I looked at her like she had a 3rd arm growing out of her forehead.

    You never watched Bambi?! This hurts my heart.
  • stacygayle
    stacygayle Posts: 349 Member
    I'm one of those people who like to treat people how I want to be treated. Being mean intentionally is just plain rude but I have noticed that most parents forgot to teach their children manners and boy, does it show up on the internet in forums.
  • MeliciousGibson
    MeliciousGibson Posts: 248 Member
    Simple reminder that not everyone in life is nice. The internet is no different. You can block anyone you want for any reason. But to try to lecture the internet is an exercise in futility.

    I know, but I just had to get it off of my chest.

    I've met some fun, crazy, wild, sweet, and CREEPY people here on MFP...mostly through the forums. Then I see these awful posts slamming people and it makes me feel bad. I've always been one to stand up for the underdog - my first ever fight was because of this. It's what I do.

    Look, I've had to smell bad BO, I've been hungry, I've quit smoking, cut out caffeine, and my boss bathes in really awful cologne (let's not even get into the people panting on the treadmill next to you with onion breath so bad you're in tears)....and yet I've still managed to maintain a positive outlook. At least I'm DOING something about my weight - not just sitting there crying and eating Bon Bons!

    Now, rice pudding with cinnamon sugar and I might change my mind....
  • SergeantSunshine_reused
    SergeantSunshine_reused Posts: 5,382 Member
    just what are we talking about here? carbs? they're bad right?

    Only processed one. Make you fat immediately.

    As im eating my poptarts :bigsmile:
  • ElleOQuent
    ElleOQuent Posts: 429 Member
    This internet is serious business, snowflake.
  • m60kaf
    m60kaf Posts: 421 Member
    Dunno

    I do find the self righteous southern state bible basher attitude on here a bit annoying

    Also I seem more aligned with the fit, thin people attitude than the couch potatoes whining

    What does REALLY rattle me though is the grammar and patronising brigade.

    You definitely see more of a response to a scrap than a good old scientific thread - I suppose people come here to record their food and have a vent while here. I didn't even use the forums for the first two years and people come and go
  • GasMasterFlash
    GasMasterFlash Posts: 2,206 Member
    Isn't there a phrase that most of us heard when we were little, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all".
    I never heard this growing up. It wasn't until I was an adult and heard another adult say this. I looked at her like she had a 3rd arm growing out of her forehead.
    My mom used to say it. She also taught me to call an ace an ace and a spade a spade. Stating facts and opinions with the hope of fostering growth of knowledge and/or wisdom -- even though it might be uncomfortable -- is a good thing.
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    Yes, there are a lot of people here who think they are high and mighty on the fitness totem pole. Meh, who cares. There will always be a differing opinion whenver there is a group of people gathered together, be it a room, conference hall, even the internet. Sure, there are people who know how to express their differing opinion respectfully, but there are also people who can't do that because they lack social skills or just want to look cool. I recommend you just ignore those types. This is just as common in real life as it is on the internet.
  • SergeantSunshine_reused
    SergeantSunshine_reused Posts: 5,382 Member
    Just curious OP what do you consider bashing then? I don't see too much of it tbh and im on the forum quite a bit. A lot of joking,and sarcasm xD but not a ton of bashing.

    Though I did see someone tell Joe they wanted to put a bullet through his head LOL
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    this is the wild, not the zoo. there's no neat little separation between the meek and the aggressive and all the ones in between.
  • iluvsteak
    iluvsteak Posts: 3
    well i agree with all of it its kinda all bulls***
  • joejccva71
    joejccva71 Posts: 2,985 Member
    I think some times i see posts that turn into an unnecessary flame war.

    But most of the time what many call "bashing, attacking, rude" is really not at all. You disagree, give an opinion and its OMG this is a support site!!! balhhh complain and such. Many are too sensitive :P

    Every time I type something on these forums, people think I'm attacking them. Not sure why.

    (and yes I clean the dirt under my fingernails daily..)
  • iluvsteak
    iluvsteak Posts: 3
    hahahahha'
  • Sockimobi
    Sockimobi Posts: 541
    ...the person who was bashing had NO experience with what the OP was talking about, but felt the need to post her high-and-mighty opinion of the topic. If you don't have anything to contribute other than negativity - don't post! It's that freaking simple!
    Not every opinion shared is going to be positive. Debate is healthy, so long as all parties can do so in a respectful manner.
    On other boards, people have their own opinion of what works and what doesn't, and they present those opinions as facts. There are as many conflicting facts out there as there are personality types!
    This is something that one must deal with in real life. We are constantly bombarded with conflicting opinions and advice. Just as in real life, it is up to the individual to sift through the information and do his/her homework to uncover the facts.
    People post on the forums for advice, opinions, support, motivation, general venting, or for fun. Isn't there a phrase that most of us heard when we were little, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all". What makes you feel good about bringing someone else down? Is that how you try to elevate your own "status"? Shame on you...
    Sadly, too many people -- both in real life and in the forums -- interpret differing opinions as personal attacks. Part of being a rational, mature adult is being able to distinguish criticism of an idea from personal criticism.
    How would you feel - or more accurately how did it make you feel - when you post something on the forum boards and get those nasty responses slamming you? Crappy, huh?
    No. I understand that nobody here really knows me. I appreciate that not everybody will agree with me -- even those folks on my friends list. In fact, a couple of them had quite different opinions in a recent thread about how a gal handled a situation with a stray kitten. A couple of friends took some jabs at my opinion. Was I offended? Of course not. I respect their opinion, just as they respect mine. No need to get buttsore about it.

    I agree with this post.
  • stellaskies
    stellaskies Posts: 161 Member
    I think I'll settle in this post.

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  • iluvsteak
    iluvsteak Posts: 3
    well ok then
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    I understand and appeciate what the OP says here. There is a difference between healthy debate and mean-spirited do it my way or the highway type discourse. Opinions should be expressed as such. If somebody is making a mistake, a positive response is appropriate... even in correction. One of the things I do try to confront from time to time is the person who complains that "They cannot lose weight".. look at their bio and find they have a bmi of 15.5... That sort of thing needs confrontation rather than advice ... but in a sensitive and helpful... not mean spirited way.
  • Awkward30
    Awkward30 Posts: 1,927 Member
    just what are we talking about here? carbs? they're bad right?

    Only processed one. Make you fat immediately.

    As im eating my poptarts :bigsmile:

    take before and after pictures!
  • dinosnopro
    dinosnopro Posts: 2,177 Member
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  • Sockimobi
    Sockimobi Posts: 541
    Yes mom...

    Heheh
  • MeliciousGibson
    MeliciousGibson Posts: 248 Member
    Please keep in mind that I don't have a problem at all with differing opinions or criticism. I'm a Zumba instructor, and after many classes I get constructive criticism on what works and what doesn't - for that person. I get it. I'm fine with it. (I have a healthy self esteem).

    What bothers me is rudeness or just plain old meanness! You can say just about anything in a way that isn't mean, insulting or rude. It's called "tact".

    Thanks for making light of this, though. I realize my point here is absolutely futile!

    I, too, will be singing that stupid Indiana Jones theme song for the rest of the day.

    I LOVE THE CARTOONS and pictures! :D
  • aftergypsies
    aftergypsies Posts: 248 Member
    The best and worst thing about the Internet is that it gives people a place to speak their mind without consequence. I mean you might get banned or chastised by strangers but people can just move onto the next place to state their opinions. Most people wouldn't be as bold in real life. Hopefully their rudeness stays online lol. For their own sake.
  • Ali_TSO
    Ali_TSO Posts: 1,172 Member
    Just popping in to see if the usual trolls attacked this thread yet.... :huh:

    Yep, I see some familiar names.



    OP, I agree with you, for the most part. :flowerforyou:
  • hillm12345
    hillm12345 Posts: 313 Member
    "bashing" and "rudeness" are all subjective terms. what I consider helpful advice, you may consider bashing.

    Welcome to the internet... we've been expecting you
  • GasMasterFlash
    GasMasterFlash Posts: 2,206 Member
    Yes, there are a lot of people here who think they are high and mighty on the fitness totem pole. Meh, who cares. There will always be a differing opinion whenver there is a group of people gathered together, be it a room, conference hall, even the internet. Sure, there are people who know how to express their differing opinion respectfully, but there are also people who can't do that because they lack social skills or just want to look cool. I recommend you just ignore those types. This is just as common in real life as it is on the internet.
    :drinker:
  • FungusTrooper
    FungusTrooper Posts: 227 Member
    Meow meow meow meow, meow meow meow meow.
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  • mslack01
    mslack01 Posts: 823 Member
    I like you OP! :)
  • mes1119
    mes1119 Posts: 1,082 Member
    raaaaawwwwwwwwrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
  • joejccva71
    joejccva71 Posts: 2,985 Member
    Just popping in to see if the usual trolls attacked this thread yet.... :huh:

    Yep, I see some familiar names.

    i·ro·ny
    Noun:
    The expression of one's meaning by using language that normally signifies the opposite, typically for humorous or emphatic effect.
    Adjective:
    Of or like iron: "an irony gray color".
    Synonyms:
    noun. taunt - sarcasm
    adjective. iron - ferreous - ferrous
  • Gilbrod
    Gilbrod Posts: 1,216 Member
    First...I do agree, things have gotten out of hand

    Second...

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    EPIC!!!!!!!

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