If you have an amazing body you are clearly OBSESSED

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

Genetics is less than 10% of fitness. Somatotypes (endomorph, mesomorph, ectomorph,) are a myth, there's really no such thing. 80% of fitness is diet, and the other 10% is exercise.

So I agree with the poster who says genetics is an excuse, not a reason.

I agree. I had been overweight for most of my adult life & always blamed my genetics & my being big-boned (aka endomorph) for making it impossible to lose weight despite not eating much food compared to a lot of slimmer people that I've met but when I was assessed the very first time that I joined a gym way back 2005, it showed that I'm medium framed & actually have more mesomorphic qualities than an endomorph. That my genetics is considered "ideal", but then because of my laziness during that time so I never achieved the physique that I wanted. But now that I changed my entire lifestyle, I now understand what these folks were talking about to me before & slowly I'm seeing my abs.

It doesn't matter if you're an ecto, meso or endo as long as you eat right & exercise then you will achieve your physique. Sure endos may take a bit longer to lose that fat but nevertheless they CAN still have that awesome physique. Examples of in-shape endos are: Russel Crowe, Jennifer Lopez, Beyonce, Shakira, Marilyn Monroe, Scarlett Johansson etc.

These articles will further explain it more:

http://www.burnthefat.com/slow-metabolism-problems.html
http://www.burnthefatblog.com/archives/2010/02/once-an-endomorph-always-an-endomorph-can-your-body-type-change.php

Emv79

I would love someone that I can go on runs with, go hiking with, do sports related activities,and when we go to the mountains, she doesn't sit on her duff, but gets out there with me, whatever it is whether snowboarding, climbing or whatever. I want someone active and strong. But, I don't want a gym rat or someone where there is no real point, just looking good.

This. I love to be active and yes, for convenience particularly Mon-Fri, I go to the gym. However, the gym is not my life, it's just one way to stay/get fit which improves my life. So in a guy, I'd want someone who is active (run, hike, ski, climb, swim, etc), but that will not be distraught if we're on vacation or visiting family/friends and he cannot follow his usual stringent routine, etc.

DaughterOfTheMostHighKing

I want my man to be in good physical shape. he either has to be my equal or better so he can support my efforts.

atjays

I know I get cranky if I miss a gym session. I'm also more and more entralled with what I see in the mirror. I wouldn't call it an obsession as much as fascinated by change, I haven't been this fit in over 10 years and certainly not in my adult years so there is an addictive quality about it, gives you a lot of confidence when you like what you see in the mirror, and I know I've only scratched the surface. I know I've got many more months of hard work if I want to have a ripped look.

I think girls the girls who are put off by very fit guys is more because they don't want to lead that sort of lifestyle, don't have the confidence to see themselves on their level or just lack self esteem. I think very few are put off simply because they stereotype healthy guys are obsessed with themselves...

atjays

Now I know I have a fairly decent physique - you don't have to be obsessed to have a decent body.

This physique takes YEARS of hard work and dedication. Not something that can be accomplished by someone 50lbs over weight over the course of a few months

ninerbuff

First let's define the word:

ob·sess
   [uhb-ses] Show IPA
verb (used with object)
1.
to dominate or preoccupy the thoughts, feelings, or desires of (a person); beset, trouble, or haunt persistently or abnormally: Suspicion obsessed him.
verb (used without object)
2.
to think about something unceasingly or persistently; dwell obsessively upon something.


I know lots of "ripped" and very fit people who have passion, dedication and discipline with there physiques, but aren't obsessed with it.
To obsess would mean that that is ALL that is thought about and done. Nothing else will detract from that obsession. So I don't think you need to be obsessed to have a great physique.

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snookumss

I think they show they have knowledge, dedication and overall just care about their bodies. I'd rather be with somebody obsessed with taking care of himself than some guy who ends up 450lbs by the time we are 50 because he didn't care or have the dedication or any other reason.

RoanneRed

i feel like a bb and so i worry a lot about how my body is looking. I could never be with someone who doesn't watch their calories. They would find me really annoying weighing everything i eat :noway:

Haha , mentioned that i was going to buy a scale and start weighing my food...oh the loooooookkkkkksss :noway: But hell I am going to do it anyway!!!!

After I found MFP, I bought a cheapo food scale. It is now one of the most used appliances in my kitchen. Prior to MFP, I probably would have thought it was a bit much. But now, I look at it as just another handy device to help keep me on track.

Just today, I received the electronic food scale that will replace the two manual scales I already had - oops!

kdeaux1959

You don't have to be "ripped" to be "obsessed"... You can be obsessed in an effort to gain that level of fitness... Determined... whatever. In a way perhaps your friend is right ... And so are you... Finding a "significant other" who has the same values as you do is a really good thing... Therefore, if both of you are "obsessed" with your fitness level, it provides common ground and a common direction for your lives together.

kneeki

I agree. I've been called obsessed quite a few times by friends and strangers alike. At least in my case, they're wrong. Obsessed people I think would almost be afflicted with an illness like body dismorphia. I think a simple test would be finding if the accused allow and acknowledge cheat meals. One who is obsessed, I don't think would.

I however ate a rice krispy treat the size of a sheet pan while enjoying a bottle of wine and watching "Strippers vs Warewolves" last night alone. Though - I think that's a different problem.

smokeatr9

I've never been attracted to a really muscular man, although I am very fond of the muscles my dh has. I'd prefer practical muscles, for doing things with, than ones just for posing. Luckily my dh has no idea he is good looking or he might have been 'taken' already when I met him :laugh:

^^^^ Yup - what she said! I like men who look like...well....men! Rugged, furry....kinda cave-man-ish. So my DH gives me "the look" whenever I start talking again about joining a gym because that's not something that would ever appeal to him. I would never ask him to join me because I would be wasting my breath. He's very physical at work for 8-10 hours a day M-F and at 39 can run circles around guys half his age - but he got that strength and fitness by doing what he calls REAL things all of his life. I.E. walking, climbing, digging, shoveling, raking, using heavy hand tools an equipment, etc... I would never call him ripped but he is certainly fit and capable. Good 'nuff for me!!

dinosnopro

i HATE when people try to put a % on diet vs. exercise. NOT TRUE. It's fallacious and misleading. Depends on the individual.

http://www.bodyrecomposition.com/fat-loss/you-are-not-different.html

It does not depend on the individual. Everyone wants to believe that their body is different, or behaves differently, but it really doesn't. We are all the same species, we are all the same. Most perceived "differences" are purely psychological in nature.

Yeah cause every football player, bodybuilder, and Olympian counts their calories.

I'm going to say most (80%) of bodybuilders and Olympians count there calories. Football players? I would say under half

steve1686

I guarantee you the average person who says I'm obsessed with my body spends more time per week watching television than I do in the gym.

tigersword

i HATE when people try to put a % on diet vs. exercise. NOT TRUE. It's fallacious and misleading. Depends on the individual.

http://www.bodyrecomposition.com/fat-loss/you-are-not-different.html

It does not depend on the individual. Everyone wants to believe that their body is different, or behaves differently, but it really doesn't. We are all the same species, we are all the same. Most perceived "differences" are purely psychological in nature.

Also please school me on HOW you quantify this. Seems theoretical at best. I know i didn't get my physique through "90% diet"

Really... So you don't watch what you eat? You don't eat nutritious foods, you don't eat a specific goal for macronutrients and total calories? You don't have a certain NET goal that you hit based on exercise? Diet is the absolute base for everything. You can't out train a bad diet. Diet determines overall body size and shape, activity fine tunes body shape.

ChelseaM18

I like guys who are a bit obsessed with looking good body-wise, but not to the point where you get texts every five minutes being informed that there's an extra 10 pounds on the bench press :'D . But having someone who has a really big interest in fitness etc gives lots of stuff to talk about and it's something you have in common.

However, there are many of people who are obsessed with the gym and nutrition and don't have amazing bodies... i.e. ME

Diary_Queen

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jennifer52484

I think People confuse the words obsessed and dedicated. I know that I have set goals for myself. In order to get those goals I have to do certain things. I have to be consistent too. This does not make me obsessed. I am dedicated to my workouts in order to meet or exceed my goals.

UponThisRock

I'm not obsessed about my body, I'm trying to compensate for feelings of inadequacy. #psychologymonday

T_R_A_V

I wouldnt say obsessed, because I like to drink beer wayyyyyyyyyyy to much lol

Maude_Lewbowski

I'm going to say most (80%) of bodybuilders and Olympians count there calories. Football players? I would say under half
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Just curious how you came up with this number on NFL players?

victoria4321

I'm going to say most (80%) of bodybuilders and Olympians count there calories. Football players? I would say under half

Just curious how you came up with this number on NFL players?
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When you watch a game almost half of them are fat so thats how I'm guessing he got the number.

bcattoes

I don't care for the ripped look, but I do prefer a guy has muscles. I like it even better if he got them without entering a gym. So, while a cut body would not be enough to turn my head, it also would not be enough to turn me off if something else about the guy attracted me.

I would not want someone so obsessed with their body that they wouldn't relax and kick back with some brewski's and good food on a regular basis. Or that we had to plan our lives around a crazy diet or workout schedule.

bcattoes

First let's define the word:

ob·sess
   [uhb-ses] Show IPA
verb (used with object)
1.
to dominate or preoccupy the thoughts, feelings, or desires of (a person); beset, trouble, or haunt persistently or abnormally: Suspicion obsessed him.
verb (used without object)
2.
to think about something unceasingly or persistently; dwell obsessively upon something.


I know lots of "ripped" and very fit people who have passion, dedication and discipline with there physiques, but aren't obsessed with it.
To obsess would mean that that is ALL that is thought about and done. Nothing else will detract from that obsession. So I don't think you need to be obsessed to have a great physique.

The definition above does indicate that the obesession is ALL that is thought about, just that it dominates thought. It is always there in the back of your mind, even if it's not your primary thought. If someone is constantly thinking how every thing they do, eat or drink will affect their body. Or how their body looks in every situation and who is noticing. That would be obsessive, even though they may also be thinking of other things.

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

I saw a picture on Facebook earlier about people who work out 5 days a week are obsessed, but what does that make the people who sit and watch tv 5 days a week, instead? Same difference.... just a different obsession.

Personally, I prefer someone who at the very least takes care of themself. I work hard on my body and my husband at least eats decent and when he was able to work out, he did. If he still was now, I would not feel as though I was competing with him, though.

WeightlifterJosey

I wouldn't call it "Obsessive" I love guys who can keep them self in shape, when I am with a guy who is in good shape it makes me wanna workout more so I can stay in shape and we can have good bodies together.

(I only go for guys with muscle too).

lu136mickey

It is the same as anybody who is really into their hobby. The hobby will take up a significant amount of their leisure time.

I agree

Zero2hero2013

agree with alot of what i have read. i would say i am dedictaed, i dont have the perfect body yet but i am dedicated to get it with my lifestyle choices. i am confused with being obsessive but these people simply dont understand what it is i am doing and the second exercise comes into conversation they switch off.

i couldnt obsess to much as i am to weak to not have some dirty treats occasionally lol, but i am cutting alot of stuff i love out and generally feel much happier because of it.
i was overweight when i started, lose 4 stone and discovered i actually like weight training. i now train 4-5 days a week hard and try to watch what i eat and try to eat the right amount. this is more because i want my results faster then anything else lol. 12 weeks hard work for the body i want or 24 weeks minimal effort to get a slightly worse result. il go hard thanks lol

Martucha123

I'm obsessed with food.
I always think about what I'm gonna eat next... I love to have full stomach, i love pizza, I love fruits, I LOVE food

the difference is now I put it in diary and make sure I hit my macros + don't go over my kcals and with proer training on top pf that I can have my dream body

When I was 13kg heavier I was just as obsessed with food as I am, and lot less happy...

dinosnopro

I'm going to say most (80%) of bodybuilders and Olympians count there calories. Football players? I would say under half

Just curious how you came up with this number on NFL players?

When you watch a game almost half of them are fat so thats how I'm guessing he got the number.
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You are correct. It is just my opinion based on what I see. I did no research.

desert_rhino

It's all good until it trips over into narcissism or obsession. Both are personality disorders, or can be.

But you know what? If your personality disorder(s) mesh(es) with your partner's personality disorder(s), who cares? It's nobody's damn business.

I'm just glad there are women out there with poor enough taste that I have been able/fortunate enough to spend parts of my life with truly stellar examples of the same.