How would you feel if someone said this...
Yesterday I was with a study buddy. He told me, "Don't take this the wrong way...you are beautiful, as soon as you lose the rest of your weight you're going to be SO hot! I'm going to look at you and be like damn girl..."
I was like uh thanks hahahha
I guess it's a compliment? I don't know, it kind of rubbed me the wrong way, yet motivated me.
I was like uh thanks hahahha
I guess it's a compliment? I don't know, it kind of rubbed me the wrong way, yet motivated me.
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he said "DONT TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY!!!!!! so you cant take it the wrong way.0
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I would be offended and flattered all at the same time! :noway:0
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I think he meant it as a compliment and as a form of encouragement for you to keep doing what you are doing. Sometimes compliments are hard to say right, lol. He might ask you out too. :bigsmile:0
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It's rude and he is shallow. It's a backhanded compliment (complimenting you while insulting you at the same time). Do not "thank" people for comments like that.0
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he said "DONT TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY!!!!!! so you cant take it the wrong way.0
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I would take that as a huge compliment. It would totally motivate me.0
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well I get what he was trying to say but I would of been kinda of hurt by the way it was worded too... why could he just say you know all your work is really showing keep it up girl...0
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Back in high school I was told:
"If you lost 15lbs, you could be a porn star!"
:noway:
Uh thanks... this was by a female friend in my elective class.0 -
Ir dives my absolutely baty when ppl start out a sentence like that. Becuase if you know you are going to be rude, mean than do not say it. He could of told you in a million different ways that you lookhot. But sometimes ppl are lcueless on how to giv ea compliment0
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Half truth is much worse than a complete lie.
You're only telling part of the convo. What was the context? Nobody runs around saying things like this. Did you asked him what he thought of you or some other conversation like that was going on when he said that?0 -
It would definitely be a compliment.... He already confirmed from the jump that he thought you were beautiful..0
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He obvisously has no tact whatsoever!0
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It's kinda like when people tell me "You look great, you know, for having a kid."
If you can't leave it at "You're beautiful" or "You look great" then just don't say anything. Nobody wants to be complimented with conditions.
I'm sure he wasn't trying to be mean, he honestly probably thought he was giving you a real compliment, but his foot became crammed in his mouth. People should really think before they speak.0 -
Ir dives my absolutely baty when ppl start out a sentence like that. Becuase if you know you are going to be rude, mean than do not say it. He could of told you in a million different ways that you lookhot. But sometimes ppl are lcueless on how to giv ea compliment
Or start with "No offense but..."
It's almost like I'm MORE offended when somebody prefaces what they're about to say with "no offense, but..."0 -
Just reply with your own back handed compliment "when I lose the rest of the weight I'll be a whole magnitude more out of your league"0
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It's rude and he is shallow. It's a backhanded compliment (complimenting you while insulting you at the same time). Do not "thank" people for comments like that.
I agree. Also probably woulda hit him with text book ;-)0 -
Yesterday I was with a study buddy. He told me, "Don't take this the wrong way...you are beautiful, as soon as you lose the rest of your weight you're going to be SO hot! I'm going to look at you and be like damn girl..."
I was like uh thanks hahahha
I guess it's a compliment? I don't know, it kind of rubbed me the wrong way, yet motivated me.
Definitely a backhanded compliment0 -
From your pictures I think you are a hotty now...0
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I would have laughed and then say, "you have no chance with me anyway" lol0
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Yesterday I was with a study buddy. He told me, "Don't take this the wrong way...you are beautiful, as soon as you lose the rest of your weight you're going to be SO hot! I'm going to look at you and be like damn girl..."
I was like uh thanks hahahha
I guess it's a compliment? I don't know, it kind of rubbed me the wrong way, yet motivated me.
Unfortunately us guys will blurt out idiotic statements without thinking it out. I would never say what he siad since I walk in the same shoes but I know I've said some pretty stupid things usually gives the other person to question if I had a brain or not....0 -
It's rude and he is shallow. It's a backhanded compliment (complimenting you while insulting you at the same time). Do not "thank" people for comments like that.
^This. He could have said something else like "wow, you're looking great these days." (and stopped there without making an a$# of himself)0 -
WOW. You guys are so sensitive.
He said: YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL
Then he said: WHEN YOU LOSE THE REST OF YOUR WEIGHT, YOU ARE GOING TO BE SO HOT
I don't see anything in there that is a backhanded compliment.
Both sentances contain great compliments. He is saying she's already beautiful, and when she drops some more weight, she will move from beautiful to hot.
WOW! What an awesome thing for someone to say.0 -
Half truth is much worse than a complete lie.
You're only telling part of the convo. What was the context? Nobody runs around saying things like this. Did you asked him what he thought of you or some other conversation like that was going on when he said that?
^^This^^
He didn't say... "you're still over-weight but when you lose... you'll be so HOT" he said "you're beautiful..."
And yes, looking at your pictures you're beautiful and hot0 -
While it had NO tact, sounds like a compliment to me. Doesn't sound like there was any piece of insult in there.
Use it to motivate you and move on0 -
It is not always comfortable telling someone they are beautiful. Probably took him courage to say it. I believe you got his point and that is a huge compliment.0
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Guys just don't know how to word things right.0
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My husband says stuff like that sometimes. It doesn't bother. We are both very honest with each other and neither one of us gets offended by comments like that.0
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While it had NO tact, sounds like a compliment to me. Doesn't sound like there was any piece of insult in there.
Use it to motivate you and move on
I agree. It sounds tactless, but I think he meant well.0 -
I learned a long time ago that boys don't know how to speak girl, so sometimes you just have to take the words at what they mean. Don't get me wrong, I would have punched him in the arm and schooled him about proper complimentation, but I wouldn't get mad. After all, he's just a boy0
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From your pictures I think you are a hotty now...
I agree with this one....
I also agree with someone who said he has no tact....He must be kind of young or inexperienced with how to deal with women..
one thing is for certain you have to admire him for keeping it real...
I have been told that MANY times in highschool...I would get complimented on how cute I was...but I only weighed 130 lbs...so girls would say..if you add some more weight to your boney self..you will be a hottie...
I took it as motivation...Some of those girls see me now and look tore up from the floor up...I just smile and keep it moving0
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