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ginny1214
ginny1214 Posts: 338
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Yesterday I was with a study buddy. He told me, "Don't take this the wrong way...you are beautiful, as soon as you lose the rest of your weight you're going to be SO hot! I'm going to look at you and be like damn girl..."
I was like uh thanks hahahha
I guess it's a compliment? I don't know, it kind of rubbed me the wrong way, yet motivated me.
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  • Dtregle
    Dtregle Posts: 12
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    he said "DONT TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY!!!!!! so you cant take it the wrong way.
  • garita93
    garita93 Posts: 276 Member
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    I would be offended and flattered all at the same time! :noway:
  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
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    I think he meant it as a compliment and as a form of encouragement for you to keep doing what you are doing. Sometimes compliments are hard to say right, lol. He might ask you out too. :bigsmile:
  • macpatti
    macpatti Posts: 4,280 Member
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    It's rude and he is shallow. It's a backhanded compliment (complimenting you while insulting you at the same time). Do not "thank" people for comments like that.
  • macpatti
    macpatti Posts: 4,280 Member
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    he said "DONT TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY!!!!!! so you cant take it the wrong way.
    Whenever someone starts out with that statement, you know it's not going to be something nice. Just as when people start out with, "Not to be racist, but", or "Not to be rude, but"......
  • Il_DaniD_lI
    Il_DaniD_lI Posts: 1,593 Member
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    I would take that as a huge compliment. It would totally motivate me.
  • jmilian825
    jmilian825 Posts: 193 Member
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    well I get what he was trying to say but I would of been kinda of hurt by the way it was worded too... why could he just say you know all your work is really showing keep it up girl...
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
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    Back in high school I was told:

    "If you lost 15lbs, you could be a porn star!"

    :noway:

    Uh thanks... this was by a female friend in my elective class.
  • sjmgde
    sjmgde Posts: 381 Member
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    Ir dives my absolutely baty when ppl start out a sentence like that. Becuase if you know you are going to be rude, mean than do not say it. He could of told you in a million different ways that you lookhot. But sometimes ppl are lcueless on how to giv ea compliment
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
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    Half truth is much worse than a complete lie.

    You're only telling part of the convo. What was the context? Nobody runs around saying things like this. Did you asked him what he thought of you or some other conversation like that was going on when he said that?
  • SexyCook
    SexyCook Posts: 2,253 Member
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    It would definitely be a compliment.... He already confirmed from the jump that he thought you were beautiful..
  • Miss_Chievous_wechange
    Miss_Chievous_wechange Posts: 1,230 Member
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    He obvisously has no tact whatsoever!
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,829 Member
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    It's kinda like when people tell me "You look great, you know, for having a kid."

    If you can't leave it at "You're beautiful" or "You look great" then just don't say anything. Nobody wants to be complimented with conditions.

    I'm sure he wasn't trying to be mean, he honestly probably thought he was giving you a real compliment, but his foot became crammed in his mouth. People should really think before they speak.
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,829 Member
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    Ir dives my absolutely baty when ppl start out a sentence like that. Becuase if you know you are going to be rude, mean than do not say it. He could of told you in a million different ways that you lookhot. But sometimes ppl are lcueless on how to giv ea compliment

    Or start with "No offense but..."

    It's almost like I'm MORE offended when somebody prefaces what they're about to say with "no offense, but..."
  • yogsvr4
    yogsvr4 Posts: 149 Member
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    Just reply with your own back handed compliment "when I lose the rest of the weight I'll be a whole magnitude more out of your league"
  • HerroEmma89
    HerroEmma89 Posts: 16 Member
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    It's rude and he is shallow. It's a backhanded compliment (complimenting you while insulting you at the same time). Do not "thank" people for comments like that.

    I agree. Also probably woulda hit him with text book ;-)
  • StarvingDiva
    StarvingDiva Posts: 1,107 Member
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    Yesterday I was with a study buddy. He told me, "Don't take this the wrong way...you are beautiful, as soon as you lose the rest of your weight you're going to be SO hot! I'm going to look at you and be like damn girl..."
    I was like uh thanks hahahha
    I guess it's a compliment? I don't know, it kind of rubbed me the wrong way, yet motivated me.

    Definitely a backhanded compliment
  • amoffatt
    amoffatt Posts: 674 Member
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    From your pictures I think you are a hotty now...
  • NavyKnightAh13
    NavyKnightAh13 Posts: 1,394 Member
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    I would have laughed and then say, "you have no chance with me anyway" lol
  • SlimSammy2012
    SlimSammy2012 Posts: 893
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    Yesterday I was with a study buddy. He told me, "Don't take this the wrong way...you are beautiful, as soon as you lose the rest of your weight you're going to be SO hot! I'm going to look at you and be like damn girl..."
    I was like uh thanks hahahha
    I guess it's a compliment? I don't know, it kind of rubbed me the wrong way, yet motivated me.

    Unfortunately us guys will blurt out idiotic statements without thinking it out. I would never say what he siad since I walk in the same shoes but I know I've said some pretty stupid things usually gives the other person to question if I had a brain or not....

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