The most annoying 'compliment'?

Tickateeboo
Tickateeboo Posts: 132 Member
edited December 20 in Motivation and Support
I just wondered if anybody else had some really annoying 'compliments' that they get from people after some weight loss.

My favourite is 'you're wasting away!' - no. I'm clearly not, am I? I don't know why, but this one really annoys me.
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  • chanson104
    chanson104 Posts: 859
    That along with, you're so skinny! You don't need to lose any more weight. Yes, I do. I haven't even reached my healthy BMI yet. And any compliment which is followed by their excuses as to why they cannot eat healthy or exercise.
  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    you have such a pretty face!
  • row_rivers
    row_rivers Posts: 92 Member
    "you're smart, you're pretty and now you're skinny! it's too bad you're short!"

    and

    "stop going to the gym, girls shouldn't have muscles."
  • bawalker11
    bawalker11 Posts: 78
    Good topic, I have a few of these. . . When I lost a bunch of weight before it drove me nuts when people would tell me I lost weight, not compliment me or ask if I have they would just say "hey you've lost weight" like it happened behind my back when I wasn't looking, I never know what to say back. Also when people start telling you where they can see it and analysing your body like, "hey you've lost weight haven't you, you can really see it in your face," etc. These are usually the same people who chow down fried noodles for lunch and like to tell me what the best diet plans are. The absolute worst, and I know it is meant to be nice, but when someone says "hey you've lost weight, you look good," like I just looked awful before. That one always makes me chuckle.
  • manda1002
    manda1002 Posts: 178 Member
    you have such a pretty face!

    This. Really? I'm so fat that all you can come up with is you think my face is pretty? Which you probably only said it because you felt you needed to say something and that was the first thing you could come up with. Or "You tan well!" ............... fml
  • fitforlifeee
    fitforlifeee Posts: 44
    "You don't NEED to lose weight." & "You should eat more."
    I'm not friggin' underweight and I'm just trying to lose the excess fat. Nothing wrong with that.
  • 12skipafew99100
    12skipafew99100 Posts: 1,669 Member
    I can't wait to get annoyed with compliments. :bigsmile:

    Hasn't happened yet. :ohwell:

    I know you all have worked hard for it. :drinker:

    Maybe someday for me?:blushing:
  • Insangelous
    Insangelous Posts: 33
    "you're getting too thin, huh? you know that boys don't like skinny boys, right?" oh yeah, thanks
  • george29223
    george29223 Posts: 556 Member
    get off me i cant breath
  • bloodoner
    bloodoner Posts: 9
    LOL. I just commented on someones blog post that I can really see the weight loss in the slimming of her face. Not 1 min later read that it might be on this blog as annoying. Oops. I really meant it though. Her face looked really different and IMO prettier.
  • yoyoannieo
    yoyoannieo Posts: 42
    mine was "you dont look too bad considering youve had a child..."
  • hsaab
    hsaab Posts: 36
    "Wow you lost so much weight, but you weren't fat before, but you look better now!"

    Pretty much u used to think I was fat, felt bad after u said I lost so much weight then went back to realizing that you used to think I was fat. haha jks
  • cjs3001
    cjs3001 Posts: 273 Member
    An old boss came in was asking after everyone and my new boss mentioned me and he said 'Oh, the fat one?' and she said 'Not any more!' and was really pleased with herself and came over to tell me what she said. Sort of a compliment, sort of makes you feel like crap!
  • Tickateeboo
    Tickateeboo Posts: 132 Member
    mine was "you dont look too bad considering youve had a child..."

    See that would get a smack in the face, right there. LOL
  • Erindipitous
    Erindipitous Posts: 1,234 Member
    Not a compliment, but because I'm not overweight people ask me why I log my food and count calories..

    It can get annoying when they don't understand that I need to be aware of what's going into my body and that if I don't keep track I'll eat everything and become overweight. :P
  • wbahc
    wbahc Posts: 4 Member
    Good topic, I have a few of these. . . When I lost a bunch of weight before it drove me nuts when people would tell me I lost weight, not compliment me or ask if I have they would just say "hey you've lost weight" like it happened behind my back when I wasn't looking, I never know what to say back. Also when people start telling you where they can see it and analysing your body like, "hey you've lost weight haven't you, you can really see it in your face," etc. These are usually the same people who chow down fried noodles for lunch and like to tell me what the best diet plans are. The absolute worst, and I know it is meant to be nice, but when someone says "hey you've lost weight, you look good," like I just looked awful before. That one always makes me chuckle.

    Hilarious! I love how you stated this, like the weight loss happened behind your back. LOL
  • chanson104
    chanson104 Posts: 859
    Good topic, I have a few of these. . . When I lost a bunch of weight before it drove me nuts when people would tell me I lost weight, not compliment me or ask if I have they would just say "hey you've lost weight" like it happened behind my back when I wasn't looking, I never know what to say back. Also when people start telling you where they can see it and analysing your body like, "hey you've lost weight haven't you, you can really see it in your face," etc. These are usually the same people who chow down fried noodles for lunch and like to tell me what the best diet plans are. The absolute worst, and I know it is meant to be nice, but when someone says "hey you've lost weight, you look good," like I just looked awful before. That one always makes me chuckle.
    I agree with these!! It is akward when someone just simply states, you've lost weight. I've just started saying, yes, I have. Thanks for noticing.
  • chanson104
    chanson104 Posts: 859
    Good topic, I have a few of these. . . When I lost a bunch of weight before it drove me nuts when people would tell me I lost weight, not compliment me or ask if I have they would just say "hey you've lost weight" like it happened behind my back when I wasn't looking, I never know what to say back. Also when people start telling you where they can see it and analysing your body like, "hey you've lost weight haven't you, you can really see it in your face," etc. These are usually the same people who chow down fried noodles for lunch and like to tell me what the best diet plans are. The absolute worst, and I know it is meant to be nice, but when someone says "hey you've lost weight, you look good," like I just looked awful before. That one always makes me chuckle.

    Hilarious! I love how you stated this, like the weight loss happened behind your back. LOL
    Maybe next time we should act shocked.
  • ccnjc4e
    ccnjc4e Posts: 142 Member
    Maybe next time we should act shocked.


    HAHAHA!! I lost weight?!?!?! Where??? Can you help me find it?!?!
  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    Not a compliment but my boyfriend at the time (EX NOW!!) told me i would probably be a lot better in bed if I wasn't fat... ummm thanks.... :huh:
  • nothing1994
    nothing1994 Posts: 1,936 Member
    "Your not fat! You dont need to loose weight! Im fat and NEED to loose weight! " Says the person who has no fat on them...
  • LynC33
    LynC33 Posts: 196
    "Wow you've lost alot of weight, can really notice in on your face"

    I dont care about my face!! How bout noticing it on my *kitten* or my thighs!!!!

    "Yeah you can tell you've lost weight, you dont have as much back fat anymore".......hmmmmm I had backfat??? grrrrrrrr
  • lelstar
    lelstar Posts: 374 Member
    Side track to not being a compliment again...

    Dad has a habit of telling me when I mention losing weight "Don't worry, you'll find it again"
  • BrokenBarbiexoxo
    BrokenBarbiexoxo Posts: 91 Member
    You've lost so much weight, you didn't need to!

    You're tiny, are you starving yourself?!

    (I've lost 2 pounds this week) ~ Oh dear, do you want me to lend to you some? (Someone will get out wallet and give me money)

    Soooooo annoying!!!
  • iva001
    iva001 Posts: 162
    An old boss came in was asking after everyone and my new boss mentioned me and he said 'Oh, the fat one?' and she said 'Not any more!' and was really pleased with herself and came over to tell me what she said. Sort of a compliment, sort of makes you feel like crap!

    LOL If I were your new boss I would have cleaned up the story a bit before I passed it on to you :)
  • lucylousmummy
    lucylousmummy Posts: 348 Member
    my friend keeps calling me a "skinny b***h" accompanied with "your obsessed with exercise" and "i'm not starving myself for nobody", 1 im still 25lbs above the highest healthy weight for my height, 2 i eat far more when i'm on a diet than i do any other time, and 3 yes so far this month i have walked 127 miles but 75 miles of that is just my normal school run (don't have a car) my one year old loves going out for walks, and especially this week its been beautiful weather after what seems to have been a long cold winter, i dont no why but when she came out with these i felt like she'd slapped me.
    ,

    i also get the "god you've lost some weight" comments and these get on my nerves too, but the "how have YOU managed it" emphasis on you lol, as if i cant do it without some magic cure, this is how the usual conversation goes
    "god you've lost some weight haven't you"
    "yes thanks"
    "how you managed that then"
    "diet and exercise"
    "no not having that it can't be just diet and exercise, what else you been taking"
    "nothing honestly"
    "sorry dont believe it"
    "ok i confess i've been smoking crack and having lots of sex"

    childish i no but its worth it for the look on there faces
  • migoi357
    migoi357 Posts: 173 Member
    Human communication is an unreliable mechanism. If someone is truly trying to compliment me, no matter how awkward the attempt, I appreciate their noticing and attempting. If I get the idea that they are trying to be snide or sarcastic...I just tie them to my truck and drag them around a bit, but I still don't get annoyed.
  • iwillsoonbeslim
    iwillsoonbeslim Posts: 283
    I don't get offended easily, so I fell about very nearly pmsl when a friend of a friend was told I'd lost quite a bit of weight, and she asked me how much. I said "About five and a half stone" and she looked me up and down, shocked, and asked "How big did you USED to be!??!!?" ahahahahahahahahahaa That was the first time we'd met, and she turned out to be the funniest, warmest, most genuine person! lol
  • Angelabec
    Angelabec Posts: 505 Member
    I generally find 'You look well' to be the most annoying. I take it to mean 'you look awful, so that's the best I can come up with'.

    Maybe I'm just over sensitive tho :laugh:
  • lifes_revenge
    lifes_revenge Posts: 49 Member
    Whilst giving me a concerned and suspicious look..."I can't get over how SKINNY you are getting, I was watching you when you were asleep..." erm I'm still a uk 14, have a little tummy, pearshaped with chunky wobbly thighs and a huge *kitten*...this was my mother btw.

    My naturally, svelte, petite friend who regularly has phases of not eating much but can generally eat what she wants: " You need to eat!! You're wasting away!!"...Erm I only said I hadn't eaten today cos of my stomach ulcer and the fact its agony to so much as chew gum, I'll be ok in a day or two.

    What has actually changed is I discovered Jillian Michaels and got my *kitten* off the couch so I'm actually shaping up for the first time since I was in my teens. :)
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