The most annoying 'compliment'?

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  • samanthasky
    samanthasky Posts: 114 Member
    Someone actually told my mom "You look less bloated now! Before you used to look like Santa Claus' wife!"

    I usually don't get annoying compliments because most people are usually really nice.. but one friend actually said to me after I told him I was going to lose weight during the summer he said "No you won't. You'll come back the same fat *kitten* that we know and love" I told him he was an inconsiderate jerk, and he said "No, actually it's bittersweet."
  • Bridget28152723
    Bridget28152723 Posts: 372 Member
    mine was "you dont look too bad considering youve had a child..."

    I hate that!!! Ive had 4 kids and its no excuse to look bad, but then after my last I got severe hypothyroidism ( hashimoto's disease) so actually it has kind of prevented me to lose the way I used to , but Im looking better slowly!
    "you dont need to lose weight you look good, remember you just had a baby!" I say yeah a year ago!

    My mother-in -law was like " you need to get off that crazy diet your on"- I guess being vegetarian , eating fruits, veggies, and basically healthy is "Crazy"?? sometimes Ill eat Pizza so its not like Im being extreme
  • jhayes28
    jhayes28 Posts: 28 Member
    I don't get too many compliments that actually offend me. I am just trying to figure out how to deal with the coworker/friend who constantly tries to sabotage my weight loss. She will come into the office first thing in the A.M. and set a McDonalds sandwich on my desk and tell me she brought me breakfast!! Or she will order pizza to the office and set a slice right by my keyboard. She knows I am watching what I put in my mouth! Anyone ever deal with a similar situation? How did you get them to back off?
  • lil_bear0811
    lil_bear0811 Posts: 56
    "All my other girlfriends were blonde and skinny. But you have such a big heart!"
  • christinehetz80
    christinehetz80 Posts: 490 Member
    "You got small!....you're boobs are gone!"

    Because that's what everyone girl wants to hear. It's not like I lost weight around my stomach, thighs or arms...ALL 20 something pounds fell right off my boobs!

    hahaha! I've gotten that one and the person proceeded to stare at my boobs and almost reached out to grab them. I was like seriously I have lost my boobs, but I've gained some muscle don't make me put them to good use, by kickin' your *kitten*. ;)

    I have a few passive/agressive people in my life sometimes I'm blunt with them and say "I'm really not sure why my weight loss is important to you" and sometimes I just smile, nod my head, turn around and roll my eyes. In the long run who really cares.
  • soulynyc
    soulynyc Posts: 302 Member
    you are losing weight.. you must be planning on having a baby. cause every time i lose weight i have a baby LOLOLOLOLOL
  • christinehetz80
    christinehetz80 Posts: 490 Member
    OH MY SWEET GHERKINS! Yall are right that is the WORST! "wow you've lost weight so quickly" No...I really haven't I've changed my lifestyle and have worked my *kitten* off for 7 months. It wasn't and isnt easy lets not pretend it is.
  • carcrsh
    carcrsh Posts: 70
    "You're going to become a stick"
    "You're too small"
    "You're going to blow away in the wind"

    I'm smaller yes but I'm still kinda on the higher side of my healthy bmi. I just want to lose some fat. I eat enough and I don't ever want to be underweight. If anything I want to gain some muscle later.
  • Chameleone
    Chameleone Posts: 281 Member
    Yup definitely had many try to sabotage me! I babysat a friends child for a few weeks and she had NO "real" food in the house. Then came home with pizza, and tried to force some huge cookie on me, then it was chips, then it was donuts and timbits...this literally started the day after I told her I'm watching what I eat, and continued everyday after that, and still now when I hang out with her...I don't understand why because even after losing some weight I still got about 20-30 pounds on her!
  • Maperu
    Maperu Posts: 3
    "You look good for your age." Or "You look good for having had three kids." Just leave it at "You look good." period. Thanks.
  • kjbbdoll
    kjbbdoll Posts: 86
    Everyone always tells me "wow, you look great after having 5 kids" but I always wonder, so I'm SUPPOSED to be really fat after having 5 children? LOL
    I accept all compliments gratefully but it does annoy me when people tell me to just eat crap food or that a little of something 'won't hurt'. Yes, I splurge and have yummy foods quite often but unless I have prepared for it (ie-exercised a lot that day, limited my calories beforehand etc) then I am NOT going to eat it even if you think that it 'won't hurt'. This is MY body, not yours! thankyouverymuch
  • Chameleone
    Chameleone Posts: 281 Member
    "You got small!....you're boobs are gone!"

    Because that's what everyone girl wants to hear. It's not like I lost weight around my stomach, thighs or arms...ALL 20 something pounds fell right off my boobs!

    hahaha! I've gotten that one and the person proceeded to stare at my boobs and almost reached out to grab them. I was like seriously I have lost my boobs, but I've gained some muscle don't make me put them to good use, by kickin' your *kitten*. ;)

    I have a few passive/agressive people in my life sometimes I'm blunt with them and say "I'm really not sure why my weight loss is important to you" and sometimes I just smile, nod my head, turn around and roll my eyes. In the long run who really cares.

    Hahaha when it happened to me the girl reached out and poked one! And the sad thing is I've only gone from a 36D to a 34D...they still exist haha
  • StartingAnewDay
    StartingAnewDay Posts: 319 Member
    Your boobs are bigger than your stomach now!! Looking good!!.. :grumble: ... ummmm ok..

    O my fav was an old uncle who goes wow, you used to be ((( this big))) <<<< he used open wide arms to signify how big I was.. gotta love the "impressions" of you...
  • j1wright
    j1wright Posts: 286 Member
    I had a baby in December and I still have people come up to me and say....."you look a lot different since the last time I seen you"......so I am left hanging wondering if the last time they seen me I was pregnant or if the last time they seen me I was just post partum and fatter. I guess I am suppose to guess and ask if I was pregnant or just fatter the last time they seen me?

    Then I start thinking I never had anyone say that with my first which I only gained 30 pounds with and on this one I gained nearly 50 pounds with. So then I realize I must have been the talk of the town on how fat I got.

    One that I like at first but not so much now......I started to get carded ALL the time when I buy alcohol. I am 32 and at first and was flattering but now it is really annoying. I have had my 6 year old girl with me before and they have still carded me. I hate it!
  • briyowes
    briyowes Posts: 757 Member
    I've been getting this a lot at work..."You're doing so good. I just can't do it because I love food too much."

    Hello, I'm not starving myself. I LOVE food too, otherwise, I wouldn't have to change my habits in the first place. I'm just making healthier choices with what I'm eating.

    My all-time most annoying however was this..."You look good. I didn't notice you from behind."
    :noway: Really! Did I look that bad from behind before I started to lose weight that I was easily recognizable??
  • AveryWays
    AveryWays Posts: 150 Member
    you are losing weight.. you must be planning on having a baby. cause every time i lose weight i have a baby LOLOLOLOLOL

    It never failed... in my other life, every time I'd loose weight, within a year I'd be preggers again :explode:
    So glad that's done and over with:bigsmile:

    Now I get the inevitable, "Wow! You look great even for someone who has 4 kids :grumble:
    Puh-lease... I'm at the prime of my life and fittest/smallest I've been in 35 years. Chances are I can outrun and outlast most of those giving me these two edge sword compliments :laugh:
  • Newfunlander
    Newfunlander Posts: 65 Member
    People need to really think about how they would feel to be on the receiving end of their "compliments" ! Give us some respect and encouragement for our hard work !
  • Brittonloves
    Brittonloves Posts: 60
    I've been surrounded by naturally thin, GORGEOUS girlfriends my entire life. I have always always always been known to my face (which makes me assume that it was probably worse behind my back) as some variation of "the fun chubby chick" or "the fat feminist one" or "the big girl with tattoos and glasses" or my absolute favorite of all time-- "the fat twin". Since I'm a twin, people like to play the "let's spot the differences between you two" game when they first meet us. There were COUNTLESS comments from people who were practically strangers that went like this, "Well she's taller and you're uh... well your face is rounder."
    So all the compliments I've been getting lately, even the backhanded ones... they don't bother me too much. The only ones that do are the ones that imply I didn't work really hard to lose the weight... any comment that implies I just woke up one morning and dropped 40 lbs cause I felt like it definitely irks me a little.
  • happypath101
    happypath101 Posts: 534
    "You're going to fade away on us." No. I promise you that I will NOT fade away. I am a substantial person with lots of things to say and do. I am not FADING; I am growing (on the inside - and a little bit on the outside with some muscles) .
  • robot_potato
    robot_potato Posts: 1,535 Member
    I hate being called skinny. HATE it. To me it sounds unhealthy, lie i am starving myself.
  • andreacord
    andreacord Posts: 928
    "You're too skinny, you can stop losing weight now"
    "You're going to be so hot when you're done losing weight"
    "You have such a beautiful face BUT.."
  • happypath101
    happypath101 Posts: 534
    I don't get too many compliments that actually offend me. I am just trying to figure out how to deal with the coworker/friend who constantly tries to sabotage my weight loss. She will come into the office first thing in the A.M. and set a McDonalds sandwich on my desk and tell me she brought me breakfast!! Or she will order pizza to the office and set a slice right by my keyboard. She knows I am watching what I put in my mouth! Anyone ever deal with a similar situation? How did you get them to back off?

    Just saw this. It's a great question. How about bringing some really healthy snacks and putting them on her desk? Maybe some carrot sticks and low fat hummus in the afternoon? As far as what she brings you, I'd give it away (although that'sno favour to the person you give it to). Or, if you're strong enough, just let it sit at your desk all day so that she can see that it's going to waste. It would bug her but probably get the point across without being confrontational.
  • LovinLife68
    LovinLife68 Posts: 9
    When I lost a lot of weight a few years ago, some thought that I lost it through surgical intervention and just assumed that is how the weight came off because that is how most were losing. Now that I have gained most of it all back I would hear, "oh you are a BBW and you carry your weight well, you are so tall that you don't even look your weight...blah blah blah. I try not to allow the opinions of others to derail my efforts to lose weight no matter how they think I look or whether I should lose.
  • heatherrose9
    heatherrose9 Posts: 122 Member
    "oh i couldnt do what you do i like food too much. but if it works for you...."

    i still love food and eat it every single day believe it or not. thank you very much
  • TheFitHooker
    TheFitHooker Posts: 3,357 Member
    I clearly don't look to thin but I am told "You don't need to lose more weight, you are looking to thin." I have also been told to eat a hamburger cus I look like I'm wasting a way. I'm 5'3 and this morning I was 134lbs, underweight for me would be 106 and below, I have a small frame and should be between 107-124. My goal is 115-120.

    Also the "How did you do it?" I tell them and then they say "so there is nothing else? No secret?" Um no there isn't, it's called hard work! If you want it bad enough you make no excuses you only make progress. "I can't workout." Are you dead? Seriously I seen a video of a guy who couldn't walk lose weight and get in better shape who now can walk, don't give me that BS! Excuses are like butt holes, we all have one, and they all stink!
  • kidskart
    kidskart Posts: 79 Member
    I love the "you've lost a TON of weight" - I want to respond, 'yes that's it 2,000 pounds of weight gone!"

    My biggest irretant is the, "you can really tell in your face" - To that I would like to say, 'yes, my butt is still the biggest part of my body and I'm still working on it. But seriously, 50 pounds didn't all come from my face'

    The other one that gets me is "I can't beliee how pretty you are!" - To that I would like to say, 'I'm sorry you're an idiot!'

    Or how about, "Wow, what does your husband think?" - To that one, I only wish it was appropriate to say, 'you know I used to really gross him out, but we mate all the time, in fact, that's what we're headed to do now!'

    Ok, I'l stop! :)
  • bcmallwalker
    bcmallwalker Posts: 63
    I've heard the ones like: "you're melting away!" I only wish it was that easy, it's frustrating to hear because we all know how much hard work it takes to "melt" even 1 lb.

    But the worst compliment that I have received was from my doctor, (a woman, no less!) who said: "You're doing really well, too bad you aren't losing it in your stomach." I had already lost 60+ lbs at that point and gone down about 4 sizes in clothing. I wanted to punch her in the face and I am not a violent person.

    To be fair, she has become one of my biggest cheerleaders. She says that I am one of her best patients and to keep up the good work. I've come to the conclusion that people just don't think about what they are saying and how it comes across. So I just smile and say "thank you" to every compliment I receive. At least they keep their mouths shut when I slack off and regain a few lbs. instead of saying "Wow, you were looking so good, what happened?"
  • Hayesgang
    Hayesgang Posts: 624
    I hate being called skinny. HATE it. To me it sounds unhealthy, like I am starving myself.



    ^^THIS!!! I am not skinny~I am strong and lean!!

    or

    You have lost weight, are you sick?

    What have you been doing~HCG, I have a friend that lost a bunch of weight that way TOO.

    You don't look like a girl that would eat chocolate.

    Are you sure you are eating enough?

    It can't just be yoga, jogging and cutting down on portions~What are you taking, what have you stopped eating?
  • limbopanto
    limbopanto Posts: 25
    Kinda different but when I was at a bmi of 13 multiple people would tell me I had 'the perfect body'...yeah not the most helpful when I was mentally at my worst and very unhealthy!
  • bcmallwalker
    bcmallwalker Posts: 63
    I think that sometimes people in our lives are used to seeing us one way, as overweight. Those who are also overweight might feel threatened because they realize that with hard work they could lose weight too. Those who are at or close to their optimal weight feel threatened because they want to be the "thin" friend/sister/cousin/co-worker, etc. So it's fine for them to be "thin", but they want us to be heavier so they can feel good about themselves.

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