The most annoying 'compliment'?

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  • irefusetoquit
    irefusetoquit Posts: 62
    The moment I was proud of what I had achieved from what I was doing, my mom started saying during meals "you're not eating enough. You're too skinny. Eat some more."

    I don't think she understands THAT was how I had gained the weight in the first place!
  • happyfeetrebel1
    happyfeetrebel1 Posts: 1,005 Member
    I've lost about 76 lbs, and a co worker told me yesterday that if I turned sideways he wouldn't be able to see me. Now I understand this guy, he is truly the nicest guy ever, and it was a genuine compliment. BUT..I have 20 more lbs to go until I'm no longer 'obese' by BMI standards, and at least 50 til I'm no longer overweight.

    Compared to what I WAS, then yes, I look goooodddd...compared to how I should look, or the average person, notsomuch

    At least he tried :)
  • shorty35565
    shorty35565 Posts: 1,425 Member
    I hate the 'ur small enough u should stop now' 'compliment. While I'm at healthy weight for my height now, I still have a belly, so no I shouldn't stop until it's gone & no i'm not small. Grrr.
  • shorty35565
    shorty35565 Posts: 1,425 Member
    "Careful, you don't want to lose your boobs or butt!"

    Um, yes, I do. Not everyone aspires to look like a Kardashian.
    Last time I seen my grandma, she told me i didn't have boobs anymore. -__- yes I do lol
  • irefusetoquit
    irefusetoquit Posts: 62
    Ok, after completing a workout program a month ago, I leaned out. I lost inches, a little weight, and my face was leaner. I went to Easter Sunday, and the women complimented me saying, "You look good!"

    My cousin Mike said to me, "You're getting to skinny! You're wasting away"...
    and that's coming from a man with a gut.

    I didn't say anything.
  • HornsUT32
    HornsUT32 Posts: 146 Member
    "I can see you have been working out really hard. You look good now for your age."

    Ummm...I am 31, not 91. Thanks, ugh!
  • smiliekiwi
    smiliekiwi Posts: 92 Member
    I would love someone to say I had a pretty face!!!
    As for "you've lost weight" It normally takes 10k's before people notice... IT"S A COMPLIMENT!
    It's the "Black suits you, it makes you look skinny" that made me s******...It was because I had down sized.
  • irefusetoquit
    irefusetoquit Posts: 62
    Someone once said "you'll never know what someone is going through until you walk a mile in their shoes". Until people that I knew felt what I felt when I was heavier and heard the thoughts in my mind over and over again, and then feeling how I felt when I started changing and improving my life, I don't think they'd understand.
  • Cupcakehippiemommy
    Cupcakehippiemommy Posts: 457 Member
    you have such a pretty face!

    Yes ^^^^ and "What are you doing? Starving yourself?"
  • Candi_land
    Candi_land Posts: 1,311 Member
    you have such a pretty face!


    OMG seriously!!! That is such a passive aggressive *kitten* backwards compliment to me, since what is left unspoken is (BUT you'd look so much better if you just lost weight!). :/
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    Maybe next time we should act shocked.


    HAHAHA!! I lost weight?!?!?! Where??? Can you help me find it?!?!

    Epic. :laugh:
  • hrharris70
    hrharris70 Posts: 30 Member
    It's official. I am never going to compliment anyone ever again. There are none left according to this thread that are acceptable. I was walking into a store the other day and passed a young girl on my way in who's bicep definition I had been admiring. She saw me looking and I told her, " Sorry, I was admiring your biceps." as I curled my arm and pointed to my own bicep. She laughed. I wonder how much I offended her?
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    That along with, you're so skinny! You don't need to lose any more weight.

    I've been getting this one since I was a size 12. I don't know why it grates on my nerves so bad, but it does. My hairdresser still says this to me, and it annoys me sooo much when she says it because she is smaller than me! It's probably wrong of me, but when she says it, it sounds more like "You are so skinny! You don't need to lose any more weight or you will be my size and I just can't have that, honey!"

    This is it EXACTLY.
  • hrharris70
    hrharris70 Posts: 30 Member
    This thread is... frustrating/confusing. You say, "you're looking great!" to someone and they get offended, thinking that you didn't think they looked great before. well, sorry to be blunt, but did YOU think you looked the best you could before? surely it's part of the reason you decided to lose the weight? Or you say "hey, did you lose weight?", wanting to acknowledge their success, and they get annoyed and think to themselves something sarcastic like "naaaaaaaaah, guess it just decided to up and leave!?" BUT, if you take what has evidently become the safest route and say nothing - don't compliment them/acknowledge their weightloss at all - they get angry and discouraged that nobody's said anything. i've literally seen a forum topic where the OP was asking "when are people gonna start noticing!"

    why can't people start taking compliments for their face value, there's almost never any secret malice behind it. stop analysing them to death. each person reacts to compliments differently and it's a sensitive subject so cut the complimenter some slack.

    So is it ok for someone to tell someone else they look like a porn star? When you know they did not mean it as a compliment? Is it ok for someone to tell you to stop losing weight because you are melting away when you are not even in the healthy range yet? Is it ok for people to tell a person who is over weight to stop eating because they are to fat? How about this one, is it ok for someone to tell you "Oh you quit smoking, and now you're fat"? It's not ok to make comments on people's weight even if they are thin and you are giving them a "Compliment" and think it'll make them feel good by saying "You're melting away" or "You are looking to thin" because truth be told I look to thin to those who know me because they never seen me thin before. I enjoy the compliments that sound like this, "Your hard work has paid off, you look great". However the "OMG! You are looking sick, you need to go shove a hamburger down your throat, maybe a few of them?" Those are rude.



    er... what? I was specifically addressing the two example compliments that I gave (they have been popular answers in this thread) and how if somebody says either of THOSE TWO to you, i'm sure there's rarely hidden malice behind them. I was not generalising every comment anyone has ever made about you in the history of your life. Soz you got called a porn star.
    Yes maybe we should start a thread on good compliments that we would like to hear, because, honestly I'll take any compliment I get. If it's sincere then it's appreciated and if it's not it's still appreciated because that is a clear indication of jealousy and that in it's self is a compliment. Did that make sense to anyone?
  • SilviCor
    SilviCor Posts: 110 Member
    When I lost weight a long time ago, an old friend saw me and said to another friend, "Wow she really lost a lot of weight! Did she get a nose job??" I guess my face had slimmed down so much (nose included) that she thought I had plastic surgery! Oh man!
  • m_shuman
    m_shuman Posts: 179
    It is not really a compliment but when I tell people about the weight I have lost sometimes they tell me "right now I hate you. (with a laugh and a smile of course)" And I usually respond with "well I envy you because you still get to eat things like cookies and carbs and don't spend 2 hours a day in the gym." I then explain to them that I really worked hard and had to be really disciplined to get the weight off and I have to continue to be disciplined if I want to keep it off.
  • NCVF
    NCVF Posts: 83 Member
    HA!!! love it when people give me unsolicited advice about what diet I should do or what to eat when they look worse than me.
    PS your profile photo is beautiful!
    Good topic, I have a few of these. . . When I lost a bunch of weight before it drove me nuts when people would tell me I lost weight, not compliment me or ask if I have they would just say "hey you've lost weight" like it happened behind my back when I wasn't looking, I never know what to say back. Also when people start telling you where they can see it and analysing your body like, "hey you've lost weight haven't you, you can really see it in your face," etc. These are usually the same people who chow down fried noodles for lunch and like to tell me what the best diet plans are. The absolute worst, and I know it is meant to be nice, but when someone says "hey you've lost weight, you look good," like I just looked awful before. That one always makes me chuckle.
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    The moment I was proud of what I had achieved from what I was doing, my mom started saying during meals "you're not eating enough. You're too skinny. Eat some more."

    I don't think she understands THAT was how I had gained the weight in the first place!

    Yes she does. She's probably threatened because you're changing the "Status Quo".
  • dolphinmomof3
    dolphinmomof3 Posts: 7
    Yea I will have to go with " you have a beautiful face". Like if I were skinny and the body went with the face it would be all good.......... LOL

    But now I do get a lot of you look grea,t you need to take pictures and let everyone see how you have lost weight.:happy:
  • dolphinmomof3
    dolphinmomof3 Posts: 7
    The other one is "you have a great personality"!!!!!!
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    The other one is "you have a great personality"!!!!!!

    Yes, I agree. I hate this one too. :smile:
  • Hayesgang
    Hayesgang Posts: 624
    I was walking into a store the other day and passed a young girl on my way in who's bicep definition I had been admiring. She saw me looking and I told her, " Sorry, I was admiring your biceps." as I curled my arm and pointed to my own bicep. She laughed. I wonder how much I offended her?



    You didn't offend her I'm sure~THAT is how you compliment people.

    "You look fabulous, you should be so proud of yourself", "Wow, you are so dedicated"~That is a compliment!!
  • cali8_love
    cali8_love Posts: 95 Member
    you so pretty u dont need to loss weight ur just pretty the way u R ...
    WAIT how much weight have u lost ?? SMH
  • Asil02
    Asil02 Posts: 261
    "smoking crack and having lots of sex"

    BWA HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! I am SOOOOO using this the first time someone asks me how I lost the weight!
  • muffyjog
    muffyjog Posts: 30
    you have such a pretty face!

    Oh yes, THIS!

    Along with.."You'd be so pretty if you just lost some weight" which, having already done, is both annoying and discouraging.
  • sfarrell1359
    sfarrell1359 Posts: 63 Member
    Not a compliment, but because I'm not overweight people ask me why I log my food and count calories..

    It can get annoying when they don't understand that I need to be aware of what's going into my body and that if I don't keep track I'll eat everything and become overweight. :P

    I agree with this one. Once I was buying weight watchers yogurt and the sales girl was like "you don't need weight watchers, you are small already." And I was buying it because it was gluten free, not because I was on a diet. But either way, really none of her business.
  • Jus_BN_Kim
    Jus_BN_Kim Posts: 5
    Don't take that BMI chart too seriously, it doesn't consider the way your built.
  • sfarrell1359
    sfarrell1359 Posts: 63 Member
    This doesn't have to do with weight, but when I wear my glasses and people say "you look smart." What is that? And how do I look without them?
  • KevinLamb77
    KevinLamb77 Posts: 87
    After gaining weight back from previous deprive yourself of the food you love diets. "you didn't look right when you were thinner."
    Now, "you're a skinny minni" What the **** is that? I know whatever it is you shouldn't ever call a man that. Oh and BTW, I'm not skinny *****.
  • reneelee
    reneelee Posts: 877 Member
    Side track to not being a compliment again...

    Dad has a habit of telling me when I mention losing weight "Don't worry, you'll find it again"

    Dad's can be dumb sometimes, but that would really piss me off!
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