First Negative Comment

jetscreaminagain

MFP is for this part of my life. Ravelry is for the knitting part of my life. Facebook is for a larger part of my life.

Just like I don't need to hear that someone's morning glories are ready and they've now made sachets or some **** like that that automatically posts from the Zynga games, other folks that are not interested in MFP don't need to know that I did some bit of exercise or lost some portion of a pound. Generally auto updates are annoying. Your friends can probably block the MFP updates just like I block the Zynga updates, but truthfully, if you're not energetic enough to put it up yourself actually, its probably best you not clutter up other folks' newsfeeds with auto-updates about the minutiae of your day that you do regularly and is not their interest.

At least when Nike+ was updating facebook automatically, or the Addidas micoach or mapmyrun, at least those all provide interesting data about how fast how long where. That makes it interesting. But 350 cals burned doing 39 minutes of "jogging, with stroller" is just clutter in my newsfeed unless you having a baby is new info. [ I never auto-updated the gps ones, though, because of the safety aspect of showing people exactly where your house is, what time of what days you tend to run, and what portion of the run you might be the most spent and unable to protect yourself. You never know who those friends of friends are.]

tmauck4472

I see alot of people posting that this is their FB page and if you don't like what I post feel free to unfriend me. I don't post things like this everyday so I don't have the problem but I do at time post my weight loss amounts and my exercise for the day. I just keep it down to a min. But I do feel if they don't like the way I post then they are free to unfriend me

_SpeshK_

I see your points. i can't just go around in reality talking about working out with people that aren't, just like I can't talk about video games or sports with everybody. I guess the working out/healthy aspects are a personal gain and anyone annoyed by it just seems to be a personal attack towards me and my accomplishments. I will remember that bit of information and remember that people don't like to talk some subjects, but then again, i also like to annoy people, so if they don't like they can always block or delete. I'm not going to waste the energy to delete someone who is annoyed with me. That's energy I could be using on something else more useful to me.

Right on! Keep thinking this way. If you let it get to you in any way, you are letting them hinder you and your progress. Be happy that you are actually making the effort instead of like most of the world who says they will tomorrow and never follow through. You rock!!!

LynC33

OMG a$#@holes! Would they rather you be lying in a ditch somewhere? Good on you for changing your habits and being proud of yourself. If they were true friends, they would be proud too and know you well enough to know how important this is to you. I personally dont post to facebook because I d rather share my journey with like minded people with similar goals Jealousy is an ugly thing. Good on you and keep up the great work :-)

trishgrace

I don't connect mine to facebook at all. I don't personally know anyone on my FL on here. They all support me. I want to keep this all seperate for now.

JessLLoser

I dunno, I really don`t like reading what someone is doing every second of the day on Facebook. I think they are taking a dig at you because of that?

On the flip side, some people have told me the same thing. Truth was I was talking about weight loss all the time. It was a good wake up call for me. Not everyone is interested in what I am. Maybe it`s better to wait until they ask you.

Posting pictures on Facebook is also way more interesting than a generic automatic post. If you have a picture of your new buff bod, or even not so buff but better than before buff, you might get more postive responses.

But here we are all interested in fitness, so we will always be positive here!
Your doing great!

388gigi

I don't post on facebook. I always see people post stuff like "no one cares if you went to the gym today" etc. So I'm not going to put myself in the position where I am the person they are talking about.

I understand being proud of your efforts, but most others wont. (except on MFP of course!)

I post everything on here and only here, because this is where I get support for it!

(I think they're just jealous!)

PLUMSGRL

just another reason I left Facebook!

hsk1019

If they don't want to hear about that, they have the option to filter your posts in their feed or eliminate them altogether. And really, it's your account so you can post whatever you want however often you want. I have friends that'll go into sprees of sharing images I've seen a thousand times or posting youtube links or blog/news posts from other sites. I don't tell them to cut it out. If it bothers me I can just hide all the posts or filter it.

When you actually go and b*tch in the form of joking to a person to stop then you've taken the internet too seriously and need either an ice cream cone or a kick in the nads.

THIS! Let them turn off what they don't want to see. Keep doin what you're doin! In no time they'll be remarking about how different you look and how happy you seem!!

shodaimetruth

MFP is for this part of my life. Ravelry is for the knitting part of my life. Facebook is for a larger part of my life.

Just like I don't need to hear that someone's morning glories are ready and they've now made sachets or some **** like that that automatically posts from the Zynga games, other folks that are not interested in MFP don't need to know that I did some bit of exercise or lost some portion of a pound. Generally auto updates are annoying. Your friends can probably block the MFP updates just like I block the Zynga updates, but truthfully, if you're not energetic enough to put it up yourself actually, its probably best you not clutter up other folks' newsfeeds with auto-updates about the minutiae of your day that you do regularly and is not their interest.

At least when Nike+ was updating facebook automatically, or the Addidas micoach or mapmyrun, at least those all provide interesting data about how fast how long where. That makes it interesting. But 350 cals burned doing 39 minutes of "jogging, with stroller" is just clutter in my newsfeed unless you having a baby is new info. [ I never auto-updated the gps ones, though, because of the safety aspect of showing people exactly where your house is, what time of what days you tend to run, and what portion of the run you might be the most spent and unable to protect yourself. You never know who those friends of friends are.]

you're right. i didnt' think about how boring it could actually be to read something like . how it could be so similar to an annoying game post. It's an accomplishment to them, but not to me and vice versa. Something I will keep in mind with regards to my future posts. I do think that maybe i should start posting accomplishments and things that seem interesting, not boring or unrelated to them and their INTERESTING life. Working out is something I do daily, so why do I need everyone to know I'm doing it. I wouldn't post every time I took a ****, how long I was in there or how much weight I loss, so why post something that is similar, but less gross?

Lesson learned. Thanks.

Cait_Sidhe

AT first I had FB and MFP linked, but it started to annoy me so I de-linked it. FB and MFP are 2 different worlds.

WifeNMama

I'm a stay at home mom. I think Facebook friends would think workout statuses would be a step up from the on going poopy diaper tally and "guess the gross thing I found in my hair" game.

AngieELS

People get annoyed because they can't or WON'T do what you're doing!

parys1

I do NOT have MFP linked to Facebook. I guard MFP jealously.

MaryJane_8810002

I deactivated my facebook account. Its great living without it! Besides most people on facebook only care about themselves.

jesusHchris

<entire comment deleted, don't feel like getting banned today>

bradphil87

People get annoyed because they can't or WON'T do what you're doing!

^^^^this!!!! Some people are jelious when anyone else makes a positive improvement in their life and they have not. Case and point, an old friend whom I was close with a few years back lashed out at me for literally no reason at all. I found I very strange....but after talking to other friends I learned that he was jelious that I have a good paying job now, and I quit drinking and am getting my life together like he is not. My other friend explained it to me like this "if he sees you are doing about the same or worse than him, he takes it as being content with the life he has chosen."

littlewhittles

I log my exercise on here, but I don't crosspost. And, when my friends using other weight loss sites or exercise trackers crosspost to Facebook, it annoys me! I rarely talk about working out or weight loss on my Facebook because I feel like I'm bragging. Just my personal feelings.

NavyKnightAh13

I don't have MFP connected to Facebook or Twitter (the thing with Twitter is that i only feel comfortable using it for live updates from games, as that is my job as a sports correspondent for my local newspaper, and Facebook yeah, let's not go there). I'm sorry that your friends aren't into what you are, but that is ok, because you are happy Personally, my friends on Facebook don't understand my wanting to be fit and not negative and so i have been steering clear of the drama that is Facebook, and so I hardly post on there anymore except pictures so family can see our kid.

kdeaux1959

I have not and will not link my MFP to my Facebook. I also don't mention much about working out or anything like that on Facebook. Personally, what I want is when I see these people in real life, I want them to notice the differences I have made -- they can see for themselves what I have been doing. You are right... there are many out there that truly don't understand what getting healthy is all about - the restraint and perseverance is odd to them. They see it is extremism and over the top. These same people see any type of religious dedication similarly. If your lifestyle does not match theirs then either you are extremist... think you are better than they are ... obsessed ... or some similar unpleasantry. Interestingly enough, the same ones who find Restricting intake to under 2200 calories per day, lifting weights 3-4 times per week and exercising as extreme or even going to Church 2-3 times per week as extreme... think nothing of talking about downing a 5th of vodka or eating their weight at a crawfish boil all in the name of having fun... Some things are better left to be proven....

shodaimetruth

i've seen that mentality. if you're not with me then you are against me and weird. how could you not enjoy what i'm doing? what you are doing is not fun and deserves to be pointed at and a division must be implemented.

very intriguing. i must be mindful of my behavior and preventing myself from acting like that at all.

hehthurr

people who cheat always accuse people of cheating, people who are insecure pick on other people, etc. Don't let someone's insecurities about what's going on in their life stop you from succeeding in YOUR personal goals towards your health and happiness!

Trail_Addict

Throw this at them

bradphil87

Throw this at them

I f'n love this^^^^ awesome bro!

NancyNiles

I post my exercise and weight losses on FB (through MFP). I have friends on both sites that support me and I enjoy letting my real-life friends and family know how I'm progressing, since most of them are vividly aware that I'm overweight.

If your friends were worth worrying about, they would be supporting you. If if they aren't, then can hide the feed from MFP and live in an alcohol-induced bliss where they don't have to think about the fact that some of their friends have grown up and starting caring about themselves!

Good luck to you and keep on posting. Piss 'em off or motivate them... either is just fine

Kris0109

I kept this whole process off Facebook for the first year or so. I still don't have MFP and FB linked, but I've been a lot more willing to discuss things on there since then. I think it was a fear of failure thing.

mslack01

my mom said something similar....she said all i ever seem to talk about is working out and dieting. I can't help it, i'm extremely involved in the aspect of fitness and health. Why would I not talk about something I'm so in to, right?

I am the same way now. I know my 'regular' friends get tired of it, but if they can't support me then its their loss. I try to get them to do this stuff "with" me. I quit posting mine to FB because I figured they were getting tired of it. I still post my C25K workouts though from my phone.

KiwiKim25

From experience, I've found friends are happy/supportive of the weight loss progress (dieting/working out) for a initial period of time. Then they get tired of hearing about it. I'm sorry your friends are being rude about it now. It really sucks when that happens! Luckily there is a great community here to rely on for support, encouragement and commiseration.

slyder432

Haters gunner hate mate!! I put it down to jealousy, they wish they had the drive and dedication to do what you're doing.

^^^This...Keep up the dedication. Let hate...once they see what you have accomplished, they will ask you to help them reach your success!!

runnerchick69

So I have facebook linked to MFP, like most people would, I imagine. Everytime I log my exercises it shows up on facebook. So today, I logged my exercises and it posted to facebook, but I alos made a comment about a dislike towards Bear Crawls, and for the first time I actually had someone tell me to stop posting all the exercise posts and what not. Then another one said that all I talk about is working out, rewind back about 3 months and all you would read would be, "hangover, drunk, passed out, beer, drunk...."

They say they are joking, but as a person that jokes i know there is always a bit of truth to every joke. It's not demotivating, but interesting because I just started to think to myself that I have not had to deal with any negativity/hate towards my workouts. It's a first and I imagine I'll deal with more. I wonder if it's a shock for them to see me devoting more time to being healthy then the partying. I'm telling myself it's a little envy and sadness. They envy the all the effort I'm putting forth and they are sad that they don't have me around at parties as much and miss me :laugh: That's how I deal with this bit of negativity.

I have been there! I had someone (a family member) tell me once that all I talked about was running. She said she was kidding but I knew she was saying it because she believed it. What I also realized was just how jealous she was that I'm now an athlete who can run marathons and takes my health very seriously! It's envy pure and simple! They are so jealous that you are doing something they wish they were doing but either can't or won't make those changes in their own life. In my experience as I lost weight people felt they needed to justify their own unhealthy lifestyle to me. They didn't need to do that but the changes I was making in my life put them on the defensive. The way I figure it is this person who said that to me talks about her kids ALL the time so how is that any different than when I talk about running? It isn't but people who are jealous can't see anything past their own insecurities. You KEEP posting and don't let the haters get to you because that is all they are, jealous, insecure little (or maybe big) haters