Closed Diary's
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None of your business why.....if their diary is closed just don't comment on it.
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My diary fluctuates between being open to friends, to being closed. Half the time I do not look at anyone elses' diary, unless I am concerned for the person or just feeling nosy.
I feel it is my choice, however I also feel that I shouldn't be whining and asking for advice if it isn't open and people can't see my diary to help me.0 -
Because some people don't want the support aspect of the site, they just want the tools.
So why add friends if all you want are the tools?
You can get support in other ways than a "way to go" comment on your food diary, ya know...I've found a group of local folks to hike with, I've met people to invite to my running group, I add people who have the same fitness interests as me, or similar goals, or people who ask for advice...or just because they are friends of friends and sound interesting or funny...I don't need everyone on my friends list to comment on my daily food intake, even though my diary is open to friends and sometimes they do comment.
I have friends on here who have private diaries, friends who do low carb, friends who do 1200 calories, friends who do 3200 calories, friends who do paleo, friends who eat out a lot because of their jobs, etc, etc, etc...if it's working for them, that's great! If they ask for advice, I'd make suggestions based on what's worked for me personally. If they don't ask for advice, I'm not going to give unsolicited advice on their diary. It's not my business.
I love the comment someone posted a while back "I'll do me, and you do you." Great advice.
Happy Friday ya'all!
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Why does it matter? Unless they are asking for input/advice. Isn't everyone an individual and able to do what THEY want?0
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None of your business why.....if their diary is closed just don't comment on it.
Awesomeness
the other awesomeness is your ticker photo--I am hoping to see that movie this weekend!0 -
Some ppl don't realize it is closed.0
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The only time it bothers me when people's diaries are closed is when they ask, "Why am I not losing weight?". We can't really answer that question if the diary is not open. Other than that, that is their choice.
^^^ THIS
Its a personal choice whether or not to have it opened. Mine is closed, because what I eat is my business. I respond daily to those on my friends list when they are under their calorie goal, loose weight, put in a workout, etc... and I don't care if I can't see their diary. What if they fall under their calorie goal and I look at their diary and they had a twinkie as a snack? Do I say "you go girl, but dang did you really need that twinkie". NO. The object is to motivate each other - not pick people apart.0 -
WHY would someone un-friend someone for keeping their diary closed? If someone wants to un-friend me because of it...so be it. I honestly don't care. I'm here for me.
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Not everyone on MFP wants support with their diary. To think this is the only kind of support you can offer is very narrow. I have friends on MFP not so they can view or evaluate my eating, but so we can truly interact. We tell each other new ideas for exercise, what we're doing next weekend, and more. I ask my MFP friends questions directly- "What do you do when you can't run for exercise?" and stuff like that.
They don't need to see my diary to support me. They can see my exercise posts. They can post on my wall. If I don't log in for three days, they see that and can message me. If I post that I missed my morning workout but will do tonight, they'll respond to my post and ask if I did it at 6 that night. There are so many ways to support one another without seeing someone's diary that I don't see why it's an issue for you.
I used to keep my diary open only to friends, because I am trying to follow an eating plan that helps my CFS. I don't need to be defending my choices to random people who don't know me. Now I leave it wide open to anyone and ignore those questions that are ignorant. But most of us just don't want to defend our food choices to strangers.0 -
I record my calories for me, not for anyone else. I don't need anyone else to see my diary. I am here for me and not for other people to judge my food choices. There is a support system here that can be had and is good to have without them needing to see what I ate today.If they are my friend, I tell them I don't like it because I can't keep them accountable for being healthy if I can't see what they are eating or how far under they ate (alot of people with ED's on here and I DON'T want to encourage that). And I'm not going to go around calling people out on what they ate, unless we are close MFPers. But if someone ate all fresh vegetables, lean meats, healthy stuff all day and are under, I am going to compliment their diary. If they ate all Mcdonalds and cheesecake, even if they stayed under goal I'm not going to compliment them. I think there is more to MFP than just staying UNDER your goal, although it is an important part.
If they ask me how to open it I tell them. .
If they keep it closed, I defriend them. :ohwell: I feel bad doing it, but I can't really be your "friend" if you are keeping that significant of a secret from me.
If they are not my friend I don't even look anyway...unless they are posting for help in a message board or something.
Honestly people shouldn't need YOU to keep them accountable for their food choices. They need to keep themselves accountable because they won't always have someone saying "you ate too many calories today, bad you!" Or "you need to eat more calories, bad you!" "you had pizza, nooO! mortal sin!" Or whatever needs to be said to "keep them accountable". I can definitely understand not wanting to encourage eating disorders, but other than that...no big deal.
I agree. My diary is open, but even if it wasn't it's not for anyone to tell me I had a bad day. If I had a bad day it would be obvious to me from my dairy and I don't need anyone pointing out the obvious to me. Also, some people on here act like if you eat something that is remotely 'unhealthy' you deserve to be scolded. I plan on having some ice cream for desert tonight, it's none of anyone's business. I don't need a dictator telling my grown *kitten* self what to do. Some people welcome that kind of thing, it keeps them motivated, others just want people to butt out and mind their own.0 -
My diary will always remain public, but I did get annoyed the other day when someone kept insisting I eat more fruit and veg. If they had looked at my previous logs, they would have realised I get enough of each. So yeah, I understand why people prefer to keep 'em private. However, I'm nosy and I like to look through them for meal ideas, so more people should open them up! Pretty please?
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I have found over time on here that people can be so darn picky. lol0
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None of your business why.....if their diary is closed just don't comment on it.
Awesomeness
the other awesomeness is your ticker photo--I am hoping to see that movie this weekend!
Soooooooo worth sitting through the weak storyline, just FYI
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I find it frustrating that everyone gets so hung up on seeing everyone's diary. Unless people are asking for help with their calories or whatnot, WHY is it so important that people know what others are putting in their mouths? I have a disclaimer in my profile that states my diary is my own business, I won't look at others' either unless asked.0
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Don't see how it's your business @ the OP0
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Mine is closed to people I am not friends with. The only reason I have it open to friend is because I am "friends" with my husband who copies my meals because they also his meals.
I hate feedback on my food journal, honestly. You don't know if somebody had a "good day" just because they were under their calorie goals (they could be sick, stressed -- you have no idea) -- you don't know if you should really be telling somebody "tomorrow will be better" if they went over -- I go over when I feel like my body needs it and I am not worried about it for a second.
I don't need strangers monitoring and commenting on my food intake -- unless I have a very specific question. Unless that happens -- oh wait it won't cause I'll ask a doctor, my diary is closed.
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Mine is closed to people I am not friends with. The only reason I have it open to friend is because I am "friends" with my husband who copies my meals because they also his meals.
I hate feedback on my food journal, honestly. You don't know if somebody had a "good day" just because they were under their calorie goals (they could be sick, stressed -- you have no idea) -- you don't know if you should really be telling somebody "tomorrow will be better" if they went over -- I go over when I feel like my body needs it and I am not worried about it for a second.
I don't need strangers monitoring and commenting on my food intake -- unless I have a very specific question. Unless that happens -- oh wait it won't cause I'll ask a doctor, my diary is closed.
This.
LOL Adipose!
Also, I agree with seeing a Doctor. Some people on here lose a few pounds and think they're experts. If I have a serious question about my nutrition I will ask a professional, not someone who has a picture of their boobs as their avatar.0 -
I thought MySpace was reborn for a moment...
Okay, I needed a laugh this morning. Thank you, OP.
All I've got to add is this:
Why not just buy yourself an ant farm and shake it every time you need to control something? Then take your best "duckface" photo, post it to show how "gangsta" a Stepford wife can be, have a Coke and a smile, then go yell at the neighbor for not cutting his grass evenly.
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We are all here for the same, yet very different reasons.
I closed my food diary after a series of personal attacks on a forum. A comment I made about protein drinks and how helpful they are to me on a forum and an MFP'r decided that because my ticker only showed a 10 lb loss, and that because I drink protein drinks daily, that it was okay to dissect every single aspect of my food diary and blast me for my "non-existent weight loss" and said I shouldn't be offering my advice or point of view. This person didn't take the time to ask what my goal was or if my current goal is the same goal as it was when I started.
In another forum post, this same individual attacked me yet again for posting on another forum ... I don't need the negativity.
I eat relatively clean, I am very active and the only person I have to be accountable for is me.
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Closed diaries get to me also. I figure if I can hang it all out there to MFP then pals can see what I eat. If they object, they may not know how to adjust the settings. One can use a code number to unlock. Not sure how this works. On the other hand, nutritious eating is an IMPORTANT part of weight loss and some may be embarrased at their food choices. To those I say, you are not serious about your health. If you want to be friends with me, you gotta show your food diary.0
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This may have been the most condescending, ridiculous thing I've read today. Because I feel what I eat is none of your business, and I don't care that you're nosy and feel some sort of entitlement to know what everyone else is doing, I'm not serious about my health? Wow, well, then I guess I'm damn sure glad I'm NOT your friend.Closed diaries get to me also. I figure if I can hang it all out there to MFP then pals can see what I eat. If they object, they may not know how to adjust the settings. One can use a code number to unlock. Not sure how this works. On the other hand, nutritious eating is an IMPORTANT part of weight loss and some may be embarrased at their food choices. To those I say, you are not serious about your health. If you want to be friends with me, you gotta show your food diary.0 -
I record my calories for me, not for anyone else. I don't need anyone else to see my diary. I am here for me and not for other people to judge my food choices. There is a support system here that can be had and is good to have without them needing to see what I ate today.If they are my friend, I tell them I don't like it because I can't keep them accountable for being healthy if I can't see what they are eating or how far under they ate (alot of people with ED's on here and I DON'T want to encourage that). And I'm not going to go around calling people out on what they ate, unless we are close MFPers. But if someone ate all fresh vegetables, lean meats, healthy stuff all day and are under, I am going to compliment their diary. If they ate all Mcdonalds and cheesecake, even if they stayed under goal I'm not going to compliment them. I think there is more to MFP than just staying UNDER your goal, although it is an important part.
I review some diaries because I get ideas from them. I also comment on my close MFPers because part of the condition of being my friend is that you have an open diary. We have no problems and the support and compliments of doing good are sincerely meant.
If they ask me how to open it I tell them. .
If they keep it closed, I defriend them. :ohwell: I feel bad doing it, but I can't really be your "friend" if you are keeping that significant of a secret from me.
If they are not my friend I don't even look anyway...unless they are posting for help in a message board or something.
Honestly people shouldn't need YOU to keep them accountable for their food choices. They need to keep themselves accountable because they won't always have someone saying "you ate too many calories today, bad you!" Or "you need to eat more calories, bad you!" "you had pizza, nooO! mortal sin!" Or whatever needs to be said to "keep them accountable". I can definitely understand not wanting to encourage eating disorders, but other than that...no big deal.0 -
This may have been the most condescending, ridiculous thing I've read today. Because I feel what I eat is none of your business, and I don't care that you're nosy and feel some sort of entitlement to know what everyone else is doing, I'm not serious about my health? Wow, well, then I guess I'm damn sure glad I'm NOT your friend.Closed diaries get to me also. I figure if I can hang it all out there to MFP then pals can see what I eat. If they object, they may not know how to adjust the settings. One can use a code number to unlock. Not sure how this works. On the other hand, nutritious eating is an IMPORTANT part of weight loss and some may be embarrased at their food choices. To those I say, you are not serious about your health. If you want to be friends with me, you gotta show your food diary.
Agreed.
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Closed diaries get to me also. I figure if I can hang it all out there to MFP then pals can see what I eat. If they object, they may not know how to adjust the settings. One can use a code number to unlock. Not sure how this works. On the other hand, nutritious eating is an IMPORTANT part of weight loss and some may be embarrased at their food choices. To those I say, you are not serious about your health. If you want to be friends with me, you gotta show your food diary.
With friends like you, who need enemas?
I'm here every Wednesday, folks.0 -
im pretty new here and not sure if my diary is open or closed! its how ever it comes standard!!
i have nothing to hide, i dont mind who sees that i had a rather yummy apple doughnut today haha i burnt it back off
but either way, how serious i do/do not take my eating is my choice, and they are choices please or offend!!!
life is too short to worry about hiding what i eat, if i lived without carbs and cheese i would be nice and skinny.....im not....its pretty obvious i like the odd treat everything in moderation 
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Closed diaries get to me also. I figure if I can hang it all out there to MFP then pals can see what I eat. If they object, they may not know how to adjust the settings. One can use a code number to unlock. Not sure how this works. On the other hand, nutritious eating is an IMPORTANT part of weight loss and some may be embarrased at their food choices. To those I say, you are not serious about your health. If you want to be friends with me, you gotta show your food diary.
It's a good job nobody cares what you think then, huh?0 -
i had my diary closed for a few months b/c i didn't know there were privacy settings. someone asked me why I kept it closed and i said i don't. It was an honest oversight. That was my reason. I don't really care who sees. I've noticed it (can be) a touchy subject, so I don't comment on or about other people's logs. that's just me.0
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for me I keep it closed because I don't want to hear what people think about what I eat. Some of my friends comment to each other about their diarys and it's sometimes negative. I think that is counter productive...kinda like calling someone fat0
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Food, privacy and weight loss...very touchy subjects. OMG I love freedom of speech.0
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I record my calories for me, not for anyone else. I don't need anyone else to see my diary. I am here for me and not for other people to judge my food choices. There is a support system here that can be had and is good to have without them needing to see what I ate today.If they are my friend, I tell them I don't like it because I can't keep them accountable for being healthy if I can't see what they are eating or how far under they ate (alot of people with ED's on here and I DON'T want to encourage that). And I'm not going to go around calling people out on what they ate, unless we are close MFPers. But if someone ate all fresh vegetables, lean meats, healthy stuff all day and are under, I am going to compliment their diary. If they ate all Mcdonalds and cheesecake, even if they stayed under goal I'm not going to compliment them. I think there is more to MFP than just staying UNDER your goal, although it is an important part.
If they ask me how to open it I tell them. .
If they keep it closed, I defriend them. :ohwell: I feel bad doing it, but I can't really be your "friend" if you are keeping that significant of a secret from me.
If they are not my friend I don't even look anyway...unless they are posting for help in a message board or something.
Honestly people shouldn't need YOU to keep them accountable for their food choices. They need to keep themselves accountable because they won't always have someone saying "you ate too many calories today, bad you!" Or "you need to eat more calories, bad you!" "you had pizza, nooO! mortal sin!" Or whatever needs to be said to "keep them accountable". I can definitely understand not wanting to encourage eating disorders, but other than that...no big deal.
^^^^ this!!
If someone finds it helpful to keep their diary public so people can give them advice or praise on a good day or whatever, then they can keep it public. If they don't want that, and just want to use the site to track what they eat, why should they open it? It's not really anyone else's business how other people use the site. And if someone has a closed diary and you don't want to say "well done" because you don't know what they actually ate, then don't say well done. If they wanted you to say well done or comment on what they ate, they'd open their diary.
I don't understand why this is such a big issue that threads are constantly appearing on the subject. How other people choose to use this site is their own business, surely?
And just because someone's diary is closed does not mean they feel embarrassed or ashamed about their food choices. Some people don't want or need other people's comments and/or praise to stick to a healthy diet.0
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