Women dating younger men

Kerri_is_so_very

You should do whatever feels right for you. Age is not what should be important, what is in your heart is. I say go for it! We only get 1 ride on this thing called life so enjoy it to the fullest. Best of luck to you. Be Happy

Could not have said it better myself!!!! :drinker:

Kerri_is_so_very

I can only think of one thing I'd want to do with someone in his 20s, and it's not have a long conversation.

:drinker: :drinker:

k2charmed4u

My situation is reversed I'm 24 years old and my husband is 57 years old. Marrying him was the best decision I ever made. We have so much in common have so much fun together and age is not an issue in the slightest. We don't even think about it.

Before I met my husband I dated older men in general because their maturity appealed to me. Once dated someone a year younger and he put me off dating younger men completely lol. But luckily if that hadn't gone tits up (pardon the language lol) I would never have met my husband :happy: he's the best thing ever

Tristis

I usually date younger men, only because I look significantly younger than I am. Men my age or older rarely hit on me...if ever. I try not to date the ones a decade younger than me, so, it's usually in the 7-5 years younger range. I would love to date men my own age, but I think I would get funny looks from people thinking he was dating a much younger woman. Hah.

catpow2

OP.
Milf and couger are positive terms these days. Or so I thought.

:laugh: Thank God! I was getting a little worried there for a moment.

There are a few reasons why your 40yo ex-husband is dating/marrying a 23yo and we all know what they are. It's called a midlife crisis. Grow up, dude.

janalayn

In 9 days I will be marrying a man who is 7 years younger. While I have also dated an older guy in the past - I have to say I definitely prefer younger. He has much more energy and is more fun than the older guy was. We have tons in common and have been together for 6 1/2 years.

Don't worry so much about the number - my fiance is my best friend. We have wonderful conversations and exciting adventures. Choose a person not an age.

KatieJane83

I agree with the whole 'age is just a number' philosophy, as well as the whole 'similar life stage' philosophy. I really think that life experience and life stage are more important than a number. My bf is 12 years older than me but we've been through similar things. He's divorced with a young son, I have no children but am also divorced. We both faced similar issues with our exes. We have similar personalities and really mesh well together. And in the end, he makes me really happy and vice versa!

pa_jorg

I say go for it if it's fun and makes you happy. Just be realistic that the chances this will be someone you are with for the rest of your life are probably pretty slim though.

Nelski

My husband is almost 10 years younger than me and age is no problem. I think he acts a little more mature for his age(compared to his friends) and I am still a big kid sometimes so we meet in the middle.

HannahsReturnToFitness

In my relationship it is the other way round. Between my partner and I there is 35 years. I am 20 and he is 54 (55 this year). We have been together for five years and have been engaged for 3. We also share a 13 month old daughter together.

The age gap has never been an issue between us and we are very happy together.

MzBug

It all depends on the people involved. I met a younger guy online and chatted with him for months just because he was fun to talk to. I refused to date him because he was 7 years younger than I. The thought made me feel creepy. One weekend I got stood up for a date and gave in to having dinner with the younger man. That was almost 7 years ago, we own a home and have lived together 5.5 years.

AreneeG31

no more than 5 years younger and 5-7 years older for me. just my preference.

But do what makes you happy!

bigdawg025

Little back story first: my ex-husband who is my age, 40, is getting remarried. His fiancee is 23 years old. I admit it bugged me at first, but what he does in his personal life is none of my concern, so I have moved past that. I just want her to be good to my children.

But it got me thinking that when a man dates a much younger woman, it usually isn't considered a big deal as long as she's legal. But when a woman dates a younger man, she's a cougar, milf, or whatever unflattering name she is called.

Ironically, there is a man who is 16 years my junior that I am attracted to, but I haven't acted on those feelings because of the age difference. Am I making a mistake here?

So what is your opinion of women dating younger men or men dating older women? Any experiences or advice you would like to share? :flowerforyou:

I, personally, think it's disgusting, but that's just my opinion. You should do whatever will make you happy.

The only question I would have is this (and one of my main reasons for feeling the way I do)... what happens when this 24 year old boy decides he wants to have BIOLOGICAL children and because you're past your child bearing years you are unable to fulfill that?

mmarshall425

My husband is 6 years younger than I am. He had never been married or had any children. I was divorced with 2 children. The age difference was more of a problem form me than it was for him. I was self - conscience and worried he would get tired of being with an older woman but I finally caved and agreed to date him. It was the best decision I have ever made. We have been together for 3 years and I have never been happier.

I don't think age should matter as long as two people have things in common and care for each other.

Annette_rose

I say go for it also. I wouldn't myself just because I just came out of a divorce, very much still in love with him, and he is going through mid-life crisis. He just turned 48. I guess I would worry (just because of this having happened), that if I dated a much younger guy and fell in love with him, then he might too go through a midlife crisis many years from now when I am older, more wrinkled, etc. I would love to believe in the "love forever" thing, but now know that isn't always the case. But, if you are willing to take the chance and he is attracted to you too....I say follow your heart

creech6317

I agree with what most everyone has already said. Age is just a number.

I was in a relationship for close to 15 years with a man who was 8 years older than me. After that ended it has been younger men for me. Most are 10+ years younger than me. I have never acted my age, everyone thinks I am younger than I really am, so I guess this makes sense.

Also I think it works out better having younger men to play with, seeing as they are better able to keep up with me. Lol

DarthCeltic

Grow up, dude.

you had to know this is coming.. thats why he grew up.. shes 23!

THANK YOU.. ILL BE HERE ALL WEEK!

Pookylou

Little back story first: my ex-husband who is my age, 40, is getting remarried. His fiancee is 23 years old. I admit it bugged me at first, but what he does in his personal life is none of my concern, so I have moved past that. I just want her to be good to my children.

But it got me thinking that when a man dates a much younger woman, it usually isn't considered a big deal as long as she's legal. But when a woman dates a younger man, she's a cougar, milf, or whatever unflattering name she is called.

Ironically, there is a man who is 16 years my junior that I am attracted to, but I haven't acted on those feelings because of the age difference. Am I making a mistake here?

So what is your opinion of women dating younger men or men dating older women? Any experiences or advice you would like to share? :flowerforyou:

I, personally, think it's disgusting, but that's just my opinion. You should do whatever will make you happy.

The only question I would have is this (and one of my main reasons for feeling the way I do)... what happens when this 24 year old boy decides he wants to have BIOLOGICAL children and because you're past your child bearing years you are unable to fulfill that?

Because EVERYONE wants to have children of course..............

Fiery_Vixen

I guess it all comes down to how it makes you feel. Back when I was about 23 I slept with an 18 year old fresh out of high school....it made me feel dirty as hell lol. I realize there was only 5 years difference but at those ages, 5 years is a huge difference. Pros...younger guys are less "experienced" so if you feel like being lazy and don't "give it" 100%, they don't know any better. Cons...again, younger guys are less experienced so you'll have to tell them what to do if you want to get any real satisfaction. At my age now though, I don't think I could do it. My baby bump and stretch marks make me feel really unattractive and if I don't feel hot, how can I look hot to someone so young?

Boomer1946

Little back story first: my ex-husband who is my age, 40, is getting remarried. His fiancee is 23 years old. I admit it bugged me at first, but what he does in his personal life is none of my concern, so I have moved past that. I just want her to be good to my children.

But it got me thinking that when a man dates a much younger woman, it usually isn't considered a big deal as long as she's legal. But when a woman dates a younger man, she's a cougar, milf, or whatever unflattering name she is called.

Ironically, there is a man who is 16 years my junior that I am attracted to, but I haven't acted on those feelings because of the age difference. Am I making a mistake here?

So what is your opinion of women dating younger men or men dating older women? Any experiences or advice you would like to share? :flowerforyou:

Age is a state of mind. If you do this because of a geniune attraction and not to "get even", you have Uncle Tom's blessing my child.

Tom

fuhrmeister

My hasband is 10 years older than me and we work great together. He is 42 and I'll be 32 soon, my stepson is 19. It is kind of a strange family. I may have grandkids at the same time I'm having my own kids but it works for us.

However, my last serious BF before my husband was 3.5 years younger than I was and we had trouble with maturity issues.

I think you should date whoever you like and after you get to know the person decide if the age difference matters.

rml_16

I think this all goes to the fundamental biological urge to procreate that tends to invade our modern lives. A younger woman can have babies with an older man, but an older woman will have a much more difficult time having babies, so biologically-speaking it doesn't make sense for an older woman to be with a younger man.

But outside of that, if both people are over 18 and OK with the relationship, do what makes you happy.

Dannib55

I say go for it. It only becomes creepy if your kids are his age. I was recently hit on by a guy who had a daughter tthat was my age. He was not bad looking, but I could not get that he has a duaghter my age out of my mind.

sammniamii

If you are looking for long term company, you might run into issue, just because of generational things between the two of you, but if you are just dating (IE: enjoying each other's company but maybe not looking too far ahead of the game) than I say go for it. Why not...

I've dated gone as far as 8 years younger and 20+ older. I finally married one 4 years younger, but he has alot of "old time" values so it mostly evens out.

mlc825

OK I really need to weigh in on this because this is the story of my current situation! I'm recently divorced and although I'm going to be 40 soon, it's seems that younger men (30ish) are attracted to me most. At first it was a HUGE compliment, then it truly raised some concerns. Sometimes dating younger men presents it's challenges, but if you take it all in stride and appreciate the fact that younger men are attracted to you right now, I think you should ride the wave, because the times going to come when you won't have that. The greatest love of my mom's life was 15 years her junior and she simply couldn't get over the age difference. He didn't care. He loved her and wanted to marry her and I was all for it, but it never happened and to this day (over 20 years later), my mom still regrets it. She reminds me that physical age doesn't matter. Sometimes you'll meet someone who has a very old soul. If you can connect mentally, physically and emotionally, you have nothing to lose! Enjoy your life and don't worry about what anyone thinks or says - it's your life! Live it to the fullest and be HAPPY!

Bentley2718

I'd date one for the ego boost, but seriously, how much would you really have in common with someone who was born when you were in high school?

I once had a relationship with a man who was well out of high school when I was born. We had a lot in common, and a lot of fun together. The relationship never became "serious" because he did not think that someone in their late 20s should "have to" take care of a spouse who was much older (in this case, by 35 years), nor did he think it was fair to set me up to be a widow at a young age, but we remain friends.

While I wouldn't go so far as to say "age is just a number," as long as your both legal, I don't see the harm in giving it a try. I'll throw in that my husband is 5 years younger than I, and was a "mere" 22 when we met.

kimad

I think it depends what you are looking for in a relationship.
When I was 22, I met a 41 year old, at first it seemed to work well, but it really didn't We didn't want the same things whatsoever -- except it was easy for him to tell a naive 22 year old he did.

So I say who cares about age if your desires match.

ETA: LOL so this time I found someone more my age and that still didn't work, so maybe I need to go younger this time :P

mmarshall425

I, personally, think it's disgusting, but that's just my opinion. You should do whatever will make you happy.

The only question I would have is this (and one of my main reasons for feeling the way I do)... what happens when this 24 year old boy decides he wants to have BIOLOGICAL children and because you're past your child bearing years you are unable to fulfill that?
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WOW - disgusting? That is a pretty strong opinion.

I agree that having children is an issue that should be discussed early in the relationship. Although, I was only 29 when I met my husband, I was unable to have anymore children without having a surgery. This fact really concerend me and I offered to have the surgery so I could conceive but my husband assured me that he didn't want any children of his own and it never become an issue. He is happy in hisr ole of step-dad to my kids.

bigdawg025

Little back story first: my ex-husband who is my age, 40, is getting remarried. His fiancee is 23 years old. I admit it bugged me at first, but what he does in his personal life is none of my concern, so I have moved past that. I just want her to be good to my children.

But it got me thinking that when a man dates a much younger woman, it usually isn't considered a big deal as long as she's legal. But when a woman dates a younger man, she's a cougar, milf, or whatever unflattering name she is called.

Ironically, there is a man who is 16 years my junior that I am attracted to, but I haven't acted on those feelings because of the age difference. Am I making a mistake here?

So what is your opinion of women dating younger men or men dating older women? Any experiences or advice you would like to share? :flowerforyou:

I, personally, think it's disgusting, but that's just my opinion. You should do whatever will make you happy.

The only question I would have is this (and one of my main reasons for feeling the way I do)... what happens when this 24 year old boy decides he wants to have BIOLOGICAL children and because you're past your child bearing years you are unable to fulfill that?

Because EVERYONE wants to have children of course..............

I didn't say everyone does... it was a "what if" kind of thing. I understand not EVERYONE needs or wants to have children. I get that. But if you're 24 and she's 40 he doesn't even get a fighting chance (at least not without serious risks)

kappyblu

Grow up, dude.

you had to know this is coming.. thats why he grew up.. shes 23!

THANK YOU.. ILL BE HERE ALL WEEK!

Thanks for that! :laugh: