do you hold back

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  • annabellj
    annabellj Posts: 1,337 Member
    I bare my soul, I wish I didn't. It gets your heart broken.
    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
  • fatchiick
    fatchiick Posts: 105
    I must simply because I dont have the fine art of wording things compassionately mastered yet lol.. if you act like an idiot or a moron the first thing out of my mouth is you're an idiot, or you're a moron lol or that's not how you do that, or you're wrong and here's Why... LOL... when people say or do stupid stuff I used to always tell them but me biting my tongue is generally better than making someone feel like a piece of sht and having to either apologize and make it better if its a loved one, or have a stranger hate me lol... if its something super fantastical just wow umm no then ill tell them...
  • mommy2AR
    mommy2AR Posts: 2,796 Member
    There are a few situations that require you hold to back ie; dealing with someone that may have a very fragile state of mind...children etc, but most adult to adult situations....let it rip!!


    very well put :)
  • JenMarie8781
    JenMarie8781 Posts: 377 Member
    Honestly, I do hold back a lot in real life. I find myself being much freer online, and with those i have met on here.

    This exactly! I am so open and "out there" with online friends but when it comes to my own family (especially my husband and my mom), I find it hard to put my feelings out there. Even a simple "I love you" or "I'm sorry" seems too difficult to say sometimes. I don't know why but I've just always been like this!
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
    Apparently i need to start holding back a bit more than i do. I tend to be a bit shy, but the point is always well-made. People know where they stand with me.

    snw - i LOVE you and your bluntness, even if ya get pissed at me and delete me for, like, an hour. :wink:
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    What, you mean like that filter between mouth and brain thing? Hell no, I'm ADHD, I don't have one of those! Which is why I don't talk to people often and I don't like being around people much. So many fakers out there who never say what they mean.

    Pffff to them. I'd rather be totally myself around a few who can handle it than fake it all day among legions.
  • blonde71
    blonde71 Posts: 955 Member
    When I was younger, I'd hold back for fear of repercussion.

    Nowadays, if I'm talking to an adult who's a friend and feel the need to be honest - I am. Obviously, in a tactful, polite way but I'm not into bullsh*tting someone. I tell it like it is. Most of the people in my RL appreciate my candor and honesty so it's never been a problem.
  • ShareeMorty
    ShareeMorty Posts: 324 Member
    I am pretty much an open book but I do keep my feelings quite under wraps.
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    When I was younger, I'd hold back for fear of repercussion.

    Nowadays, if I'm talking to an adult who's a friend and feel the need to be honest - I am. Obviously, in a tactful, polite way but I'm not into bullsh*tting someone. I tell it like it is. Most of the people in my RL appreciate my candor and honesty so it's never been a problem.

    See, I can appreciate this. A mixture of self control and tact combined with honesty.
  • beach_please
    beach_please Posts: 533 Member
    I tend to hold back. I would rather not say anything, than to say something and then wish I could take it back.
  • DieVixen
    DieVixen Posts: 790 Member
    I dont hold back often,I lack filters as soon as its in my head its out of my mouth. This can sometimes be good,and sometimes bad
  • elenathegreat
    elenathegreat Posts: 3,988 Member
    Totally depends on the person, place and time. I don't go around spilling everything out of my head to all people at all times...that's just asking for mockery, shocked silence or maybe even a punch in the snoot.
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    Yes
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    I only have a handful of people I will not filter around. My best friend and I can be just brutal sometimes. But he's always spot on... Stuff I needed to hear. It ticks me off for a few minutes or days and then I'm over it.
    I'm much more of a listener/counselor for everyone else. So I tend to peace keep and be empathetic. I will voiced opinions if asked or appropriate but never in a judgmental way

    I wish I wasn't so passive actually.
  • Jesiena
    Jesiena Posts: 48 Member
    I hold back a lot. It can take a while to really get to know me, due to the fact I'm painfully shy. I wish I wasn't though.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    I hold back really hard. But, then I write songs about what I should have said, should have done, and my observations of the situation. Had I made it, it all would have paid off. As it stands, I'm the weird quiet guy that drinks too much.
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