asking the men

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  • sportsforfun
    sportsforfun Posts: 353
    I prefer my women strong with not a ton of bf. 6-packs can be hot on a woman.
  • steve1686
    steve1686 Posts: 346 Member
    i think it's hot, as long as she doesn't have better abs than me :P
  • downsizinghoss
    downsizinghoss Posts: 1,035 Member
    LOL It isn't like I am listing the options for a car I want to buy.

    They have to have a vagina and not be repulsed by me. Just about everything else can be variable. :)
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    i think it's hot, as long as she doesn't have better abs than me :P

    Sheesh. Would it even be possible? :happy:
  • jlove720
    jlove720 Posts: 20 Member
    Not a guy, still I feel inclined to answer. I usually go for women who are on the bigger side of things, as long as they're not sloppy about it. I don't find skinny women attractive at all. If I wanted a bag of bones, I would eat some KFC chicken and love the remains. Growing up around big women might have something to do with that. I like what I'm trying to get to. A fit, toned (or somewhat toned) woman. I think you can be fit and still have something to hold on to.
  • BigDaddyRonnie
    BigDaddyRonnie Posts: 506 Member
    The hourglass...

    If the hourglass has abs, then I am in...but if no shape, but with abs then something is missing for me.
  • Roni_M
    Roni_M Posts: 717 Member
    I'm not a guy but know my hubby's opinion. He likes curvy, and by curvy I don't mean big, I mean what you would typically see in a men's calendar or with Victoria Secret models (not the stick figure runway fashion models). That being said, he loves me, loved me when I was bigger or smaller. If I get ripped he would still love me but won't likely think "sexy" when he sees me. We've been together for 23 years, his opinion is important to me and I also don't personally find too much muscle on women to be attractive, so don't plan on getting to that point.

    So to the ones thinking some guys don't think this way... I know several that do and it's not about being "intimidated" (my hubby is 6'4" and very muscular so there's not too much that intimidates him), it is just honestly what they find attractive. But I also have to agree with the guy that said diversity is sexy, I know of another guy who prefers small boobs. Just an opinion though. =)
  • DangerSass
    DangerSass Posts: 124 Member
    I like confidence and strength and I do this for me. I could really care less what others find attractive. My body, my goals and I plan on being a BAMF.
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    I always like women who work on their bodies to make themselves happy as opposed to doing it for someone else. THAT'S hot.
    women should do what makes *them* happy, reach *their* goals, and not give a flip about what makes men happy. that's true confidence. and that's damn sexy.

    I seriously love that both of you are on my FL. :heart:
  • thebaconbeast
    thebaconbeast Posts: 560 Member
    I'd lick those lady abs...
  • All these guys that say they like a little extra on their women, I'm willing to bet their browser history tells a different story.
    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,412 Member
    Abs, no abs... either suits me just as well. Now if I'm counting ribs... we have an issue.
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    I think most of us agree that defining our goals with your own happiness in mind and deciding what is right for us as individuals based on our own standards, rather than society, the opposite sex, whatever, is a positive thing.

    Having said that, what exactly is wrong with asking what women or men want or are looking for? There will always be statistical outliers but that doesn't mean to say that identifying general trends isn't of some worth or interesting.

    If you are doing it for you then bravo!

    If you are making your way to that mindset then bravo!

    If you are interested in what other people think then bravo!
  • angryguy77
    angryguy77 Posts: 836 Member
    Wow so just so we can fit what guys prefer we are supposed to lower our goals so "cuddling" isn't uncomfortable. If you want soft and squishy get a softer bed.

    Bra burning social: that way
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  • spirit80
    spirit80 Posts: 327 Member
    Reading the responses on this has made my day! Fit yet soft that has always been my goal. Woo woo

    Fit but soft for sure.
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    If the woman is into me and I into her, doesn't matter what her abs look like.
  • Bonita_Lynne_58
    Bonita_Lynne_58 Posts: 2,794 Member
    Depends on the woman.

    Some women look amazing with the abs showing....others do not....

    And then there are some women who can look sexy as hell with something to hold.


    Every woman has her way of looking amazing..

    Why should anyone ONLY like this or that...

    Diversity for me please!

    This is a great answer.

    Sorry, not a guy. Just wanted to see the consensus.

    Not a guy either...but love his answer!
  • LOL It isn't like I am listing the options for a car I want to buy.

    They have to have a vagina and not be repulsed by me. Just about everything else can be variable. :)


    Brilliant post :laugh:
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,021 Member
    Ok, just out of curiosity.

    My bf HATES abs/too much bone on girls...is he an alien?? haha I just don't get it! I think female six pack look phenomenal!

    What do you guys think?
    Dump him now.

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  • cobracars
    cobracars Posts: 949 Member
    haha seems like my bf isn't an alien after all.

    i showed my bf a picture of Jillian Michael and he says she has the grossest body ever.. I literally worship her!

    She has the grossest everything ever.
    Tarzan body with all the personality of a drill sergeant, yeah, real sexy if I was into dudes.

    Now if you're talking Valerie Bertinelli, she is curvy and smokin' hot with just a bit of abs. And a great feminine personality to go with it. So I guess I'm saying the body is not nearly as important as what is wrapped up inside.
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    Ok, just out of curiosity.

    My bf HATES abs/too much bone on girls...is he an alien?? haha I just don't get it! I think female six pack look phenomenal!

    What do you guys think?

    Everybody is different on this. My preference as far as appearance is a "fit" appearance (which I do not yet represent myself so I could not use that as a barrier for anybody else... that being said, this is a physical PREFERENCE... that is all) No, I don't like hard sculpted abs on anybody really HOWEVER, I would like to see abs Again, some men like CHUNKY... others like 5% body fat... Personally, I am somewhere in between. As long as it is a healthy look, it would fit my preferences... It is the personality within that matters most anyway...
  • janemem
    janemem Posts: 575 Member
    LOL It isn't like I am listing the options for a car I want to buy.

    They have to have a vagina and not be repulsed by me. Just about everything else can be variable. :)

    PMSL! :laugh: :bigsmile:
  • Iamkim73
    Iamkim73 Posts: 924 Member
    As I get more and more in shape, I ironically find myself attracted to women who are slightly overweight. But just slightly. Let's call them full figured. With a nice smile, very friendly, etc.

    In Czech they have a wonderful expression for this type of woman: "krev a mleko" (literally translated: "blood and milk").... :-)

    --Prahasaurus

    How you doin'.... :wink:
  • DieVixen
    DieVixen Posts: 790 Member
    Wow so just so we can fit what guys prefer we are supposed to lower our goals so "cuddling" isn't uncomfortable. If you want soft and squishy get a softer bed.

    No body said you had to fit into what they prefer,people are allowed to have an opinion on what they like.
  • bull_dog44
    bull_dog44 Posts: 16
    Ok, just out of curiosity.

    My bf HATES abs/too much bone on girls...is he an alien?? haha I just don't get it! I think female six pack look phenomenal!

    What do you guys think?

    It's disgusting.
  • YaBoiMUGS
    YaBoiMUGS Posts: 237
    haha seems like my bf isn't an alien after all.

    i showed my bf a picture of Jillian Michael and he says she has the grossest body ever.. I literally worship her!

    I'd have sex with that dude :laugh:
  • gogojodee
    gogojodee Posts: 1,243 Member
    All these guys that say they like a little extra on their women, I'm willing to bet their browser history tells a different story.


    HAHAHA
  • korsicash
    korsicash Posts: 770 Member
    I am a chick and I guess I am excited to get unattractive! I want abs I want at least a hint of a V I want to be toned, lean and mean!
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Anytime I show my fiance a pic of a woman that has more abs than me( I really don't have any lol) he says it turns him off..

    To each their own, that's not going to stop me from getting where I want to be.
  • Il_DaniD_lI
    Il_DaniD_lI Posts: 1,593 Member
    Not a guy but gonna answer anyways. Yes he could be an alien...

    Does he wear sunglasses inside? Is his skin cold and clammy? Does he have strange bodily proportions?