A stranger's harsh words

fatcheeksme

I'm so sorry that happened to you! It's unfortunate how people behave so carelessly towards other peoples feelings. I've had things said to me before in the past and I know it hurts but aartar as I'm concerned he's irrelevant and can kiss your bum and You can continue to exercise and be healthy while he works toward alcohol poisoning

Enigmatica

What a microdikkk. I'd assume he's extremely insecure and tries to elevate his own ego by stomping on others. Karma will catch up to him.

Years ago a nasty neighbor called me a FAT *kitten* when we got into an argument on the street due to him letting his dog loose and it attacking my dog and others. I snapped back that my FAT *kitten* could lose weight but his DUMB *kitten* could never gain smarts.

Now he doesn't recognize me because I've lost so much weight, and his brain is shot from doing so many drugs.

Glad I'm me!

jlreser

I'd look at it like this....tough love time.

While strangers can be complete ****s at times, they sometimes say what people around you will not have the guts to say. While he hurt your feelings at the time (which I'm sure hurt very much), what was the end result? He made you want to get up and exercise you're butt off the very next morning which is AWESOME! I'm not saying he was justified in what he said, but him saying that made you take a check and really work the next day.

You took a set-back and turned it into a positive! THAT IS AWESOME! Next time, don't cry over an *kitten*'s remarks, save that sobbing energy and turn it into a success for you! GOOD JOB!!! (we're experiencing record temps here in GA and I ain't going outside for ANYTHING!

WaxMama

Wow, I'm really jealous of this guys girlfriend- what a catch she has found!!!!

You hit it right on the mark, he's an *kitten* and probably always will be! People can be so incredibly cruel. Brush it off and move on, sweetie!

Neecy_Pooh

There is one difference between you two. You can lose that extra weight; as for him, people usually cannot change the fact of being an *kitten*. Physiques change, personalities don't. So when you are skinny and hot, he will still be an *kitten*!! Hehehe

shutterbug282

That's awful!
You can lose that weight, but he'll always be a *kitten*.

MandiS80

There will always be someone out there that will be rude about anything. They don't realize the damage they cause and it is very hurtful. But you are on the right path, you are making changes for the better and he will still be an *kitten*.
I was called fat yesterday... it hurt a little... but I laughed it off because it came from a skin and bone crack addict.

Pinky1147

People are such a-holes!! They never realize what impact words have on people.

Next time look at him and seriously say "Wow! Fat? That's all you got? Aren't you original?" Then something witty like what other folks are saying on here. lol

Laylasmom77

People that put other people down have issues of their own. He's probably an alcoholic and trying to cope with something his life. Not making excuses for him but it's true. You're better than me because I probably would have threw a drink on him!

Weight_less

I'm normally quite a strong person and don't really let anyone who says anything affect me, but on Friday, that all changed..!

I was out with friends for a long brunch (my "cheat" meal for the month) and some random (albeit drunk) man was walking around with his girlfriend and said to her 'let's get away from here because that woman is fat".. in ear shot!!! I asked him what he said and he repeated it, looking directly at me, "what, you are really fat"... my only response was that I couldn't help it if he was an "a'hole"... but the damage was done, I was devastated, still am. I held myself together, until I got in a taxi and then bawled my eyes out for an hour until I fell asleep... how does he not know what affect this could have on someone, what if they weren't as strong as I am??

How can anyone be that cruel..! It is clearly up to you what you think, but why would you say something so offensive to someone your walking past, whether you know them or not..!

I used to be "less cuddly" but through a year of ups and downs and stress and tragedy, I've gained around 60 pounds... I started work on finding myself again at the beginning of June and shed 9 of them so far. My journey's only just beginning but people like that don't help... although I woke up the next morning and went for a 5km walk in searing heat - so I guess, sucks to be him (probably cuddling a toilet bowl somewhere) because what he did, made me get up the next morning to ensure I got my exercise in..! I'm a "shrinking healthily" 226 pound woman with feelings, damn it!

Tell me about it... One year ago I was shopping in a grocery shop. Old ugly lady (looking like a witch or horror villain) came to me and she was acting sooooo rude as I can hardly explain. She was staring at me with anger and hate, she was looking at my tummy, chest, legs, face...She was stalking after me and whispering something like a spell. I was so upset!!! I cried!!! I couldn't forget about it and still can not. My boyfriend asked me why I was so upset and I was ashamed to tell him truth.
I can't understand why people are so cruel. What the heck is wrong with them?

pinkly14fun2

There is a person in my little town who loves to single me out and remind me how fat I am. This used to really bother me until I took a good hard look at him. He is the ugliest person inside and out. You are a wonderful person, no matter what your weight is! I truly believe that beauty comes from within and someone who would say that to you is missing out on a beautiful soul!

JessicaMarie9382

That is horrible! I'm sorry that happened to you! He was really an *kitten*. I can't believe people like that exisit! God forbid that happen again, BUT if does....your next response should be, "I can lose weight, however, your stuck with that ugly personality!" Ugh, I am so angry about this. I wish I could give you a hug!

jerber160

There is a person in my little town who loves to single me out and remind me how fat I am. This used to really bother me until I took a good hard look at him. He is the ugliest person inside and out. You are a wonderful person, no matter what your weight is! I truly believe that beauty comes from within and someone who would say that to you is missing out on a beautiful soul!

you know a kid that used to tease me in junior high.. made my life miserable....eventually committed suicide leaving a wife and a couple of kids. he was never a happy person.....

hazelovesfood

I think we have all had times like that, when i was about 18 I remember going up some stairs to a club and a *****y woman came past me and said .now thats what I call big thigh, for gods sake, cheaky cow, I was only about 140llbs at that time and very slim. The trouble is with people is that, if your not stick thin your fat, if your not a size 6 then your fat, This world wants to wake up and stop being so ****ty. I would have said worse to him thats for sure.Too many people thing our bodies are perfect and like models, well wake up normal people are not like that, that idiot would be the same dope who would slate a person in a wheelchair too. Forget it, they are not worth your tears.I even think myself if the world wasnt so brain washed with there idea of stick thin people i would be alot happier myself.

tas3980

Thank you everyone for your kind words and wisdom! It is great to feel the support network on here..!

Hindsight is a powerful tool. I don't wish him any harm because that is not who I am, I just wish he finds peace with whatever is eating him up inside.

Support is a big thing in our journey's, it's especially important for me as I am an Australian living overseas away from my family and friends.

Peace be with you all on your journey's!

marie_cressman

Fat people are fair targets in a cruel world.
And don't ever delude yourself; the world is cruel. Look no further than how kids can treat one another. And when it comes to mean comments about a person's looks, those too nice to say it are usually thinking it.
It could be weight, hair, age - whatever. People like the one making comments abound.
And this guy has to live with the miserable person that he is. That's his punishment.
Don't be angry at him but pity him.
Anybody so toxic and eaten up with the dismals is one to feel sorry for. Remember, when people act out, it's really nothing more than a cry for help.
Just let it go and keep working toward your goals.
All Is Possible :flowerforyou:

^^ this

keep working toward your goals. unfortunately, there are people out there who will try to bring you down. don't let them make you feel any less than what you are. you are strong. keep moving forward.

alexveksler

You know what? World is full is *kitten*-wipes. His nasty words only made you stronger You on a right track and PLEASE stay focused. Peeps here will help and support you with everything you need. So, I am supporting you too. (and skip those cheat meals. they are useless )

Themuseinme

so sorry you had to experience that!!!
what a creep. he must really be an unhappy person.
:flowerforyou:

burtonhl

Well, ultimately you win. You can always lose the weight, and clearly, you already are - but he will always be an obnoxious *kitten*. Keep moving forward girl. Don't waste another moment of yourself on this idiot.

bbrat333

He hit on your insecurities. It's ok to cry over it, but only this time. Next time smile, look the douche right in the eyes and say "Sure, I'm heavy. At least I feel secure enough about myself not to be a d!ck to others. I hope you have a good day!" with all the joy you can muster. Then go to the gym and beat the crap out of the punching bag, go swimming, or take it out on your boyfriend (in bed). Use his hateful, disgusting words as motivation. You are better than those words. I mean, he was drunk right? Five years from now he wil still be living in his mom's basement and playing beer pong with the recently turned 21 frat boys and you will be....enjoying your goal weight, married to your Prince Charming, backpacking in Europe, or kicking *kitten* as ruler of the universe?! It's easy to say "who cares what others say about you?!" but what you must overcome is what you think of yourself. Don't let anyone in your head. You can be ruler of the universe, if you believe it.

Yeah, I totally agree with this.

Booksandbeaches

Sweetie, sweetie, sweetie. Don't let that drunken insensitive pig upset you but you SHOULD HAVE lit into the dog-*kitten* b*tch with him. WOMEN create these monsters you know.

I have a male friend who is phobic about fat women. It's from some childhood event that he NEVER addressed or sought treatment for. Same with your exp.
That man's public display says more about HIM than it does about you. What is says to me is HE has issues - he's fkd up in his head and not only is he not treating- HE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW IT! HOW screwed up do you have to be to not even know you're screwed up!? DON'T let some mental aberrant get inside YOUR head. YOU'RE not unstable, HE IS.
My advice would be to try to tough up a little tho I know some ppl are too sensitive to be able to. You have to work on your snappy comebacks.
I'd have said 'yes. I'm fat and YOU'RE STUPID. I'm working on MY ISSUES- WHAT'S YOUR EXCUSE!?'
another one I like to use is: 'does this mean the wedding is off?'
Just letting a bully know they DON'T matter or upset you- HITTING THEM BACK WHERE THEY LIVE - is empowering.
find HIS weak spot (he's MUCH weaker than YOU are or he wouldn't have attacked you)
of course, that's NOT what a psychologist would recommed but then psycologists don't live in the real world anyway so who cares what they say?

I like this. With bullies, you can't show that their words affected you. And they are very weak on the inside. My technique is also to get them at their soft spot.

Laultimacocacola

horrible!!! ugh what a jerk, don't let him stop your journey. People like that should not be allowed out in public...

trapperanne

unfortunately alcoholism is exceptable and obesity is not. I'm sure we all feel your pain in some way or another. This man tried to put you down to make himself look good. Unfortunately he made an *kitten* out of himself. He has a higher power to answer to and he will have to answer for that remark someday. (This is my belief). He will pay. Nothing goes around that doesn't come back around,
Know that we love you exactly the way you are, and for who you are, and continue on for yourself to be the best you can be for you and nobody else. You are enough. Hugs!

MalissaDC

I'm sorry. Even though you know it was a drunk stranger, the words hurt and it's hard to shake but you keep doing what you're doing and know that you're changing.

One time before I started losing weight, my husband and I went out for lunch. We were sitting in a booth and someone on the other side kept hitting their side of the booth. I was like, "Hmm that's weird" but whatever.
When they got up to leave, he walked over to our table and said, "Oh that's the problem you're fat."

;0 He was implying that I was taking up his space on his side of the booth because I was fat. Seriously? That was so mean and of course I teared up.

The woman he was with said something to him and my husband about decked him and I felt like garbage for a few days. People should realize those comments do not motivate one to lose weight.

Sorry that happened to you

vibrantval

wow Im sorry to hear that hun! What a f**** jerk!
Its terrible that people are so cruel nowadays.
WTG for getting up and getting youre exercise on!
You can always change youre appearance to your liking, but that guy will always be an ignorant a**

danimal5867

Always remember that it will be easier for you to lose the weight than it will be for him to change his personality. Just keep working on it no matter what the world around you has to say.

iLoveMyPitbull1225

I'm sorry this happened to you! People will always be cruel and try to knock you down. You just need to stick with your positivity and get strong.

sharont81

Mean people are IDJITS!!

katejkelley

As the old joke goes, you can eat right, exercise and lose weight, but he'll still be an a**hole! I understand how he hurt your feelings. I'd probably have reacted the same as you. But know he's one jerk, and you have a lot of friends here who are understanding, supportive, and encouraging! We love you for you, not for your size!

katejkelley

I'm sorry. Even though you know it was a drunk stranger, the words hurt and it's hard to shake but you keep doing what you're doing and know that you're changing.

One time before I started losing weight, my husband and I went out for lunch. We were sitting in a booth and someone on the other side kept hitting their side of the booth. I was like, "Hmm that's weird" but whatever.
When they got up to leave, he walked over to our table and said, "Oh that's the problem you're fat."

;0 He was implying that I was taking up his space on his side of the booth because I was fat. Seriously? That was so mean and of course I teared up.

The woman he was with said something to him and my husband about decked him and I felt like garbage for a few days. People should realize those comments do not motivate one to lose weight.

Sorry that happened to you

Good for your husband!