(some of the) American guys...

Natashaa1991

this is not exactly fitness related but whatever, i am gonna post it anyways because there's so many of you here from US.
ok i am not saying all of the guys from us are like this, but most of those i met are really cheap!

so i like this guy and we went out for dinner and then the next time we went for drinks (to an expensive place, but i didn't ask for him to pay, i was buying drinks for him as well).
i don't exactly expect from the guy to pay for me, i am not like that, but this guy kept complaining about every dollar he spent, and seemed very frustrated that as a girl, i don't have to spend that much.. like, you don't pay for the entrance to a club because you are a girl and looked at me as if i was supposed to apologize for that.
we went to a cheaper place next time and the guy kept complaining! not only him, a lot of americans that i met are like this, and most of them are well-off...
so the guy texted me and said that he doesn't wanna see me tonight because he doesn't wanna spend money (i'm sure it's that, he showed me that he liked me).

as i said i am always paying for myself (except for the first time but he insisted) but wth? Did anyone have similar problem?? and what did you do, i don't even know what i'm supposed to say..

and PLEASE don't get offended, this is by no means meant to offend anyone.

ScatteredThoughts

*prepares for the ensuing sh*tstorm*

BrettPGH

You met a cheap guy. Not all guys are like that. Not all Americans are like that.

callmeBAM

It's called women's equality. :sad:

I think it's also different by region of the US, and whether urban or rural.

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

that's too bad.. fortunately I haven't met anyone yet who is like that but if I do, I would instantly walk out.

superpapa16

You met a cheap guy. Not all guys are like that. Not all Americans are like that.

^ This.

Bobby_Clerici

DUMP HIM!!!
:noway:
What a miser - OUCH!
Here's the rule of a true gentleman. If I invite you, I pay. FOR EVERYTHING!
And we have a fabulous evening. And if I am not a man of great means, I plan things I can afford.
Seriously, dump this guy NOW!
Good Luck :flowerforyou:

kingkong247

:laugh:

MustBeTheRows

I always insist on paying, I still fight my SO for the check and we've been together for 7 months.

LovelyLifter

Just because you had one bad experience why sterotype EVERY American guy as being like this ??

felice03

I do not think this is going to end well...so I will stick around and watch!~

wantstolooseweight

Maybe he is completely and utterly skint and doesnt want to admit to money troubles........... or maybe he is actually an idiot and you can find a much nicer guy :-) Someone to spoil you like a princess!

chelley_79

:laugh: ha! oh ya... storm... lol

kylejh

I'm Canadian, and definitely not cheap. I think it's up to the gentleman to pay on the first date, then it can be figured out from there if you continue seeing each other. If cash flow is an issue, either don't make plans, or plan to go somewhere more reasonably priced. This dude is going to be single for a LONG time if he talks like that in front of his dates!

mikeyboy

I am an American, and I believe a man should pay the first time. After that pay my own way. If I really care for the girl, I would still pay.

Captain_Tightpants

You should try dating a Brit. I won't even pull your chair out for you without charging for it.

WelcomeToWonderland

I always found the opposite to be true, maybe it's different crowed of people

Jules2Be

Discoveri

There are cheap guys all over. You did the right thing by paying your own way. Personally, I would look for someone else to go out with as this guy seems like he is just a complainer.

Cliffslosinit

Did you sleep with him anyway?

SafireBleu

Not all American guys are like that at all. If he is doing something you don't like why go out with him again. Plenty of fish in the sea. Go fishing.

dreamingchild

I haven't dated in a long time but i think the guy is cheap. And he complains too much!

Jersey_Devil

all I know is you are hot. If I were on a date with you I'd just hand you my credit card and tell you to buy anything you want.

coloradocami

"and PLEASE don't get offended" :laugh:

braign

I don't think this is a purely American phenomenon at all, people all over the world can be excessively frugal (don't get me started on some British men lol)

And trust me do NOT get involved. If a guy is cheap/frugal and you are not, it's setting up the stage for arguments about everything from food, leisure time, to how you live your entire life. Not worth it.

It's one thing if you both feel the need to tighten your belts, so to speak, in order to save towards a common goal, but it's entirely another to be with a guy who moans about every single penny spent. It's a difference in attitudes that'll never reach a common ground or compromise.

jackpotclown

this should end well \m/

EmCarroll1990

Meh, not all guys are like this. When I was dating, the guy paid first. But seeing as I don't make a *kitten* ton of money, I'd suggest a place that wasn't too expensive, so when I offered to pay (if my offer was accepted) I could actually pay for it.

Don't just assume all American men are like that, cheap guys are everywhere as are true gentlemen.

CountryBoy65

I do not think this is going to end well...so I will stick around and watch!~

Jodi, I really appreciate you you always pay for the female entertainment and confectioners sugar.

Since I can't call it what it really is anymore....

You are awesome.

Now, gimme my change.

MalibuBeth

Since he's essentially only paying for himself because, as you said you pay for yourself, maybe he's not as well off as you think. I have met MANY american men that always pay for a woman, and don't say a word. Him choosing to stay home when you said he is into you.... maybe he just doesn't have the $$. It can be expensive to go out all the time, and some people like to spend a night relaxing at home, you could have offered to join, bring a movie and bottle of wine or something.

Natashaa1991

i don't mind being spoiled i am not a feminist or stand for woman's rights or whatever, i do let the guy pay on a date but i don't do it for too long, i am always more comfortable when i pay for myself.
and this is not just one guy, there is a certain stereotype about american guys (again, this is not meant to offend anyone, i am a serbian and most of you will immediately think, terrorist)
i don't know what to say because a guy made me feel like i demanded from him to spend too much.

gsager

this is not exactly fitness related but whatever, i am gonna post it anyways because there's so many of you here from US.
ok i am not saying all of the guys from us are like this, but most of those i met are really cheap!

so i like this guy and we went out for dinner and then the next time we went for drinks (to an expensive place, but i didn't ask for him to pay, i was buying drinks for him as well).
i don't exactly expect from the guy to pay for me, i am not like that, but this guy kept complaining about every dollar he spent, and seemed very frustrated that as a girl, i don't have to spend that much.. like, you don't pay for the entrance to a club because you are a girl and looked at me as if i was supposed to apologize for that.
we went to a cheaper place next time and the guy kept complaining! not only him, a lot of americans that i met are like this, and most of them are well-off...
so the guy texted me and said that he doesn't wanna see me tonight because he doesn't wanna spend money (i'm sure it's that, he showed me that he liked me).

as i said i am always paying for myself (except for the first time but he insisted) but wth? Did anyone have similar problem?? and what did you do, i don't even know what i'm supposed to say..

and PLEASE don't get offended, this is by no means meant to offend anyone.

I think you're just meeting the wrong guys. Those that you're talking about are whiners.