The Taboo Topic

doug4018

It's a pity that topics involving weight loss and sex seem to get removed here. I think that it's a very valid topic, and should be discussed particularly by people that have had major changes once they've lost weight. I understand there are plenty of pervs around that ruin it (slowly raises their hand) but I also think it's extremely important to talk about positives in every aspect of the human condition, including sexuality.

Anyway, that's all I'll comment on, because I don't want to go more graphic in talking about what's on my mind.

Are there any other websites that go into this topic in a non-creepy way?

bhankiii

I'll just note that there's a giant banana in the ad next to this.

doug4018

I swear your counter increases every half hour.

gsager

I understand that my sexuality is the reason that I want my body to look as good as it can. If I was the only one that was going to see it it wouldn't matter as much. And since I look good, I'm not as timid and can enjoy myself.

doug4018

I understand that my sexuality is the reason that I want my body to look as good as it can. If I was the only one that was going to see it it wouldn't matter as much. And since I look good, I'm not as timid and can enjoy myself.

Thanks fantastic!!

fiberartist219

I will say that as I get healthier, I find myself more inspired and energetic.

gsager

I understand that my sexuality is the reason that I want my body to look as good as it can. If I was the only one that was going to see it it wouldn't matter as much. And since I look good, I'm not as timid and can enjoy myself.

Thanks fantastic!!

You're welcome, I may feel differently if I was smarter or richer but......

mrsnathanandrew

My sexuality is one of the reasons I want to look my best, I feel like my fiance deserves something hot to look at rather than what I am now, plus I'm looking forward to being in touch with my sexual side with the lights on...maybe haha.

heykaraoke

I will say that hitting my goal will give me a lot more confidence and enjoyment in that aspect of my life :P

bm99

People turn into 12 year old boys on sex topics. It's gross and ridiculous.

Try Google if you need answers.

nataliefamily3

My fiancee and I have been sleeping together more because I feel better about myself and dont want to hide under the covers. Awesome side effect of weight loss. If that is the kind of answer you are going for. I do not like getting hit on more by co workers

iloso

Some people just can't handle the "Sex Talk"...But thats one of the main reasons why I am here to lose weight...Not alot of people like to look at the chub over there at the bar but they rather look at the hot one walking the edges of the beach who is apparently shirtless.
Thats my dream - to have eyes on me while Im walkin shirtless!

Mindmovesbody

People turn into 12 year old boys on sex topics. It's gross and ridiculous.

Try Google if you need answers.

Not ALL people do this. Some are capable of having perfectly normal conversations revolving around sex. Your post was ridiculous. If you have nothing to offer why bother typing?

OP- your concerns (whatever they may be exactly) are completely valid. I have felt both more compelled to engage in such activities but have also felt at times (during a plateau) I have a hard time focusing on anything BUT my lifestyle and what I may be doing wrong. I expend so much energy exercising, counting calories and chasing my kids that being intimate is the LAST thing on my mind. I think it can go either way. One person in particular that I dated lost weight while I was dating him. During his journey, it was amazing. Once he lost to goal, he had extra skin that he despised. I never minded it and he knew that but it literally made him crazy and in the end it effected our relationship. He wasn't happy with himself and Ida's not willing to just be himself with me. I find it sad to this ready because I was attracted to him no matter what but he couldn't love himself and be proud of himself the way that I was proud and loved him!

doug4018

People turn into 12 year old boys on sex topics. It's gross and ridiculous.

Try Google if you need answers.

Interesting reply, it's unfortunate so many people feel like you do, it's one of the many problems with our society. Sex or sexuality should never be "gross or ridiculous" it's part of who we are, and if we could embrace it in a more open and constructive way, we'd all be better off.

doug4018

My fiancee and I have been sleeping together more because I feel better about myself and dont want to hide under the covers. Awesome side effect of weight loss. If that is the kind of answer you are going for. I do not like getting hit on more by co workers

Awesome answer! So happy for you both!

bm99

People turn into 12 year old boys on sex topics. It's gross and ridiculous.

Try Google if you need answers.

Not ALL people do this. Some are capable of having perfectly normal conversations revolving around sex. Your post was ridiculous. If you have nothing to offer why bother typing?

That is what I offered. OP asked why there aren't topics on the subject, that is the reason.

PMSing much? You are ridiculous for being offended.

doug4018

I will say that hitting my goal will give me a lot more confidence and enjoyment in that aspect of my life :P

Awesome! Congrats to you!

bm99

People turn into 12 year old boys on sex topics. It's gross and ridiculous.

Try Google if you need answers.

Interesting reply, it's unfortunate so many people feel like you do, it's one of the many problems with our society. Sex or sexuality should never be "gross or ridiculous" it's part of who we are, and if we could embrace it in a more open and constructive way, we'd all be better off.

Not the topic, the immaturity.

doug4018

People turn into 12 year old boys on sex topics. It's gross and ridiculous.

Try Google if you need answers.

Not ALL people do this. Some are capable of having perfectly normal conversations revolving around sex. Your post was ridiculous. If you have nothing to offer why bother typing?

OP- your concerns (whatever they may be exactly) are completely valid. I have felt both more compelled to engage in such activities but have also felt at times (during a plateau) I have a hard time focusing on anything BUT my lifestyle and what I may be doing wrong. I expend so much energy exercising, counting calories and chasing my kids that being intimate is the LAST thing on my mind. I think it can go either way. One person in particular that I dated lost weight while I was dating him. During his journey, it was amazing. Once he lost to goal, he had extra skin that he despised. I never minded it and he knew that but it literally made him crazy and in the end it effected our relationship. He wasn't happy with himself and Ida's not willing to just be himself with me. I find it sad to this ready because I was attracted to him no matter what but he couldn't love himself and be proud of himself the way that I was proud and loved him!

Thank you, I appreciate the honest reply

doug4018

People turn into 12 year old boys on sex topics. It's gross and ridiculous.

Try Google if you need answers.

Not ALL people do this. Some are capable of having perfectly normal conversations revolving around sex. Your post was ridiculous. If you have nothing to offer why bother typing?

That is what I offered. OP asked why there aren't topics on the subject, that is the reason.

PMSing much? You are ridiculous for being offended.

You are the reason people hate forums, you turned a completely honest and open discussion into this uglyness. So very sad for you.

9ofthem

I have about 100lbs to lose total. I, too, wonder how I or my spouse will react to loose skin or other such issues.

I do know that losing weight makes the body feel less tired as a whole and that will definitely help those friendly times be all the more friendly.

doug4018

I have about 100lbs to lose total. I, too, wonder how I or my spouse will react to loose skin or other such issues.

I do know that losing weight makes the body feel less tired as a whole and that will definitely help those friendly times be all the more friendly.

My only loose skin issue is my belly. I'm curious if it will tighten up, I've seen a lot of men that have lost a lot more than I have and theirs has tightened. I'm prepared for surgical fixes for the skin if necessary. Hopefully you and your spouse don't have any issues with the skin. My spouse is very supportive and kind, and does not seem to mind, so i'm very lucky, i'm not sure I would react the same way, but then again I'm pretty shallow hahaha, j/k.

SPNLuver83

I dunno about websites, but I'll give you my personal opinion.

Sex is WAY better when you are fit. You have a lot more stamina, can move easier and things just feel better

phillieschic

I'm -27 pounds since February and MUCH more fit.

I feel sexier
I look sexier.
Quality of my sex has improved.
Quantity of my sex has improved.
Logistically, it's no holds barred as far as positions go.

WIN!!!! :drinker:

marie_cressman

My sexuality is one of the reasons I want to look my best, I feel like my fiance deserves something hot to look at rather than what I am now, plus I'm looking forward to being in touch with my sexual side with the lights on...maybe haha.

^^this

losing the weight has helped me to become far more confident in the bedroom with my husband. lights on, lights off... doesn't matter anymore.

mamamc03

bump for later

Eupho

I'm -27 pounds since February and MUCH more fit.

I feel sexier
I look sexier.
Quality of my sex has improved.
Quantity of my sex has improved.
Logistically, it's no holds barred as far as positions go.

WIN!!!! :drinker:

:drinker: :drinker: Brilliant!

Chairless

in immeasurable difference in both form and function.

improved confidence and general fitness along with a host of improvements directly related to plumbing and basic functions of apparatus.

or in other words, it all just works better.

GermanicKnight

I have noticed it has increased my libido as my BMI continues to drop.

However, the negative aspect of this is I have a jealous spouse. She now thinks the better fit I am, the more women (all women she claims) want to have sex with me. Doubled with the fact she is doing very little to improve her overall fitness (she is an ideal weight/build for her height but could tone up a bit).

Double-edged sword for me.

Eupho

I know for me, my weight going up and down (no pun intended! :laugh: ) ... really makes a big difference for me regarding our bedroom (or wherever . gymnastics.

It makes a HUGE difference to my confidence ... which at the moment.. as I am still waaaayyyyy over... is not very high!

:mad:

I'll get there! ... Slimmer sexual confidence is soooo much nicer than feeling like a Bison! ..

I too would consider a tum tuck (quite probably) when I have lost this weight. .. When I lost it before.. my tummy was baaadddd.

and it might be the cherry on top (no pun intended :laugh: ) .. of our intimacy if I get rid of my Alien tum!

DMZ_1

It is a motivation for people. Not acknowledging that is folly.