The Taboo Topic

Savemyshannon

I'm -27 pounds since February and MUCH more fit.

I feel sexier
I look sexier.
Quality of my sex has improved.
Quantity of my sex has improved.
Logistically, it's no holds barred as far as positions go.

WIN!!!! :drinker:

I WANT THIS! Go you!

It's a shame that grown ups can't discuss sex in a, well, grown up manner. Because it really is a part of life and I will admit that it's a big part of my motivation. My boyfriend is very slender and fit and sometimes it's horribly embarrassing to ask him to stop doing something or 'no I can't do that' because I'm out shape. And sex just really is NOT as enjoyable when I'm stressed out thinking, "does he see my jiggling? Does this gross him out? Argh, my huge gut is in the way!"

I've only lost 17 lbs and I have a LOT more to go, but I already feel more confident walking around in various states of undress--something I wouldn't do before. Congrats to all of you who have accomplished it! I hope to join you soon!!!

...errr, that sounded pervy, but I meant join your level of physicality! ...yeah, that's what I meant...

hellokehtty

I'm -27 pounds since February and MUCH more fit.

I feel sexier
I look sexier.
Quality of my sex has improved.
Quantity of my sex has improved.
Logistically, it's no holds barred as far as positions go.

WIN!!!! :drinker:

Me too. And it is awesome. :happy:

KodAkuraMacKyen

This is an awesome thread. Gaining the weight i did over the past 6 years affected me and my husbands sex life and i regret it terribly. It wasn't him, it was all me. I'm absolutely doing this so I can look and feel sexier and naturally, a more healthly sex life will follow. I already see it when I'm not so apprehensive to put on an outfit because damn, I've lost 2 lbs since last week and I feel awesome

MsNewBooty83

Two words....
CONFIDENCE
and
STAMINA

AmyFett

I'll just note that there's a giant banana in the ad next to this.

lmao... this is true, I've seen the giant banana!

Hksalex

ill just leave this here...

butterfli7o

ill just leave this here...

:laugh:

gorewhore13

This whole topic sounds liek code for something, am I missing something? I know I want to look sexy as **** naked once I'm more fit but honestly I don't care what size I have ever been, I'm carefree in the sack. If a guy thinks I'm hot fat or smaller he thinks I'm hot period.

plumbobet

ill just leave this here...

thats awesome:laugh:

brittaney_lee

I like this topic a BUNCH ! I think it's super important.


Admittedly, after losing a combined 50 lbs between my husband and I, I am a bit disappointed that the sex drive hasn't shot up as much as I initially thought it would. : /

Maybe it's that we're working out at night, and getting into bed far too late ? Sex shouldn't take a back burner to fitness, IMO.

BRING IT !

cheerforsteelers

This is a very valid topic and I will say for myself that I have a lot of fun now at my weight. I don't care if it's lights on, off, or wherever. It's a freeing thing for me and I'm not shy. I'm working on lowering weight/losing inches so I'm sure I'll have A LOT MORE fun after I'm fit. Looking forward to where it takes me!

LondonEliza

I like this topic a BUNCH ! I think it's super important.


Admittedly, after losing a combined 50 lbs between my husband and I, I am a bit disappointed that the sex drive hasn't shot up as much as I initially thought it would. : /

Maybe it's that we're working out at night, and getting into bed far too late ? Sex shouldn't take a back burner to fitness, IMO.

BRING IT !

Knock a quarter of an hour off your gym workout and put your backs into a bedroom workout.
*Sorted*

Next!

MaryRegs

my husband says "we fit better"...love it!

isis2triple0

I'll just note that there's a giant banana in the ad next to this.

Ha, Ha, Ha, Hee, Hee, LMBO!!!!!

LondonEliza

Let's face it, we all want to be able to wear this label (even if some of us will keep it under a sensible jumper and only take it out for OH's to see)

cubizzle

People turn into 12 year old boys on sex topics. It's gross and ridiculous.

Try Google if you need answers.

HEY LOOK EVERYONE....A TROLL!!!!

brittaney_lee

I like this topic a BUNCH ! I think it's super important.


Admittedly, after losing a combined 50 lbs between my husband and I, I am a bit disappointed that the sex drive hasn't shot up as much as I initially thought it would. : /

Maybe it's that we're working out at night, and getting into bed far too late ? Sex shouldn't take a back burner to fitness, IMO.

BRING IT !

Knock a quarter of an hour off your gym workout and put your backs into a bedroom workout.
*Sorted*

Next!

I'M up for anything ~!

jjmahern

To my view sex topics should be discussed freely and openly and if people make fourth grade toilet humor jokes about it, all the better. I don't think there is anything gross or ridiculous about sex or even when people turn into 12 year olds to make jokes about it. Who cares? I used to think that was immature and here I am 40, a woman and laughing my butt off at every immature joke about sex, bodily functions et al. Life is way to short to stress about people getting annoyed or offended by my or anyone else's sensibilities. Unless you are being blatantly racist, sexist or mean, I don't see any reason to worry. I'm happy to laugh at silly 12 year old sex jokes. ;-)

I understand that perhaps some of us find it too hard (that's what she said ;-) to talk openly about sex topics and get offended easily by the immaturity of others. If that is the case, just avoid threads that talk about sex. :-)

justal313

Since losing weight I've had less padding in my groin area. It allows for easier and more complete access to um... me. It has effectively made me um.... larger, effectively.

Steven

Hi Folks,

I just wanted to clarify our guidelines about sexual topics in the public forums, as well as make sure all users are aware of the option of discussing sex more explicitly in Groups (which is one of the reasons we developed this features -- to provide a place of users to discuss topics considered too explicit for the public forums.

17. No Profane, Vulgar, or Sexually Explicit Language

No explicit, sexual, insulting or vulgar content including expletives, or sexual innuendo, will be permitted. This includes the use of non-alphabetical characters to approximate expletives or other objectionable language. Publicly visible text on MyFitnessPal should be work-place friendly.

We reserve the right to moderate a topic based on the intent of the sexual material it contains. Topics intended to titillate will be removed. Topics with medical or clinical themes related to sex or sexual health may be permitted, at our discretion.

Please feel free to search the http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups area for groups where sexual topics are encouraged. Make sure you turn "safe search" to "off" which will allow you to find search results for groups marked "mature"

Regards,
Steven
MyFitnessPal Staff

Steven

To my view sex topics should be discussed freely and openly and if people make fourth grade toilet humor jokes about it, all the better. I don't think there is anything gross or ridiculous about sex or even when people turn into 12 year olds to make jokes about it. Who cares? I used to think that was immature and here I am 40, a woman and laughing my butt off at every immature joke about sex, bodily functions et al. Life is way to short to stress about people getting annoyed or offended by my or anyone else's sensibilities. Unless you are being blatantly racist, sexist or mean, I don't see any reason to worry. I'm happy to laugh at silly 12 year old sex jokes. ;-)

I understand that perhaps some of us find it too hard (that's what she said ;-) to talk openly about sex topics and get offended easily by the immaturity of others. If that is the case, just avoid threads that talk about sex. :-)

One reason that we're a little fussy about this topic appearing on the main forums is that every user's home page, regardless of whether they ever visit the forums, shows a list of most recent topics. Many of our users log their food from work, and many corporate set-ups monitor web content on employee computers. We remove explicit sexual conversations from the forums to prevent situations in which our work-day users may have our site blacklisted by their IT department for bringing "undesired" content onto employee browsers. By restricting such topics to groups, which are opt-in, and not advertised on the user's home page, we hope to allow users in all situations to have access to the site with no restriction.

Regards,
Steven
MyFitnessPal Staff

brewface811

Weight loss definitely helps me in this aspect of life. I felt like crap when I was over weight, and once I lost 12 pounds I felt great and had a lot more confidence in myself. It really improved my boyfriend and I's relationship in a lot of aspects.

It doesn't hurt that he's been working out too and is getting nice arm muscles...and his shoulders oohhhhh gosh.

MireyGal76

It's sad for me... I looked decent while married, but the relationship was sadly lacking. It was better tho, the better I felt about myself. Now I'm separated, and feel incredible, and am, well sadly alone. I'm not the kind to just hookup for "fun", but am also not ready for another "relationship" .

Oh well, i guess I need to maintain, and keep improving, and keep ya posted on whether my relationship status changes, or my position on hookups allows me new insights! Haha

Congrats to all of you who are working to better yourselves for YOU! The rest does fall into line as well.

foremate

I find that good sex makes you lose weight even more....plus there wasnt a problem with being 276 and having sex because there are plenty of men that actually enjoy big women...for the love of God I dont know why but they do...I talk with my child's father and he doesnt want me to lose any weight but..I quickly told him well either you will like it or you wont but the weight is coming off ! Just from losing a couple of pounds so far...I feel better about myself....

marie_cressman

I find that good sex makes you lose weight even more....plus there wasnt a problem with being 276 and having sex because there are plenty of men that actually enjoy big women...for the love of God I dont know why but they do...I talk with my child's father and he doesnt want me to lose any weight but..I quickly told him well either you will like it or you wont but the weight is coming off ! Just from losing a couple of pounds so far...I feel better about myself....

I am like you. My husband made me feel pretty confident even at 270lbs. He liked it. So now that I'm in the 180s I was a little worried he wouldn't like the way I looked. He assured me that he was attracted to me then and he's even more attracted to me now. I told him he confused me... how can he like how big I was then and then also like the size I am now and he said "i just like the female form... big or small, it's all beautiful to me." LOL

doug4018

To my view sex topics should be discussed freely and openly and if people make fourth grade toilet humor jokes about it, all the better. I don't think there is anything gross or ridiculous about sex or even when people turn into 12 year olds to make jokes about it. Who cares? I used to think that was immature and here I am 40, a woman and laughing my butt off at every immature joke about sex, bodily functions et al. Life is way to short to stress about people getting annoyed or offended by my or anyone else's sensibilities. Unless you are being blatantly racist, sexist or mean, I don't see any reason to worry. I'm happy to laugh at silly 12 year old sex jokes. ;-)

I understand that perhaps some of us find it too hard (that's what she said ;-) to talk openly about sex topics and get offended easily by the immaturity of others. If that is the case, just avoid threads that talk about sex. :-)

One reason that we're a little fussy about this topic appearing on the main forums is that every user's home page, regardless of whether they ever visit the forums, shows a list of most recent topics. Many of our users log their food from work, and many corporate set-ups monitor web content on employee computers. We remove explicit sexual conversations from the forums to prevent situations in which our work-day users may have our site blacklisted by their IT department for bringing "undesired" content onto employee browsers. By restricting such topics to groups, which are opt-in, and not advertised on the user's home page, we hope to allow users in all situations to have access to the site with no restriction.

Regards,
Steven
MyFitnessPal Staff

Thanks for replying, I should have read the rules more closely. It makes sense now and i've created a group, Sexual Success Stories.

doug4018

I've created a group, that I hope all you you join!

Go to groups and join, "Sexual Success Stories" and we can move the discussion there. As MFP has indicated please turn the "safe search" function off.

Thanks and see you there!

doug4018

c'mon don't be shy, join the group and continue the discussion!

Nationalluv

Yes I know losing weight will give me that wow factor. I been with my husband since high school and I want to somewhat resemble the body I had back then that he fell in love with lol. I am working on it and I know it will pay off.

HorseWithNoName27

Most of my sexual experience has been from when I was 200+ pounds...so at the very end of the long road in my future, it'll be interesting to see what sex will be like when I am back under 200 and at goal (160 pounds).

I don't think this is a bad topic to discuss at all. We are all adults here (at least, I think we are...) and sex is an integral part of oneself and one's life.