Anyone else feel alone on MFP?

SlimPossible8

Ok so i joined MFP to get support and support others in their weight loss/fitness goals. My problem? I hardly ever get any support! I post my workouts, what im eating, when im having a good/bad day...all that jaz. Only one or two people will post back to me ever. I mean i dont want a bunch of people who could care less to be posting back "good job" every time. But a little support would be nice. Down my whole page my posts are the only ones that go without comment. Every other friend is getting their support why not me? :frown:

I honestly feel like i could post i sat on my a** all week and ate nothing but McDonalds and no one would even notice. Very unmotivating. Sorry for complaining, I just wanted to see if anyone else was haiving this issue.

imaspaceguy90

Hi there. I am fairly new to this board, but have noticed that alot of members know each other and are seasoned veterans here. I think it just takes time , you will meet a close knit of friends who are always there to support you. I know sometimes the only person you can rely on for support is yourself, because you are the only person who can make the necessary lifestyle change. Its a pleasure to meet you and i hope you success with your new lifestyle. Zach

deadbeatsummer

Hey there you have to be active with others and write to them so that they recognise you and want to comment on your stuff. Also posting in the boards helps and adding others.

rachael52

Hi, I'm fairly new here and I think the issue is that there are so many posts coming up -- a new one something like every two seconds in each of the categories, that it's hard to comment much, especially if one is working full time and doesn't want to spent hours on this site. I'm trying to use MFP in moderation -- mostly for keeping track of my calories, but briefly getting a taste of Community every day, and answering one or two people. So, you are the one I'm answering today. Keep it up! Stay doing what you are doing, it looks as if things are going well for you. I hope you are feeling healthier and better. It's great to get support from people in your "real life" as well.

We're all going to feel better as we get in better shape, and for me, that means looking forward to better years as I age (I'm 60 now). Try not to get discouraged.

scapez

You've been here for over a year, but you don't have many posts and only 10 friends - it's tough to get a lot of feedback with only 10 friends...also...how much feedback to you give your friends?

My advice - get a lot more friends! But also know that you'll basically have to "give" in order to "receive".

bright_and_shiny

Add me! I really like it when people comment on my statuses, so I'm always sure to comment on my friends' as well!

Capt_Apollo

i'm sorry you feel that way. and while i normally say "quality over quantity," you only have 8 forum posts and 10 friends, three of whom haven't logged on in a while.

get on the forums, post your thoughts in peoples threads. friend request people that you share similar views with or you think will inspire you.

Dethea

One thing I've noticed, is if you want people to pay attention to your posts, you need to comment on theirs also. Are you being supportive to your friends?

mlkleve

I have the same issue. People I friended on MFP weren't responding even though I was acknowledging their progress. My husband seems to get a lot of support on here. I deleted people and will try starting over.

ryno0618

I have been with MFP for a year plus a couple months. I've found that what I give is a direct result of what I receive. I've gone through periods of being highly active in the forums and my news feed and commenting all day on friends posts, and then I've gone through periods where I simply just logged my own stuff. It takes time to make good friends and it takes effort beyond just posting "good job" on friends status. I am sure there are a a lot of people on here with similar goals and interests as you and that you can mutually support. Best of luck! and feel free to add me!

LaunaDypolt

I know how you feel, my husband and I were on it for a while, now im back.... and we dont really say 'good job" but we should. do you have another friend that is doing this with you? if not, maybe we can help each other out!

SlimPossible8

thanks everyone. Mostly my friend right now on MFP are in my "real life" i think that is what makes it even more frustrating. I post on them tell them to keep it up and motivate when needed if they are not logging that sort of thing. So im just frustrated that the people i am closest to and have made such good progress dont even pay attention to someone who is working as hard as them. I appreciate all the support!

MSimm62385

I feel anything but alone. I am very fortunate to have a sister (who got me to join this site), father, and 3-4 friends I know and love who are also trying to get in shape through this site, in addition to friendly random others who friend requested me for mutual support. =D

cbu23

My only suggestion would be to get some more friends. It's hard since you only have 10. I know it took me a while to get some friends on here and to really get into commenting and everything. You can add me if you'd like. I will tell you I'm in the middle of a tough summer semester and have been pretty scarce, but I will be back in full force at the end of the month!

mispotatohead

I selected my friends on here carefully and I keep my group very small. I chose ladies that had similar goals and that were close to my age. I figured this would help me the most as we had something in common to begin with. By doing this I ended up with a great support system. I only hope I give back 1/2 as much as I get from them. Maybe if you search for people that are similar to yourself you'll do better. Good luck!

mruntidy

I have been with MFP for a year plus a couple months. I've found that what I give is a direct result of what I receive. I've gone through periods of being highly active in the forums and my news feed and commenting all day on friends posts, and then I've gone through periods where I simply just logged my own stuff. It takes time to make good friends and it takes effort beyond just posting "good job" on friends status. I am sure there are a a lot of people on here with similar goals and interests as you and that you can mutually support. Best of luck! and feel free to add me!

I agree, sometimes I am quiet and reflective sometimes I am loud and brassy along with my mood. Put yourself out there and see what comes back if not cut the wheat from the chaff on your friends list if you're purely looking for support too. I'm willing to bet maybe some of the people on your friends list feel the same too - i've posted in my thread things like 'what do you think i should do differently this week' or 'suggest me some meal ideas' might not work but it might get more input than you bargained for.

Biggest thing, don't let it affect your workouts or your motivation to achieve your goal, friends and support are great but it's you that will sweat out that goal.

Curvimami

i'm sorry you feel that way. and while i normally say "quality over quantity," you only have 8 forum posts and 10 friends, three of whom haven't logged on in a while.

get on the forums, post your thoughts in peoples threads. friend request people that you share similar views with or you think will inspire you.

This is great advice. You definitely need to be more active and get a few more ppl in your "friends" list. And eventually you can weed out any "bad seeds" (if you will). Meaning once you get a good amount of "friends" the ones who are the most active on MFP and interact with you the most and help you feel and stay motivated/inspired are the ones you keep. Its kind of hard keeping up with 100 friends. But if 20 of them are keeping you motivated. Those are the ones you focus your energy on and you can "delete" the rest or just pay no mind to the extra "weight" (pardon the pun). Good luck on your journey. I wish you continued success :happy:

Laurie1267

I have a great support system on MFP and I'm thankful for each and every one of them. I love to comment and motivate them as much as I love when "some" of them comment on my posts. Please reach out to members and know that you'll end up with a close but very support system.

I'll send you a friend request . . . I'll be there for you :flowerforyou:

SlimPossible8

i'm sorry you feel that way. and while i normally say "quality over quantity," you only have 8 forum posts and 10 friends, three of whom haven't logged on in a while.

get on the forums, post your thoughts in peoples threads. friend request people that you share similar views with or you think will inspire you.

This is great advice. You definitely need to be more active and get a few more ppl in your "friends" list. And eventually you can weed out any "bad seeds" (if you will). Meaning once you get a good amount of "friends" the ones who are the most active on MFP and interact with you the most and help you feel and stay motivated/inspired are the ones you keep. Its kind of hard keeping up with 100 friends. But if 20 of them are keeping you motivated. Those are the ones you focus your energy on and you can "delete" the rest or just pay no mind to the extra "weight" (pardon the pun). Good luck on your journey. I wish you continued success :happy:

this is great. I feel bad for deleting people sometimes but if they are not motiviating or not even loggin in....lol maybe its ok to delete them. Thanks a bunch guys i feel a lot better than i did a few hours ago. I will not let it effect my workouts i refuse to do that.

yoovie

You get out of it what you put into it, just like exercise. Are your posts interesting, thought provoking, funny, sympathetic... or are they just a string of personal stats, such as diary/workouts completed? Are you talking about what all of this is changing about you, what you need help with, where you are seeing progress? Are you spending time on other people's posts and statuses, talking to them about what is happening in their own personal missions and goals? Have you glanced at how often your friends check in, how many friends they have and what kind of activity they put into the site?

If all you do is post 'good job' and your completed diary, for the viewing pleasure of a handful of barely active friends... then all you're going to get back is an occasional good job, IF that friend happens to be online when you post it.

You want more friends and feedback and conversation? Youre going to have to be a friend to more people, give more feedback and get involved in more conversations.

BigDaddyBRC

Hey there you have to be active with others and write to them so that they recognise you and want to comment on your stuff. Also posting in the boards helps and adding others.

ALL THIS ^^^^^^^^^^^