Anyone else feel alone on MFP?

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  • HiKaren
    HiKaren Posts: 1,306 Member
    Thats because there are some people who treat their MFP account like its a FB acct... And they get all theses friends on their list, so they can feel "Popular" like they were still in High School.. But you know what they do when they do that???? And we should know its not a good thing already...... They BITE OFF MORE THAN THEY CAN CHEW. How in the world with all those friends, could they ever keep up with the status updates... ??? I believe in a lower quantity, "Quality NOT Quantity" If you have so many friends, and so many that you can't keep up, and be supportive, then what kind of friend does that make them? Maybe they should go on twitter... Cause those kind of people just like to be "Followed" and ADORED for all the attention, but just don't have the time it takes, to comment back.... Alrightee-then.

    Quality, not Quantity. I used to "Follow" a real nice lady here on MFP, she has like 1,000 friends... And shes very successful with her plan. I liked to admire her diary, and her dedication.. but to always comment to her, and she doesn't even know I exsist, or comment back....forget it... Im not a fan of that. I want some interaction with my friends... And 30 is my max limit, to be able to keep up with everyone... If for some reason, one of my friends "Deactivates" their acct... then I would delete, and it would make room for another MFP friend. I have a limit, so that I can pay attention to the friends that I do have. I want them to know I care...... In other cases I usually would not delete... Although there have been some cases, for other reasons.
  • nursenelson
    nursenelson Posts: 295
    You've been here for over a year, but you don't have many posts and only 10 friends - it's tough to get a lot of feedback with only 10 friends...also...how much feedback to you give your friends?

    My advice - get a lot more friends! But also know that you'll basically have to "give" in order to "receive".


    ^^^^ this
    good luck
  • gin_gin
    gin_gin Posts: 184
    I have great supportive friends and I support them back as well, if I add new people and they never post or share etc then
    I delete those and get new ones, sometimes people have so many friends its hard to support everyone on their list so I try and keep my friends list at a reasonable count so I can interact with everyone on my list.
  • BigBrewski
    BigBrewski Posts: 922 Member
    Yes, I feel alone quite often.. but in a different sense. I have wonderful supportive friends on here, but the ONE person I want support from is my husband. This is supposed to be a lifestyle change for the both of us, but I tend to get looked over. He is also on this site. He is awesome motivation and support for those on his friend list, BUT for me.

    Should we give him a "boot to the head, and one for jenny and the whimp"
  • bekkaL85
    bekkaL85 Posts: 133 Member
    I'm just gonna tell you the truth, about me at least.

    I hardly ever comment on food diaries, unless I know that you have been having a hard time. Mine is public, but alot of my friends' dairies aren't for various reasons. So, I'm pretty much no help to you there.

    I do the same with exercises. It (sadly) takes alot to impress me with that. I'm not talking hard exercises. Walking is one of my biggest workouts. But, if I have noticed that you've slacked off and then got back on the horse (so to speak) then I comment. Basically with exercise and with food dairies, I only comment if I know that you're having trouble but you're trying.

    Every day comments, well...it depends. Sometimes (like right now) I only have an hour or so to be online before RL calls. Sometimes I can't get online, but can get on my phone. Anyone who uses the phone app can tell you comments posting are iffy at best. Sometimes I really have nothing to say, and sometimes (again, honesty) I just don't care. I make sure though, that when I DO have the time to respond I do just that. Respond. Nothing generic, nothing vague. An actual conversation takes place.
  • judybaseel
    judybaseel Posts: 6
    looks like you are doing great...friend me I will help you out!
    Judy:smile:
  • myohana4
    myohana4 Posts: 205 Member
    Ok so i joined MFP to get support and support others in their weight loss/fitness goals. My problem? I hardly ever get any support! I post my workouts, what im eating, when im having a good/bad day...all that jaz. Only one or two people will post back to me ever. I mean i dont want a bunch of people who could care less to be posting back "good job" every time. But a little support would be nice. Down my whole page my posts are the only ones that go without comment. Every other friend is getting their support why not me? :frown:

    I honestly feel like i could post i sat on my a** all week and ate nothing but McDonalds and no one would even notice. Very unmotivating. Sorry for complaining, I just wanted to see if anyone else was haiving this issue.

    Look at you! You just went from 10 to 93 friends! That is how it is done! Reach out and people respond.
    MFP is a wonderful supportive community!

    Now get busy commenting on all your new friends' status. And I am sure they will return the favor!
  • stacybell1
    stacybell1 Posts: 1
    I understand what you are saying, but maybe try to take strength in feeling alone. Remember no one can make you happy unless you are happy with yourself. Keep thinking about your goals and a way to reward yourself when you reach them. . . Good luck. . . and remember. . . you are not alone
  • eln2008
    eln2008 Posts: 20 Member
    Hi! I just wrote about this on my news feed today. I actually deleted some folks from my friends list who rarely comment or reply to my comments on their profiles. You need people on MFP who can motivate and inspire you. I believe encouragement from others is healthy for us. Feel free to add me as a friend if you would like. We can all use the extra motivation! Take care and God bless!
  • girl_afraid82
    girl_afraid82 Posts: 178 Member
    Aw, she added me then deleted me in the space of a day haha...
    Was it something I said? :P
  • NikkiTompson
    NikkiTompson Posts: 89 Member
    Hi,

    I know that we dont know each other, however I find it sad that you feel like you are not getting the support you want through this app.
    I tend to only add my friends to this, so I dont actually have a lot of people on MFP... however if you like, more than happy to add you to my contacts and I will do my best to offer support and vice versa?

    Thanks,
    Nikki
  • NikkiTompson
    NikkiTompson Posts: 89 Member
    just to add... my message was to thickandthin8... but more than happy to add others that as well....
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    Ok so i joined MFP to get support and support others in their weight loss/fitness goals. My problem? I hardly ever get any support! I post my workouts, what im eating, when im having a good/bad day...all that jaz. Only one or two people will post back to me ever. I mean i dont want a bunch of people who could care less to be posting back "good job" every time. But a little support would be nice. Down my whole page my posts are the only ones that go without comment. Every other friend is getting their support why not me? :frown:

    I honestly feel like i could post i sat on my a** all week and ate nothing but McDonalds and no one would even notice. Very unmotivating. Sorry for complaining, I just wanted to see if anyone else was haiving this issue.

    You need to get some new friends!
  • Crystalchaos72
    Crystalchaos72 Posts: 531
    Hey there you have to be active with others and write to them so that they recognise you and want to comment on your stuff. Also posting in the boards helps and adding others.
    ALL THIS ^^^^^^^^^^^

    Yep!!
  • RandleBoyz3
    RandleBoyz3 Posts: 24 Member
    OMG! Thickandthin you took the words right out of my mouth! Please add me and we can support each other.
  • SlimPossible8
    SlimPossible8 Posts: 71 Member
    Aw, she added me then deleted me in the space of a day haha...
    Was it something I said? :P

    lol no nothing you said girl, I just got about 140 requests and want to keep it small so i had a special screening process lol. If i couldnt see your logs, your profile said anything about a "thigh gap", you were 60yo (nothing wrong with age here just trying to find support from people my age) that sort of thing...i deleted lol. Im sorry. now that my list is smaller ill add ya again. its been a roller coaster here since i posted!
  • girl_afraid82
    girl_afraid82 Posts: 178 Member
    Aw, she added me then deleted me in the space of a day haha...
    Was it something I said? :P

    lol no nothing you said girl, I just got about 140 requests and want to keep it small so i had a special screening process lol. If i couldnt see your logs, your profile said anything about a "thigh gap", you were 60yo (nothing wrong with age here just trying to find support from people my age) that sort of thing...i deleted lol. Im sorry. now that my list is smaller ill add ya again. its been a roller coaster here since i posted!

    lol, don't worry I wasn't offended, I did guess that would happen :P I am none of those things though, for the record haha
  • jedibunny
    jedibunny Posts: 321
    Aw, she added me then deleted me in the space of a day haha...
    Was it something I said? :P

    o.O same here...

    I was admittedly NOT active for a day or so after adding, as I was taking care of my sis and didn't get a chance to log everything, so I suppose that might account for the chop. Alas.

    Best of luck regardless thickandthin xo

    p.s. not 60, diary open, etc... lol
  • Nighthawk4
    Nighthawk4 Posts: 77 Member
    I think some people tend to concentrate on their own dieting problems. They expect others to support and sympathise but don't give back in return.

    We are all here for the same reason - we want to lose weight.

    Therefore, we need to be supportive of each other - whether our own efforts are going well or we are struggling to keep going.

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