Why is a man's attractiveness defined by his height???

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  • calvert6183
    calvert6183 Posts: 539 Member
    Its always funny how women get mad at men for liking younger women or not liking big women but women will be the first to discriminate short guys. Its bad either way, people should give people a chance based on other things instead of height, weight, or age.
  • tinaruby
    tinaruby Posts: 74 Member
    I prefer taller men, but I married my husband over 13 years ago and he is only 5'4, same height as me... Personality can change a persons mind, if it doesn't, then it is time to move on anyway!
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Its always funny how women get mad at men for liking younger women or not liking big women but women will be the first to discriminate short guys. Its bad either way, people should give people a chance based on other things instead of height, weight, or age.

    I agree with this.
  • Silverkittycat
    Silverkittycat Posts: 1,997 Member
    Its always funny how women get mad at men for liking younger women or not liking big women but women will be the first to discriminate short guys. Its bad either way, people should give people a chance based on other things instead of height, weight, or age.

    I agree with this.

    Yeah, so do I. :smile:
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member

    That aside I suppose it's a Damsel Complex sort of thing. Some women want guys that are taller, broad-shouldered, and have muscles so that they can feel some sort of "safety" when in their arms.

    No disagreements here..

    Sometimes I like being rescued from dragons.. ;)
    European fairy tales frequently feature damsels in distress. Evil witches trapped Rapunzel in a tower, cursed the princess to die in Snow White, and put Sleeping Beauty into a magical sleep. In all of these, a valourous prince comes to the maiden's aid, saves her, and marries her (though Rapunzel is not directly saved by the prince, but instead saves him from blindness after her exile).

    A number of tales in the One Thousand and One Nights (Arabian Nights) also feature damsels in distress. A particularly influential Arabian Nights tale of this type was "The Ebony Horse", which revolves around the Prince of Persia, Qamar al-Aqmar, with the help of his flying mechanical horse, rescuing his lover, the Princess of Sana'a, from a Persian sage and then from the Byzantine Emperor. This story appears to have influenced later European tales such as Adenes Le Roi's Cleomades and "The Squire's Tale" told in Geoffrey Chaucer's The Canterbury Tales.[1]

    The damsel in distress was an archetypal character of medieval romances, where typically she was rescued from imprisonment in a tower of a castle by a knight-errant. Chaucer's The Clerk's Tale of the repeated trials and bizarre torments of patient Griselda was drawn from Petrarch. The Emprise de l'Escu vert à la Dame Blanche (founded 1399) was a chivalric order with the express purpose of protecting oppressed ladies.

    The theme also entered the official hagiography of the Catholic Church - most famously in the story of Saint George who saved a princess from being devoured by a dragon. A late addition to the official account of this Saint's life, not attested in the several first centuries when he was venerated, it is nowadays the main act for which Saint George is remembered.

    Obscure outside Norway is Hallvard Vebjørnsson, the Patron Saint of Oslo, recognised as a martyr after being killed while valiantly trying to defend a woman - most likely a slave - from three men accusing her of theft.

    Just point them out hun. Easy as that.
  • allisonmrn
    allisonmrn Posts: 721 Member
    i'm only 5'3, and i don't wear heals... everybody's taller :laugh:


    ^ and for me it's all about attitude and presence.
  • Silverkittycat
    Silverkittycat Posts: 1,997 Member

    That aside I suppose it's a Damsel Complex sort of thing. Some women want guys that are taller, broad-shouldered, and have muscles so that they can feel some sort of "safety" when in their arms.

    No disagreements here..

    Sometimes I like being rescued from dragons.. ;)
    European fairy tales frequently feature damsels in distress. Evil witches trapped Rapunzel in a tower, cursed the princess to die in Snow White, and put Sleeping Beauty into a magical sleep. In all of these, a valourous prince comes to the maiden's aid, saves her, and marries her (though Rapunzel is not directly saved by the prince, but instead saves him from blindness after her exile).

    A number of tales in the One Thousand and One Nights (Arabian Nights) also feature damsels in distress. A particularly influential Arabian Nights tale of this type was "The Ebony Horse", which revolves around the Prince of Persia, Qamar al-Aqmar, with the help of his flying mechanical horse, rescuing his lover, the Princess of Sana'a, from a Persian sage and then from the Byzantine Emperor. This story appears to have influenced later European tales such as Adenes Le Roi's Cleomades and "The Squire's Tale" told in Geoffrey Chaucer's The Canterbury Tales.[1]

    The damsel in distress was an archetypal character of medieval romances, where typically she was rescued from imprisonment in a tower of a castle by a knight-errant. Chaucer's The Clerk's Tale of the repeated trials and bizarre torments of patient Griselda was drawn from Petrarch. The Emprise de l'Escu vert à la Dame Blanche (founded 1399) was a chivalric order with the express purpose of protecting oppressed ladies.

    The theme also entered the official hagiography of the Catholic Church - most famously in the story of Saint George who saved a princess from being devoured by a dragon. A late addition to the official account of this Saint's life, not attested in the several first centuries when he was venerated, it is nowadays the main act for which Saint George is remembered.

    Obscure outside Norway is Hallvard Vebjørnsson, the Patron Saint of Oslo, recognised as a martyr after being killed while valiantly trying to defend a woman - most likely a slave - from three men accusing her of theft.

    Just point them out hun. Easy as that.

    :heart: you cris!
  • graveflower316
    graveflower316 Posts: 169 Member
    I'm 5'11, so I prefer someone at least at eye level with me. Though, I have dated men shorter than 5'9" and it wasn't that big of a deal to me. That's just me, though.
  • s_mcdaniel
    s_mcdaniel Posts: 9
    As a woman who is 5'10", I can tell you that it is hard to feel feminine when you are taller than the average male. There is something very sexy about feeling small and feminine next to a man. Short girls CANNOT understand this. They have always felt this way. That being said...my husband and I are the same height. So just because it makes you feel pretty, it doesn't define your relationships.

    I have to completely agree with this. I could not have said it better. I try not to only look at a man based on his height however all the men in my family are 6' and above. So its hard to now want my future husband to be the same way but in dating I try to take everything into consideration. I don't think I would date someone who is 5'5 or 5'1 but I try to look at their personality and all they have to offer before I simply say they are too short.
  • belrie
    belrie Posts: 14 Member
    to the original poster, my boyfriend is 5'9, & to me, that's perfect! lots of women don't care about height, don't be down on yourself. :)
  • belrie
    belrie Posts: 14 Member
    Its always funny how women get mad at men for liking younger women or not liking big women but women will be the first to discriminate short guys. Its bad either way, people should give people a chance based on other things instead of height, weight, or age.

    I agree with this.

    Yeah, so do I. :smile:

    i just saw this & i have to say i agree entirely!
  • wellbert
    wellbert Posts: 3,924 Member
    I'm 6'7... I'd better hide before the horde comes.
  • TinaS88
    TinaS88 Posts: 817 Member
    My husband is 6'1''. I couldn't tell you, I am just attracted to men that are a bit taller then me. I'm 5'6'' btw.
  • FierceFeline
    FierceFeline Posts: 98
    as long as he is NOT shorter then me, I dont care :-) my SO is 2inches taller then me at 5'9"

    +1
  • SVCat
    SVCat Posts: 1,483 Member
    I'm 6'4" and every lady I've ever dated has always said that they never cared about height but that I had spoiled them for life.
  • rose_mortem
    rose_mortem Posts: 147 Member
    everyone is taller than me -- I'm 5' even :laugh:
  • Angie_1MR
    Angie_1MR Posts: 247
    i'm only 5'3, and i don't wear heals... everybody's taller :laugh:

    me too :)
  • jennywenny13
    jennywenny13 Posts: 3
    For me, I like to feel smaller and protected by my man. It doesn't matter his height, but he has to be taller than me...if he's taller than me in heels - EVEN BETTER! I love to lean my head on his shoulder when we hug... :flowerforyou:
  • bluefox9er
    bluefox9er Posts: 2,917 Member
    I could slam dunk a basketball when I was 5'6 and the chicks seemed to really dig that...
  • nikic50
    nikic50 Posts: 209
    I'm 5'10" & my hubby is 6'7". I can stand on the bottom step of our stairs & be almost his height. I like it a lot!! I've also dated guys shorter than me (most of the time) & they were all jerks so maybe I'm just drawn to tall guys.
    My hubby has also stated that it would be cool to date a women that's 6' or taller just to see what it's like...I'm not signing that contract tho :laugh:
  • Lone_Wolf70
    Lone_Wolf70 Posts: 2,820 Member
    im 6'5....chicks dig tall dudes I guess.
  • bizorra
    bizorra Posts: 151 Member
    I'm 5'9" and I always wanted to date super tall guys, but all the super tall guys I liked wanted to date teeny tiny girls! My hubby is 5'11, and I never feel I have to wear heels (which is A-OK for me!)
  • SVCat
    SVCat Posts: 1,483 Member
    I'm 5'9" and I always wanted to date super tall guys, but all the super tall guys I liked wanted to date teeny tiny girls! My hubby is 5'11, and I never feel I have to wear heels (which is A-OK for me!)

    It's crazy for the longest time I would only date shorties...and then I discovered the benefits of long legs!
  • i_am_losing_it
    i_am_losing_it Posts: 310 Member
    Warning probably TMI for some.
    It is not defined as attractive to me, my ex was 6 ft 2 and it really sucked, my neck was sore from looking up and/or kissing when we were first dating. Later, when we were married let's just say things weren't face to face in the bedroom, we could not even kiss while we were being intimate.
    My current and the rest of my life husband is about 5 ft 5 and it is so much better! We can look each other straight in the eyes while we stand face to face talking or kissing. I love that we can kiss and make love at the same time! I know way tmi but I am being honest about the subject.
    I think girls who want a guy who is super tall, especially much taller than her are shallow and only looking at it as a status thing.
  • LauraMacNCheese
    LauraMacNCheese Posts: 7,173 Member
    Height doesn't make a difference to me...I'm 5'1 &1/2...I've dated guys from 5'6" to 6'8" (yeah, that one was interesting, LOL).
  • mandipandi75
    mandipandi75 Posts: 6,035 Member
    I'm 5'1 (and a half)"... I've only been with one and he is 6'2". I like it that way. It's a nice, safe feeling. Can't say I would not go out with shorter but I'm definitely attracted to 6' and up.
  • SabrinaJL
    SabrinaJL Posts: 1,579 Member
    I love feeling like an Amazon. But to each her own.

    Right there with ya. Which is probably why I've always been more interested in being muscular than skinny. I don't want/need a man to make me feel safe, I want that feeling whether I have a man around or not. And as for being "safer" with a taller/bigger man, I don't think that's necessarily true. My husband is 5'8", 185 lbs, trained in hand-to-hand combat and can bench a lot more than his 6'3", 300 lb cousin. In a fight, I'd much rather have my husband at my back than his lumbering oaf of a cousin.

    Also, I think it takes a fair bit of confidence for a shorter guy to go for a taller girl and I dig that.
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    I wouldn't want a guy too much taller than me. I like someone more at eye level when talking. And of course, makes kissing at what not easier when there's less of a height difference!
  • DLKeeble
    DLKeeble Posts: 200 Member
    I tried to post yesterday, but messed up.
    I usually dated tall guys in my youth. Some were great and some jerks. My husband is 5'8" and has a big personality, very secure, very smart. I feel very safe around him. We have four sons and our tallest is only 5' 9.5"( still room to grow, so the ortho said) I have smart, good looking well rounded sons. Some have dated tall girls and some prefer the tiny ones. LOL My sons have not EVER had trouble attracting beautiful girls. This is my own observation, but it seems to me the shorter guys have great personalities and are usually so darned cute! They have to work a bit harder in everything. My youngest who is the tallest is a fantastic baseball player (college scholarship, yada yada) He sometimes would not get a second glance from some coaches, because he wasn't the 6'2" player that they wanted to fit their mold. Well, their loss.
    Just be secure with who you are, and if they have a problem with your height... it is just that "their problem"
    I do tell my sons if they want to bring some height into this family, marry TALL girls. :)
  • InnerFatGirl
    InnerFatGirl Posts: 2,687 Member
    I think girls who want a guy who is super tall, especially much taller than her are shallow and only looking at it as a status thing.

    Nice generalising there.

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