No Results??? I give up!!

KIMBAILEYWILLIAMSON

I'm actually glad you posted this and reading the comments because it is going to help me not give up because I am finally about 30 lbs from my goal and am losing weight slower now and it is discouraging but after reading all these comments it has help me to realize it will probably take longer these last 30 lbs and to NOT give up. You can do it don't ever ever give up I am sure going to try not to.

soulynyc

it's taken me 7 months to lose 20 lbs.. SEVEN MONTHS!!!!

revisit what you are doing and read a bit and ask questions and find something that works for you. it maybe that you may still need to change what you eat, add more or cut more... but dont' quit.. quitters never win.

slprout

don't let the negative talk in your head or your body's stubbornness win, keep going. Any loss is better than doing nothing. It has taken me a little over 6 months to lose 25 pounds and there have been months where I was completely stuck and went up a pound or two.

mommamills

1-2 lbs / week is a HEALTHY weight loss! Be proud of yourself! It's normal to feel discouraged.....we've all been there but if this is not truly a lifestyle change and just a "diet" it will never work. That's where most of us falter! We yo-yo back and forth with healthy eating with just flat out gorging ourselves with whatever is in sight. The ppl who see REAL RESULTS are the ones who put in the work and STICK WITH IT! It doesn't happen overnight and most ppl don't notice their progress until well into the journey. Hange in there. You can do it!

SarahofTwins

4 pounds in a month is healthy...it also depends on your size. I lost more because I was obese at one point and as ive gotten smaller its harder. Time and patience will get you closer but giving up will keep you back from where you want to be.

Newf77

Thanks for letig us know, have a good life.
I am not going to sit here and type out some big long document telling you that everyone loses at different rates, that some of those big losses you see are people who are of a larger body composition. That 4lbs in a month is respectable.

Why you have shown you do not have the desire to overcome the minor challenges and accept this as a journey to change your life.

tabitha2770

First off, 4 pounds is a healthy good weight loss so you should be thrilled instead of beating yourself up.

Second, 7 months is going to go by either way. Would you rather be 30 pounds lighter in 7 months or be the same?

Stick with it. You'll feel better and reap the rewards.

This is great advice!

ChristyRunStarr

Don't give up! I haven't and I've been going to the gym since January 5 days a week and now (since it's nicer out) I've been biking, jogging, walking and recently threw running into the mix. I didn't lose ANYTHING while going just to the gym and that was 0 pounds in 5 months I didn't give up. I knew I was gaining muscle and even if the pound said otherwise, my clothes fit better. Don't give up, you CAN do this and you already have. 4 pounds lighter and doing it in a healthy way is far better than losing more and doing it in an unhealthy way where you'll gain it back plus more.

cavewoman15

your call about what you do with your life, but just to give you some perspective:

i've been averaging a pound a week (maybe a little less) since march, and now i'm down 22 pounds (plus 5 before i joined MFP). i have only lost 3-4 pounds in the last 2 months. this is normal, and healthy.

and for the record, i've lost 20 pounds in a month before, and i put it all back on and then some within a year's time. trust me, that is not a lot of fun for your wardrobe, your pocket book, or your self esteem.

AnarchoGen

I haven't lost any weight in 7 MONTHS! And by weight I mean FAT, but I'm still training and eating good. I've come this far, might as well not stop, right? I wish I could lose 4lbs (of disgusting fat!) right now. Count your blessings please, you're doing great.

TheLadyInGreen

Don't quit! I have 80 pounds to lose and I've been on MFP for over a month and I've lost 3 pounds. Three stinkin' little pounds. I've been really good with journaling my food (missed a few days when I got sick and a couple more when we were visiting relatives, but I tried to be good throughout) and I started Jillian Michael's 30-Day Shred (walking pneumonia forced me to stop for a bit, but I'm starting back up today!). I thought for sure that I'd be one of those 18-lbs.-in-the-first-month people, but I guess my body just likes to hang onto its bulk a little longer. Perseverance is key. Plus, MFP is all about lifestyle changes and STAYING healthy. How can you "quit" your life? If you stick with it, things will get better. Slowly but surely. (Slow weight loss is nice, too... less saggy skin to worry about--lol!)

kwest_4_fitness

It has taken me 15 months to lose 78 lbs. I never gave up, even when the scale didn't budge for 6 to 8 weeks at a time.

chickentunashake

Losing a pound a week is very healthy weight loss. People they lose so much in the first month are most of the time severely obese and most of the weight they lose is a water weight. I never lost more pound a week, and am not gaining it back either. The closer you get to your goal, the slower the progress will be.

Mainey13

Slow and steady wins the race. 1-2 lbs a week is healthy and you will be able to keep it off. If you lost 30 lbs in 2 months chances are you wouldnt keep it off. Plan to celebrate in 7-8 months and treat yourself to a new top or something when you reach your goal!

lt3ag4s

Like everyone else is saying, 4lbs a month is healthy.

denise032

Do you REALLY want to lose weight, or do you just kind of want to?

Losing weight is HARD, but you want it to be that way. If it were easy to lose weight, you wouldn't care if/when you gain it back because you know just how easy it is to lose it again. Knowing that it's hard is what's going to make you keep it off, for LIFE.

rachel_d_b

I just posted this in another thread, but I'll repeat it here. Exercise burns fat and builds muscle. Take a look at the picture at the link below. It compares 5lbs of fat to 5lbs of muscle. They weigh the same, but the muscle takes up a lot less volume. So if you burn fat and build muscle, you very well may weigh the same but there will be less of you. Rather than just worry about the scale, take other body measurements and notice how your clothes fit differently. Your body may be changing more than you think.

And remember the saying, "Rome wasn't built in a day." It took time to get into the shape that you're currently in, and it'll take time to get into the shape that you desire.

http://tksinclair.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/04/Fat-vs-Muscle.bmp

^^^^ THIS!!! Exactly!!! I'm glad you brought up the fact that 1 lb of muscle is the same as 1 lb of fat...it's the density and volume that make the difference!!! People always want to say, "well muscle weighs more than fat" and this is so wrong the way it is worded. The fat takes up a lot more space. In 30 days I lost absolutely no weight, but I lost 3.5 inches around my waist, 1.5 inches around my hips, 1 inch around my bicep, 1 inch around my chest, and 1 inch around my thigh....not to mention the 4.3% body fat I've lost in that 30 days. I'm almost done with my second set of 30 days and can't wait to see how many more inches I've lost. 4 lbs in 1 month is a great success....it's the healthy rate of weight loss that matters....not burning it all off in a matter of weeks/months. A long lasting, healthy body weight is what I'm going for!!!

emmag25

I felt that way until a friend pointed out to me - have you ever been in the supermarket and seen how big a 1lb of butter is? you have burned 4 times that amount of fat in just a month! It puts it into perspective!

bassanne

Sorry, but what is wrong with 1lb a week. Giving up shouldn't be a option.

Effster

You're doing fine. If it makes you feel any better, I'm trying to lose 10-15 pounds total and I haven't lost a pound this month. I would be ecstatic if i lost "4 lousy pounds" in one month. But I know it's harder to lose weight if one starts out closer to their goal weight, so I'm trying to switch stuff up through my diet and exercise regimen, to see if I can get the scale to budge. Good luck on your journey, and though it may not seem like it, you ARE getting results.

sevsmom

I Lost ZERO the first full month! And, it took me 1 year, not 6 months to reach my initial goal of losing 28 lbs. And, another 4 months to get to my current stats. But, I'm 40, 133 lb, I'm toned, I run races (5k-13.1) and I feel better than, well, ever.

None of that would've happened if I gave up.

4 pounds is 1 lb a week. That's WAY better than my first month.

My now 19 year old son, had a **miserable** freshman football year. Stupid coach only let him on the field for 6 plays TOTAL! I was at every game. I remember. He told me toward the end of the season he was thinking about dropping football altogether. I told him he certainly could do that, but he would never know if he could be successful under a different coach. If he quit, he would never have a chance to succeed. He had a fantastic JV season the next year and was a "star" player.

GIve up now, and you'll never know if you could have succeeded or not. You've made a start. Walk away now and you'll likely look and feel exactly the same a year from now. It's entirely your choice.

jordanreddick

First off, 4 pounds is a healthy good weight loss so you should be thrilled instead of beating yourself up.

Second, 7 months is going to go by either way. Would you rather be 30 pounds lighter in 7 months or be the same?

Stick with it. You'll feel better and reap the rewards.

THIS

Jaccyber

Do not give up. I have been doing this for a year and 3 months now and have averaged about 3 lbs per month. I have went from 240 to 200 in 1 year and now have platuead a bit but I am still working on strength training and cardio. For me it has been a lifestyle change and it is helping me feel better overall. My food choices are sooo much better as well. You can do it. Keep on going. Add me as a friend and we can cheer each other on. Congrats on your weight loss so far.

LAJONESS

I am down only a few pounds also in the last month. But just a day or two ago, it started coming off with results. Working out 5 days a week. Two with a trainer. It's been tough but just hang in there. It will pay off!

betteringmyselfeachday

if you really want to lose...

1) drink more water and nothing else! No coffee, no starbucks, no adult beverages, etc.
2) No fast food!
3) Lots of fresh fruit and veggies!
4) Lots of lean protein! Turkey burger, grilled chicken, etc.
5) work out a minimum of 20 minutes: walking, dancing, etc
6) Meet with friends over a walk as opposed to eating.
7) Eat 3 meals with snacks in between! Pack your lunch and snacks!
8) Prepare, prepare, prepare!! Go to the grocery store at the beginning of the week. Cut up all your veggies and fruits so they are readily available.

Lastly, don't give up! Put up motivation quotes EVERYWHERE! search for a weight loss simulator image so that you can see where you are now & quit as to where you are when you reach your goal!

Hang in there!

LadyIntrepid

I only had 13 pounds to lose and it took 8 months. AND -- I was working out like a fiend, tracking calories, etc., etc. When you don't have that much to lose, it can take a while (and probably even longer for me because I'm older -- soon to be 50). But it's been worth every ounce of effort. Keep in mind that committing to an overall healthier lifestyle has many many benefits other than pure weight loss. Also, I feel confident the weight will stay off now. Fast and furious when you don't have that much to lose can be a set-up for yo-yo dieting and weight gain, completely messing with your metabolism, and just feeling lousy later.

gaiareeves

People who lose 18lbs in a month usually have 100-odd lbs to lose in total.
4lbs is respectable.
If you're expecting super quick results, you're not gonna get anywhere.

To lose weight, and maintain that weight, you have to make a LIFESTYLE change, not embark on a diet that you then 'give up' once you've achieved the results you wanted, or because you can't be bothered to stick to it any more.

You have to make changes for life. If you're not prepared to do that, then you obviously don't want it bad enough, in which case, sure, give up.

If you do want it, then stop complaining and get on with it. 1lb a week is a pretty respectable loss for anybody.

mercymarque

Encourage her! Don't call her names. I didn't check your food log... You have to drink lots of water, really change your eating habits and exercise. You have to exercise 60 minutes just to maintain the weight you currenlty have. You don't have to go to the gym, you could walk briskly. Don't skip meals. Use lean meats, fruits and vegetables (fresh werer possible). Eat protein with every meal and smart snacks. You can find snacks that are 100 calories or less.

Don't give up, ur worth it! It's a life change not a diet.

ksun10

I have lost 8.6 pounds in about 8 weeks. A pound a week is nothing to be ashamed or discouraged over. This isnt a "quick fix." This is a LIFESTYLE CHANGE. The most important thing (even more so than the number on that scale) is how you feel. If you feel healthier, stronger, etc...then you have SUCCEEDED!!

missfelicia6

Everyone thanks for your advice (and even the people that cussed me out).

I didn't mention in the original post, getting into shape is a little time sensitive for me.

I have been TTC for 9 months now and I did, but then at 9 weeks I lost the pregnancy. The Dr. told me to get in shape NOW because the chances of getting pregnant after 35 years of age lessens.

So, there ya have it.

I'm just tryin to get in shape to carry a pregnancy to full term.