Would you be offended...

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  • glamouritz64
    glamouritz64 Posts: 85 Member
    I think it's a confidence thing.

    You feel more confident after losing weight and that's what they find attractive!
    ^^^^^^^^^
    Not THIS!
    No, we find a fit body more attractive than a fat, flabby body.
    Let's not try to make this the Oprah Winfrey show.

    OMG!!! I love how REAL you are!!! Sending you a friend request!!!! LMFAO!!!


    And, no...I wouldn't be offended. I've been the fat girl, and I'm now the fit girl (for the past 6 years). I don't want some dude who's butt-to-gut ratio is the same. (Or worse...he has more *kitten* in the FRONT than in the back!)

    So, I can understand when my mate found me more attractive when I became "thin" as opposed to when I was "thick" (ok, FAT). Hell...I found MYSELF more attractive when I lost a bunch of weight. Just saying!
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    Yeah...I don't know why it offends me but it does. Maybe because I feel he wouldn't love me as much if I put on weight, which disgusts me.

    He showed me a picture of Miranda Kerr, and I said "I think she's absolutely gorgeous" and he said "yeah but you're hotter because she's heavier than you". MIRANDA KERR of all people. So if I were to have the body of a supermodel that would STILL be too heavy for him to find attractive.

    I don't know why I got so offended but I did...
    He's showing you pictures of random women and rating your attractiveness compared to theirs, can't see why you'd be offended by that at all...
  • trb85
    trb85 Posts: 81 Member
    Love isn't the same thing as sexual attraction. That's some high school stuff right there.

    I wouldn't be too thrilled about banging me right now. I don't expect the hubby to be very gung ho about it either. I'm mopey. I don't like myself. I want lights off and under covers. Don't look at me. That kind of sex isn't fun.

    BUT I know that as I tone up and drop some pounds, I'm going to be more excited about my body. I'll feel less self-conscious and more willing to let go and have fun. I'll be smaller and more able to find sexytime dress up clothes, etc.

    While I want to get healthy, my main goal is to look good naked. I look okay in clothes right now; chubby, but okay. Naked is a totally different story. When I reach my goal, I WANT my hubby to be more attracted to me. I want to be more attracted to myself. I wanna look in the mirror and say "Man, I'd totally bang me!"
  • sheila569
    sheila569 Posts: 269 Member
    I think it's a confidence thing.

    You feel more confident after losing weight and that's what they find attractive!
    ^^^^^^^^^
    Not THIS!
    No, we find a fit body more attractive than a fat, flabby body.
    Let's not try to make this the Oprah Winfrey show.

    Love that your so honest. Sending you a friend request.
  • scruffykaz
    scruffykaz Posts: 317 Member
    I don't think I would because it is probably about more than the weight loss. There are a whole host of other things that come with weight loss: increased confidence, a greater interest in sex, dressing better etc so I think it is about more than the losing weight. It is about the change in attitude too. What can be more sexy than a confident you that loves and values herself and her body whatever her shape...
  • Bobby_Clerici
    Bobby_Clerici Posts: 1,828 Member
    I think it's a confidence thing.

    You feel more confident after losing weight and that's what they find attractive!
    ^^^^^^^^^
    Not THIS!
    No, we find a fit body more attractive than a fat, flabby body.
    Let's not try to make this the Oprah Winfrey show.

    OMG!!! I love how REAL you are!!! Sending you a friend request!!!! LMFAO!!!


    And, no...I wouldn't be offended. I've been the fat girl, and I'm now the fit girl (for the past 6 years). I don't want some dude who's butt-to-gut ratio is the same. (Or worse...he has more *kitten* in the FRONT than in the back!)

    So, I can understand when my mate found me more attractive when I became "thin" as opposed to when I was "thick" (ok, FAT). Hell...I found MYSELF more attractive when I lost a bunch of weight. Just saying!
    I am puzzled that people find simple attraction so hard a concept to grasp.
    Fit = beautuful
    Fat = not.....:flowerforyou:
    It's not meant to be unkind but to have the courage to hear and accept reality.
    Our best is always better than not our best.
    That's why we're here on MFP~!
  • ComicBookGeekGirl
    ComicBookGeekGirl Posts: 202
    I am puzzled that people find simple attraction so hard a concept to grasp.
    Fit = beautuful
    Fat = not.....:flowerforyou:
    It's not meant to be unkind but to have the courage to hear and accept reality.
    Our best is always better than not our best.
    That's why we're here on MFP~!
    Yes! Couldn't have said it better.
  • Darkskinned88
    Darkskinned88 Posts: 1,177 Member
    No, thats naive. I know personally i look better now than in January but to expect otherwise is just silly
  • TaintedVampyre
    TaintedVampyre Posts: 1,428 Member
    Yes and no.
    Yes because I thought I was pretty good looking "piece of real estate" in the first place. No, because I've worked hard to make myself look good, who else should appreciate it more than the person that you have been with for an extended period of time and developed a relationship with. Why can't the man (or woman) you love have an intense desire to want to smother you with extra affection?
  • MissShancey
    MissShancey Posts: 464
    I am puzzled that people find simple attraction so hard a concept to grasp.
    Fit = beautuful
    Fat = not.....:flowerforyou:
    It's not meant to be unkind but to have the courage to hear and accept reality.
    Our best is always better than not our best.
    That's why we're here on MFP~!
    Yes! Couldn't have said it better.


    im fat and beautiful... i want to get fit for my health not my looks...
  • Fieldsy
    Fieldsy Posts: 1,105 Member
    No

    I feel and look much better than I once did. Besides the physical aspect, I am more confident and happy. When you feel that way, its an attraction.

    If my wife gained a lot of weight, I wouldn't care at all. I married her because she is my best friend, and I couldn't imagine life without her.
  • GinaKurtz
    GinaKurtz Posts: 228 Member
    I go back and forth on this. The fat girl in me would have her feelings hurt. I should be loved no matter what size.

    But lets be honest- when you lose weight you feel better, LOOK better and have more confidence. What is not to love? I know that I would be more attracted to my husband at a fit state rather than an unhealthy state.

    I know my husband LOVES me through thick and thin (pun intended). If he doesn't find me more attractive when I lose more than I will be offended!!!!
    AMEN!

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