The crazy things people say when you are losing weight...
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"You're so lucky that you're in such great shape." No, I'm not lucky. Hitting the lottery is lucky. I have worked HARD to get in shape, and at my age (pushing 50), it's way harder than it ever was. I've never worked this hard in my life. But I'm doing it anyway because it's worth it.
This. No matter the age, being in shape is RARELY lucky. My 60 and 70 year old karate senseis will forever be able to kick my butt. I can't even manage to jog a full mile without stopping once, or do a full split and touch my head to the floor. When I saw my sensei do that, I was so in awe. XD0 -
The most irritating comment is "You don't have any weight to lose in the first place!"
Well, if that were the case I wouldn't have lost 6 pounds in the past month and a half, now would I?0 -
When I decided to finally stick to it and started dropping a lot of weight, my aunt who is also overweight would constantly ask me what kind of drugs I was taking to help me lose weight (and still asks me til this day). I can see her disbelief though up until 2 years ago I threw up at the thought of eating veggies (hated the taste and texture of almost all veggies), and fattening food was my life. After I dropped my first 30 - 40 lbs I woke up one day with a sudden craving for veggies and began eating all veggies in sight lol
Ah, the drug of good health and ambition. I like that drug too. Gets me all high. :drinker:0 -
I work in an office of all skinny people, they always want to know what diet i am trying - well first up until February of this year I was even trying any diet. second -I am on the HF&E diet (health food and exercise diet) so many fad diets out there they never know the difference.0
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What's wrong with someone saying "you used to be so big"?
If you felt the need to lose weight, then apparently you were overweight. You made the realization ,why can't they?0 -
when people say Whoa you look so effin s e x y now i say HMPFf...i was always S e x y.
FIZZGIGG!!that's my dogs name lol I love your pic...freaking awesome
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My Dad has a great line to use when people ask questions you don't want to answer...
"And why do you think you need to know that?"
or.. "What do you plan to do with this information if you get it?"
I haven't had the nerve to use it, but I admire that he does!0 -
when I lost 50 lbs 2 years ago a friend of mine asked if I was anorexic?.
at 5'6 and 145 lbs
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"So how are you losing weight? What's the secret?"
"Well... I eat better and I exercise." :indifferent:
"Hahahaha!!! No, really, what diet are you on? " :laugh:
...I wanted to flipdesk right there... :noway:
The other one: "Well, if I starved myself like you, I'd be skinny too."
...I can't help it if I get full off of not that much food. I also eat EVERY FREAKING THREE HOURS. I'm also not skinny. I can't help it if I live in a town where most of the people are obese, and I eat berries when other people are downing three helpings of pulled pork. =.=
...although I still love pulled pork...
We must live in the same town!! :laugh:0 -
Moxiecowgirl said:. . . But I'd rather experience a full, active life than repeat the feel of biting into a chocolate cake. I KNOW what that's like...I want new experiences!
Thank you, moxiecowgirl-- you just talked me out of giving in to that chocolate chunk cookie that's been calling to me all afternoon!
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One of my "friends" at the gym- "Oh I didn't recognize you from behind" ...um...thanks :ohwell:0
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No one has said much to me really lol. My mom says "well what you are doing seems to be working." The words "SEEMS" is what made me a bit annoys. No mom..it doesn't SEEM to be...it IS.0 -
Ah, the drug of good health and ambition. I like that drug too. Gets me all high. :drinker:
Lol this ^^^0 -
Thankfully, I haven't had too many people say crazy things since I started losing. I do have a coworker that has expressed that she's "so happy for me to be meeting my goals" but at the same time "hates that I'm getting so skinny and fabulous looking." Grr...
The worst thing that was ever said was what kicked my brain into "get this weight off NOW" mode-a nurse practitioner at my doc's office looked at me and asked if I had ever considered lap band surgery. Umm...have you ever considered what my foot upside your head would be like?! But in a way, I thank her for those words-I use them as motivation whenever I feel frustrated!
Some people really need a filter...0 -
everyone says that i look amazing and ask how did i manage to lose so much?? i reply that i started to exercise and watch every calorie that goes in my mouth....then they look horrifed and say..."oh i could never do that".....i think to myself....so, don't!!!.....
now my dad is worried about me tho and says that i'm getting too thin and that if i'm not careful i'm going to get anorexia......i assure him that there is no worry about that....seems i can't win tho because before i started MFP.....when i would visit he would take a look at me and say....mmmm....putting weight on again are we?????/lol......go figure!!!!!0 -
I don't like people asking me:
-"When are you going to stop? you look good as u are".... I look good cuz I have been dedicated to working out/eating healthy
Ooh, ooh, I get this. My conversation goes like this, though:
Them: When are you gonna quit losing weight?
Me: When I get back to my birth weight - 6 pounds, 11 ounces.
Them: Hhmmph. Well, I think you've lost enough.
Me: Hhmmph. That's because you haven't seen me nekkid (I know it's "naked." I'm from the south)0 -
I think the not recognizing you is so true, when are very big and I dont mean you personally, your face will look totally different to what it does when you can actually see the features of a face. I watched a tv program about a 43 stone man and you would never have known it was the shame man , when he lost the weight.I've lost alot of weight and the one thing that bugs me that alot of people say is "wow you look like a new person" or " I don't even recognize you".
This bugs me because I am still the SAME person I was....just smaller. I fight all the time to defend the girl I was before because people now think they can say things like "you were so unhealthy I was worried about you". Now they can say it to my face but couldn't before?
But you wouldn't believe what I have heard from people...it's so bizzare. Oh well it's not about them is it.0 -
When I lost 50lbs my boyfriends family was gushing over it, making me stand up and twirl you know the embarassing stuff...THEN his grandpa said "WOW SHE MUST HAVE BEEN A BIG GIRL"...really!!!!:huh:0
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lol this is what I get too, put it on your getting fat, take it off your starving, er not i eat way to much to starve lol.everyone says that i look amazing and ask how did i manage to lose so much?? i reply that i started to exercise and watch every calorie that goes in my mouth....then they look horrifed and say..."oh i could never do that".....i think to myself....so, don't!!!.....
now my dad is worried about me tho and says that i'm getting too thin and that if i'm not careful i'm going to get anorexia......i assure him that there is no worry about that....seems i can't win tho because before i started MFP.....when i would visit he would take a look at me and say....mmmm....putting weight on again are we?????/lol......go figure!!!!!0 -
I've had several people in my office ask me, "Geez how much more are you trying to lose!?" When I tell them they then act shocked like I shouldn't lose that much more. I'm basing my answer off of what I weighed when I was on swim team and in the best shape of my life! So I know it's a good goal weight 0
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I've noticed a few people begin to make excuses when I answer their question about how I did it. I just wanna say "look, I'm not trying to recruit you. Eat what you want to eat, and keep on watching TV all evening."
I guess I wouldn't make a great motivational speaker on weight loss. :laugh:0 -
I am a pretty well known political type figure where I live, and my weight over the years has been mentioned on a local blog in a not very nice kind of way. It seems to be the way some men attempt to belittle women they can't actually win a debate with. I got to read about my own weight loss the other day when I saw the comment that I "must be doing something, because she's not so fat anymore". It's going to be interesting to see what they manage to come up with once I hit my goal and they can't use the "fat" insult when they have nothing else to say.
My favorite one- My husband is an RC Aircraft hobbyist. I refer to his planes as helicopters as "The Girlfriends" because he spends so much money on them. He's been saving for a new plane, and when I teased him about it the other day, he told me I was going to have to find another word for them, because he HAS a new skinny girlfriend, and best of all, he married her a long time ago.. I love that man!0 -
"I liked you better when you were fatter than me." -very good friend
Um... Thanks? If our friendship hinges on that, I think we should see other people.
I am know as "this use to be my best friend until she got skinny", LOL umm I still have 40 pounds to go!0 -
I recently went through something similar with people making comments which were backhanded compliments, then it got to a point where people were saying things directly to try and make me feel bad about myself, like making a stinky cheese face and telling me none of my clothes fit, etc. Now if I don't want to open up a conversation or feel negative or attacking, and people are asking me questions I don't want to answer I just put the ball back in their court and say as innocently as I can-- "I don't know..why do you want to know?". If you don't feel comfortable doing that, just be honest and say its your personal journey and you prefer to keep it that way.
Seriously, weight loss is hard, harder than most things people will do in their life in my opinion--just because our bodies are viewable and people can see our changes as we lose weight doesn't mean that everything we are going through or trying to accomplish needs to be put on display just because someone wants to come up and bombard you with questions/observations or snide comments. Never allow people to make you feel uncomfortable or threatened, if you allow it you are giving them permission to continue treating you that way and nosing into your business. Just be polite and put it back on them or tell them you don't want to share, it's easier said than done but I've found that it really helps.
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The girls that work the front desk at 24s call me "skinny" every day I come in. At first it was cute &it was a nice compliment to know that they've noticed. I'm far from skinny &now I feel slightly embarrassed especially if there's a hot dude checking in next to me:blushing:
This one always gets me... "Damn, girl you look so good!" In my head I'm like wtf I always looked good hahahaha!!!0 -
When I've previously lost weight, my mom was like "Are you on drugs?". I told her "Yeah mom... I'm takin these protein supplements!"... She stopped eventually. Then she started worrying about whether I was eating enough (I was a starving student) :laugh:
This time around I haven't really lost that much yet, but I've been asked three times if I'm bulking and give me funny looks when I tell them I'm doing the opposite. They just think I'm bulking because I'm starting to get some muscle definition again!0 -
When I tell people I started working out, they ask what I'm doing... when I tell them, they say oh that's too much... you need to be careful and do this... or this worked for me when I was losing weight...0
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I think one of the things I'm not prepared for is getting attention from people who would never have looked twice at my heavy self.
this. after a lifetime of being overweight, i'm almost halfway to where i want to be, and i've just now reached the point where strange men treat me as human when i'm out and about...you know, they look, they hold doors, they meet my eyes.
i find it a little creepy. but i guess it's normal? i hit this weight at the beginning of the year, before gaining a few pounds back, and at one point i told my boyfriend (now fiancé lol) that he had better put a ring on my finger or i was going to start wearing one so guys would stop hitting on me. (they weren't, a lot, but often enough that i was totally uncomfortable, because i've never had to deal with that.)0 -
They ask what I am doing to lose weight
I tell them I found this website
They wanna know all about it... until...
I tell them I have to log all the food I eat.
"Oh I don't have time for that" they loose interest
Did they think you could loose weight just going to a website?
And not doing anything?
and be on that website for like 30 seconds (cos it only takes a minute or two to log)
and it would like suck the fat from you??
weird XD0 -
Love. Love thisI did plan to have surgery, and I'm on a pre-op diet that's going so well that I may not qualify by the time my surgery date rolls around. I'm usually a super open person who doesn't mind answering questions honestly, as long as the person asking doesn't make me feel like a freak show.
I'll tell you the ones that get to me, though:
(Not a question, but a comment) "I don't see why you think you need to lose so much. You're not fat." Bless your heart...I DO own a mirror. I'm just fat, not blind or stupid.
"How much weight do you want to lose?" and when I tell them "oh...are you sure? That's going to be way too much. I think you should aim for (insert arbitrary number here)." Yeah, I don't remember your occupying a seat in the surgeon's office when we set my weight goals. Trust me, I've done my research. I know what a healthy weight is for me.
"Oh, that surgery will never work. My hamster's cousin's uncle's best friend's neighbor had that, and now she weighs 8 million pounds and needs a crane to use the bathroom. Have you tried (insert fad diet of the moment here)?" Why yes...yes I have. A few times. And guess what? It didn't work for me.
"Aren't you afraid you're going to die?" Well yes, as a matter of fact I am. That's why I'm doing something about my weight. I'd rather die knowing I made an attempt than die even more quickly from a preventable illness. P.S. We all die from SOMETHING...I just prefer that my weight not be that something.
And my favorite:
"Isn't it haaaaaaard (they always draw it out like that) switching your diet all up like that?" Yup, you bet it is. It's even harder lugging my extra-wide butt around, and watching my loved ones enjoy things I know I can't do. I promise you, I'm not likely to expire from the effort of eating better. Maybe you should try it, too.
Oh wait...one more...
"Don't you miss chocolate cake/ice cream/double cheeseburgers with extra lard and mayo?" Well, not until you said THAT! (except the double cheeseburger...I hate cheeseburgers and always have) But I'd rather experience a full, active life than repeat the feel of biting into a chocolate cake. I KNOW what that's like...I want new experiences!
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