Who should pay when dating? men/women/both
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For the guys who say they'll always pay for the 1st date, do you hope for the girl to at the least still make the "reach" for their wallet to make it appear that they'll pay for their half of the meal?0
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With my wife when we were dating she mostly paid because I was in a strict free collage and didn't have time to work to earn money. During the summer when I could work I paid for a little more than her. After I graduated we had a baby on the way and she quit work not to soon before the birth. I had a job then and could support our family now I get to pay. The first few dates I paid so she'd know it was dates ; )
So I go with whoever at the time is in a better situation to pay.0 -
My husband (then boyfriend) paid the first few times we went out, but after we officially became a "couple" we started switching off. I would pay one time, he'd pay the next, and so forth. I don't think I could handle being with someone who paid all the time. I'd feel inferior or something, lol.
We do that as well. When we were dating he paid for everything and when we became an "official" couple we would switch who pays. I'd take him out to dinner and he takes me to the movies, or vice versa. I think it's a nice way for both of us to have that opportunity of treating the other out.0 -
I always go in with the expectation of paying for my own meal/drinks.
But I don't date women so it's a little different.
This is something I wondered about?!!? When it's two men do you just pay for your own stuff or take turns paying?0 -
i like to pay in the beginning but after a while it becomes more of a trade off. if i learn that she makes a lot less than me i will tend to pay the majority of the time. same with friends who make less than me. if we are out ill pick up their tabs.
it hasnt happened in a long time but if i get the impression she thinks i should always pay then i know this wont be a long term thing.0 -
I have always paid for the 1st date and then expect to take turns paying or spliting 50/50, if she expects me to pay every single time 100% she can get lost0
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For the guys who say they'll always pay for the 1st date, do you hope for the girl to at the least still make the "reach" for their wallet to make it appear that they'll pay for their half of the meal?
Yea I do, I will actually hold off a little on grabing my wallet to see if she will. Always a very good sign in my eyes if she makes the attempt.0 -
No fence riding for me. The man pays.
It's been so long since I dated, but if I offered to take someone out for dinner and I chose the restaurant, then I'd pay, and we'd usually share rounds on any pre/post-dinner drinks.
If we met for a drink and decided to go out for a meal, then we'd split the bill.
It's a total nonsense for a woman to expect a man to pay for everything on a date, especially in this day and age when we're supposed to have equality and in some cases a woman may earn far more than a man.
I guess being gay it's more or a level playing field, but I would never have gone on a date with the assumption that everything was going to be paid for!
(Your last sentence is not clear to me...what did you mean?)
Well, to begin with, I am raising 5 children and homeschooling...that's enough of a job for me. I'm not really pro-dating in the sense many people see dating anyway. I'm more inclined to just be around that person in a relevant activity (more often a group activity such as school, career, social, event, etc) than on a "date." I want to see what he's about, if he's establishing himself life...if he has good character, good friendships, if our goals match. And I want him to be a good provider! We won't be 50/50 in everything, but we will be complimentary...like puzzle pieces fitting together.0 -
This is a hard one for me, because when my boyfriend and I first started dating I always paid. We we're young and my job paid more than his.We would discuss it beforehand but always found I would have enough money to pay and he wouldn't.
Now a few years later his job pays the same as mine and so he pays 100% of the time. I'm not even afraid if I don't bring my bank card with me. I don't feel guilty when he pays however, I don't get mad if he asks me to pay. It's about communicating and I think if your enjoying youself then who cares, money comes and goes0 -
Im a person who belongs in the 50s and 60s and I prefer to pay the way as a gentleman, although, most girls I know are very independent and pride themselfs on paying their way making it akward for chaps like me lol0
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Just a purely curious topic.
When you are dating someone (not the first date) who do you think should pay? Men 100% of the time, or is it ok to go 50/50?
I have been in both situations and not sure which one I prefer. I have been with a man who NEVER let me pay and overtime I felt bad becuase I wasn't dating him for a 'free ride'. I have also been with a man who paid the first date but after that I offered to share the bill and it became the norm -- or one paid the movie, one paid dinner, etc. This is totally ok for me, but once in awhile I think it would be nice for them to reject me and pay...
I realize men like to 'take care' of women, so does going dutch offend men?
So just curious on thoughts!!
MY RULES :
he asks me somewhere, he should pay (unless it's really exspensive, then I will help)
I ask him somewhere, I SHOULD PAY
if we both want to go somewhere/do something mutually, then going dutch isn't a problem
if he insists on paying ... well, we'll see how it turns out haha0 -
50/500
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I'm a 50/50 kinda girl.
However, I think it's nice to take someone out to treat them once in awhile. This goes for both sides.0 -
How Sweet. This made me smile. And I agree.The man does. Even after 20 years of marriage (finances are commingled) , my husband always "picks up the check" and I always "thank him" for dinner when we eat out. :flowerforyou:0
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How Sweet. This made me smile. And I agree.The man does. Even after 20 years of marriage (finances are commingled) , my husband always "picks up the check" and I always "thank him" for dinner when we eat out. :flowerforyou:
This made me smile too!0 -
Very good answers... I am much more comfortable being a 50/50 girl, so this made me feel better about it0
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Me and my boyfriend split the paying. He pays every other time except on anniversaries and birthdays0
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BOTH0
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your mom.0
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The man should pay.0
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