Does your SO CARE how much you weigh?

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  • _Sara_A_
    _Sara_A_ Posts: 113 Member
    My SO does know how much I weight, but he didn't know for the longest time, because I wouldn't tell him. When he happened to catch me on the scale and saw how much I weighed his reaction was really?! He met me when I was overweight, he's never known me as skinny. He'd prefer if I lost weight, but isn't going to leave just because I'm the size I am. On that being said, he also encourages me to lose weight and asks what he can do to help me. He'd be happy if I only lost 60lbs, a small percentage of what I need to lose.
  • mikeelbr
    mikeelbr Posts: 1
    Alley. Shocked to see your face here. Yea buddy. Keep up the weight loss journey. Nice pics on FB the other day.
  • ChitownFoodie
    ChitownFoodie Posts: 1,562 Member
    Mine knows and doesn't care as long as I don't go under 95 pounds.
  • alleycat88
    alleycat88 Posts: 756 Member
    MIKEEEEEE!

    WTF! <3 I'm doing what you told me, trucking along and getting my butt moving!
  • starbucksbuzz
    starbucksbuzz Posts: 466 Member
    No, he really doesn't care. He says if I ever gain weight it will be "more cushion for the pushin'." haha. That said he's very supportive of me working towards my goals, especially since he's an MFPer now too. :)
  • Josie_lifting_cats
    Josie_lifting_cats Posts: 949 Member
    My husband is constantly sneaking peeks at the scale when I'm on it. I've gotten to the point that I don't weigh myself when he's around because it's kind of intimidating.
  • LPCoder
    LPCoder Posts: 404 Member
    Oc course my SO knows how much I weigh and he cares, in a good way. He knows my goals and he supports me unconditionally. He was just as concerned about how my weight was effecting my health as I was. A year ago, we discussed my health, I found a good weight loss doctor and started to lose weight. I also shared my goals with my BFF. With my SO and BFF both supporting me, I have lost 50 pounds so far.
  • trishgrace
    trishgrace Posts: 279 Member
    Yes he knows. No he doesn't care. He loved me at 330 and he loves me now at 280 and he will love me as I (hopefully) continue to get smaller.
  • KSea77
    KSea77 Posts: 119 Member
    I don't think my current SO cares. He will ask if I went to the gym today only because its part of my routine when I close at work. He's never asked how much I weigh.
  • miss_ally08
    miss_ally08 Posts: 167 Member
    My husband THINKS he knows what I weigh but he thinks I weigh less than I actually do - good or bad, I don't know. That being said, he doesn't care about the number as he does whether or not I'm healthy. He's a US Marine so by default he wants his wife to look good but most importantly be healthy and confident with myself. He knows I struggle with my weight so he doesn't push me about it, I do all my dieting and working out on my own and he's very proud of me as I am of myself :)
  • Rosa1213
    Rosa1213 Posts: 456 Member
    I don't think he cares, but he always makes sure to pretend to care for me :)

    I always expect an impressed "ooh" and a lengthy romantic kiss when I inform him of another loss. In truth, he probably doesn't give a crap, but he knows it's important to me.
  • FitBunnyEm
    FitBunnyEm Posts: 320
    he doesnt care and it doesnt come up in conversation so i dont need to lie...he doesnt care as long as im not the size of a house...lol
  • suemar74
    suemar74 Posts: 447 Member
    I'm pretty sure mine cares because when I weighed less, I asked him if he would still love me if I was heavy, and he said yes, but he wouldn't be as happy.

    Now that the honeymoon is over, and I'm heavier, I really don't care if my weight makes him happy or not, and I'm pretty sure I have him too scared to honestly say...as it should be :)



    *edited for a typo that would annoy the piss out of me just knowing it was there.
  • Mandykinz2008
    Mandykinz2008 Posts: 292 Member
    My SO doesn't know or care. He likes the way I look and that's what matters in his eyes..so he's never even asked. Thank GOD I live in Texas so it's not on my drivers license..so life is good lol
  • Bmontgomery613
    Bmontgomery613 Posts: 200 Member
    My husband knows exactly what I weigh (I told him this morning, lol) and he couldn't give a fig. He told me I was beautiful 40lbs ago and he tells me how hot I am now. We're on this journey together and we're doing our best to support each other. Having said that, he probably wouldn't be my husband if he did care what I weighed. Sure I want him to be proud and gloat about having the 'hot wife', but if there were an 'acceptable weight requirement' that I would have had to meet, I wouldn't have stuck around.
  • Im_NotPerfect
    Im_NotPerfect Posts: 2,181 Member
    Nope he doesn't care. He doesn't put much stock in the scale. Plus to look at me, you'd never guess I weight 200 lbs. He loves me either way.
  • senyosmom
    senyosmom Posts: 613 Member
    My husband does not know my weight.... but should he ask I would tell him. I dont think he cares about the number itself at all but does care about my health in general. He is very supportive when I need him to be ---- and knows when and when not to push.
  • redscylla
    redscylla Posts: 211 Member
    My ex-husband cared a great deal about what I weighed. And he was convinced if I would just follow his advice, etc. that I could be as slender as he thought I should be. This is one of the reasons he became my ex.
  • minkakross
    minkakross Posts: 687 Member
    he knows how much I weigh, but weight has never been an important part of our relationship. He is supportive of my loss thus far and thinks I've set a realistic goal weight. When he compliments me he is always good about noticing and commenting that I smile more and that it makes me happy to reach a new goal. He notices and comments that I have more energy and I seem to be able to do more of the things I want to do without restriction as opposed to just noticing that I'm wearing a smaller size jeans or being focused on the numbers, and this is just one of the many reasons I love him.
  • Jaccyber
    Jaccyber Posts: 620 Member
    No... and actually she told me "now that you are skinnier there is less of you to hug" which is so cute. I love my bride dearly.:happy:
  • livinginwoods
    livinginwoods Posts: 562 Member
    Not at all. He just wants me to be healthy at any number.
  • GaidenJade
    GaidenJade Posts: 171
    My husband knows how much I weigh. And he doesn't even care. He loves women with curves, who are strong. He's also a booty guy so he's sort of sad that mine is starting to melt away,:tongue: but he has been so supportive of my journey. AS long as I am doing it for my health, he says, then he will be there for me. He's big on not dieting to be Hollywood skinny. He hates the stereotype that makes beauty into a small box you have to diet constantly for. Which I totally agree with.

    So in short. My SO is a peach and I love him for it. (Now if I could get him to take care of his health, we'd be set. lol)
  • Squeeks70
    Squeeks70 Posts: 157 Member
    I tell him how much I weigh several times a week.....now that I am smaller....haaa...when I was at my biggest (174 lbs) he thought I was around '150ish'. I just let him believe that! LOL Seriously, he loves me for me not my weight.
  • lauren3382
    lauren3382 Posts: 372 Member
    My husband does not care. He just wants to like what he sees and he does not tie that to a number. Now, he is very supportive of my fitness goals and the fact that I'm bulking a bit right now doesn't bother him at all.
  • classictoaster
    classictoaster Posts: 197
    In the sense that he judges me for my weight - not at all. When I started trying to lose weight, he kept telling me that I didn't need to, because I was "beautiful the way I was". I had to explain to him why I wanted to do this, and how determined I am to reach my goal, and he finally got on board with me and has been supportive ever since.

    However, while it wasn't what I wanted to hear (or really still want to hear), it was nice knowing that he didn't expect some sort of change out of me, and that he liked me and my body the way it was.
  • KissandraAna
    KissandraAna Posts: 9
    He says he wouldnt care if i weighed 400 lbs, but we'll just see about that when i lose more weight lol.




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  • AnitaVolpato
    AnitaVolpato Posts: 204 Member
    I weigh like 15 lbs more than my husband and it really shows because he is almost a foot taller. He knows how much I weigh and he doesn't care.... It's whatever I want.. If I lose it I lose it, If I don't I don't.. but I am going too because I don't like the way it looks... :)
  • thistimeismytime
    thistimeismytime Posts: 711 Member
    He told me I was beautiful and had his hands all over me constantly, even when I was pregnant, and when I was at my heaviest post-pregnancy weight. I am getting back in shape for myself, and yes, he IS proud of me, but I think it's because I've worked so hard. He doesn't know what I weigh, and I can't imagine why he would care. Our relationship is not based on looks or fitness goals. It's based on mutual respect, commitment, shared values, and a deep, abiding love.
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    *edited* Oops, wrong response in the wrong thread.. :)

    No, he doesn't really care. He used to point out extremely large women and say he hopes I never let myself go "that" much but truthfully, at my heaviest, I wasn't much smaller than some of those women he pointed out - he just didn't see it because he loves me. I was heavy when we met and was heavy when we married. He's proud of me for my weight loss but it doesn't matter to him either way, as long as I'm there and we're happy with each other.
  • paintlisapurple
    paintlisapurple Posts: 982 Member
    He has always told me that I look good to him and that he loves me, even before I lost any weight he would guess my weight at about 150-60. Of course being together I could see when he was attracted to someone (he was an ogler) it would be the complete opposite of me. They were all tiny. I'm 5'6" and I have a sturdy build with an hourglass shape. Not huge, or even overly flabby, but these dang thighs aaaaack!

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