Called fat by a stranger.
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Yes, I've been called fat by many strangers. I think fast food is the worst place to work when you are fat. I've heard...
"You must eat here a lot"
"I would ask if you were pregnant, but you're fat all over"
"I see what my friend means when she says McDonald's makes you fat"
"Go eat a salad, fat a**" (a disgruntled customer)
"You must work a lot. Like, enough to never see a treadmill"
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Aww that's sad, I really do feel bad for you. When I first started my weight loss journey, I did Weight Watchers. I lost 40 pounds and met my goal. The problem is that I went to the "at work" meetings so everyone in my office knew I was attending and even though I met goal, some people still referred to me as "having a weight problem". This hurt my feelings! I worked my @$$ off reaching goal, yet I still had a "weight problem"? You really can't fix stupid!0
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Welcome to my life. I've been fat since puberty, guys used to ask me out as a joke and then laugh, "yeah, like we'd want a fat **** like you!" Or in middle school they'd refer to me as a monster and taunt me until I cried at my desk. Eventually I'd snap and hit them, then I'M the one in trouble. Although, now they are fatter than I ever was so I guess karma took care of them eh?
My grandma used to say, "I wish you'd lose weight so you can get a good boyfriend." well, after getting halfway to my goal to lose 100 pounds, I got a good boyfriend. So I guess I didn't even need to finish first to accomplish that. :laugh:0 -
Elf Princess said:," really? Is that the best insult you can come up with?! Your parents were brother and sister, weren't they?"
I think you are my new hero! :laugh:0 -
I had the same thing happen to me, one day while walking a group of guys drove past and yelled out something about me being fat and i should get back on the treadmill cause they dont want to see that s*** (i dont remember exactly now as it was about 2 years ago) after that, i stopped walking. Don't do what I did and let it get to you, use it as motivation to keep going and reach your goal. Only recently have I just started walking again, but now I walk in a secluded bush area, where no cars go past and the only other people you see are other walkers/runners.0
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Maybe you scared the heck out of the brat and he'll think twice before saying something like that to a stranger.
My Significant Other was driving through our neighborhood when he got flipped off by a little boy. My SO pulled over and told the little guy's dad who was standing nearby. The dad laughed. Disgusting! :noway:0 -
I am so sorry that happened to you!
A lot of kids are little ****s not a days...
Nothing weight related, but I was walking my dog around the park track and these little kids were around the play ground, the youngest of them, no older than 11, was telling, "You got a nice ***** there!"
Really? REALLY? ARE YOU THAT FRIKKEN COOL? How clever that you know a female dog is called a '*****.' :explode:0 -
No BUT, when I was at school a class mate sat next to me and said "I like a girl with a bit of beef"
Oh actually I kind of did get called fat once while I was in line for a bar. Conversation went:
Stranger: Do you have ID on you?
Me: Yes, what's it to you?
Stranger: You look 12.
Me: Would a 12 year old have tits like this?
Stranger: Well you are a big girl!
I never wore that top in public again!!!0 -
Reminds me a bit of when a friend's little sister thought I was pregnant for 6 years.
That aside, I've been called a variety of names by strangers due to my weight. The weirdest was when I got out of the car in a parking lot, this guy was parked next to me and the minute he saw me he started calling me all sorts of names. From inside his truck. Wasn't even man enough to be outside his protection zone.
Kids like that, though, they mouth off to just mouth off. I went to high school with guys like that, who think they can run their mouths and you're supposed to take it because of whatever reason. I remember once a guy was trying to get my attention in the hall by saying, "say, girl" as though I was the only female in the hall at the moment. When I kept ignoring him he got louder until he caught up with me and started cursing me out for not hearing him. I told him, "oh I heard you, but guess what? I have a name. If you want my attention, you'll use it. If you don't know my name, then address me as "miss" not "girl" because while I may be under 18, I certainly didn't come out of my momma yesterday." He got ticked, but whatever. You can think you're slick, bad-***, or gangsta all you want but it doesn't mean you are. Same way that just because your license says you're an adult doesn't mean you really are one.
Shallow passers-by are things to shrug off. It's when they get in your face and won't leave you alone that it becomes a problem. You can hate that I'm fat, you can find me ugly, but the minute you decide to get on a soapbox is when you just showed me yeah I may be bigger than you but I have more manners than you as well.0 -
I agree that those kids were incredibly horrible, but I think that if you raise your kids right with morals and have a happy family then you can have well mannered children.
Don't listen to them, you know that you are working hard and seeing progress, don't let a dumb 12 year old boy judge you. I for one and impressed that you lost 23 lbs, that is a real milestone. Keep up the good work and stay positive!
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Well that is just too bad, I would have turned around and asked him if he kisses his momma with that mouth, then tell him you should be ashamed I bet your mommas breath smells just like *kitten* considering what just came out of your mouth...And then just kept walking...Well, you keep up the good work, there's one thing in fact, you at least have a goal, he doesn't even have a clue..0
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I hate when ppl do that...Ive had my sister in law call me fat and other things that commented on my body...what a *****0
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Chin up buttercup. I know it's easier said than done to just let things slide and yes a lot of kids these days aren't raised properly but focus that anger you felt on your work out You're beautiful and doing something to better your life and that kid has a rude awakening coming at some point in his future. 0
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Sorry it happened. There are 8 billion people in the world. Don't let 1 ruin your day. :flowerforyou: We're here. We care.0
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That sucks, I'm sorry. A lot of people on here got it right. It's the parents, not the child.
I have two kids, my eldest just starting to get to the age, 7, where she realizes people are different from her. She seems to be very color blind which is not the case for some of the kids around her. She does notice size though and what seems to get her is not their outside but their inside. She's really worried about health. Her grandmother is 5'2 and probably over 400lbs. You can tell it upsets her when her grandmother can't get off the couch but is eating candy and soda which in her own words is a 'sometimes' food. She sees how hard I'm working to be healthy and I can tell she's excited and she's one of my biggest cheerleaders.
Honestly, I think the only cuss words my daughter knows is damn and hell. And she's been told that she can only use them whens he understands what they mean. lol A while back ago she was standing by a door and it swung open all dramatically and it scared her. lol She went 'WHAT THE HELL' and she instantly apologized. I told her that it was okay and that at least she said it correctly but should not use that language unless it's the right times.
All you can do is keep doing what you're doing and keep in mind that you're the adult and you can do things they've never dreamed of.0 -
U should of took his bike
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The same thing happened to me when I was 14. My sister and I were walking to the store and two very cute boys in a nice car yelled out to me "hey dont even look at me you fat pig!" It is still something that stings. I wish I would of stood up for myself like you did. I still get nervous everytime I see teenaged boys and Im 26! Im proud of you!
I am terrified of kids ages 11-20. I had a horrible childhood full of being made fun of for weight and other issues. I'm 23 and still afraid of all of them. My own nieces scare the crap out of me.0 -
Just burn some calories at the same time as banging their heads together =D
10 or 12, if they are going to be disrespectfull, I will show them it's not ok, and they won't forget it.0 -
The same thing happened to me when I was 14. My sister and I were walking to the store and two very cute boys in a nice car yelled out to me "hey dont even look at me you fat pig!" It is still something that stings. I wish I would of stood up for myself like you did. I still get nervous everytime I see teenaged boys and Im 26! Im proud of you!
I am terrified of kids ages 11-20. I had a horrible childhood full of being made fun of for weight and other issues. I'm 23 and still afraid of all of them. My own nieces scare the crap out of me.
My cousins are ages 12-19. They still scare me too. I dislike teenagers after what I've gone through. >.<0 -
Awww, I really like this quote!!Sorry it happened. There are 8 billion people in the world. Don't let 1 ruin your day. :flowerforyou: We're here. We care.
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Please don't let this deter you from having kids. Those kids are a holes in large part because of their parents or really the lack of parenting. Children can be molded and shaped into what you raise them to be. If you raise them to be respectful and considerate, kind and loving than they will be all those things. Feel sorry for those kids at the park. They probably have a horrible home life and won't amount to much.0
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Kids in high school (I graduated recently) used to oink at me, moo at me, call me Shamu...my friends were worse, though. Even though I weighed less than all of them, they were constantly at my throat for being fat.0
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I was called a f******* fat b***** by my then husband's girlfriend (long, sordid story that ended happily in a divorce). It was hurtful in a way, but I considered the source. Even my then husband told me the same thing. Again, I considered the source.
I'm glad you stood up for yourself with them. I don't think many people do that nowadays. Children can be evil, but you can stop them before they get too far.
As for the hurtful part, consider the source. As with my now ex-husband and the girlfriend he broke up with four months after we separated, they got what they deserved in the end.
Keep your chin up and keep showing that fantastic smile!0 -
Just tell him that you can't fix stupid. I have been called fat so many times to my face that I have lost count. It's gotten to the point when someone calls me fat I just say," really? Is that the best insult you can come up with?! Your parents were brother and sister, weren't they?"
^^^5 this Elf Princess0 -
I have never had a stranger call me fat, but my boss in my first 'professional' job used to regularly call me Pillsbury (I had to ask him what he meant as I'm in Australia and wasn't familiar with the reference). He had absolutely no issue in telling me his nickname was 'from the Dough Boy - you know, 'cause your fat'.0
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I hate to break it to you, but things have NOT changed. I got called fat all the time growing up, and I'm older than you by almost a decade, and I would bet that someone here older than I am had the same experience. There always have been, and always will be kids who are jerks, just like there will always be adults who are jerks. That's just life.0
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I used to get called fat all the time at my higher weights. Of course, in high school....this one kid who was short but quite a jerk called me a fat a** and I told him "yeah but at least I don't have to sit on my backpack to drive my a** home!" and one time in the grocery store I had a huge cart full of groceries and some chick was with her bf and said "I bet she's going to go home and eat that whole cart." It's really sad and I hate thinking about it. I'm sorry those kids made those comments. Just goes to show you how much some parents care to teach their kids good manners and respect. I'm glad you stood up for yourself, lette.0
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Coulda told him at least your butt holds your britches up
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I'm glad you called them on it though. Bet they didn't see that coming. My Mom use to tell me that I am beautiful inside and out no matter what they say and I can lose the weight if I want but they are ugly inside and out and will always be no matter what they do physically. They learn this attitude from their parents. BTW- the kids that made fun of me in middle school, are bigger than me now and did not age well. Karma sucks.0
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I'm sorry you had to go through that.
But I can guarantee that kid will watch what he says from now on.0
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