can you date your brothers ex wife

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  • bluefox9er
    bluefox9er Posts: 2,917 Member
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    this is a great thread..I wasn't expecting such a gem , especially in the same week as someone starting the " how do you do a number 2 in a public bathroom".

    Mfp forums leave sane people simply speechless.
  • GreatSetOfBrains
    GreatSetOfBrains Posts: 675 Member
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    I sent you a nice message, I'd still say no lol
  • jrlja5
    jrlja5 Posts: 59
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    whaaaaat?
  • becoming_a_new_me
    becoming_a_new_me Posts: 1,860 Member
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    Your brother is a douche and your family thinks it's cool. I don't see a problem here...just take it slow and don't try to force the relationship. If it happens, it happens...if not, then at least you can provide your nephew with a positive male role model.
  • JuneBPrice
    JuneBPrice Posts: 294 Member
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    Well, it works on Justified, so...
  • PlanetVelma
    PlanetVelma Posts: 1,231 Member
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    This is a definite no fly zone IMO.
  • markymarrkk
    markymarrkk Posts: 495 Member
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    FCCK NO !! you can bang her once though, but both of you have to be shtt faced drunk and barely remember it, than maybe, just maybe it can be forgiveable
  • LinaBo
    LinaBo Posts: 342 Member
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    No. No no no no no. It's just gross to go where your brother has already been, man. Socially, it's just waaaaaay too taboo, and if it goes wrong you're just screwing over the ties between the rest of your family and your nephew even more. Don't make the kid's life any more complicated than it already is; his dad is already a deadbeat; he doesn't need his mother shtupping his deadbeat dad's brother, and then potentially having fallout from that if it doesn't work out.

    To me, this is similar to situations like getting involved with a first cousin, or long lost siblings having a romantic relationship (because both of these things have been known to happen). I mean, look at those two examples with these circumstances: first cousins having kids doesn't carry much of an increased risk of genetic defects, and what if the two long lost siblings are permanently sterilized and unable to reproduce? Does it make either situation okay? I don't think so. It makes things really awkward between the participating parties' extended family, not to mention the incredible stigma from the general public.

    Your feelings for your ex-SIL will pass, in time, especially if you get her off your mind by meeting some new women who aren't/weren't related to you by blood or marriage.
  • Kathy53925
    Kathy53925 Posts: 241 Member
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    Normally, I would absolutely no-freaking-way but your brother sounds like like a horrible person. He doesn't see his child and doesn't pay child support, what a winner. I think these non-actions void his opinion. Tread with caution though, you could end up on Jerry Springer.


    I agree with this one and that kid needs a father figure! If you hit it off, go for it. Your brother is a complete *kitten* for dumping his child!
  • Kathy53925
    Kathy53925 Posts: 241 Member
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    Everything happens for a reason. Looking to sleep together... not a good reason! Finding a loving, committed relationship with friendship and stability... there's a good reason. Try to figure out which motives you have for considering checking out a relationship with you ex sister in law and then you will know if you should be heading into relationship potential together. Another words~ only for the right reasons like; if it's truly meant to be. Stability will be good for your nephew but a rocky relationship between his uncle and mom wouldn't be. Figure this part out first. My best advice without knowing any of you.

    Yes!
  • hockeymama1963
    hockeymama1963 Posts: 45 Member
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    I say go for it! She sounds great and this time on earth is so short to be miserable
  • april522
    april522 Posts: 388 Member
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    I find it interesting that so many people are focused mainly on the fact that your relationship to the child wouldn't fit a certain label.
    This!
  • RitaSantoss
    RitaSantoss Posts: 986 Member
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    Personally I think that just isn't appropriate, and besides the fact that she was your brother's wife and all, they also have a child together. For the child that would be so hard to explain that his uncle is now dating his mom. It's a very complex thing for anyone to understand. So if she is not going to be the love of your life, then you should just let it go.
  • bjerkins
    bjerkins Posts: 107 Member
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    Uncle Step Daddy? Maybe not.
  • JLWesterlund
    JLWesterlund Posts: 23 Member
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    There is no way this story can have a good ending. The poor son/nephew will suffer the most!! My advise is to scrub this woman from your mind and move on. Find someone who hasn't given birth to one of your relatives.
  • RCKT82
    RCKT82 Posts: 409 Member
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    "This is my uncle... Wait, no, my step-dad... wait, no, my uncle..."

    EXACTLY! The focus needs to be on the kid! he's the one that has to deal with the consequences of your and his mother's choice... forget about everything else. Could you imagine yourself in his shoes?
  • LJ728
    LJ728 Posts: 52 Member
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    Two words - 'Uncle Daddy'


    HAHAHA! exactly!!!! :laugh:
  • caraiselite
    caraiselite Posts: 2,631 Member
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    she hot? i'd probably do it.
  • chrisrivers3517
    chrisrivers3517 Posts: 3
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    I'm kinda in the same situation right now. I'm seeing my brothers ex. I wanna tell him but I cant rte. now.
    Yea, she is awesome. Feel bad for what he lost. Its been 20 years or more now. All of my friend know whats going on.
    Maybe even some of his. We are both in the same state of mind. Its been 20 years. We had no children. Never the less, I have always liked her. even when they were togeather, But nothing ever happened. You just know. I lost her when he lost her until recently when I ran into her. Now you know were we sit. Same as you. I'm going for it though. Best of luck to you...
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
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    WOWWW!!! HOLY ZOMBIE THREAD!!!!

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

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