I absolutely HATE dieting/exercise...
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SaltWarrior - That's probably the most inspirational thing I've ever read. Thank you for posting. Truly.
It is my experience, strength, and hope. I still eat for pleasure but maybe only once per week. The rest of the time I am eating for fuel. It may not taste good but I choke it down and go to the gym.0 -
I have no one to do these things with. Which is depressing and UN motivating.
Have you considered taking a class so you can meet people who exercise?0 -
As harsh as it sounds, if you feel like that you are probably going to fail. Being in the right place psychologically is one of the most important parts to sticking to a diet/exercise regime and if you are just feeling like you hate it all the time then you will find excuses not to exercise and to go off track with your food.
I don't generally enjoy exercise but I've been doing 30DS and now Ripped in 30 and find them perfect for me because its only 20 mins a day, and because I can see and feel the results. I'm only 9lbs down since 3rd June but I am so much more toned and I actually have arm muscles now!! Plus doing that exercise means I can have a little bit more food and fit treats in.
If you love steak then have it, just have it with salad or vegetables not unhealthy sides like fries. Have treats you like, just have less of them. Eating healthier doesn't mean you have to give everything you like up, you just have to think about what else you are having and weigh up whether its worth having a lower calorie lunch/dinner or doing some exercise to fit those treats in.0 -
I feel your pain!! I don't mind the diet part as much as I do the exercise. I get up at 5am because I don't have a lot of free time any other time. I don't know if I hate the 5am or the exercise part more. I don't feel energized and I don't enjoy it like everyone said I would. But, I keep on keeping on! I also live an hour from civilization so I'm pretty much stuck with exercise videos!! Hang in there!0
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I use to feel the same way as you... Now I don't look at it as diet & exercising... I see it as a life change. I can't sit still anymore & when I do I get up & go do something. I try to do things to burn calories. I have lost 60 lbs in 5 months. And I still have 40-45 to go. And I still eat all the foods I want & I still drink but I work my butt off EVERY day to enjoy life. And I know it's not a punishment it's a reward I give myself for doing what I am doing.0
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I agree that you have to find something you like to do. I NEVER thought I could work out to DVDs but tried Jillian Michaels 6 week 6 pack. The great thing is that it is 30-35 minutes! My core has gotten so much stronger. I just finished her 90 body revolution and my arms have not looked like this in YEARS! I am not saying Jillian is the answer, but keep trying something different until it sticks. Plus you have to change your thinking away from punishment. I remember Oprah saying she didn't like exercise either, but you do what you have to do to get what you want. Good luck!0
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I used to wonder why in the heck do these people seem to be enjoying eating right and exercising. This SUCKS!
Then one day I was reading some stuff. We do healthy things because we love ourselves. I obviously wasn't loving myself too much when I weighed 350lbs and would stop at Popeye's for a 10 piece and eat the whole thing and chase it with some Ben and Jerry's. So I prayed that I would love myself more and enough to enjoying doing healthy things. I started going to the gym with a different attitude. It's not I GOT to work out it is that I GET to work out. This shift in attitude has made all the difference in the world to me. It was a gradual process over the last three years but today I enjoyed my healthy breakfast and gym time.
"to love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance"
-Oscar Wilde
Thank you for posting this!0 -
Wow you got to figure out a way to reprogram your brain with respect to how you feel about working out.
Try rewarding yourself with something sweet after the workout.
Eventually the workout alone will become rewarding.0 -
Thanks, I needed that !!!!0
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Sure cheese balls and ranch aren't going to help you lose weight, but why can't you eat steak? I never get why people give up good tasting meat and keep eating chicken and turkey, those really aren't any better for you.
I hate exercise too. It's easier if you just find something you like that will keep you moving. Most of my exercise is just biking to work and other places I need to go.0 -
To everyone who has offered positive/motivating/all-around-helpful comments, I thank you. So VERY much. It's a big relief just not feeling alone anymore.
But to those of you who want to make negative comments. How dare you. I'm only asking for help, and damn it I'm trying! I'm not educated at this. Cut me some slack!0 -
Who says you can't have steak? Work your day around it and have a leaner cut in a smaller size. Have cheeseballs and ranch, but try the light ranch and share the order instead of having it all. Find an exercise you like. If you hate what you're doing, change it.
This isn't easy and everyone has felt what you are feeling right now
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I hate when people say at least you don't have walk/hunt for your food. REALLY?! Does that in any way relate to the ease of getting all the really bad for you things? Fast food the healthier the more expensive! Vending machines filled with chips (my biggest weakness-salty things).
Sure at least it's not forever-ago-BC and I'm a hunter and gatherer, because being in my twenties in Midwest America I can really grasp that concept.
By all means be blunt but be realistic!
I do have Netflix. I do try to do the Yoga/Pilates stuff. But without someone there to watch my form, I'm afraid I'm not actually doing it right.
I have Kettlebells & Jillian Michaels.
You don't have FITNESS CLASSES at your gym? Weird.
I go to Curves. I do not have a gym membership because from past experience there are rude jerks there that make comments like "just getting around to your New Year's resolution"? Or "hey how about you run to McDonald's and let us get our real workouts in". So NO I don't have "Fitness Classes" I have circuit weight training. Yeah... really weird...0 -
It helps me to find a girlfriend to exercise with...which is not always easy in this busy world of ours.... Keep it up...after a couple of weeks, even before you lose any weight per say, you will start to feel more fit. Like your muscles are tighter and that can be a rewarding feeling. Hang in there!!!!
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I used to hate exercise now I don't mind it, eating healthy most of the time does get boring but when I see the results it makes it all worth it, you can still eat the foods which you were eating before and the foods that you want to eat just cut down the portions and make sure you stay in your allowance 0
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I hate the gym myself so I don't do it. I do bootcamp classes twice a week and it was enough for me to reach my goal.
What you can't give up on is healthy eating. After a while, the cravings for bad food will diminish. I used to crave the McD cheese burger but the day I fit it in my calorie allotment after months of MFP, I found it tasted disgusting. I am glad I don't crave it anymore.
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I used to feel the same way...I mean I absolutely HATED working out until someone told me to bring my ipod and listen to music while working out...and OMG, listening to music helps tremendously...I actually cannot workout without the music..if I forget my ipod I really have to go back home to get it. It makes a huge difference...and actually I must say I LOVE WORKING OUT NOW...feel free to add me as friend if you'd like.0
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I hate when people say at least you don't have walk/hunt for your food. REALLY?! Does that in any way relate to the ease of getting all the really bad for you things? Fast food the healthier the more expensive! Vending machines filled with chips (my biggest weakness-salty things).
Sure at least it's not forever-ago-BC and I'm a hunter and gatherer, because being in my twenties in Midwest America I can really grasp that concept.
By all means be blunt but be realistic!
I do have Netflix. I do try to do the Yoga/Pilates stuff. But without someone there to watch my form, I'm afraid I'm not actually doing it right.
I have Kettlebells & Jillian Michaels.
I have the Zumba 8 CD pack with weights.
I do not have a bike.
I have bad hips so I am working on strengthening them so it doesn't pain me for days after a mile walk, and I hope to eventually build up enough strength to run again. But again, being realistic. I'm looking at November before I can start building up to running (pending my stick-to-it-ness).
I have no one to do these things with. Which is depressing and UN motivating.
Sounds like you want a magic pill.
So, blunt but realistic. Suck it up already. Or don't. Lose weight and be more fit. Or don't. It's your life. Is the cheeseball worth how crappy you feel and potential medical problems or not? How about a cheeseball once and while or a bunch whenever you feel like it? Why do you feel like it? Maybe you need to think about the root of your weight issue. I mean that genuinely. If you fill a void with food, you will keep wanting too until you figure out why. I read "Women, Food and God" by Geneen Roth ...which, I didn't think was very well written, but it did get my brain moving in the right direction.
You know what else you'll probably hate? Feeling overweight and unhealthy. I know I didn't like it.0 -
What does eating clean mean to you? I've noticed quite a few processed foods in your diary.
I have done Curves before. It's mind-numbingly torturous for me so I don't go anymore. I workout at home or I swim at my parent's pool.
One of the things that has helped me keep going on the fitness train is to join challenges that people post here at MFP. It's much like working out with friends even though they aren't there at the same time. We post our results in our team page though and see how everyone is doing. It's a great way to feel solidarity with others plus you don't want to be the weak link of the team so you do what you have to do to keep from letting the others down. We're on our last week of our second challenge and there is supposed to be another one starting soon after. Send me a message if you are interested and we'll get you added in on the next one.0 -
I was under the impression that "clean" eating was eating things as close to their natural state as possible. I know I haven't been super strict about it. But believe me I'm eating MUCH MUCH MUCH healthier than my usual meat/potato breakfast/lunch/dinner. Yes, It's something I need to work on. But again I'm new to this...
I'm new to this.
I am NEW to this people.0 -
I was under the impression that "clean" eating was eating things as close to their natural state as possible. I know I haven't been super strict about it. But believe me I'm eating MUCH MUCH MUCH healthier than my usual meat/potato breakfast/lunch/dinner. Yes, It's something I need to work on. But again I'm new to this...
I'm new to this.
I am NEW to this people.
In case it was missed, please see my comment on page 2. Start there and make adjustments as needed.0 -
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Sounds like you want a magic pill.
So, blunt but realistic. Suck it up already. Or don't. Lose weight and be more fit. Or don't. It's your life. Is the cheeseball worth how crappy you feel and potential medical problems or not? How about a cheeseball once and while or a bunch whenever you feel like it? Why do you feel like it? Maybe you need to think about the root of your weight issue. I mean that genuinely. If you fill a void with food, you will keep wanting too until you figure out why. I read "Women, Food and God" by Geneen Roth ...which, I didn't think was very well written, but it did get my brain moving in the right direction.
You know what else you'll probably hate? Feeling overweight and unhealthy. I know I didn't like it.
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Let me be blunt. I don't want to do pills or fad diets. Don't assume. I feel like being healthier YES. If I didn't, I wouldn't force myself to do something I hate 5 flipping days a week.Oh and please don't push your religion on me, I'm talking health not joining a cult.0 -
What do you like to do? Read, crossword, watch TV, talk with friends... Find a way to work this into your exercise. Read or crossword on a stationary bike or exercise machine, listen to books on an iPod, get a treadmill for home and you can watch TV or talk while walking. Get a friend to exercise with you. Do active things with your BF.
For other motivation, I focus on things I hate. I hate it when I go on vacation that involves physical activity (walking at the zoo etc) and I'm exhausted because I never exercise. I have shoulder and back pain partially because my muscles are weak. I hate taking my shirt off at the pool because my fat shows. I hate it that processed convienence foods are so available and heavily advertised so Frito Lay, McDonalds, and Coke are making millions at the expense of my health. Channel this into motivation to make healthy food choices and exercise.
Are the food rewards you crave helping you reach your most important goals in life? Tie your dreams and aspirations into your diet and exercise goals. If you need it, write these things down and when times are hard get out your list and read it. You will slip up. When you do, don't beat yourself up. Focus on starting again with your goals in mind.0 -
I go to Curves. I do not have a gym membership because from past experience there are rude jerks there that make comments like "just getting around to your New Year's resolution"? Or "hey how about you run to McDonald's and let us get our real workouts in". So NO I don't have "Fitness Classes" I have circuit weight training. Yeah... really weird...
I *hated* Curves with a passion. I lasted 6 months before I gave up out of sheer boredom. I do much better at a "real" gym. I also found that the gym itself made a difference. I went with one of my friends to what I call the "hot people's gym." Basically, where you need to be in shape before going. There wasn't a single person there that was out of shape and they all glared at us. So, I joined another gym and it was fine- more of a mix of people and no one gave a care if you were 120 or 520. When I moved, I was very particular about the gym I went to. I actually joined Anytime Fitness here (I bounce between the two locations that are near me) and it's the same deal; all ages, all weights, all fitness levels.
That said, "working out" isn't for everyone. Just being active is a wonderful thing!0 -
UsedToBeHusky: I did see your comment and thank you. I'm just increasingly frustrated with these comments bashing me. How can anyone come on this website and feel intimidated by someone else, if we are all on here for the same reason. Why do people who seem to have their diet/exercise in check have to make those of us who don't feel dumb or lesser than them??!0
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Best of luck to you on your journey!0
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I was under the impression that "clean" eating was eating things as close to their natural state as possible. I know I haven't been super strict about it. But believe me I'm eating MUCH MUCH MUCH healthier than my usual meat/potato breakfast/lunch/dinner. Yes, It's something I need to work on. But again I'm new to this...
I'm new to this.
I am NEW to this people.
Clean is eating no processed foods. 0 -
What do you like to do? Read, crossword, watch TV, talk with friends... Find a way to work this into your exercise. Read or crossword on a stationary bike or exercise machine, listen to books on an iPod, get a treadmill for home and you can watch TV or talk while walking. Get a friend to exercise with you. Do active things with your BF.
For other motivation, I focus on things I hate. I hate it when I go on vacation that involves physical activity (walking at the zoo etc) and I'm exhausted because I never exercise. I have shoulder and back pain partially because my muscles are weak. I hate taking my shirt off at the pool because my fat shows. I hate it that processed convienence foods are so available and heavily advertised so Frito Lay, McDonalds, and Coke are making millions at the expense of my health. Channel this into motivation to make healthy food choices and exercise.
Are the food rewards you crave helping you reach your most important goals in life? Tie your dreams and aspirations into your diet and exercise goals. If you need it, write these things down and when times are hard get out your list and read it. You will slip up. When you do, don't beat yourself up. Focus on starting again with your goals in mind.
I totally focused my frustration into my workout yesterday and it really helped me meet my targets, so this is excellent advice! Thank you! My BF goes to school, so we really only have weekends to spend doing things together, we aim to do sports or hiking at least one day, the other is for rest. My girlfriends are all busy working moms. So I'm on my own M-F.0 -
I was under the impression that "clean" eating was eating things as close to their natural state as possible. I know I haven't been super strict about it. But believe me I'm eating MUCH MUCH MUCH healthier than my usual meat/potato breakfast/lunch/dinner. Yes, It's something I need to work on. But again I'm new to this...
I'm new to this.
I am NEW to this people.
Just ignore the rude posts. You DO NOT have to eat raw or unprocessed foods to be healthy. There are plenty of healthy processed foods. You just need to read the labels carefully when buying processed foods, whereas fresh vegetables speak for themselves. Seriously, some people just make staying healthy way harder than it needs to be.
ETA: I took a glance at the last few days of your diary and it didn't look bad. It's not a "clean" diet, but it did not look unhealthy. Except maybe for the Lime-a-rita. Those tasty little things are killers! (but I have them occasionally too) :drinker:0 -
I have only posted 2 replys on MFP, I sometimes read peoples threads vicariously, usually not. I find MFP for excellent for tracking/reports/nutrition, etc. but really have not used the friends feature, yet. I have Facebook for that. LOL.
Anyway your nice post hit a nerve, so here is my "2 cents"
I too live in a rural area. We have 80 acres of very hilly woods in the Missouri Ozarks, in a cultural desert, but a beautiful area non the less. I'm from San Diego originally. I found that since I am a early morning person anyway, I just walk. I started dieting on May 5 at 5'7", 210 pounds, and a BMI of 32. I started 1,200 calories a day, in June added a multivitamin with iron, and calcium carbonate. Following MFP since May 25, I found my 1,200 calories was short on Iron and Calcium.
I started walking one mile outside. I hate indoor treadmills, but I have one, as well as a home gym with a 200 pound stack. Our place is 1/4 mile by 1/2 mile, rectangle from the sky, so about 80 American football fields, but hilly. and we have a half mile gravel road to the "top" which is a two lane country road. Some of the ruts in our road are so deep, you can be the guy in 127 Hours for a minute.
I set my alarm at 5:00 AM, get out of the house by 5:30 AM, and I walk 100 minutes, 5 miles a day, now since Mid-June. I have done 5 miles in as little as 96 minutes, and as long as 108 minutes. I started slow, as the gravel road has a 15% gradient to it...better than most treadmills. I only walk the 1/4 mile to our gate, as the next 1/4 to the blacktop has a 40% grade. I find I look forward to the isolation, I have triplets in the house, 13 year olds, Dad to two daughters and one son, going in the 8th grade on Aug 15. Also have a son, 20, a Junior at Mizzou.
Anyway, I used to listen to my music, then suddenly I just wanted to hear the quiet noises of nature, listen to the wind, and I walk with our 2 dogs, a 11 year old Golden Retriever, and a 2 year old Australian Shepard Mix. Our 3 horses sometimes walk part of the way with me, that is a sight.
On surprising things on this journey. I have way more energy now, I do not snore anymore, (confirmed by other), I no longer take Nexium, as GERD disappeared. I no longer have a fundal height of 7 months pregnant, more like 3 months. :-) Still have 20 to loose. My goal is 155 pounds, but I think I will go down to 145. I take a 40 Short in a suit, so I will try for a 40 Short -Athletic. I am currently between gigs, so I have time on my hands, but keep things busy. Oddly, my sense of smell has increased, don't know if that is from my body searching for food, LOL, or just less fat in the sinuses...but wow, can I smell the forest and flowers. I can tie my shoes as easy as my kids. I find that I am not hungry, at all, until an hour after my walks. I drink lots of water. I had a holiday on July 4 and my birthday, July 11 (Budweiser). Other than that. Water.
When I hit 165, I am going to start using the home gym again, didn't want to have an MI on my journey, so with 3 months of Cardio behind me, I will add a workout.
I sprinted the other day with one of my daughters who is 114 and 5'5" at 13, for 50 meters.
I won.
I'm 52.
BTW, I was 145-155 until I was 38, same year the triplets were born, after my mom died.
Then 175 till I was 48.
The last 3 years has been full of personal life difficulties, and when I hit 210, I had some sort of "Forest Gump" moment, and just started, well, walking.
When I hit my goal of 155, I am going to add the 40% grade hill out of our valley to my bucket list.
I'll take friends...might be helpful.
BTW, my doctor is in AWE of MFP, especially where you can follow nutrients for 3 months, and adjust things.0
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