Bachelor Party

HaleyJoAnn
HaleyJoAnn Posts: 50
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So my man and I are getting married next June and the best man is already thinking about an awesome bachelor party... obviously the first thing that comes to my head is... strippers... I told my finace that I really do not want him to be going to a strip club. He respects me and he won't go to one but he wants to know why. Honestly, I know he wont be interested in them and will still love me :smile: But I just don't like the fact that he will be starring at naked girls :ohwell:

What are your thoughts? Guys and Women!
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  • Tropical_Turtle
    Tropical_Turtle Posts: 2,236 Member
    Hey - as long as he is coming home for dessert I dont care how his motor gets revved!
  • OnTheWayToPerfection
    OnTheWayToPerfection Posts: 115 Member
    I didn't want my husband going to a strip club or any of that, unless I was there. I see it as respect.

    We went to a strip club on our honeymoon.
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    No strip club? Is it cool then if he just orders a few to dance in a hotel room then?
  • JacquelineD35
    JacquelineD35 Posts: 279 Member
    I personally do not have a problem with that (getting ready to get yelled at) As long as he is not going to be taking one back to his place/hotel/motel/back seat of the car. That's just me but if it bothers you and you let him know this then he should respect your wish if he has already agreed to do so.
  • DixiedoesMFP
    DixiedoesMFP Posts: 935 Member
    Why are you asking us? He wants to know why YOU don't want him to go, not a bunch of strangers on the internet.
  • mikeyboy
    mikeyboy Posts: 1,057 Member
    My wife says she doesn't care where I get my appetite, as long as I eat at home.
  • slyder432
    slyder432 Posts: 475 Member
    Insecurity comes to my mind.
  • sheepysaccount
    sheepysaccount Posts: 608 Member
    As long as he doesn't do anything stupid, but is only looking, who cares? I think the female body is something beautiful he should enjoy. Would you rather he looks at women in skimpy on the internetz?
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    He's coming home to me. Not to them. They're doing their job. And any man that's going to sleep with a stripper... don't you want to know that BEFORE you get married?
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    Oh, and my wife doesn't care if I go to a strip club. We've gone together a couple of times.
  • Il_DaniD_lI
    Il_DaniD_lI Posts: 1,593 Member
    There are only two kinds of girls in this world.. one's who let their men go to strip clubs and one's who don't. Think about it.
  • drmerc
    drmerc Posts: 2,603 Member
    He can still have hookers and blow right?
  • LadyIvysMom
    LadyIvysMom Posts: 391 Member
    My husband did not go to see strippers for his BP for a few reasons. First off, he said that's someone's daughter and even though he respects the right for women to do whatever they want with their bodies, he would not ever want his own daughter (he does not even have a daughter lol) being a stripper. Also, his wedding party included a gay man, two married men whose wives did not want them seeing strippers and an underage kid who would not have been able to get into the club anyway. Lastly, he doesn't think they are very fun places to hang out. They're expensive and usually the ones around here attract some sketchy characters. He ended up going to a place where he and his friends could do some sort of indoor racecar thing and play video games.

    He came home from his BP with two little plastic guitars and two little princess necklaces that he won with his arcade tickets to give to my toddler neices lol
  • poshcouture
    poshcouture Posts: 610
    My wife says she doesn't care where I get my appetite, as long as I eat at home.

    ^^ This.
  • lizzyliz79
    lizzyliz79 Posts: 43 Member
    My husband went to the strippers for his bachelor party and I helped him pick dried candle wax out of his armpit hair when he got home! (He was up on stage lol). I don't feel at all that it's disrespectful and I trust him 100%! It's a fun time with his buddies and who am I to tell him what he can and can't do! How is it disrespectful for him to see other women naked? Do you get upset when he watches porn too?
  • JacquelineD35
    JacquelineD35 Posts: 279 Member
    it's about trust, if your S/O is going to cheat they will cheat no matter what the situation is.
  • islandnutshel
    islandnutshel Posts: 1,143 Member
    It's about seeing people with respect as whole human beings. When we lose that it is easy to justify almost anything.
  • terrappyn
    terrappyn Posts: 324 Member
    He can go all day long if he wants. No matter to me either way. I also enjoy a night at the strip club once in a while with friends. :) Its a good time!
  • ajohn252
    ajohn252 Posts: 158
    I think it all just depends on your relationship.
    Some people are cool with it, some are not (I also happen
    to be one of those people). If he knows you're not
    okay with it he should be equally as okay not doing it
    for your sake because I'm guessing you would do the
    same for him if he was uncomfortable with a situation.
  • ster81
    ster81 Posts: 249
    it's going to happen, might as well give him the green light and let him do it. During one of my friends bachelor party, his fiance at the time said "no strippers". Peer pressure, alcohol, and getting clowned on by his friends made it happen anyways. Now he has to lie about it for the rest of his life hoping she'll never find out.
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    If that's what they do then that's what they do, it doesn't bother me. However I trust that anyone who wants to truly BE with me, they would make the choice to BE with me and a strip club is just a form of entertainment and nothing more.
  • taylor5877
    taylor5877 Posts: 1,792 Member
    Yeah, bachelor parties aren't my cup of tea either.

    We went golfing the morning of the wedding for mine.

    For my BIL we rented a cabin on the Guadalupe River near Sattler, TX. Total drunk fest...I was out on the river in my kayak fishing most of the time.
  • Drussander
    Drussander Posts: 266 Member
    Oh don't worry, lol. The only thing he'll get at one of those places is an empty wallet, and since his friends are probably paying, he should be fine. Think of it as more for *his* friends then for him.

    Be sure to give him a good ribbing when he comes home wreaking of stripper perfume, LMAO.
  • JacquelineD35
    JacquelineD35 Posts: 279 Member
    He can still have hookers and blow right?

    baaahahaha so wrong lol
  • beach_please
    beach_please Posts: 533 Member
    I'm totally okay with strip clubs. Having strippers come to a party at a private home or hotel room?... that I'm not so sure about. I've heard stories about strippers who go above and beyond what they're there to do. Maybe we just have extra skanky strippers in my area, I don't know.
  • Halleeon
    Halleeon Posts: 309 Member
    I would mind and would ask him not to go and to pick something else to do with his bros. There are SO many events one can do, there isn't much excuse to be stuck on the stripper thing.

    I think you should talk to him and just honestly let him know how it makes you feel. Insecurities or not, they are still valid feelings and I am sure you are working on your own issues at your pace.

    Perhaps, one day, if you are ready and find that it fits into your relationship values, go ahead and go with him to a strip club of your choosing. There are probably plenty of places that will respect what ever boundaries you setup, especially if you go to an upscale place and request a private room, or whatev.

    Deep breaths. It's going to be okay. At least you know he respects you enough to NOT go and that he is interested in your feelings and reasons behind it. Sounds like a keeper, good job!
  • Treesy72
    Treesy72 Posts: 230
    Well the strip clubs in Canada are pretty raunchy, my closest friend since I was a kid was a feature dancer and she told me what really goes on in those places and trust me it's not "look but don't touch" more like if you've got the cash I've got the junk. So yeah I'm up for looking but touching and getting down and dirty with the stinky pinkies is not up my alley.
  • still_crafty
    still_crafty Posts: 682 Member
    Insecurity comes to my mind.

    ^^ this. Now me, I'd be jealous that I couldn't go with.
  • wildside79
    wildside79 Posts: 46
    My wife doesn't care... mainly because my fiscally responsible side doesn't like wasting money in said locations. But the fact that she's gone before with me and groups of friends, sees how I act, is confident enough in herself, and trusts me makes me appreciate her even more. The last time I was at one with some work peeps out of state, and I spent most of the time t(s)exting her.

    The girls there aren't around waiting to steal your man, they are out for a buck and to make a living. Relax, its just a bit of light particles hitting the optic nerve.
  • DaneDillinger
    DaneDillinger Posts: 70 Member
    Insecurity comes to my mind.

    Truth: it sounds like insecurity plus lack of trust. Do you have an issue with him going to the beach with his boys? Or going to Hooters? If so, the "strip club" is not the issue, there are bigger passive/aggressive issues at play here.

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