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  • LilMissSunshine_
    LilMissSunshine_ Posts: 520
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    He can still have hookers and blow right?


    winner!


    Ding, ding!
  • jamers3111
    jamers3111 Posts: 495 Member
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    My honey just had is Bachelor Party in New Orleans. I'm not necessarily opposed to strippers but I understand why some people might me. I just told my honey to do whatever he wants but to remember that my Bachelorette party is next and that I will do whatever he does. haha Needless to say, he didn't go to strip club (but really only because he and his buddies didn't have shirts on and weren't allowed in!) hahaha
  • OneFitDude16
    OneFitDude16 Posts: 169
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    sky blu and red foo coming to my bachelor party haha
  • LetsTryThisAgain54
    LetsTryThisAgain54 Posts: 381 Member
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    It's not always about trust or insecurity. I don't want my boyfriend in a strip club, and it's got nothing to do with thinking he's going to cheat with a stripper. If he were to cheat on me, it wouldn't be with some skank in a titty bar. It's simply because I feel he shouldn't need that kind of "attention" from another woman. I do feel it is disrespectful to me and to our relationship. I would never tell him he can't go. He's not a child, and I am not his mother. But if he did go, knowing I didn't want him to, I would absolutely take it as a sign of where I stand with him.

    Couldn't agree more! Right away, everyone says it's insecurity! It's called RESPECT for your partner.
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
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    no, I'm not insecure. I just love the fact that my husband respects women. They sense that in him, and it makes me proud of him for being different.

    My SO has sooo much respect for women, he really is the sweetest guy in the world. That being said, He and I both enjoy, porn and strippers.

    There is nothing disrespectful about it unless a certain person present isn't happy about the situation. If the stripper is happy to do her job and he is happy to have a fun night out then where is the disrespect?

    The 'respect' thing some people use is a cop-out to cover insecurities and jealousy.
  • HisPathDaily
    HisPathDaily Posts: 672 Member
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    I would not allow any of that at my bachelor party (but my best man didn't even have to ask). Plenty of booze, dice, and money, but hanging around a bunch of dudes checking out naked chicks is frankly a bit creepy. My heart was already sold ... the idea of "this is your last chance" I never understood ... and on that note, I will not go to a bachelor party if there are strippers to begin with.

    That goes with clubs in general though ... kissing my wife goodbye, saying "I love you", and then heading out with the guys to check out naked women doesn't exactly seem to make sense to me.

    On a side note though, I've had to turn down very few bachelor parties due to that reason as most I know don't even go down that road anymore ...
  • sakisus
    sakisus Posts: 13
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    I think another factor is, if his friends decide to respect their friend's marriage.
    Because going out for a BP, it is very few times that things go according to plan.
    Even if they all agree in the "No W&ores" rule, you never know what is going to happen after a few drinks.
    There is where he is going to have to decide.
    Promise to his wife and fight with his friends or go to the w&ores and fight with his wife.
    Priorities is what will put everything in order.

    PS Congratulations!
  • scornholio
    scornholio Posts: 11
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    Strip Clubs are no big deal. They have rules and are usually pretty strictly enforced. They aren't brothels. (At least not in America)

    Besides, nothing makes a guy appreciate the woman he has at home like a girl demanding money to pretend she likes you.
  • tismyhardbody
    tismyhardbody Posts: 100 Member
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    ..., they go and laugh and cut up and be silly and all the while beautiful half naked women ....


    lol
  • AlayshaJ
    AlayshaJ Posts: 703 Member
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    If I can't work there, you can't go there! This rule was only made when my husband told me that I could not be a stripper (i never said I wanted to be) and we had a very long argument. If I can't do what live girls are doing in front of you, THATS NOT COOL. Even if it is hypothetical.

    That being said, there will be no strippers at his bachelor party. (We already got married, just no wedding or anything yet)

    This still makes me so mad. He could have gone to strip clubs and had stripper at his bachelor party but noooo, he just had to go and be a d*ck.
  • Brooke_26
    Brooke_26 Posts: 204
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    Strip Clubs are no big deal. They have rules and are usually pretty strictly enforced. They aren't brothels. (At least not in America)

    Besides, nothing makes a guy appreciate the woman he has at home like a girl demanding money to pretend she likes you.

    I agree!! There's 2 sides I see here...

    ....The first one being (in my opinion first hand) strip clubs are not a big deal...its adult entertainment, the rules at "most" clubs are strictly enforced, and I see absolutely no harm in seeing a dancer perform in a club atmosphere, and then him going home to his significant other. If someone is worried about their S/O going to a strip club for a night, there might be more issues than this happening in their relationship.

    ....The second one is.....if you feel so opposed to him going to see dancers and just can't accept that, and you have discussed this with him and he doesn't take your feelings into account and still goes, there's issues that will probably get bigger as the relationship continues...

    There are some couples that they want their man to go to the club once a week...because when he comes home it brings spice to their relationship....some couples like that extra bit brought....

    You go to a strip club to see topless/nude women entertain you......you buy Playboy and Hustler mags to see topless/nude women in photography.......its visual, its entertainment....he knows where home is
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,022 Member
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    Again, not wanting your man to go to a strip club is usually not about worrying that he's going to stick his penis in someone else. There are things I do with my boyfriend that I would never in a million years do with another man (and no, I'm not talking about sex), and I certainly expect my boyfriend not to do those same things with other women, regardless of the fact that he doesn't intend to sleep with them. That is where the issue of respect, or lack thereof, comes in. I don't give a flying crap whether or not he respects the stripper. I care whether or not he respects me and our relationship. I get that some people don't care at all, and that's fine. But I do care. And that doesn't make me insecure or jealous. It means I have a different opinion on the appropriateness of my boyfriend engaging with other barely-dressed women in a sexually charged environment.
  • seriano1
    seriano1 Posts: 1
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    If you trust him then what is the difference? He can go online and look at naked girls or turn on HBO. I can see it being a problem if he goes on a consistent basis but if not and it is for a friends bachelor party then no big deal.
  • CarleyLovesPets
    CarleyLovesPets Posts: 410 Member
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    I guess I'm on the unpopular side of the vote but I wouldn't want my man lusting over other women, especially not before we get married. If you chose to marry me and that includes being loyal to me and caring about my feelings.
    I has nothing to do with me thinking he's going to screw them, I don't want him watching some strippers take their clothes off in general and having fun watching them act like that. If someone feels they have to go and watch other women take their clothes off for fun for a party before getting married, well I wouldn't marry them.

    I have also heard what strippers do here like some of the other Canadians here, and it's gone WAY past just dancing. Ew.

    I honestly don't even look at other men when I am in a relationship, so I expect the same respect from my partner. I can't even lust over another person when I love someone else.
  • CanadianThunder
    CanadianThunder Posts: 84
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    Someone's insecure...
  • maab_connor
    maab_connor Posts: 3,927 Member
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    strip clubs = awesome.

    i fail to see the problem women have with them. srsly. clearly my X chromosome is lacking in that department. can SOMEONE explain to me how a guy going to a strip club is an issue? i've given dudes i was seeing money for lap dances.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,022 Member
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    Well, there's a difference between looking at another person and lusting over them. It is human nature to notice other attractive people. My boyfriend would hardly be a man if a pretty woman on the street didn't catch his eye. Now, letting that woman strip down and grind her *kitten* on his manparts ... that's another story.
  • HisPathDaily
    HisPathDaily Posts: 672 Member
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    A guy doesn't go to a strip club to look at naked women in the same way he browses for furniture. Imaginary, hypothetical, unrealistic or whatever, it's still lusting after another woman.

    Man looks at woman and thinks: "Wow, would I love to ... "
    Man does not look at woman and think: "Wow. That is a lovely figure. I really am enjoying this wonderful beer."

    Does he really think he is going to get something? No ... it's the tease, it's the imagination, it's the passion.

    Sorry, but those feelings are reserved for my wife.
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
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    Well, there's a difference between looking at another person and lusting over them. It is human nature to notice other attractive people. My boyfriend would hardly be a man if a pretty woman on the street didn't catch his eye. Now, letting that woman strip down and grind her *kitten* on his manparts ... that's another story.

    In my experience, most people I've seen at strip clubs just watch. It's entertainment. You have to usually pay to get the grinding part and most people are too cheap for that. :laugh:
  • monipie
    monipie Posts: 280 Member
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    i don't think there is anything wrong about not feeling comfortable about your fiance going to a strip club. i don't think it means you are insecure. my husband wouldn't have liked it if i went to a strip club for my bachelorette party. i wouldn't want to go to one anyway. i would rather go with him to a strip club anyway. i honestly don't feel insecure- i just think it is disrespectful to me. now if we went together- it could be fun!

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