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  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
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    If that's what they do then that's what they do, it doesn't bother me. However I trust that anyone who wants to truly BE with me, they would make the choice to BE with me and a strip club is just a form of entertainment and nothing more.
  • taylor5877
    taylor5877 Posts: 1,792 Member
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    Yeah, bachelor parties aren't my cup of tea either.

    We went golfing the morning of the wedding for mine.

    For my BIL we rented a cabin on the Guadalupe River near Sattler, TX. Total drunk fest...I was out on the river in my kayak fishing most of the time.
  • Drussander
    Drussander Posts: 266 Member
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    Oh don't worry, lol. The only thing he'll get at one of those places is an empty wallet, and since his friends are probably paying, he should be fine. Think of it as more for *his* friends then for him.

    Be sure to give him a good ribbing when he comes home wreaking of stripper perfume, LMAO.
  • JacquelineD35
    JacquelineD35 Posts: 279 Member
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    He can still have hookers and blow right?

    baaahahaha so wrong lol
  • beach_please
    beach_please Posts: 533 Member
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    I'm totally okay with strip clubs. Having strippers come to a party at a private home or hotel room?... that I'm not so sure about. I've heard stories about strippers who go above and beyond what they're there to do. Maybe we just have extra skanky strippers in my area, I don't know.
  • Halleeon
    Halleeon Posts: 309 Member
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    I would mind and would ask him not to go and to pick something else to do with his bros. There are SO many events one can do, there isn't much excuse to be stuck on the stripper thing.

    I think you should talk to him and just honestly let him know how it makes you feel. Insecurities or not, they are still valid feelings and I am sure you are working on your own issues at your pace.

    Perhaps, one day, if you are ready and find that it fits into your relationship values, go ahead and go with him to a strip club of your choosing. There are probably plenty of places that will respect what ever boundaries you setup, especially if you go to an upscale place and request a private room, or whatev.

    Deep breaths. It's going to be okay. At least you know he respects you enough to NOT go and that he is interested in your feelings and reasons behind it. Sounds like a keeper, good job!
  • Treesy72
    Treesy72 Posts: 230
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    Well the strip clubs in Canada are pretty raunchy, my closest friend since I was a kid was a feature dancer and she told me what really goes on in those places and trust me it's not "look but don't touch" more like if you've got the cash I've got the junk. So yeah I'm up for looking but touching and getting down and dirty with the stinky pinkies is not up my alley.
  • still_crafty
    still_crafty Posts: 692 Member
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    Insecurity comes to my mind.

    ^^ this. Now me, I'd be jealous that I couldn't go with.
  • wildside79
    wildside79 Posts: 46
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    My wife doesn't care... mainly because my fiscally responsible side doesn't like wasting money in said locations. But the fact that she's gone before with me and groups of friends, sees how I act, is confident enough in herself, and trusts me makes me appreciate her even more. The last time I was at one with some work peeps out of state, and I spent most of the time t(s)exting her.

    The girls there aren't around waiting to steal your man, they are out for a buck and to make a living. Relax, its just a bit of light particles hitting the optic nerve.
  • DaneDillinger
    DaneDillinger Posts: 70 Member
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    Insecurity comes to my mind.

    Truth: it sounds like insecurity plus lack of trust. Do you have an issue with him going to the beach with his boys? Or going to Hooters? If so, the "strip club" is not the issue, there are bigger passive/aggressive issues at play here.
  • Polly758
    Polly758 Posts: 623 Member
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    So wait... before he marries you, he wants to go pay other women to take off their clothes and dance for him and pretend they are sexually available to him?

    Yeah, I don't see why you would object to that AT ALL.

    Of course he's not going to DO anything with the women (like they would want him to!?), but if it were me in your position, I wouldn't be marrying someone who thought it was okay to be an entitled patriarchal jerk-face.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,291 Member
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    He can still have hookers and blow right?

    baaahahaha so wrong lol
    No, so right

    Hookers and blow is the answer to everything \m/
  • Lesa_Sass
    Lesa_Sass Posts: 2,213 Member
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    Just an FYI, those girls are way more interested in other girls than they are men that come into the clubs, well, unless they are in the NFL or NBA or something like that.

    Normal men do not generally go to strip clubs to ogle the women, they go and laugh and cut up and be silly and all the while beautiful half naked women are treating them like they are kings and making them feel like they are special, these woman are great actresses, they actually make the men think they care. :D

    Men that go to strip clubs on a regular basis are the ones that I really feel sorry for. They hand over hundreds of dollars so these women can make them feel like they wish they were made to feel at home. Once again, I want to mention what great actresses these girls are.

    Jealousy and being insecure are typical reasons that women do not like their husband going to strip clubs. But in saying that, I really hope you do not enjoy any of the mens pictures on here with out their shirt on, because that is no different than what you do not want him doing.
  • Mima79
    Mima79 Posts: 112 Member
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    we had our bachelor/bachelorette together it was super fun we were sitting back to back and he had his own stripper and I had my own stripper that way no one cross the line and both had fun...just saying
  • ptjolsen
    ptjolsen Posts: 365 Member
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    The more you tell us we can't do something, the more ways we will find to hide what we are actually doing.
  • Still_Fluffy
    Still_Fluffy Posts: 341 Member
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    My wife hates strip clubs. But she understands there is a difference going to one for a special occasion like bachelor parties and just going there for a night out. You have to remember men and women think about sex differently. We just like to see women naked. There is no emotional attachment to them beyond being naked. Have you ever watch a man look at a nice classic car? How we admire the vehicle? Its the same with a strip club. Just because we like the car doesn't me we want a ride.

    That being said I think you can set ground rules like no going to the VIP rooms, that makes sense to me
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  • karawRN
    karawRN Posts: 311
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    I would perfer to be with my husband at a strip club, but he went with friends for his bach party and other friends. It was okay with it, didnt want it to become a common thing. But when they go private in a strip club, I AM NOT OKAY WITH THAT!
  • gshoemaker06
    gshoemaker06 Posts: 264 Member
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    His friends will probably bug him to go (maybe, not sure, obviously I don't know his friends) which might make it weird. I mean if he's just looking, what's the problem? My guess is he watches porn.... and you see a lot more stuff in porn lol.
  • pittskaa
    pittskaa Posts: 319 Member
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    Insecurity comes to my mind.
    agreed
  • roachhaley
    roachhaley Posts: 978 Member
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    I wouldn't want my boyfriend going to a strip club either.

    I find it weird that there's this sort of... rivalry going on between people who let their boyfriends go, and people who don't. Going to a strip club or not going to a strip club isn't the most important life issue you're going to face. Respect people's decisions. Just because I dont want him watching other naked girls doesn't make me insecure. Frankly, I think it makes you insecure if you let your man walk all over you ;)

    oops, did I just get judgemental?

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