Bachelor Party
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So wait... before he marries you, he wants to go pay other women to take off their clothes and dance for him and pretend they are sexually available to him?
Yeah, I don't see why you would object to that AT ALL.
Of course he's not going to DO anything with the women (like they would want him to!?), but if it were me in your position, I wouldn't be marrying someone who thought it was okay to be an entitled patriarchal jerk-face.0 -
No, so rightHe can still have hookers and blow right?
baaahahaha so wrong lol
Hookers and blow is the answer to everything \m/0 -
Just an FYI, those girls are way more interested in other girls than they are men that come into the clubs, well, unless they are in the NFL or NBA or something like that.
Normal men do not generally go to strip clubs to ogle the women, they go and laugh and cut up and be silly and all the while beautiful half naked women are treating them like they are kings and making them feel like they are special, these woman are great actresses, they actually make the men think they care.
Men that go to strip clubs on a regular basis are the ones that I really feel sorry for. They hand over hundreds of dollars so these women can make them feel like they wish they were made to feel at home. Once again, I want to mention what great actresses these girls are.
Jealousy and being insecure are typical reasons that women do not like their husband going to strip clubs. But in saying that, I really hope you do not enjoy any of the mens pictures on here with out their shirt on, because that is no different than what you do not want him doing.0 -
we had our bachelor/bachelorette together it was super fun we were sitting back to back and he had his own stripper and I had my own stripper that way no one cross the line and both had fun...just saying0
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The more you tell us we can't do something, the more ways we will find to hide what we are actually doing.0
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My wife hates strip clubs. But she understands there is a difference going to one for a special occasion like bachelor parties and just going there for a night out. You have to remember men and women think about sex differently. We just like to see women naked. There is no emotional attachment to them beyond being naked. Have you ever watch a man look at a nice classic car? How we admire the vehicle? Its the same with a strip club. Just because we like the car doesn't me we want a ride.
That being said I think you can set ground rules like no going to the VIP rooms, that makes sense to me
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I would perfer to be with my husband at a strip club, but he went with friends for his bach party and other friends. It was okay with it, didnt want it to become a common thing. But when they go private in a strip club, I AM NOT OKAY WITH THAT!0
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His friends will probably bug him to go (maybe, not sure, obviously I don't know his friends) which might make it weird. I mean if he's just looking, what's the problem? My guess is he watches porn.... and you see a lot more stuff in porn lol.0
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agreedInsecurity comes to my mind.0 -
I wouldn't want my boyfriend going to a strip club either.
I find it weird that there's this sort of... rivalry going on between people who let their boyfriends go, and people who don't. Going to a strip club or not going to a strip club isn't the most important life issue you're going to face. Respect people's decisions. Just because I dont want him watching other naked girls doesn't make me insecure. Frankly, I think it makes you insecure if you let your man walk all over you
oops, did I just get judgemental?0 -
If you don't want him to then tell him that. It's about fun and doing something "taboo". Trust me guys will look at babes no matter where it is, whether they are clothed or not. Or on the Interwebs. even on a fitness website for example..0
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I don't really like the idea either. It bothers the heck out of me. Mainly because I hear horror stories of how some of these women take money to do 'extra' activities...
However, I trust my husband. Plus, I have gone to the male rippers and it is all fun and games... Nothing bad has happened, I didn't feel like cheating, I wasn't comparing my husband to any of the men, etc.
I have learned to let my own insecurities go if I hear he has gone to a strip club.... Not that he goes very often though. He always complains that the beers are too expensive there anyways...hahahahaha0 -
The more you tell us we can't do something, the more ways we will find to hide what we are actually doing.
exac tly!!! woman are ridiculously strict sometimes. i feel like if youre getting married to him you should trust him enough to know that hes just going to have a fun night with his boys, not trying to get some from a stripper.0 -
So wait... before he marries you, he wants to go pay other women to take off their clothes and dance for him and pretend they are sexually available to him?
Yeah, I don't see why you would object to that AT ALL.
Of course he's not going to DO anything with the women (like they would want him to!?), but if it were me in your position, I wouldn't be marrying someone who thought it was okay to be an entitled patriarchal jerk-face.
Wow! Is this news to you?0 -
no, I'm not insecure. I just love the fact that my husband respects women. They sense that in him, and it makes me proud of him for being different.0
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So my man and I are getting married next June and the best man is already thinking about an awesome bachelor party... obviously the first thing that comes to my head is... strippers... I told my finace that I really do not want him to be going to a strip club. He respects me and he won't go to one but he wants to know why. Honestly, I know he wont be interested in them and will still love me
But I just don't like the fact that he will be starring at naked girls :ohwell:
What are your thoughts? Guys and Women!
I totally agree and relate to you!0 -
>>But I just don't like the fact that he will be starring at naked girls>>
Okay, so there's your reason. That, and the disrespect to you. Should that be enough of an answer for him? Maybe you need to think deeper about the reason of staring at naked women. Is it disrespectfull to women as a whole? Does it make you feel like you're not good enough? Does it make you feel like he's treating the women on stage as objects? (You opened a can o worms here...)
Looks almost as if he doesn't really care if he goes or not, but he wants to know why *you* won't like it and he wants a "strong" reason. (I'm guessing here.)
Sure, it could be traditional for guys to go this route. There are more exciting things and there are more boring things. I've been and was bored after about 5 minutes. However, going with someone you adore and eating steak (in Portland) is pretty fun and a whole different ball-o-wax.
Don't get too wrapped up in the negative, it's a whole year away. This could mean a whole year of contention, or a whole year of planning something great for your future together.
All the best.0 -
My (was Fiancee, now husband) went to a hookah bar with some friends of his...then they went on a DC pub crawl.
They had a great time...then again, he is one of those guys who doesn't particularly enjoy strip clubs in the first place.0 -
That topic has come up with me and my boyfriend before because my female friends would more than likely take me to a male strip club or get me a male stripper and I'm sure his guy friends would want to do the same (female stripper obviously lol) but we have a mutual understanding. You're getting married to someone you have been in a long term commited relationship with (in most cases). Why break for one night even if it is your "last night". And the whole "last night of being single" thing is kinda lame too cause you're still not technically single. If he respects you then that should be that! I told my boyfriend I wouldn't want one just cause that's kinda awkward in my opinion to see a half naked guy you don't know shaking in front of you and getting all up on you. Not sexy in my eyes, just awkward.0
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If my man wanted to go, shoot, I'd be like can I go PLEASE! We have already talked about this though. He says he would feel uncomfortable with me going to a strip club with him. *sigh*:grumble:
The reason is up to you sweetheart. You can't ask a bunch of strangers as to why you don't want him to go. Sounds like you just don't want him to look at other women, naked. Then be honest with him. Tell him exactly that. He is marrying you. If he can not respect you being truthful, then something is wrong there. But if he decides to go because your answer is " Because I don't want you to" Shame on you.0 -
It's his BP. Hopefully he will only have one BP in his life. You should be okay with him going because you are about to marry him and so you trust him and know it will all be in good fun.0
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Yeah, bachelor parties aren't my cup of tea either.
We went golfing the morning of the wedding for mine.
For my BIL we rented a cabin on the Guadalupe River near Sattler, TX. Total drunk fest...I was out on the river in my kayak fishing most of the time.
I don't like bachelor parties, and I don't like strip clubs. I wish it was for the noble moral reason of "that's someone's daughter," but it's more because they are a huge waste of money. But I go to both if my friend is getting married, because I am his friend.
My wife couldn't care less if I go, either. She's been a couple of times with me for one reason or another (not for "excitement," seeing as I'm not a fan, anyway). It's not like keeping me from strip clubs would stop me from ever seeing naked breasts. I can see them on the internet anytime i want. and to prove it (hold music) I just did.
So... in my opinion, if he's going to just have some fun, it's probably no big deal.0 -
It's about seeing people with respect as whole human beings. When we lose that it is easy to justify almost anything.
I know - I hate being objectified, and being treated just as a mind or a wallet. I have a BODY!0 -
Yeah, bachelor parties aren't my cup of tea either.
We went golfing the morning of the wedding for mine.
For my BIL we rented a cabin on the Guadalupe River near Sattler, TX. Total drunk fest...I was out on the river in my kayak fishing most of the time.
That is how a dude's party should be!
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That topic has come up with me and my boyfriend before because my female friends would more than likely take me to a male strip club or get me a male stripper and I'm sure his guy friends would want to do the same (female stripper obviously lol) but we have a mutual understanding. You're getting married to someone you have been in a long term commited relationship with (in most cases). Why break for one night even if it is your "last night". And the whole "last night of being single" thing is kinda lame too cause you're still not technically single. If he respects you then that should be that! I told my boyfriend I wouldn't want one just cause that's kinda awkward in my opinion to see a half naked guy you don't know shaking in front of you and getting all up on you. Not sexy in my eyes, just awkward.
Hahahaha...a particular scene from "Bridesmaids" just came to mind.
My "bachelorette" party consisted of me and a friend (one bestie) going to a karaoke bar...drinking, singing and playing corn hole with random people.
Then we went back to my house and watched "Bridesmaids" while enjoying cake. It was all i really wanted and super fun.0 -
It's about seeing people with respect as whole human beings. When we lose that it is easy to justify almost anything.
I know - I hate being objectified, and being treated just as a mind or a wallet. I have a BODY!
Now let's see you shake it.0 -
It's not always about trust or insecurity. I don't want my boyfriend in a strip club, and it's got nothing to do with thinking he's going to cheat with a stripper. If he were to cheat on me, it wouldn't be with some skank in a titty bar. It's simply because I feel he shouldn't need that kind of "attention" from another woman. I do feel it is disrespectful to me and to our relationship. I would never tell him he can't go. He's not a child, and I am not his mother. But if he did go, knowing I didn't want him to, I would absolutely take it as a sign of where I stand with him.0
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It's not always about trust or insecurity. I don't want my boyfriend in a strip club, and it's got nothing to do with thinking he's going to cheat with a stripper. If he were to cheat on me, it wouldn't be with some skank in a titty bar. It's simply because I feel he shouldn't need that kind of "attention" from another woman. I do feel it is disrespectful to me and to our relationship. I would never tell him he can't go. He's not a child, and I am not his mother. But if he did go, knowing I didn't want him to, I would absolutely take it as a sign of where I stand with him.
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He can still have hookers and blow right?
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Thank you!0
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