Who hates being single?

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  • rvagnoni
    rvagnoni Posts: 75 Member
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  • I <3 being single! :heart: So much more freeeedom! :drinker:
  • I find it so weird that people say 'I can do what I want' and 'I can spend my money on what I like' just because they r single...

    I am married but I can still do what I want (he is my husband not my mother!) and after paying the bills we split the cash and spend it on what we like....

    I know for me personally, my ex spent money before bills were paid. My truck got repo'd because he needed new video games, new movies, new electronics, new toys..........


    Seriously? I would have been so mad. Man, all of this makes me love my dog so much more!

    It's been 2 years and I'm still mad. And I'm mad about my sleep number that I only had for 2 years before we moved so I had to put it in my storage unit.. OR SO I THOUGHT. When he moved back in with his mom, he took my freaking bed with him and didn't tell me, now it's full of smoke because his dad smokes like a dragon. I can't use the flipping bed at all now that I paid so much money for... and get this.. he says he hates the bed, it's so uncomfortable. Well good for you, butt munch!


    WOW. Well at least when you got rid of the bed you got rid of him too :drinker: Sounds like the floor would be easier to deal with lol
  • gingerjen7
    gingerjen7 Posts: 821 Member
    I love being single for all of the casual sex. My hand never says no!
    :laugh:

    That's awesome!
  • KJoy7
    KJoy7 Posts: 246
    I love being single...I just don't like cobwebs in my undies.

    LOVE ! Ditto my friend!
  • DetroitDarin
    DetroitDarin Posts: 955 Member
    I can't prove it...but I suspect some folks are making excuses for "the Suck."

    Course, i'm biased. A LOT. I'm terrible single. I'm wired to connect with a woman. Just. Feels. Better.

    I'd really really love to have a lover to battle for the covers. I'd really enjoy reminding her to put the toilet seat back up when she's done. I'd cherrish her morning breath because it means she's there in bed, nuzzled into me. Okay, I wouldn't really cherrish the breath...but I'd understanding having to even SMELL the dragon-breath means she's there...very close to me. I'd be giddy over arguing about bills because in the middle of the argument, when we're most stirred up, there'd be a chance we'd stop talking and start making out. I can't wait for the day a lover causes me to change plans, just because I want to hang out with her more than anything. The thought of calling in sick to work, because she will not let me out of bed? Fantasy of mine.

    :)


    Ummmm....you're precious :) Can every man have this philosophy please? :heart:

    NO NO NO not every woman wants this.

    ^^^ AbsoLUTELY true. I spent 16 years with one of the women who really really dislikes my style of love. Me and my style of love, and love-sharing are not for every woman. I like knowing people are different. I'll simply find a woman who really digs me as-is. NOBODY should have to change the fundamental core-essence of their love style.
  • coe28
    coe28 Posts: 715 Member
    I've been single for over a year, and frankly, I'm over it. Yes the independence is wonderful, but I miss having someone to share everything with, the support and the companionship.
  • The best thing is not having the roller coaster of emotions that I had when I was with my ex. Being able to see the positive things in life and spending my money the way I see fit. Oh yeah, finally being happy with who I am and making 'me' time finally!!

    Not to say that I am not looking, but I am in a MUCH better place right now. :wink:
  • Jonahyona
    Jonahyona Posts: 108 Member
    I've always been single but I don't mind it. I'm not really looking for anything until I'm done with college.
  • I can't prove it...but I suspect some folks are making excuses for "the Suck."

    Course, i'm biased. A LOT. I'm terrible single. I'm wired to connect with a woman. Just. Feels. Better.

    I'd really really love to have a lover to battle for the covers. I'd really enjoy reminding her to put the toilet seat back up when she's done. I'd cherrish her morning breath because it means she's there in bed, nuzzled into me. Okay, I wouldn't really cherrish the breath...but I'd understanding having to even SMELL the dragon-breath means she's there...very close to me. I'd be giddy over arguing about bills because in the middle of the argument, when we're most stirred up, there'd be a chance we'd stop talking and start making out. I can't wait for the day a lover causes me to change plans, just because I want to hang out with her more than anything. The thought of calling in sick to work, because she will not let me out of bed? Fantasy of mine.

    :)


    Ummmm....you're precious :) Can every man have this philosophy please? :heart:

    NO NO NO not every woman wants this.

    ^^^ AbsoLUTELY true. I spent 16 years with one of the women who really really dislikes my style of love. Me and my style of love, and love-sharing are not for every woman. I like knowing people are different. I'll simply find a woman who really digs me as-is. NOBODY should have to change the fundamental core-essence of their love style.


    I completely agree. You should be able to be exactly who you are in a relationship.....I just haven't found that relationship yet haha. I refuse to settle.
  • I like being able to buy shoes and not have to answer why.. don't you already have a pair similar? "yes similar.. not the same!" :)

    Oh and as I am currently single.. as I miss having someone there.. I totally don't miss the soring! OMG!
  • I like being single most of the time. I to still go on dates to movies, dinners and such. I do enjoy making someone smile,laugh out loud, and just generally feel good...but I like doing that with out the feeling of being tied down at the moment. Besides most of the women from where I am are crazy anyways,lol. I would eventually like to get back into something deeper with someone, but for now, I dig this single life.
  • I can't prove it...but I suspect some folks are making excuses for "the Suck."

    Course, i'm biased. A LOT. I'm terrible single. I'm wired to connect with a woman. Just. Feels. Better.

    I'd really really love to have a lover to battle for the covers. I'd really enjoy reminding her to put the toilet seat back up when she's done. I'd cherrish her morning breath because it means she's there in bed, nuzzled into me. Okay, I wouldn't really cherrish the breath...but I'd understanding having to even SMELL the dragon-breath means she's there...very close to me. I'd be giddy over arguing about bills because in the middle of the argument, when we're most stirred up, there'd be a chance we'd stop talking and start making out. I can't wait for the day a lover causes me to change plans, just because I want to hang out with her more than anything. The thought of calling in sick to work, because she will not let me out of bed? Fantasy of mine.

    :)


    Ummmm....you're precious :) Can every man have this philosophy please? :heart:

    NO NO NO not every woman wants this.

    ^^^ AbsoLUTELY true. I spent 16 years with one of the women who really really dislikes my style of love. Me and my style of love, and love-sharing are not for every woman. I like knowing people are different. I'll simply find a woman who really digs me as-is. NOBODY should have to change the fundamental core-essence of their love style.

    Ok, you had me at 'I cherish her morning breath' :blushing:
  • serena569
    serena569 Posts: 427 Member
    I loved everything about it.
    I loved the floral sheets on the bed and the purple towels in the bathroom.
    I loved that the toilet seat and lid were always down.
    I loved deciding to stop somewhere after work and not reporting it to anyone.
    I loved not cooking dinner if I wasn't hungry.

    But I loved my boyfriend more.
    He doesn't care about the floral sheets if I'm nestled under them or the purple towels if I am wrapped in them.
    He learned to close the toilet after the cat jumped in his lap with wet feet.
    I learned ceheking in wasn't hard to do.
    If I'm not hungry, I still don't cook. He does. Or he has a bowl of cereal.

    And we're currently looking for a wedding venue.
  • I don't really have a problem being single. Don't have to answer to anyone about working out whenever I please hahaha. Although not going to lie I do miss having someone to cuddle with :)
  • DetroitDarin
    DetroitDarin Posts: 955 Member
    I don't really have a problem being single. Don't have to answer to anyone about working out whenever I please hahaha

    Hey man - in your profile pic? Are you holding your junk with your right hand, just out of camera?
  • jaded011
    jaded011 Posts: 38
    i was in a realtionship for 2 and a half years, for the last year of it, i could barely stand it, or him. i basically felt single. trapped. i finally left.. and my friend played match maker and got me with somone waaaaay too fast.. its too late- im fallen for him (finding another apartment in another town kinda fallen for him).. so i dont really remember what its like to be single. but this long distance stuff does suck and i hate not having him here to cuddle with at night (just got back from 4 days at his house) .. but- i guess not having someone totally ontop me yelling at me to eat and all but sitting on my force feeding me is the good part about the long distance..
    i guess this is off post- but closest i could relate to it....
  • DetroitDarin
    DetroitDarin Posts: 955 Member
    I can't prove it...but I suspect some folks are making excuses for "the Suck."

    Course, i'm biased. A LOT. I'm terrible single. I'm wired to connect with a woman. Just. Feels. Better.

    I'd really really love to have a lover to battle for the covers. I'd really enjoy reminding her to put the toilet seat back up when she's done. I'd cherrish her morning breath because it means she's there in bed, nuzzled into me. Okay, I wouldn't really cherrish the breath...but I'd understanding having to even SMELL the dragon-breath means she's there...very close to me. I'd be giddy over arguing about bills because in the middle of the argument, when we're most stirred up, there'd be a chance we'd stop talking and start making out. I can't wait for the day a lover causes me to change plans, just because I want to hang out with her more than anything. The thought of calling in sick to work, because she will not let me out of bed? Fantasy of mine.

    :)


    Ummmm....you're precious :) Can every man have this philosophy please? :heart:

    NO NO NO not every woman wants this.

    ^^^ AbsoLUTELY true. I spent 16 years with one of the women who really really dislikes my style of love. Me and my style of love, and love-sharing are not for every woman. I like knowing people are different. I'll simply find a woman who really digs me as-is. NOBODY should have to change the fundamental core-essence of their love style.


    I completely agree. You should be able to be exactly who you are in a relationship.....I just haven't found that relationship yet haha. I refuse to settle.

    Settling is the kiss of death in a relationship.
  • mminor77
    mminor77 Posts: 313
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    Going on a year come Sept 6th and the divorce broke my heart. Still working on getting it together and "enjoying it". I do like watching whatever I want to watch on t.v. although I only have two channels, sitting out on the porch on my laptop or Kindle for however long I like, taking a nap when I like. However, I think I was just "designed" to be with someone I love so hope to grow old with the love of my life one day.
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    ^^This. I held the marriage together as long as I could through mental, physical, and emotional abuse, infidelity, etc. Heard about guys like him but he didn't show his true colors until we were married and the baby was on the way. I wanted a happy family life I was willing to do whatever to make it work. At the end our baby and I got dumped at my parents house 1500 miles away because we were interfering too much in his personal life. Hopefully someday we will meet someone that will love us the way we deserve to be loved and my daughter can see what a good man is supposed to be like. Its strange after going through all that that I'm still optimistic that there is a decent good man somewhere out there for me. Im in no hurry. It'll happen when its supposed to. Until then I'm enjoying life with my baby. :smile:
  • mavrick7
    mavrick7 Posts: 1,607 Member
    Single pros and cons:

    Pros - work out at the gym all day long.
    Con - no one to enjoy the "fruits" of your labor

    Pros - Meet lots of new people
    Cons - no dinner date date

    Pros - crazy, lustful sex
    Cons - no cuddle time.
  • gingerjen7
    gingerjen7 Posts: 821 Member
    Yeah, I'd like to meet someone, but when I do, it's going to be a massive adjustment on my part.
    I hear that. I've been raising my son by myself for 7+ years and I haven't been in a relationship for more than 5 years, so I can't imagine being in a relationship again. We'd have some SERIOUS adjusting to do. We're so used to just being ourselves, dancing around, singing, lying around in our pajamas, just doing whatever. It would be weird to have to filter that out. Plus, I hate the idea of getting a sitter every weekend in order to date and make the guy feel like he gets enough of my attention. I don't want to ditch my kid and have him feel like he's losing me for some selfish reason.

    And let's just be honest, it's been so long since I've had sex, I'm kind of afraid to do it again. I'd feel so self-conscious, and this being the longest dry spell I've ever had, I imagine it would hurt like hell. It sure did with my shorter dry spells. And those were a LOT shorter. :laugh:
  • rm830
    rm830 Posts: 531 Member
    There are no pro's. As you get older, all your friends are with someone, and you're the only jerk. Going out with groups of couples just isn't fun.

    But you're not a jerk...you're awesome!!!
  • kittybear86
    kittybear86 Posts: 341 Member
    I like the fact that I can have my own bed and sleep in it.But I do want to have a boyfriend one day and it would be nice to share my life with someone.But right now,I am ok with being single at the moment.
  • DetroitDarin
    DetroitDarin Posts: 955 Member
    .But right now,I am ok with being single at the moment.

    Darlin' that's the key. Contentment with your circumstance while always okay with making things better. Good for you, honey.
  • Huskeryogi
    Huskeryogi Posts: 578 Member
    For the longest time I hated being single, Until I took a trip by my onesies to Costa Rica (surf camp!) Then I LOVED being single. I'd go out for dinner and get whatever I want. I can do whatever I want without checking in with someone to let them know I'd be home late, etc. It's a wonderful time to be selfish.

    But now I am in a brand spanking new relationship. A long distance once, so I still get that wonderful single feeling of being on my own schedule. It's so sweet, I tell ya.

    I joke sometimes that I want a guy who travels during the week and is only around on weekends. I enjoy my quiet time in the evenings.
  • coe28
    coe28 Posts: 715 Member
    Yeah, I'd like to meet someone, but when I do, it's going to be a massive adjustment on my part.
    I hear that. I've been raising my son by myself for 7+ years and I haven't been in a relationship for more than 5 years, so I can't imagine being in a relationship again. We'd have some SERIOUS adjusting to do. We're so used to just being ourselves, dancing around, singing, lying around in our pajamas, just doing whatever. It would be weird to have to filter that out. Plus, I hate the idea of getting a sitter every weekend in order to date and make the guy feel like he gets enough of my attention. I don't want to ditch my kid and have him feel like he's losing me for some selfish reason.

    I'm with you 100% on this. I'm a single mom, my ex-husband left me for another woman when I was pregnant. I had one relationship after my son was born and I felt crowded and like he was infringing on my time with my son. I have a feeling it's going to be very difficult for me to adjust enough to let someone in on that, especially if he has kids of his own.
  • I can't prove it...but I suspect some folks are making excuses for "the Suck."

    Course, i'm biased. A LOT. I'm terrible single. I'm wired to connect with a woman. Just. Feels. Better.

    I'd really really love to have a lover to battle for the covers. I'd really enjoy reminding her to put the toilet seat back up when she's done. I'd cherrish her morning breath because it means she's there in bed, nuzzled into me. Okay, I wouldn't really cherrish the breath...but I'd understanding having to even SMELL the dragon-breath means she's there...very close to me. I'd be giddy over arguing about bills because in the middle of the argument, when we're most stirred up, there'd be a chance we'd stop talking and start making out. I can't wait for the day a lover causes me to change plans, just because I want to hang out with her more than anything. The thought of calling in sick to work, because she will not let me out of bed? Fantasy of mine.

    :)


    Ummmm....you're precious :) Can every man have this philosophy please? :heart:

    NO NO NO not every woman wants this.

    ^^^ AbsoLUTELY true. I spent 16 years with one of the women who really really dislikes my style of love. Me and my style of love, and love-sharing are not for every woman. I like knowing people are different. I'll simply find a woman who really digs me as-is. NOBODY should have to change the fundamental core-essence of their love style.


    I completely agree. You should be able to be exactly who you are in a relationship.....I just haven't found that relationship yet haha. I refuse to settle.

    Settling is the kiss of death in a relationship.

    Settling sucks.... It's like stopping at a fast food joint, its oh so good at the moment but BAMMMM! You've blown your progress - ok so maybe it's not like stopping once at a fast food joint but you hopefully can see my point! :drinker:

    Every person loves and receives love differently..... There's an awesome book about it called "The Five Love Languages....". I know how I like to give love isn't the same way I like to receive it. Actually - I love love so I'll take it in any way but I prefer some ways more than others. I want to pamper my lover. I want him to know that he is the only man on my mind and that he rocks my world - everyday! Notes in his lunch, support when he needs it, a naughty text in the middle of the day, his favorite dinner, I'd be his biggest fan. When that special person comes in my life I want him to know that I have been waiting for him and how lucky he is.

    Love is the best, most beautiful feeling in the world. Love for a pet, love for a human, family member, neighbor, enemy, boss - you get my drift!! All of our problems can be solved with a little love :)

    Oops - I went on a tangent.....
    Sorry :smooched:
  • PRMinx
    PRMinx Posts: 4,585 Member
    The best thing is not having the roller coaster of emotions that I had when I was with my ex. Being able to see the positive things in life and spending my money the way I see fit. Oh yeah, finally being happy with who I am and making 'me' time finally!!

    Not to say that I am not looking, but I am in a MUCH better place right now. :wink:

    This. Well said. Still very fresh and upset from the breakup, but I know I dodged a boulder sized bullet. He's an emotional sadist and, for whatever reason, I dealt with it for way too long.

    The amount of "me" time available now is staggering. In the first few weeks after D-Day, I hired a trainer, started a GMAT class and applied to business schools. It's amazing how much time I wasn't spending on myself when I was with him and I will NEVER make the same mistake again.

    Next time, I'm going for what I want. A cuddly, emotionally available and professional supportive person who is nice to me and gives me hugs ;-)
  • poll09
    poll09 Posts: 549 Member
    i hate it sometimes and love it others x
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    I hate being single. And it didn't used to be that way. I just got out of my first serious relationship. Before him, I was content and happy being alone. Now I know what it's like having that special person in your life, and I really miss it! I do realize that I need to learn to be content on my own before I jump into another relationship.

    But on to the positives...

    The best part is that I'm single during a big time of transition in my life. I'm finishing up college and applying to grad schools. Since I'm not in a serious relationship, I'm free to go anywhere, pursue anything. I don't have to make compromises.