Ex-Boyfriend's Little Brother....

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hedwighigh
hedwighigh Posts: 299
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Well, me and my ex (let's call him Mike) have been broken up since May. We're still friends and there is not bitterness or anything. I have no feelings for him anymore. I don't think he has feelings either but I think he'd still be bothered and a little jealous if I started dating someone else at the moment. He's a sweet guy though and wants me happy.

Here is the problem.... I like his little brother (let's call him Lance) and I'm pretty sure he's attracted to me (at least). I talked to Lance more than Mike even when me and Mike were dating. Mike is very awkward and it was difficult to date him because he lacks certain social skills and get nervous easily. Lance helped me out alot and has always been incredibly sweet to me. He's also incredibly attractive.

Yesterday, me and Lance with a couple other friends drank and I got drunk. I vocalized quite a bit that he's attractive and cute. I also pop kissed everyone in the room (there was only three people besides me).... He didn't push me away or anything. While we were on the couch, I even laid in his lap and played with his hands and such. He didn't make me stop and seemed to be having alot of fun.

I'm not really looking to date him honestly but I would love to at least have some fun with him. Is this bad? I mean, it is my ex's little brother... :/

I find the whole situation kinda funny honestly... but I don't want to cause any pain for the brothers or anything. Then again, if anything were to happen between me and Lance... well, we'd never ever tell Mike anyway.
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  • trishgrace
    trishgrace Posts: 285
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    :noway: Thats just asking for trouble.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
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    Don't. Do. It.
  • mrssim
    mrssim Posts: 43 Member
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    I think if you're just looking to have fun and not pursue anything serious with Lance it would probably cause a lot of unnecessary grief. If you really wanted to try something serious it might be worth it. But considering how uncomfortable the situation could get I don't think it would be worth it just to have some fun together =/ There are plenty of guys out there who aren't Mike's little brother who you could probably have some fun with as well.
  • mamasmaltz3
    mamasmaltz3 Posts: 1,111 Member
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    If you ever cared about either one of these guys you would leave them the heck alone. You are only going to cause trouble.
  • SomeoneSomeplace
    SomeoneSomeplace Posts: 1,094 Member
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    I think it would be seriously f'd up to date your ex boyfriends brother;

    But do what you want.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
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    Unless you think you're in love with Lance, you're just inviting unnecessary drama.
    It's understandable that you don't want to be with Mike, but don't go messing around with his brother for a little fun. Poor Mike.
  • ToughTulip
    ToughTulip Posts: 1,118 Member
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    If you ever cared about either one of these guys you would leave them the heck alone. You are only going to cause trouble.

    Completely agree. Its the WRONG thing to do.
  • Allie_71
    Allie_71 Posts: 1,063 Member
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    Don't. Do. It.

    Wisdom.

    Just don't do it. Tons of guys out there. Don't get between a guy and his brother.
  • Pimpmonkey
    Pimpmonkey Posts: 566
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    wow. There are sooo many things wrong with that situation, so I'll just start with NO! don't do it and stop with it as well.
  • SPNLuver83
    SPNLuver83 Posts: 2,050 Member
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    never get between 2 brothers.
  • mermx
    mermx Posts: 976
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    If your `ex` guy thought your sister/best girlfriend was better dating material than you????? even in a `fun way`?????
  • AJ_Pete
    AJ_Pete Posts: 863 Member
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    Why would you want anyone who would even consider doing that to their brother?

    There's other hotdogs in the ballpark.....
  • LuneBleu85
    LuneBleu85 Posts: 217
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    I agree that it's not the best idea. Not sure how long you have been broken up from "Mike" but if it had been 2 years or longer it might not be such a big deal - depends how long the relationship with "Mike" was as well. If you dated him for a month vs. 2 years might change my answer!
  • Rogiefreida
    Rogiefreida Posts: 567 Member
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    Well, me and my ex (let's call him Mike) have been broken up since May. We're still friends and there is not bitterness or anything. I have no feelings for him anymore. I don't think he has feelings either but I think he'd still be bothered and a little jealous if I started dating someone else at the moment. He's a sweet guy though and wants me happy.

    Here is the problem.... I like his little brother (let's call him Lance) and I'm pretty sure he's attracted to me (at least). I talked to Lance more than Mike even when me and Mike were dating. Mike is very awkward and it was difficult to date him because he lacks certain social skills and get nervous easily. Lance helped me out alot and has always been incredibly sweet to me. He's also incredibly attractive.

    Yesterday, me and Lance with a couple other friends drank and I got drunk. I vocalized quite a bit that he's attractive and cute. I also pop kissed everyone in the room (there was only three people besides me).... He didn't push me away or anything. While we were on the couch, I even laid in his lap and played with his hands and such. He didn't make me stop and seemed to be having alot of fun.

    I'm not really looking to date him honestly but I would love to at least have some fun with him. Is this bad? I mean, it is my ex's little brother... :/

    I find the whole situation kinda funny honestly... but I don't want to cause any pain for the brothers or anything. Then again, if anything were to happen between me and Lance... well, we'd never ever tell Mike anyway.

    If you think he'd be bothered by you dating anyone, I'm sure he would be extremely "bothered" to find out you're fooling around with his brother.

    Don't do it.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
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    no, just no.
  • VictorianJade
    VictorianJade Posts: 705 Member
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    My usual advice is this:


    If you have to ask, you already know the answer.
  • PierdoPeso
    PierdoPeso Posts: 25
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    Here is the problem.... I like his little brother (let's call him Lance) and I'm pretty sure he's attracted to me (at least). I talked to Lance more than Mike even when me and Mike were dating. Mike is very awkward and it was difficult to date him because he lacks certain social skills and get nervous easily. Lance helped me out alot and has always been incredibly sweet to me. He's also incredibly attractive.

    I'm kind of wondering if this relationship was doomed from the very beginning...
  • luv_lea
    luv_lea Posts: 1,094 Member
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    It's just asking for trouble! Whether 'Mike' finds out or not, or whether its just for fun or more.....It's.Wrong.
  • Shadowsan
    Shadowsan Posts: 365 Member
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    It does make me laugh sometimes when people bother to try to get others to validate what they already suspect is not right else they'd not be asking in the first place.

    If you're just looking for fun, go out and find fun.

    An old phrase that we say around here that applies is:

    "Don't s*** on your own doorstep"

    I think it applies quite a bit.
  • hedwighigh
    hedwighigh Posts: 299
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    My usual advice is this:


    If you have to ask, you already know the answer.

    Good words to live by. Thanks all repliers.

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