Single at 33..why?

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  • jesusHchris
    jesusHchris Posts: 1,405 Member
    Anytime you're feeling down about being single, go to this website. You will instantly feel better.

    http://myfriendsaremarried.tumblr.com/

    Haha, that's great.
  • NobleSpirit11
    NobleSpirit11 Posts: 24
    I'll be 31 in November. College grad, never married, no children. I have mixed reviews with some of the women I dated. I did make mistakes with some. Unavoidable/unfortunate circumstances have ended other relationships. Others, I couldn't run away fast enough.

    In any event, I am not in a rush to start a relationship because of age. When it happens, I'll embrace it.

    The same will happen with you. Just give it time. :-)
  • sktllmdrhmzz
    sktllmdrhmzz Posts: 189 Member
    I date the musican types, and they have proven to not make good boyfriends.

    Hey! Don't go spreading this around. It's supposed to be a secret. Jeez.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I've been single 4 times.

    Unilt I was 22. Then 23 to 27. Then 29 to 33. Then 36 to 38.
  • nikbolok
    nikbolok Posts: 107 Member
    Anytime you're feeling down about being single, go to this website. You will instantly feel better.

    http://myfriendsaremarried.tumblr.com/


    Umm... hello my favorite website of the day.

    Me too. Hilarity.

    Watch the movie "Singles" ~ Have fun, stay single!
  • laurenz2501
    laurenz2501 Posts: 839 Member
    I just turned 27 a couple weeks ago, and then was a bridesmaid in a friends wedding this past weekend. It was both her and the grooms second wedding and she is just a couple months younger than me and he is 29. Seeing them both going for their second try when I have not managed to make it that far even once does make me question myself at times, but then I try to remember the good things about remaining single. Plus I am kinda picky about men and really do not want to settle for something less than I want just because I feel left behind.

    ^^^^ THIS.
    exactly why i'm still single (no kids but want them) and will be 29 in less than a month. i feel your pain, but i'd rather be single and never married at 29 than on my 2nd marriage. i'm picky too, but settling is the WORST thing you could do!
  • adrian_indy
    adrian_indy Posts: 1,444 Member
    Lower your standards.
  • rozsbluejay
    rozsbluejay Posts: 303 Member
    I just saw another post on how a girl is finally getting attention due to her losing weight. Yeah guys are shallow. So looks like I'm going to be single too.
  • _VoV
    _VoV Posts: 1,494 Member
    I was never married, college-educated and well into my thirties when I read that my odds of being killed by terrorists were better than getting married. Here's a link about that misinformation: http://www.snopes.com/science/stats/terrorist.asp

    I married at age 36 and had my two kids by age 40. So far, terrorists (other than a few trolls) have left me alone.
  • sobriquet84
    sobriquet84 Posts: 607 Member
    i personally don't really like the term "settling", as all too often people use it as the definition for allowing yourself to be with someone who doesn't check all your boxes.

    to be honest, i probably had maybe 5 "qualifications" that a guy had to have before i would consider him marriage material.

    my husband met ONE of them: that i couldn't picture the rest of my life without him.
  • fatboypup
    fatboypup Posts: 1,873 Member
    single with them boots? wtf .......
  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    Someday, someone will come along that makes it absolutely crystal clear why it never worked out with anyone else.

    Hold your standards high. He's out there looking for you.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    I just saw another post on how a girl is finally getting attention due to her losing weight. Yeah guys are shallow. So looks like I'm going to be single too.

    Now that I have a bangin body and look like some kind of Viking Warrior chick... I get tons of attention just going to the store when I look like crap.... ZOMG I NEVER SAW THAT COMING AND I HAD NO IDEA THAT WHEN YOU HAD AN AMAZING BODY THAT GUYS NOTICED YOU HOLY CRAP! STOP LOOKING AT ME OR YOU WONT BE ABLE TO TELL IM A NICE PERSON ON THE INSIDE YOU SHALLOW PIECE OF SHT!!!
  • RaineMarie
    RaineMarie Posts: 158 Member
    I'm 29, and only started dating my boyfriend 9 months ago. He is 38 - never been married, no kids, etc. Sometimes you just have to wait until you find the right one.
  • MisterGoodBar
    MisterGoodBar Posts: 157 Member
    its tough out here in singledom. dont fret, just find it as organically as possible.
  • bluefox9er
    bluefox9er Posts: 2,917 Member
    Sometimes you wonder how you could be single and unmarried at 33. It's really depressing, bec I know I am a good perosn, but I can't seem to find a good man. I date the musican types, and they have proven to not make good boyfriends. And my man wants me to meet a good Christian/BA Degree/smart/good job etc. and I told her most of them are married by my age. And all the good men are taken.

    Sucks becuase everyone my age in the church are all married with kids. I feel like there's something majorly wrong with me. Any thoughts/comments/suggestions?

    just be thankful for small mercies. nothing worse than being 33 and trapped in a terrible relationship.
  • NewTeena
    NewTeena Posts: 154 Member
    There is nothing wrong with being single. I'm 43 and very happily single.
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    i personally don't really like the term "settling", as all too often people use it as the definition for allowing yourself to be with someone who doesn't check all your boxes.

    to be honest, i probably had maybe 5 "qualifications" that a guy had to have before i would consider him marriage material.

    my husband met ONE of them: that i couldn't picture the rest of my life without him.

    ^^same here. I met my husband at a bar and we were friends for awhile before he got the nerve to try and see if it could go further.
    I was uninterested, uninterested in breaking his heart, too. I really didn't think we'd go far. We celebrated our 10th anniversary last April. We still have very little in common but we make it work. I don't feel like I settled at all.
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,412 Member
    #1- Marriage is just a piece of paper.
    #2- You're 33, stop listening to what your mom wants.
    #3- Stop going to church... to look for men.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    SORRY, just had to get that off my chest. if guys can get in trouble for looking at beautiful fit happy women who take pride in their life, and get turned on by it -

    Then girls are no longer allowed to utter the phrase... "Well.... he's a nice guy but _____________."
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    I'm in the process of divorce and you have me discouraged. Are there really no good ones left, darn!

    Just like you, it seems everyone's getting divorced. There'll be a ton more on the market soon.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    I'm single at 26... It's weird. I feel this whole clock-ticking thing since everyone around me is getting married and having babies. Yet I still feel young and not ready to get married.
  • JenKillough
    JenKillough Posts: 474 Member
    I was single at 34, no kids, never married... by choice. I simply wasn't ready until then, and then... boom. I met him. We married within 9 months of meeting.

    We all have our quirks, nothing is wrong with you... just stay positive. Do your thing. I could get really philosophical about it but that would bore everyone to death... but I do believe things happen to people at just the right time.
  • K_Smith86
    K_Smith86 Posts: 123
    Woman.. I am 37 and single..never married and no kids. Some of us are just smart enough to wait for the right person to come along than to just settle. That is all..you are in that category with me.

    A lot of people get married for the wrong reasons and then they are stuck and unhappy....feel blessed you are not one of them.

    I date...I have fun...and at some point one of those men is going to be the right guy for me. Until then, I enjoy my life. I have great friends..a WONDERFUL family..and I don't worry too much about it.

    I know I have a lot to give the right man. He has to aceept me and my eccentricities..as I will accept him...I just haven't found the right guy to run in the wild. Most men want to try and tame the animal....

    Just keep being awesome and it will happen.....

    ^THIS^

    My best friend is 25, is in the middle of her second, yes, SECOND divorce, and she has a one year old little girl. She settled way too fast with the first guy, and made the same mistake with the second. Point in saying this? It's better to be single and be able to embrace it and enjoy it, than to be at an age where you're going through divorce, stuck in a bad relationship, etc. Just live life, be happy, and when you least expect it, someone will come along. I know that's cliche to say, but it's honestly the truth.
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
    There are a lot worse things out there than being single, so stop worrying about it and just live your life.
  • DaughterOfTheMostHighKing
    DaughterOfTheMostHighKing Posts: 1,436 Member
    I was married for nearly 8 years and my husband went to Heaven. I raise my children, who are in their teens now, for 10 + years by myself. I wondered and prayed about marriage again...

    Proverbs 18:22 says, HE who finds a good wife, whose soul is good for his own, finds a good thing and favor, blessings, in the eyes of God. That meant I was to be found not to go hunting.

    When I let God be in charge, my husband to be found me. And he found me in the least expected place! HERE!!! lol!!! I wasn't looking and he did find me on a mutual friends page. lol!!!

    And he is everything that I could every want in a husband for me and a daddy for my children! And more!!!!

    Let God take care of you. Focus on being who you want to find you. If you want a loving and kind man then be loving and kind. If you want him to be in good shape be in good shape. You will attract what you are, so become what you want.

    I never looked for a man in church. like you said, they're all married or not what I want. God knows. He brought me a man who is indeed my soulmate and the best man for me! :D

    PS. DO NOT LOWER YOUR STANDARDS!!!! God has someone just for you!!! If you have a list (Habukkuk 2:2 says to write it down) of qualities you desire in your husband, read it daily and become that in who you are! I wanted a man who is stronger than me so I became strong and fit! :)
  • Silverkittycat
    Silverkittycat Posts: 1,997 Member
    ohhhhhh.....there's boys, men everywhere. Don't look for them and they will find you. Of course you'll have to focus on discernment then..... don't settle.
  • bunchesonothing
    bunchesonothing Posts: 1,015 Member
    Not all of the good men are taken.
  • contingencyplan
    contingencyplan Posts: 3,639 Member
    I'm 32 and I know exactly why I am single, unmarried, no kids. Asperger Syndrome and its effect on me.
  • Debby0904
    Debby0904 Posts: 151 Member
    My reply is with a question: Why not? Don't be in a hurry. It will happen when you aren't expecting it.
    (yes, I'm single, 45 and LOVING IT) Better to be single and happy then married and unhappy. I can attest to both.

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