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  • wellbert
    wellbert Posts: 3,924 Member
    I wouldn't. I mean, if she cooks and cleans and takes care of stuff for me, then I could deal with it. I'd probably get plenty cheating on her anyway. So. no big.
  • SVCat
    SVCat Posts: 1,483 Member
    No sex? Lolwut. Yea I understand no sex 1st date or 1st couple etc but if you flat out told me never or not until married etc. NEXT

    Might as well spend my free time playing bingo down at the retirement home.


    Im not hating or your decision to abstain just sayin

    Do you have any idea how much sex they have at the retirement home? It's like a co-ed college dorm except the people are old and the pills they pop are viagra and not ex
    Information I could have gone my entire life without.

    I'm picturing ball sacks swinging wayyyyyyyyy lowwwwww...dentures flying...BOOM!
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    I wouldn't. I mean, if she cooks and cleans and takes care of stuff for me, then I could deal with it. I'd probably get plenty cheating on her anyway. So. no big.

    I love honesty.
  • brunette_gurl_66
    brunette_gurl_66 Posts: 48 Member
    Wait. I thought you were dating some guy with kids. So how are you overlooked? Maybe post some more cryptic threads and we can figure out your drama.


    lol
  • BeeElMarvin
    BeeElMarvin Posts: 2,086 Member
    A girl can be the most awesome chick ever but when a guy finds out she doesn't have sex he overlooks her. Am I the only one who gets overlooked?

    not even a handy????
  • In my opinion, you shouldn't expect a guy to suddenly have the same beliefs as you. If he doesn't want to wait he doesn't. If you do however find someone that shares the same beliefs as you then that's great. Most people nowadays don't have these beliefs and not many are willing to wait. I suppose that's what you have to expect.
  • SassyAshleigh
    SassyAshleigh Posts: 78 Member
    I'm 27 and I used to have "relations" (at work so trying to not give IT too much to talk about). I got back into church and until I get into another committed relationship, I do not plan on having "relations" again. AND if I get into the committed relationship, then I may just wait until marriage. It's the point that the RIGHT guy will RESPECT this. As you can tell, some of these guys don't respect that decision... and that's ok.... they just aren't for you. I wrote this, this morning:



    "Just listened to the radio and heard a woman call in and explain on a segment that she went a year of dating without receiving or sending texts with potential people she dated. I love this concept! It is so easy for people to be lazy in dating.

    Ladies and gentlemen, we get what we expect for ourselves. If you want higher caliber of people to date, THEN EXPECT MORE! You DESERVE the best! You ARE the best you! Even with your weight loss, and where you are RIGHT NOW, makes you the BEST YOU! The RIGHT person will see that!

    If you want phone calls instead of texts, then demand it! If you want someone who opens doors for you, then demand it! If you want actual courting and not just flings, then demand it! If you are looking for the RIGHT person, and not just A person, then expect more from potential datees, and enjoy the ride;... but cut the ride short, if it's not what you want. Everyone has a different path... this is my path at this time. I demand more! I deserve more! :)"

    You're not going to be the neighborhood cat lady. Don't let people get you down. At the end of the day, you have to live with yourself and no one else. Do what is right for you!
  • No sex? Lolwut. Yea I understand no sex 1st date or 1st couple etc but if you flat out told me never or not until married etc. NEXT

    Might as well spend my free time playing bingo down at the retirement home.


    Im not hating or your decision to abstain just sayin

    Do you have any idea how much sex they have at the retirement home? It's like a co-ed college dorm except the people are old and the pills they pop are viagra and not ex
    Information I could have gone my entire life without.

    I'm picture ball sacks swinging wayyyyyyyyy lowwwwww...dentures flying...BOOM!


    Hahahaha & eewwww mental picture!!!! Lol
  • _JR_
    _JR_ Posts: 830 Member
    Gotta love the hypocrisy of some women on MFP, who expect the guy to sacrifice his criteria in a mate, but she doesn't have to. Really?

    It's simple. You don't want sex, and 99.9% of men do. You ARE going to get passed up A LOT. It's a simple case of "supply and demand". You supply only a little, therefor, there will be little demand.

    You women who give guys crap because they are being honest about their intentions need to stop watching the House Wives of New Jersey. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • Oh, look. It's you again. :yawn:

    Winner winner winner

    SRSLY! a million times SRSLY
  • Do you mean not having sex on the first date, or not having sex till marriage, or not having sex ever?
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    Oh, look. It's you again. :yawn:

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  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Not at all. I have a HUGE reputation for being the one that will NEVER put out when it comes to my scene here. Everyone has very high praise for me, but when someone hits on me, they'll laugh and slap the guy on the shoulder and wish him luck.

    I dont mind having a spotless reputation though. It would kill me if I ever heard someone talk about how I always jumped from guy to guy to guy just because I was legitimately open to dating and finding a good man in full view of the people I know.
  • smtillman2
    smtillman2 Posts: 756 Member
    Maybe he's angry that you post provocative pictures of yourself on line but you don't want to share with him. :happy:
  • MisterGoodBar
    MisterGoodBar Posts: 157 Member
    Gotta love the hypocrisy of some women on MFP, who expect the guy to sacrifice his criteria in a mate, but she doesn't have to. Really?

    It's simple. You don't want sex, and 99.9% of men do. You ARE going to get passed up A LOT. It's a simple case of "supply and demand". You supply only a little, therefor, there will be little demand.

    You women who give guys crap because they are being honest about their intentions need to stop watching the House Wives of New Jersey. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    hahaha have to agree with this fully. completely selfish tones from so many od the ladies in this thread.

    as men we can respect the decision that you make but if we dont fall in line with then ladies call us jerks and say we're unworthy or we're not good enough for "her". guys are practical. dont insult us to make yourselves feel better. we dont call you a prude if you dont fall in line w/ our beliefs, we just find someone who does and enjoy our time with that person.
  • guardian419
    guardian419 Posts: 391 Member
    I was a slut when I was younger, but wasn't against long term relationships.... Funny thing about me was that I would never date a girl I could sleep with on the first date.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    well.......if ya put out you wouldn't have this kind of problem.........\m/
  • DetroitDarin
    DetroitDarin Posts: 955 Member
    For the record.

    If a woman plays her cards just right, I might be convinced to put-out on the first date.
  • SmexAppeal
    SmexAppeal Posts: 858 Member
    You do what you feel you need to do. I, for one have the sex drive of a male... so I like to make with the sexy time. BUT... that doesn't mean I'm going to put out on the 1st, 2nd, 3rd date, yadda yadda yadda. It's about that feeling. You know when the time is right, and you let it just happen. And you protect yourself of course!!!
    If a guy wants the *****, and you don't want to give it to him... then yeah, he's gonna move on. And let him, because you aren't ready.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Not at all. I have a HUGE reputation for being the one that will NEVER put out when it comes to my scene here. Everyone has very high praise for me, but when someone hits on me, they'll laugh and slap the guy on the shoulder and wish him luck.

    I dont mind having a spotless reputation though. It would kill me if I ever heard someone talk about how I always jumped from guy to guy to guy just because I was legitimately open to dating and finding a good man in full view of the people I know.

    I should clarify that Im speaking about dating inside of my friends circle. The guy Im dating? I'd have sex with him until he begged me repeatedly to stop and I actually believed he meant it. you couldnt tear me off him with the jaws of life.
  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    My advice.. just stop posting topics forever.
  • Whitezombiegirl
    Whitezombiegirl Posts: 1,042 Member
    No sex? Lolwut. Yea I understand no sex 1st date or 1st couple etc but if you flat out told me never or not until married etc. NEXT

    Might as well spend my free time playing bingo down at the retirement home.


    Im not hating or your decision to abstain just sayin

    Do you have any idea how much sex they have at the retirement home? It's like a co-ed college dorm except the people are old and the pills they pop are viagra and not ex

    I've had a few people who work in returement homes tell me this. Yay for old age! (I want that to be me in when I'm 70!)
  • Becoming_A_Butterfly
    Becoming_A_Butterfly Posts: 2,534 Member
    Wait. I thought you were dating some guy with kids. So how are you overlooked? Maybe post some more cryptic threads and we can figure out your drama.

    So the white knight with kids and an ex on meth was just a fairy tale?
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/743105-dating-and-kids
  • _JR_
    _JR_ Posts: 830 Member
    My advice.. just stop posting topics forever.

    :flowerforyou:
  • atjays
    atjays Posts: 797 Member
    I don't think it's much of a stretch to agree that a healthy sex life is important in most relationships. With that said, if you tell me upfront that you don't enjoy it, don't do it or otherwise just don't care to, you're darn right you're going to get passed up.

    I stopped talking to a girl recently who thinks sex is ONLY for creating children and otherwise is disgusting and useless, she wasn't even religious. Great girl, but that's a massive deal breaker.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    Any guy who says he CAN'T wait really just means he doesn't WANT to wait. It's not like his penis is going to fall off if he's not getting it regularly. If he's willing to walk away because you're not ready for sex, he wasn't going to stick around through any of the real problems anyway.

    It needs to be said, however, that you have to be upfront about your expectations. Don't string a guy along, making him think he's getting close to sealing the deal, and then drop the bomb on him and get pissed when he heads for the exit.

    But it is not selfish to not want to have sex with someone outside of a committed, monogamous relationship, and it doesn't matter what age you are. A 40-year-old who tells you he needs sex right away is just trying to scratch an itch, not trying to start a mature, adult relationship. They will tell you literally anything to get you in bed ... "but I really can see myself falling in love with you" ... "it's okay to wait when you're 18, but not when you're 40" ... "no guy is going to wait that long, and you'll end up an old cat lady" ... "how can I know if we're sexually compatible if you won't let me stick my penis in you?" It's a bunch of bull****. Do not let anyone make you feel like something is wrong with you because you don't want to give up your body to some guy for buying you dinner once or twice.
  • Ninjajenna
    Ninjajenna Posts: 41 Member
    Since when did women become trashy and not have class because they like having sex and may not want to wait. Either side of the spectrum is fine in my book and you can change how you feel about it anytime you want. No need to judge. You will find someone who is okay with waiting to have sex, but yes, the older you get, the harder that will be. It's just a fact of life.
  • diadojikohei
    diadojikohei Posts: 732 Member
    the older you get, the harder that will be. It's just a fact of life.

    Hur hur hur
  • the older you get, the harder that will be. It's just a fact of life.

    Hur hur hur

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  • sobriquet84
    sobriquet84 Posts: 607 Member

    if a guy doesn't like you because you don't put out, then fck him.

    I'm kind of getting mixed signals here.

    haha!

    sorry about that.

    you totally just made me crack up.
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