Ex's - how long did it take you to get over yours?

Skinny_minny_mo

i was together with my ex for almost 4years - LONG DISTANCE!

We never thought that it wouldnt work, he even proposed, but alas, we somehow couldnt get the logistics and other crap sorted out.

i finally ended it with him in March this year but we still keep in touch. He knows and understands me like no one else and I have yet to meet anyone that comes close to him in character.

Today is his birthday and i changed my profile pic on fb to this pic of us together. sigh.

Guess i need get on top of someone else to get over him (or so the saying goes!)

how long did it take you to get over your ex?

ImKindOfABigDeal40

Still day by day for me.

coliema

Negative seconds, not long at all. SEEEE YA!

djsupreme6

not sure how long as there's no real measurement for such a thing, but for me at least in order to do so is to remove as much as possible. Some never get over their ex's...some can do it fairly fast like me. Last ex I was pretty much over within a week completely

eyestylemom

hm...well I didn't. I remarried him. LOL

Skinny_minny_mo

guess it depends of the situation. if the person was a *kitten*-it might be easier!

@i'm kinda...i think we are on the same road

AlotOfSweatAndPain

about a week

Skinny_minny_mo

not sure how long as there's no real measurement for such a thing, but for me at least in order to do so is to remove as much as possible. Some never get over their ex's...some can do it fairly fast like me. Last ex I was pretty much over within a week completely

a week?!!!!! :noway:

and this was a solid, long term relationship????

Skinny_minny_mo

hm...well I didn't. I remarried him. LOL

i love happy endings!! :drinker:

Meg_78

Well, when I've dome the breaking up, then I'm usually over it by the time I get the balls to break if off (which doesn't mean I'm not sad about it but I'm ready to move on once its done), when being broken up with,..well it can take more time.

crazy_ninja

sometimes.....it wont end :brokenheart:

VitaBailey

It took a long time... a few years. But in hindsight, the other girl who came in the picture helped me dodge a bullet.

campbum

depends on the situation ... with one ex im really still not over it but the fact that hes passed and i cant even talk to him makes it that way. my LONGEST relationship i found a new bf in a week but that was a rebound until i found the man that became my husband ..... and the rebound lasted about 3 months untill he introduced me to my husband!

djsupreme6

not sure how long as there's no real measurement for such a thing, but for me at least in order to do so is to remove as much as possible. Some never get over their ex's...some can do it fairly fast like me. Last ex I was pretty much over within a week completely

a week?!!!!! :noway:

and this was a solid, long term relationship????

Yeah it was a 10 yr relationship, i've had several long term relationships meaning anything over a year is fairly serious. I have never broken up with anybody and never cheated and normally got blindsided with the "we gotta talk" thing. As many others I have been heartbroken and I cannot stand that feeling, so I have enough mental toughness to just get it out of my mind quickly. For the next relationship I carry no baggage in as its fresh and new...if it happens again..same mindset. I know I have a lot of good to offer and am pretty confident. I don't let others get me down but at the same time once they're done, they're done..no close friendship with an ex for me. I may talk every so often bumping into her in the grocery store or something but too much history there. So basically I know exactly how to move on and do it fast because its not a good feeling to be not wanted

Cr01502

About 15 minutes . . .

frando

About two weeks, which for a four month relationship, I was surprised.

It ended on him asking me to 'get pregnant and we'll get married at the cheapest place possible- I need to catch up with everyone in Doncaster [Yorkshire]' I have to admit that we were rocky before he said that.

Since I get on with guys better it wasn't long before I was flirted with back to happiness.

I've been with my current boyfriend for nearly seven months now and I'm much happier then I was with my ex. No pressure to have a baby or get married quick. He's even relaxed around my guy mates.

neverstray

14 years of marriage and she broke it off suddenly with no warning. It's taken me about 3 years to get over it. But, I'm still kinda not in some ways. Mainly, I still don't have a reason. For me, that's hard to live with.

Bentley2718

i was together with my ex for almost 4years - LONG DISTANCE!

We never thought that it wouldnt work, he even proposed, but alas, we somehow couldnt get the logistics and other crap sorted out.

i finally ended it with him in March this year but we still keep in touch. He knows and understands me like no one else and I have yet to meet anyone that comes close to him in character.

Today is his birthday and i changed my profile pic on fb to this pic of us together. sigh.

Guess i need get on top of someone else to get over him (or so the saying goes!)

how long did it take you to get over your ex?

I've been in a few relationships, and it has varied considerably, from basically negative time, to much longer. The situation I think is maybe closest to yours was this. When I was in undergrad I dated a really wonderful young man, who was very good to me. We broke up because I moved across the country for grad school and did not intend to return to where I was from after. He on the other hand, considered this place his home, and did not want to leave. We were both young, so we decided to go our separate ways on good terms. We maintained contact for quite a while, and are still in very loose contact. We've both "moved on" by now, married other people, etc., but I admit, I still miss him sometimes, and I think part of me will always love him. I don't look at this as a bad thing though, I feel lucky to have had such a wonderful man in my life, even if in the end, it didn't "work out." All relationships end, that's just the nature of human life.

McBully4

Long before it was officially over

alleycat88

anywhere from 1 minute to 3 years. depending on the ex.

MrsLVF

On or before the break up!




PS.....If you can't get over him you may want to revisit the relationship & consider relocation. Good love is hard to find.

I sacrificed a job & relocated for love 3 years ago. I still haven't been able to find work. :frown: But we do not regret our decision for one minute, for us there was no other choice, we could not spend one more day without each other.

guapogringo

It can take a really long time. Some take years. Others, months. It takes as long as it takes. However, like someone once said; Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.

lniffa

It took me 1 yr to get over my ex-bf, we were together for 14 yrs and I think it depends on the individual. I am with an awesome man now.

randomtai

5 years before we broke up :laugh:

missjennifer1966

Mine always depends on how they treated me. If they were super jerks, like both my ex husbands, no time at all. I really wish I did not have to see my kids' dad.

pooleekylie

However, like someone once said; Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.

I call bs on this. I expect God to repay for all the time I wasted on couple of guys.

hbrittingham

Long before it was officially over

This was how it was for my first marriage, we were married for almost 4 1/2 years and divorced when I was 22.

Other than my first and my current marriage, I have never really been in a long-term relationship. I've been with my current husband since I was 23 (I'm 45 now).

hethro760

i was together with my ex for almost 4years - LONG DISTANCE!

We never thought that it wouldnt work, he even proposed, but alas, we somehow couldnt get the logistics and other crap sorted out.

i finally ended it with him in March this year but we still keep in touch. He knows and understands me like no one else and I have yet to meet anyone that comes close to him in character.

Today is his birthday and i changed my profile pic on fb to this pic of us together. sigh.

Guess i need get on top of someone else to get over him (or so the saying goes!)

how long did it take you to get over your ex?

I married my ex-wife in 1999--we got divorced in 2001 - got remarried in 2004 -- and got divorced again in 2011 ..

rossi02

I'm not sure you can get over someone that you are still in pretty constant contact with. Especially when the other didn't "do something" to make you want to end the relationship. From what you posted, you two still seem very into each other and don't really want to believe it's over. You are trying to be reasonable about the odds of making it work, but that doesn't mean you don't still love each other and want to be together. Do you really feel it's 100% over, or do you feel with a little time you two will somehow find a way to make it work??

ETA* I guess that's a long way to say, you can't get over someone till you decide you are really ready to move on. :flowerforyou:

CyeRyn

My last ex I was only with him for about a year... but I really cared about him. It took me 2yrs to get over him and even now he still lingers in the back of my mind. He was a cheater so I should have been able to get over him quick but there was just something about him that just stuck. Oh well. It's been 4yrs now and now he's just a memory.

yo_andi

It took me a year to get over the relationship, and another year to realize that I was over it.