Ex's - how long did it take you to get over yours?

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  • Skinny_minny_mo
    Skinny_minny_mo Posts: 1,272 Member
    OP I'll help you get over him! As the saying goes...

    With my past exes each one was a 6 month long relationship (weird, I know)

    The first one I was over it about 15 minutes after she broke up with me. She must've been on the same page as me and just wanted out.

    One of them it took me a year or two to get over her (I was convinced she was the love of my life at the time and she broke up with me out of the blue)

    The most recent one it took me 2 solid months of working hard and trying not to think of her. Then we started to talked about 3 months after we broke up and that was fine but now she started dating this Ahole and so I think about her all the time this last couple weeks since we talked last. (the guy, a 41 yr old ex special forces, threatened to kill me and my exes ex husband if we ever talked to her. He blew his lid when I texted her one day.)

    guy sounds like a lunatic!
  • Espressocycle
    Espressocycle Posts: 2,245 Member
    I'd say about three months. But then again, she was a pain in the *kitten*.
  • nicdilor
    nicdilor Posts: 49
    I was pretty damn glad actually, one day he came home and found all the locks changed and all his clothes in pieces, till this day don't know how that happened :wink:
  • Pollywog39
    Pollywog39 Posts: 1,730 Member
    I was with my x for more than half of my life! We were high-school sweethearts (sort of - we always had a tumultous relationship), got married after being together for 6 years, and were married for over 25.................about 6 months before our 25th, I moved out. He is chemically dependent, possessive, sick and a true pain in the *kitten*.........and I was angry.

    It took me about 4 years to get past the anger, the regret, the b.s. I gave him PLENTY of time to get help, to become the man he once was, to DO THE RIGHT THING.........but he never did. I divorced him, and decided I needed to finally LIVE!!!
    He still lives a sh!tty life......and mine is awesome!
  • my3kidsrgr8
    my3kidsrgr8 Posts: 3
    I can tell you from my experience, that I'm still not over my ex and I don't think I ever will be and I've been married for almost 19 years now. In 2008 our paths crossed for the first time in about 15 years. At that moment I realized I married the wrong guy. Deep down I think I knew it all along. Long story short, he got very sick and died 9 months later. We had been together off and on for 12 years before I ended it with him. He had asked me to marry him several times, and we just could not get it together. Now I'll never have the opportunity to be with the one man that TOTALLY got me! Moral of this story: Never give up on someone you can't stop thinking about for one day. Unless he was abusive, don't walk, RUN to give this another shot! Don't look back with regret! Do whatever it takes to see this through and give it every opportunity to work.
  • ebony__
    ebony__ Posts: 519 Member
    sometimes.....it wont end :brokenheart:

    This.
    It's been 6 years for me.
    Still feel no different.
    Still miss him every night
  • kyes31
    kyes31 Posts: 9
    I got over mine about 6 months prior splitting but he was an abuser use to hit me & belittle me however the anger it took me a year & a half
  • cakelady69
    cakelady69 Posts: 228
    It took 3 years. He treated me better than I could have ever dreamed. We were getting married. The day before the wedding and one week before we closed on our new home. He called it off. I was left broken, without a home and loss a ton of money on that house. Anyway, fast forward 3 1/2 years later. I'm so thankful it did not work. I'm in a better place mentally thanks to that breakup. I'm getting healthy physically and feel like I can take on the world. Hopefully, I'll me Mr. Right somewhere along the way.
  • alleycat88
    alleycat88 Posts: 756 Member
    It took 3 years. He treated me better than I could have ever dreamed. We were getting married. The day before the wedding and one week before we closed on our new home. He called it off. I was left broken, without a home and loss a ton of money on that house. Anyway, fast forward 3 1/2 years later. I'm so thankful it did not work. I'm in a better place mentally thanks to that breakup. I'm getting healthy physically and feel like I can take on the world. Hopefully, I'll me Mr. Right somewhere along the way.

    wow :noway:

    i'd have lost my mind if that happened to me
  • vanessamcinnis
    vanessamcinnis Posts: 204 Member
    i was together with my ex for almost 4years - LONG DISTANCE!

    We never thought that it wouldnt work, he even proposed, but alas, we somehow couldnt get the logistics and other crap sorted out.

    i finally ended it with him in March this year but we still keep in touch. He knows and understands me like no one else and I have yet to meet anyone that comes close to him in character.

    Today is his birthday and i changed my profile pic on fb to this pic of us together. sigh.

    Guess i need get on top of someone else to get over him ;) (or so the saying goes!)

    how long did it take you to get over your ex?

    I was with my ex for 2 and a half years I thought he was the one and I thought I loved him. I fell in love with another guy. April 1st and we will be together for 3 years. My ex....that was not love I thought it was...my boyfriend is my first and only true love. My ex stopped trying and didn't put in any effort we fought all the time, it just wasn't working. I got over him very quick because "Michael" treated me so amazing I didn't think of my ex. I blocked him out of my life completely...well now he lives across the street from me haha. Michael just made me very happy I got over my ex fast.
  • cakelady69
    cakelady69 Posts: 228
    It took 3 years. He treated me better than I could have ever dreamed. We were getting married. The day before the wedding and one week before we closed on our new home. He called it off. I was left broken, without a home and loss a ton of money on that house. Anyway, fast forward 3 1/2 years later. I'm so thankful it did not work. I'm in a better place mentally thanks to that breakup. I'm getting healthy physically and feel like I can take on the world. Hopefully, I'll me Mr. Right somewhere along the way.

    wow :noway: i'd have lost my mind if that happened to me


    It was very hard. But I'm doing much better. We lived in a small community, so I would see him all the time. The hardest part was how hurt my kids were. They loved him and his kids. Anyway, fast forward now I don't even let my kids know I'm dating. That way they don't see people come in and out of their lives. I will only let them meet someone I'm seeing for a while and serious with. (I have only dated a little bit this last year)

    On another note, it hurt pretty bad because it was the only person I connected with after my 15 yr marriage ended.
    But it truly has made me a stronger woman. I value myself now and I'm not willing to settle. I'm sure that man is out there. Hopefully, we will meet each other eventually :)
  • __Sneakers__
    __Sneakers__ Posts: 20
    Last Ex....week. The Ex before that...NEVER!
  • McBully4
    McBully4 Posts: 1,270 Member
    wow most of you ladies remind me of her

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  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    I just got over my last ex who dumped me in May. After how he treated me, I never wanted to get back with him, but it took a while for my heart to catch up with my brain. And I feel so free now! It's great to be over him 100%!
  • SportyLadyPhotographer
    SportyLadyPhotographer Posts: 173
    I dumped my boyfriend in the summer but he turned out to be extremely nasty nearly had to call the police but last week I felt better and actually got a guys number, it was hard and there are moments of weakness but its when your ready
  • loriaqui
    loriaqui Posts: 55 Member
    10 years of marriage...1 year separation...6 years divorced.

    I have to say I got blindsided...and I think that is why it took me a few years to get over him. Then I spent a few years working on me. No rebounds, no dating. I had three girls to raise. He moved on to wife two...divorce. Slept around with various married women...and now is working on a possible third wife. Glad I got over him and moved on. The girls did NOT need that example around.
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    not sure how long as there's no real measurement for such a thing, but for me at least in order to do so is to remove as much as possible. Some never get over their ex's...some can do it fairly fast like me. Last ex I was pretty much over within a week completely

    a week?!!!!! :noway:

    and this was a solid, long term relationship????

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • Ashlee2421
    Ashlee2421 Posts: 58 Member
    Well, since we broke up when I was 3 months pregnant, it took about 32 minutes.
  • shellebelle87
    shellebelle87 Posts: 291 Member
    Pro-tip fellas: don't cheat on your girlfriend with multiple women, make her quit her job (by way of serious threats) to be a stay at home mom because "that's how it's supposed to be," then spend all your money on blow and expect her to take you back when she dumps your sorry *kitten*.

    Another pro-tip: Don't cheat on your girlfriend with a hooker and film it on the phone you know your girlfriend looks through due to lack of trust. There are other ways to break up with someone.

    Sadly, I kept that relationship going for another year. Idiot!! But in answer to OP, once my ex played his final card, I was over him instantly. And that was a 3 yr relationship.

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