Personality or Looks

SpeSHul_SnoflEHk

Personality first. Once you form that bond, they become more attractive to you. That being said, I wouldn't discount someone if they were good looking.

jenilla1

I don't understand why you would ever have to settle for one or the other. There are tons of people with both attributes. I chose both when I picked my husband. :flowerforyou:

MrsC2268

I believe it is the combination of both. I still get chills when my hubby smiles at me. :happy:

LadyIvysMom

Personality is what keeps me, so it’s more important. You can change your looks, but being a d-bag is forever, usually. If your personality sucks, you are eye candy and nothing more.

Looks will get my attention. I’m only attracted to guys with longish hair who are at least somewhat in shape (by somewhat in shape I mean “not morbidly obese” and “not stick thin”) and are well groomed/have good hygeine. Tattoos of interesting things catches my eye too.

You have to have a similar sense of humor to me and be interested in things beyond boobs and football. Don’t get me wrong, I heart me some boobs and football as much as the next person too, but there is more to life. You MUST be kind to children and animals (especially my animals), treat women with respect, and you must absolutely NOT be a controlling, jealous psycho who is unwilling to discuss problems or compromise. You must be creative. You must have a sex drive.

How you talk and present yourself will also keep (or repel) me. Certain pitches of voice make me want to fling myself off a bridge. So, if you look like Johnny Depp and have the personality of a saint or whatever, if you have the voice of Andy ****, I won’t want to be around you. Sorry.

It helps if you dress well. Men, if I can see your undies cause your pants are hanging down to your knees (either because you’re a plumber or a wannabe gang member) I will probably just think you don’t know how to dress yourself and assume you are a moron who failed the lesson in pre-school where they taught you how clothes work.

Manners matter too. Chew with your mouth closed. Get up on the bus so elderly ladies with canes can sit down. Don’t constantly spit and belch in public. Etc.

ValerieMartini2Olives

Let's be real here... someone could have the most amazinggggg personality of anyone you've ever met, but if you're not physically attracted to them, you never will be. But in general, I would say personality over looks.

SeaChele77

Imagine if you are living at the worlds most picturesque place. You will love it initially but it would not entice you for ever.

DISAGREE!!!
Living in paradise for 17yrs....not sick of it yet!!!

JacquelineD35

Personality... Looks do you no good if you ar e complete douche bag :drinker:

AlotOfSweatAndPain

If we're talking about a wham bam thank ya ma'am...one night stand...*kitten* buddy...looks are important. For wife material, someone I have to live the rest of my life with? Personality is a MUST. Beauty will only get ya but so far with me. Luckily I found a woman with both.

ritoosh

lol personality for sure. but he just cant be too ugly im going to want to have to wake up next to the person if im with him. lol

carriempls

Attraction for me has always been far more about personality and chemistry than looks. Looks play a part, but for me it's more about style and how that shows off someone's personality. There are certain aesthetics that I may naturally gravitate towards or away from, but personality will trump it every time. Someone I think of as good looking can ruin it in a few minutes if they open their mouths and are a jerk. My attraction and all interest will be gone. And on the other side my attraction can build for someone I may not have thought much about as I get to know them.

DetroitDarin

How is it shallow to prefer looks???
I'd say its pretty f'ing shallow to avoid a HOT Person just because they lack a personality. That's judgmental.

I like women liking my personality - but I'm looking for a woman who lusts after my body AND my awesome personality

Iceman1800

looks have to attract you, personality keeps you

perfect answer. A smoking hot girl with a killer body will stay single if she's nasty and rude

apedeb09

Definitely personality..

Yes, I have to be somewhat physically attracted to them also but personality makes it or breaks it.. There has been guys that I've talked to that I wouldn't normally go for based on looks alone, but once we started talking and I realized how we "clicked", I found myself attracted to them based on that alone.

vinnieti

Good movie quote: "You can show me the most beautiful girl in the world and I'll show you a guy who's tired of sleeping with her..."

If you're all about looks you'll never be happy...you'll always be chasing the next best thing. It takes a lot more than looks to make anybody happy.

juicy011

looks have to attract you, personality keeps you

^^^^this all the way

TorontoDiane

there needs to be a certain something when you meet someone... but its not necessarily about looks at that moment, its chemistry, ... but to keep that going there needs to be so much more than that... great personality, good person, fun times and decency and honesty...

jg627

Looks can be made or broken by personality. Take my former neighbor for example. She isn't much to look at, but when her eyes meet mine and the sound of her voice resonates in my ears, I get that 'feeling' deep in my stomach. You know the one I'm speaking of. My stomach starts to contract and convulse then involuntarily purges its contents violently all over the floor. She is a troglodyte inside and out.

TorontoDiane

lol ... good job she does not live next door to you any longer... that way you can keep your meals down lol

tismyhardbody

According to all my GF's every guy I have ever dated isn't very attractive, so must be the personality!

SVCat

Hell no...gotta have both. Looks to a certain extent, but the personality has absolutely got to be there. And I agree with others...the personality will push them from being average looking to absolutely smoking hot.

PeteyogiW

According to all my GF's every guy I have ever dated isn't very attractive, so must be the personality!

I like that quote!!

Katanthus

Personality.

Beauty is more than skin deep, it really is.

I was in a cosmetics store, where a woman (she looked like she was an old leather handbag sucking a wasp, but thought herself gorgeous), was being so appallingly bad mannered to me. I told her... "lady, no amount of makeup will cover up an ugly personality".

__Sneakers__

Personality

jg627

lol ... good job she does not live next door to you any longer... that way you can keep your meals down lol

She sings too.

I know we just met, and this is crazy, but I'm a troglodyte, so call me Amy.

NatashaB8

Sometimes I'm not attracted to someone, but then when I get to know them and they can make me laugh (thats a HUGE bonus) then suddenly they are extremely attractive!

Personality first, definitely.

Luckily I have a guy who has both
He is complaining about his weight too and like you said, I know he will look better but at the same time I would love him and still be attracted to him even if he was heavier!

beach_please

I think looks is what initially pulls you in but personality can make it or break it, regardless of whether the person is gorgeous or unattractive.

JessigirlJb

Last time I checked, personality didnt catch many eyes across a crowded and noisy room. Unfortunately for some of us, attraction is the first key factor ( think peacock, here ). However, like most have said, personality is what keeps you interested well beyond looks.

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shoppingmaniac86

I like both but personality trumps looks for me

NinjaBeth90

Personality!! Looks are an added bonus

ErinBeth7

Personality mixed with a little bit of looks.