Personality or Looks

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  • dandelion39
    dandelion39 Posts: 514 Member
    Personality. Smart, funny, and sane beats tall, dark, and handsome any day (though tall, dark, and handsome certainly doesn't hurt...)
  • LeenaRuns
    LeenaRuns Posts: 1,309 Member
    If you are truly attracted to somebodys personality, you will find them the most gorgeous creature ever.

    Definitely this!
  • DonniesGirl69
    DonniesGirl69 Posts: 644 Member
    Personality for sure.
  • LifeChangingExp8512
    LifeChangingExp8512 Posts: 184
    If we're talking about a wham bam thank ya ma'am...one night stand...*kitten* buddy...looks are important. For wife material, someone I have to live the rest of my life with? Personality is a MUST. Beauty will only get ya but so far with me. Luckily I found a woman with both.

    Awww :cry: :heart:
  • Scottish_charlene_84
    Scottish_charlene_84 Posts: 986 Member
    I think u need to fancy someone before u can want to get to know them "better."
  • pepsi666
    pepsi666 Posts: 31
    looks have to attract you, personality keeps you

    This ^^
  • sh4690
    sh4690 Posts: 169 Member
    Personality is probably the main thing when it comes to a long term relationship..
    But I would still have to have myself a wee cutie at that :)
  • VanessaGS
    VanessaGS Posts: 514 Member
    looks have to attract you, personality keeps you

    This. Different people have different attraction. Just come someone is HOT doesn't mean they have a great personality. If you're HOT and have a great personality then you're the whole package.
  • MelissaE27
    MelissaE27 Posts: 682 Member
    There has to be some sorta physical for me.. but personality is a must,, make me laugh and youre a winner :)
  • kevie1021
    kevie1021 Posts: 543 Member
    There has to be something physically that makes you want to talk to the person, but after that it's definitely personality.
  • JenniBaby85
    JenniBaby85 Posts: 855 Member
    Personality comes first. Always. I love my husband's sense of humor, respectfulness, and loving attitude. I am ALSO attracted to him physically, which is a good sign. But it wouldn't matter anyway, I am not attracted to bad attitudes :heart:
  • kingofcrunk
    kingofcrunk Posts: 372 Member
    Everyone says they're attracted by personality and will swear it til they're blue in the face. But in reality if you look around most couples are together based on looks.
  • Topsking2010
    Topsking2010 Posts: 2,245 Member
    Personality is #1
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    In a real world the best in both would be so good, but which is the most important to you, in yourself and your partner. I like my gf's personality and looks, she wants to lose weight and I can see that and when she reaches her goal she will look even better, but it wont change how I feel for her as I cant feel much more than I already do. I think she feels likewise. What about you people out there, be honest!

    If you have an ugly personality, it doesn't matter what you look like, you are an ugly person.
  • Hmmcglothl
    Hmmcglothl Posts: 51 Member
    I'm gonna say that having a good personality will make you beautiful to someone. I think a good personality can really radiate whether you have the standard "good looks" or not. People with bad attitudes usually look pretty ugly.
  • kevie1021
    kevie1021 Posts: 543 Member
    Personality is probably the main thing when it comes to a long term relationship..
    But I would still have to have myself a wee cutie at that :)

    Nice!
  • smtillman2
    smtillman2 Posts: 756 Member
    Personality is much more important than looks. I've know lots of attractive people with crappy personalities. I don't care how good looking you are I don't want to spend time with someone with an undesirable personality/attitude.
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    Everyone says they're attracted by personality and will swear it til they're blue in the face. But in reality if you look around most couples are together based on looks.

    Maybe hotties... ??

    I never intended to fall in love with my man, but because of his personality and mine clicking, it just happened. When you are old and gray, you lose your looks anyway. It's pretty stupid to pick a lifetime partner that is a boring conversationalist.
  • Illona88
    Illona88 Posts: 903 Member
    I only ever start to fancy men after I've gotten to know them quite a bit, so definitely personality for me.
  • ShallaLovee
    ShallaLovee Posts: 341 Member
    Personality.

    Beauty is more than skin deep, it really is.

    I was in a cosmetics store, where a woman (she looked like she was an old leather handbag sucking a wasp, but thought herself gorgeous), was being so appallingly bad mannered to me. I told her... "lady, no amount of makeup will cover up an ugly personality".

    LOL, I totally agree with this! Personally for me I never look at someone like that. My thing is I'm friends with anyone and over time I usually figure out how they are and if their personality is shallow and careless etc. I think my whole opinion changes of them. So I would say I go for personality over looks cause as she said beauty is within. If your beautiful on the inside your beautiful to me on the outside.
  • Peezy4President
    Peezy4President Posts: 292 Member
    People aways say personality to be politically correct, but i think looks is what attracts a person to another person at first sight, then personality keeps them around..

    For me tho, i prefer a good mix of both.. personality is more important if i want a relationship with the person, and looks if its just a fling..
  • julieo81
    julieo81 Posts: 47 Member
    looks have to attract you, personality keeps you

    This right here

    I'm right there too. Had I not been attracted to my boyfriend when we first met, I prob would not have gone on the first date. But now that we have been together for 2.5 yeaars... It is his personality that has my heart, and that makes him the most handsome and sexy man I know.
  • xSCiNTILLATEx79
    xSCiNTILLATEx79 Posts: 245 Member
    If you have an ugly personality, it doesn't matter what you look like, you are an ugly person.

    ^^^THIS!

    Personality first, especially humor...I think someone becomes more attractive if they have a great personality - if you blow them off because you don't think their "HOT" A. You're probabaly missing out. B. Shallow.
  • Mama_Mila
    Mama_Mila Posts: 511 Member
    They both matter equally! Luckily, my man rocks in both departments! (and one other, but we won't go there) :wink:
  • know_your_worth
    know_your_worth Posts: 481 Member
    I need both.
    Not talking an amazingly hot guy with a fantastic personality. That's not realistic.

    But I need someone who's decent looking and interesting.
  • Steph38111
    Steph38111 Posts: 35
    I think compatibility is what's most important, you could be drop dead gorgeous or the sweetest girl in the world but if we don't click its not going to work

    ^^this

    I went out with a guy that I found attractive to look at and we had similar interests but then when we kissed, it was like kissing my brother, ew. You need to have that elusive chemistry...
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    I have dated gorgeous men who bored the SNOT out of me.

    So I go for personality these days. What you look like can only hold my interest for so long. If you start speaking and I fall asleep on cue... that's not good.
  • TropicalFlowerz
    TropicalFlowerz Posts: 1,990 Member
    personality 100%,.....great conversation/intelligence/charm/charisma go a long way !!! cute + dumb =bored..in my book.
  • BrooklynTico
    BrooklynTico Posts: 35
    Let me keep it real....Looks. The less I know about you, the better. Who goes to a bar and says, "damn, look at her/him. I bet he/she can strike the *kitten* out of a conversation."

    Having said that, you clearly can't have a relationship without both. I'm just not looking for a relationship now, so I'm not big on personality now.
  • torrini
    torrini Posts: 78 Member
    If a person has an ugly personality I can't find them attractive. So most of the time I just wish people would shut up ;)

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