How often do you kiss?

PaleoPath4Lyfe

rarely! And we are still young (30 & 32). We have 3 kids and are so busy with work and the kids that we don't take time for each other. Sad but true! He doesn't see a problem with it...I'm starting to think we just "tolerate" each other because it's easier. (and yes I do know that this is an issue)

sounds similar to me. 2 kids and we are in our late 30s instead of early 30s but i miss physical interaction yet she doesnt seem to care, hasnt for a long time, not sure she ever did but i think she was more accomodating say 7 or 8 years ago. i try to initiate things but it is struggle to even get a hello and goodbye kiss some days, i watch as she purposely positions her body in a way to make it hard to kiss her hello when she walks by me after coming home from somewhere. i havent given up at the moment and still seek her out to kiss her goodbye and to give real kisses whenever she will let me but i cant remember the last time she came up and kissed me, it has been many years. and this sex thing that was mentioned, how often do you married couples have sex? i am lucky if i can get any once a month, we average in the single digits per year

This is sad....

Yes, this is really sad. Her body language and other actions are displaying red flags all over the place of one that is a cheater. I am sorry, but those are signs and signals.

banshishi

Thats an insidious thing to say! And an utter load of codswallop, while she is displaying signals that suggest she isnt happy, it doesnt red flag cheating, I ended up being the same way with my ex husband, I was just so sick of life, that I shut him out, there are lots of reason why a woman would be feeling this way...I never cheated on my ex hubby..ever! but I did in the end leave him, because I just got so unhappy.... I think maybe there are some issues that need addressing because it sounds like your partner isnt feeling very happy, but it doesnt mean she is cheating.

imchicbad

We kiss every morning before we leave eachother, and hold hands when we drive.:blushing:

PaleoPath4Lyfe

Thats an insidious thing to say! And an utter load of codswallop, while she is displaying signals that suggest she isnt happy, it doesnt red flag cheating, I ended up being the same way with my ex husband, I was just so sick of life, that I shut him out, there are lots of reason why a woman would be feeling this way...I never cheated on my ex hubby..ever! but I did in the end leave him, because I just got so unhappy.... I think maybe there are some issues that need addressing because it sounds like your partner isnt feeling very happy, but it doesnt mean she is cheating.

Being truthful isn't being insdious.

My husband and I went to marriage counselling as he was displaying signs and the first thing the counselor asked him is if he were cheating, because those are definite red flags of a cheating spouse.

That doesn't mean everyone 100% is cheating, but it makes it so he should be watching other things and out right ask her.

Her behaviors are displaying #3 and # 8 which are CLEAR signs.

1. Sudden changes in schedule or chronically cancelling plans. For example, you and your mate routinely have dinner every Thursday night at your favorite restaurant, but lately your partner has been cancelling and coming up with a number of different excuses.

2. Starts fights and makes accusatory statements more often. You notice your mate is more on edge and starts fights more often. This also might include suddenly accusing you of cheating. This could be a guilty conscience at play.

3. Being emotionally withdrawn. It’s never a good sign when it takes effort to make even basic conversation with your mate, and also when your partner no longer asks for more in-depth details about things going on in your life.

4. Constant texting or using other virtual modalities. You notice your mate is constantly on, or checking, the phone or computer, at all hours of the day and night. You may also have discovered your mate has joined new social networks without telling you.

5. Being secretive with the phone. Every time the phone rings, your companion goes to another room to take the call. Or you notice the immediate deleting of emails and text messages and keeping the phone face down at all times.

6. Changing passcodes. Your mate frequently changes telephone, email and social networking site login information.

7. Constantly working late. Your mate is constantly coming home late and blames it on their work schedule -- even when it is not the busy season. The same would hold true for a higher volume of business trips.

8. Changes in sexual patterns and/or alertness. You and your mate used to have sex 3 to 4 times per week but lately, your partner seems disinterested and now you have sex only once a week or less. Or, your mate asks you to try new positions or "toys," even knowing you may not be comfortable with it.

9. Immediate shower upon arriving home, especially when it was not routine before. Upon returning home, your mate immediately runs to the shower before greeting you in an effort to wash away any evidence.

10. Changing underwear. You notice your mate has been wearing new and sexier under garments. Or, you find your mate's under garments in the garbage.

LuisZav

I'm a fan of PDA so I don't care where I would be with a girl, lips will be smacking!

banshishi

They are also classic signs of a woman suffering from depression or stress..2 out of 10 signs, that are very common symptoms of a whole number of different things is absolutely beside the point...and to suggest she may be cheating on such flimsy points is insidious, the guy may not have even considered its a possibility and is now probably considering it, which is so going to help a relationship that is clearly not on top form. If she isnt cheating and he goes and confronts her suggesting she is I bet thats going to get him a whole lot more kisses!

PaleoPath4Lyfe

They are also classic signs of a woman suffering from depression or stress..2 out of 10 signs, that are very common symptoms of a whole number of different things is absolutely beside the point...and to suggest she may be cheating on such flimsy points is insidious, the guy may not have even considered its a possibility and is now probably considering it, which is so going to help a relationship that is clearly not on top form. If she isnt cheating and he goes and confronts her suggesting she is I bet thats going to get him a whole lot more kisses!

Look, I am a female and have been depressed (to the point of being suicidal) and I have also been unhappy within my marriage.

When I was depressed, I didn't have a lot of these signs, I just wanted to sleep and get drunk all the time.

I displayed these signs also, but did not cheat - but I WANTED TOO - which in the counselors eyes was just as bad. The same went for my husband.

Sorry, I am a very blunt person and the truth is the truth. I will NOT sugar coat things for no one. The classic signs are there and HE should BEWARE!

banshishi

Yep and I was just as blunt back, my point is you landed on cheating, without mentioning that there are a whole lot of other common reasons for the behavours, I get that you are drawing on your lifes experience, I used an example from my own life experience to illustrate another reason for the way she is acting, to suggest to a person that their partner may be cheating when he is clearly feeling less than right about his relationship on so little information is just thoughtless, I am not denying that it may be the case, just its a red flag for a lot of other things not just infidelity. Anyway you have had counselling so you are the expert, I will bow out and leave be.

nicehormones

Constantly. When we say hello, goodbye, during sex, while cooking or doing dishes. We are always kissing each others' hands too... We aren't ridiculously affectionate in public, but we definitely are when we are at home

oker673

My boyfriend is 800 miles away so I am not able to kiss him for a while. When we are together, it ranges from once to a couple times a day. Hardly ever during sex, but he says he wants to do more of that. We are always snuggling though.

neverstray

Hmmmm. This is interesting. I guess I have never met the one because I never want to kiss someone that much. Ever. Kissing almost always disrupts what I'm doing. It kind of makes me mad sometimes. Lol. I think to myself, "get the kcuf out of here". Lol. Maybe that's why my marriages haven't worked out. Lol.

I'm just a lone wolf. :-)

CassieLyle

any chance we can.. not all of them are full lip locks.. we peck on the cheek too.. but something just to say Hi and love you!

SeaRunner26

any chance we can.. not all of them are full lip locks.. we peck on the cheek too.. but something just to say Hi and love you!

ditto