Broken Hearted :-(

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  • Jennifer2387
    Jennifer2387 Posts: 957 Member
    It takes a while. I was married for 14 years when my ex-husband called, yes called .. not in person, and told me he was leaving. That was four years ago and if I allow myself to think about it for any extended period of time, I will cry even to this day. Give yourself some time to grieve for the relationship .. but, you need to give yourself a cut off time to stop focusing on the sadness. If you find yourself thinking about it .. retrain your thoughts. Take them somewhere else. Get up and organize a closet .. paint your nails, scrub the floor .. anything. Just move your mind forward. Don't let it go backwards. If I let myself .. I could wallow in still. He didn't treat me any better than your ex it sounds like. So .. you need to take responsibility for your thoughts. Just because they are there, doesn't mean you have to think about it .. re-train your brain to think about other things.

    In the meantime, you need to get your shizzle together. You have a child.
  • DetroitDarin
    DetroitDarin Posts: 955 Member
    WTH Denise? Honey.

    You've had your cry. Everyone needs that. The only options I see for you:

    Decide to change your paradigm; moving from one of sadness to one of opportunity.

    OR:

    Keep doing what you're doing.

    Honey you got this. Decide to make a stand. Grab your balls, face the world, and go out and find the man worthy of you.

    Go to a mirror right now and say "Without ME it'd just be AWESO"

    :D

    :hug:
  • luv_lea
    luv_lea Posts: 1,094 Member
    I feel for your child. smh
  • snoopytwins
    snoopytwins Posts: 1,759 Member
    Me time? Really?

    I get that you are hurt, but this was coming. You don't post a bunch of questions online for weeks about the status of your relationship and pretend this is out of the blue. Suck it up...you can have "your" moment later.

    You've got other things to figure out. Part of your problem is this pity party you're allowing yourself. Figure out that you are worth more, can do more, and have responsibiities. Then have a good cry and be done.

    I don't say this out of harshness but more of a wake up. My exhusband left me with two four-year olds and a three-year old. Sure, it was hard...it's still sometimes a touchy subject, but I had my children to worry about. As a mom...I know you are aware that "you" are not the priority. Stop putting your son through these toxic relationships. Work on you, as a mom and as a woman.
  • ImKindOfABigDeal40
    ImKindOfABigDeal40 Posts: 807 Member
    Everyone is different and everyone deals with heart break differently. I still haven't gotten over my heartbreak. It's been a year for me but it hasn't stopped me from dating other people.
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
    I don't know what state you are in but you are technically common law married. Make him divorce you if he wants out of the relationship. He owes you something.

    Sorry, but NO, you can't be married against your will.

    Only a few states recognize common-law marriages, and most of them require specific intent, agreement, and publically representing yourself as married (on taxes, joint property, name changes, Mr./Mrs., calling each other "husband/wife", etc.)
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    Sack up, lady. You've got a kid to worry about. Never. EVER. expect anybody to take care of you. You have a responsibility to your child to take care of them, not some man (or woman, for that matter.)

    You knew this was coming, you posted all kinds of threads on it so time to be an adult. You have bigger fish to fry.
  • Sick_Beard
    Sick_Beard Posts: 407 Member
    Your a hot milf, just find yourself a rich toyboy and live happily ever after
  • msmith2020
    msmith2020 Posts: 365 Member
    Be better prepared next time. As an adult, how do you not have money, car or phone? Were you just leeching off of him?



    um no I moved out of state with him a few years ago. I had a job and car up to that point. He was making really great money where we went and so he wanted me to stay home and I did the wife and mom thing as one of his kids lived with us to... No leeching at all.

    Even married I would never do the "stay at home, make no money- depend on someone else" routine. I live with my BF of 4 years and I OWN everything I have. I pay my own phone bill, check, I own my own car, check, I buy my own groceries, check- Job? CHECK!

    :indifferent:

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