What's your Deal-Breaker?

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  • heytherestephy
    heytherestephy Posts: 356 Member
    Smoking, No job, Drug users
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    laziness
  • sandrinamsilva
    sandrinamsilva Posts: 651 Member
    Being a rude person.
  • chachita7
    chachita7 Posts: 996 Member
    Lack of confidence...
  • heytherestephy
    heytherestephy Posts: 356 Member
    Bad teeth (like gross, yellow, dirty, disgusting clear you don't take care of them... if you can't take care of those, you can't take care of yourself).

    No education. Some people see this as snobby..... but it's such an important part of my life (I just applied for 2 PhD programs yesterday), It just bothers me when someone is 27, no education beyond high school, and probably working a crap job. I mean, yay, they have a job, but why didn't you even try? Ugh!

    Wow, having lack of education as the deal breaker is not what people think is snobby, your attitude about it is. Maybe not everyone wanted to be saddled down with student loan debt and decided to become working members of society from the get go.

    Yeah... I have no education, I'm going to be 24 in January. I left my program because I could no longer afford to complete it, now in debt and I can't go back until I've paid off my debt.
  • marinebiologist_girl
    marinebiologist_girl Posts: 300
    I'm in a wonderful long-distance relationship but for me, right now, it's an inability to understand the concept of "asexuality".
  • Molly_Maguire
    Molly_Maguire Posts: 1,103 Member
    Anyone that's not my husband. He is perfect. :)
  • ilovemybuggy
    ilovemybuggy Posts: 1,584 Member
    deadbeat fathers
  • marinebiologist_girl
    marinebiologist_girl Posts: 300
    Liberals

    * certainly I would never date one. I will tolerated with friends and family so long as you are not the pushy type who won't shut the heck up. I have written off friends and family who do this. I don't force my view on you, don't force yours on me.

    Yea, that goes both ways, I have tons of Conservative/Republican friends and family that are pushy and won't shut up.
    The same can be said of Tories or the BNP.
  • AmericanCowboy76
    AmericanCowboy76 Posts: 99 Member
    I won't date a non Christian. I'm sure that will piss a lot of people off but I just won't. My fiath is very important to me. Any woman I am with must love God, kids, be decent and respectful. My wife (may she rest in peace) set a very high standard.
  • KimberlyDCZ
    KimberlyDCZ Posts: 525 Member
    smoking, bad grammar, Redskins fans
  • mcn79
    mcn79 Posts: 112 Member
    I have a few: no job, no car, lives with parents, has numerous kids by numerous women, has zero ambition and now smoking.

    My list used to be similar. Until I met my current boyfriend who is undoubtedly the love of my life. When I met him he was unemployed, his car was broken down and he lived with his sister. He had a daughter and smokes. I'm glad that when he approached me (via email...we met online) that I responded and let him know that I had some concerns. We talked through them and I understood what chain of events led him to where he was. That being said, it was very clear that he had ambition, wanted to work and wasn't content living with his sister.

    He is now gainfully employed, with a functioning car and we just moved in together. I adore his daughter and tolerate the smoking. I've never been happier.

    Sometimes we miss out when we don't look deeper. Not preaching, by any means, but I'm SO glad I didn't blow him off.
  • ilovemybuggy
    ilovemybuggy Posts: 1,584 Member
    oh, and liars / cheaters/ drug users / rude / lazy ... i'm sure there's more
  • allifantastical
    allifantastical Posts: 946 Member
    I won't date a non Christian. I'm sure that will piss a lot of people off but I just won't. My fiath is very important to me. Any woman I am with must love God, kids, be decent and respectful. My wife (may she rest in peace) set a very high standard.

    I'm the opposite. I generally don't like to date religious people because of my non-belief.
  • CalJur
    CalJur Posts: 627 Member
    1a. Smoking 1b. Lack of extremely active libido. I'm just saying.
  • amonroe1343
    amonroe1343 Posts: 206 Member
    Cubs fans, packer fans, no post high school education, no job, no car, does any illegal drugs, has ugly teeth. So I guess the first two aren't really deal breakers but kinda more funny :)
  • monipie
    monipie Posts: 280 Member
    being a liberal lol.
  • jonward85
    jonward85 Posts: 534 Member
    Smoking, bad teeth, VD, babymommas, babydrama, no interests, no skills, no pulse.


    This...and being to liberal.
  • ilovemybuggy
    ilovemybuggy Posts: 1,584 Member
    ohhhh, def NASTY teeth!
  • bugaha1
    bugaha1 Posts: 602 Member
    Ladies over 45 who have no kids and never married before, and the cat lady who lets the cat on the tables or counters.
  • garnetsms
    garnetsms Posts: 10,018 Member
    I have several ot those already listed, but being a Non-christian is the top of the list. That does not mean I won't respect you, or even be your friend, I just won't date a non-believer....

    Along with that (I have noticed it in the many threads including this one), people who take the Lord's name in vain, whether it be said or typed. The system bleeps out most curse words (which is good) but not this one???
  • jonward85
    jonward85 Posts: 534 Member
    Ladies over 45 who have no kids and never married before, and the cat lady who lets the cat on the tables or counters.


    I dunno there are some nice ladies over 45 who meet that...but the cat lady would kill me...all pets on the ground.
  • crimsoncat
    crimsoncat Posts: 457 Member
    Smoking and/or wants me to be a stay at home mom.

    I hate kids, I hate cleaning, and I hate staying at home.
  • serena569
    serena569 Posts: 427 Member
    Bad teeth. And being mean to servers, cashiers, etc.
  • Kamille2007
    Kamille2007 Posts: 34
    Liberals

    * certainly I would never date one. I will tolerated with friends and family so long as you are not the pushy type who won't shut the heck up. I have written off friends and family who do this. I don't force my view on you, don't force yours on me.

    Yea, that goes both ways, I have tons of Conservative/Republican friends and family that are pushy and won't shut up.

    Precisely... thank you!
  • allifantastical
    allifantastical Posts: 946 Member

    Along with that (I have noticed it in the many threads including this one), people who take the Lord's name in vain, whether it be said or typed. The system bleeps out most curse words (which is good) but not this one???

    Maybe because it's not a curse word to everyone?
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,810 Member
    Bad teeth (like gross, yellow, dirty, disgusting clear you don't take care of them... if you can't take care of those, you can't take care of yourself).

    No education. Some people see this as snobby..... but it's such an important part of my life (I just applied for 2 PhD programs yesterday), It just bothers me when someone is 27, no education beyond high school, and probably working a crap job. I mean, yay, they have a job, but why didn't you even try? Ugh!

    Wow, having lack of education as the deal breaker is not what people think is snobby, your attitude about it is. Maybe not everyone wanted to be saddled down with student loan debt and decided to become working members of society from the get go.

    I agree...college isn't for everyone. My boyfriend went to college on a baseball scholarship, broke his hand and couldn't play anymore, therefore losing his scholarship. At the same time his grandmother (who he and his mother lived with his whole life) got cancer and his mother was her sole caretaker, so instead of putting his family and himself in more debt, he went out and got a job. A decent one, actually, considering he was 19 and had no education.

    He is now 28 years old, no degree, but has a great job, makes really good money, and is in control of his own career. Yeah, he has a CAREER, and he doesn't have a degree. Doesn't mean he's not ambitious, or hard working, or intelligent, just means college wasn't as accessible for him as it has been for you, and instead of being in debt, he's got money in the bank. I'm the one with the degree, I make less money than he does, and I've got student loans to pay off for the rest of my freaking life.
  • Kamille2007
    Kamille2007 Posts: 34
    Bad teeth (like gross, yellow, dirty, disgusting clear you don't take care of them... if you can't take care of those, you can't take care of yourself).

    No education. Some people see this as snobby..... but it's such an important part of my life (I just applied for 2 PhD programs yesterday), It just bothers me when someone is 27, no education beyond high school, and probably working a crap job. I mean, yay, they have a job, but why didn't you even try? Ugh!

    Wow, having lack of education as the deal breaker is not what people think is snobby, your attitude about it is. Maybe not everyone wanted to be saddled down with student loan debt and decided to become working members of society from the get go.

    Natasha... you are taking the toughts from my brain and typing them out so that I don't have to, thanks again! :)
  • sylvuz323
    sylvuz323 Posts: 468 Member
    a penis

    That's a requirement for me, lol.
  • BAMFMeredith
    BAMFMeredith Posts: 2,810 Member
    Bad teeth. And being mean to servers, cashiers, etc.

    Omg yes, if I was on a date with a guy who was rude to a server/bartender/cashier/anyone in the service industry, that would be the last date we go on. There is no reason to be rude to people like that.

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