What's your Deal-Breaker?
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1a. Smoking 1b. Lack of extremely active libido. I'm just saying.
Nothing wrong with being straight forward and honest...0 -
This is all hypothetical because I'm taken, but:
Smoking
Deeply religious / practicing any religion (nothing personal, but it's very far from the way I live my life so it won't work)
Racism
Stupidity of course.0 -
Doesn't like animals.
Name callers when they're mad.
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Porn addicts.0 -
How about people who hold their silverware like a shovel. buh bye0
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Stupid is about all that can't be fixed. So, that's it.0
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Good God, I have a lot of them. It's a wonder I'm not single.
Deal Breakers:
- Smoking
- Drugs
- Poor hygiene/doesn't take care of himself from a health standpoint
- My height or shorter (I'm 5'3", so hasn't really been an issue)
- Not close with any family (aside from some crazy extenuating circumstances---I just need a man who loves his mama)
- Doesn't want kids (I have a 5 year old, so obviously he'd have to want children)
- No job
- No car
- No ambition
- Doesn't share my sense of humor
- Doesn't share my same general religious and political views (I'm flexible with that one, but no extremes on either end)
- No manners (I'm from the south, you better know how to treat a woman like a lady)
- Not an animal lover
- Owns cats (my son is allergic, also I don't particularly care for cats as pets)
- Not compassionate/generous
- Doesn't appreciate hard work (Sorry, I wouldn't date a man who lived off of mommy and daddy's money without having to work for anything)
- Has good teeth
- Dresses well (I don't mean expensive, just knows how to dress himself nicely for whatever situation he's in without looking like a slob)
- Tells me what to do/bossy/controlling
- Is close-minded in general/won't try new things
Good Lord, I'm already annoyed with myself. Thank GOD I have a boyfriend who is up to par lol
ETA: I can't date a man who is a Spurs Fan, a Redskins fan, a Red Sox fan, an Aggie, or an OU fan. It would just never work out.
I'm in full agreement with this one, other than the sports stuff. That's silly stuff.
The only one I would ad is racist/bigot.0 -
Mean people
Patriot fans
Sorry, we can never date. I am both mean and a Patriots fan :laugh:
The two go together often.0 -
1a. Smoking 1b. Lack of extremely active libido. I'm just saying.
I agree on the libido part because I don't want to have to beg to just get it once a week! Gotta be ready and willing a lot more often than that!0 -
Bad teeth (like gross, yellow, dirty, disgusting clear you don't take care of them... if you can't take care of those, you can't take care of yourself).
No education. Some people see this as snobby..... but it's such an important part of my life (I just applied for 2 PhD programs yesterday), It just bothers me when someone is 27, no education beyond high school, and probably working a crap job. I mean, yay, they have a job, but why didn't you even try? Ugh!
Wow, having lack of education as the deal breaker is not what people think is snobby, your attitude about it is. Maybe not everyone wanted to be saddled down with student loan debt and decided to become working members of society from the get go.
I hope when your plumbing fails, you don't call some uneducated person to come fix it for you. Jerk.0 -
Hypothetical because I'm married but my deal breakers are... Wants kids, doesn't respect animals or is religous. As other's have stated, I'll respect you regardless of your beliefs in religion but absolutely no to a serious SO relationship.0
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Bad tipper - shows selfishness.0
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Good God, I have a lot of them. It's a wonder I'm not single.
Deal Breakers:
- Smoking
- Drugs
- Poor hygiene/doesn't take care of himself from a health standpoint
- My height or shorter (I'm 5'3", so hasn't really been an issue)
- Not close with any family (aside from some crazy extenuating circumstances---I just need a man who loves his mama)
- Doesn't want kids (I have a 5 year old, so obviously he'd have to want children)
- No job
- No car
- No ambition
- Doesn't share my sense of humor
- Doesn't share my same general religious and political views (I'm flexible with that one, but no extremes on either end)
- No manners (I'm from the south, you better know how to treat a woman like a lady)
- Not an animal lover
- Owns cats (my son is allergic, also I don't particularly care for cats as pets)
- Not compassionate/generous
- Doesn't appreciate hard work (Sorry, I wouldn't date a man who lived off of mommy and daddy's money without having to work for anything)
- Has good teeth
- Dresses well (I don't mean expensive, just knows how to dress himself nicely for whatever situation he's in without looking like a slob)
- Tells me what to do/bossy/controlling
- Is close-minded in general/won't try new things
Good Lord, I'm already annoyed with myself. Thank GOD I have a boyfriend who is up to par lol
ETA: I can't date a man who is a Spurs Fan, a Redskins fan, a Red Sox fan, an Aggie, or an OU fan. It would just never work out.
I'm in full agreement with this one, other than the sports stuff. That's silly stuff.
The only one I would ad is racist/bigot.
Oh yeah, that's in there with "sharing same beliefs" type thing. I can't deal with racists/bigots etc.0 -
I quite agree on that sort of thing - if it's with some friends, fair enough but on a date you expect to be focus of attention. Maybe if they said "I may have an important call coming in, do you mind if I take it" - fair enough. Also certainly not a fan of texting/checking facebook etc. Sure, I might not be that interesting, but it'd be nice if you pretendedManners.
A few years ago (before meeting my hubby) I went on a date with a guy who answered his cell phone at the table while we were out for dinner and I immediately demanded to be taken home and end the date. He had driven so if he had refused I would have had the restaurant call a cab. I am incredibly picky about manners and cell phones at the dinner table are a BIG pet peeve for me. I've yelled at my own mother for doing it.
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BUT, to my mind your actions showed even more of a lack of manners - not accepting that other people live in a different culture and that doesn't specifically reflect on how they consider us.
As for education - I only got high school qualifications. Yet I've held a decent technical managerial position 'above' people that were university educated. I can hold conversations just fine with uni graduates in areas I'm interested in but have no specific education in (nutrition, for instance) and have in more than one case helped uni students with their work in both my area and others.
But then generally I don't think there's many lone "deal breakers" for me - if there was enough positives it probably wouldn't be a deal breaker.
Maybe rudeness generally.0 -
I quite agree on that sort of thing - if it's with some friends, fair enough but on a date you expect to be focus of attention. Maybe if they said "I may have an important call coming in, do you mind if I take it" - fair enough. Also certainly not a fan of texting/checking facebook etc. Sure, I might not be that interesting, but it'd be nice if you pretendedManners.
A few years ago (before meeting my hubby) I went on a date with a guy who answered his cell phone at the table while we were out for dinner and I immediately demanded to be taken home and end the date. He had driven so if he had refused I would have had the restaurant call a cab. I am incredibly picky about manners and cell phones at the dinner table are a BIG pet peeve for me. I've yelled at my own mother for doing it..
BUT, to my mind your actions showed even more of a lack of manners - not accepting that other people live in a different culture and that doesn't specifically reflect on how they consider us.
There wasn't any "different culture". Manners are manners, period. My reaction of asking to leave the restaurant was my way of saying, "you're not getting another date because I deserve better". My apologies if standards aren't something you see too often anymore. :noway:0 -
People who are addicted to TV. It's fine to have favorite shows but generally its more fun to go out and do something than to sit around watching other people have your fun for you.0
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not having personal responsibility and trying to control my life.0
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a penis
Yeah this one I can't argue with. Defo deal breaker for sure.
Outside of this I'd have to go with anti-military. Can't support what I've done or my 'brothers and sisters' are still doing, I got no time for you.0 -
Dirty scruffy shoes !0
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a penis
Yeah this one I can't argue with. Defo deal breaker for sure.
Outside of this I'd have to go with anti-military. Can't support what I've done or my 'brothers and sisters' are still doing, I got no time for you.
Mmmm picture this, a tranny that looks like Jennifer Aniston? Would you be able to stomach that?0 -
Deal breakers for me?
Poor personal hygiene
Doesn't love animals
Smoker
Flirt (with other women)
Rude
Loud mouth
Control freak
(just naming a few, going back to my single days!)0 -
Lack of passport.0
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Hawkeye fans.
this should not be a deal breaker! it should seal the deal!0 -
If he gets a restraining order ...well... maybe not a deal breaker but I would cut way back on the stalking. LOL0
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Un-manly men. If you would rather go shopping than fishing, I'm out.0
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If I can squat or bench more than a guy....0
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arrogant d-bags0
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complainer
does not read - I've found I just cannot relate.0 -
A lot of people these days exist in groups of friends where just this sort of thing IS acceptable.There wasn't any "different culture". Manners are manners, period. My reaction of asking to leave the restaurant was my way of saying, "you're not getting another date because I deserve better". My apologies if standards aren't something you see too often anymore. :noway:
Living in what I'd consider a different 'culture' wouldn't be a deal breaker for me.
It's not a case of "standards" out right, but people basing these on different criteria.
Me, I'd certainly say what could be seen as throwing a strop because they're not getting 100% attention* as below-par too.
*trying to word it not too nastily.0 -
Good point... rare that I find myself attracted to a woman that I can squat or bench less thanIf I can squat or bench more than a guy.....
(I should point out I'm not a small bloke however, even if I don't have the biggest muscles I've had right now.)0 -
Another one would be a Cowboy fan...things would get WAY too ugly during football season...0
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