telling your partner how much you weigh

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  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
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    Honestly, I think most guys don't know what an optimal range for a woman is. I don't for guys. I remember my bf being surprised when I told him how much I weighed. Don't know if that was a good thing or not, I didn't want to ask!

    But you shouldn't have to tell him! It's one of those few things in a relationship you really don't need to share.
  • Nkikia
    Nkikia Posts: 2 Member
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    why r u embarrassed? it just a number. he was with u for almost 2 years so dont be ashamed...u doing well and keep it up
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
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    My husband knows how much I weigh -- to me it's no big deal. He sees me naked, I'm not hiding anything.
  • secretlobster
    secretlobster Posts: 3,566 Member
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    He doesn't know how much I weigh, and has never asked

    The number on the scale is only meaningful to one person on earth (you)
  • Angie_1991
    Angie_1991 Posts: 447 Member
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    I don't even like it that my Dr. knows what I way....and I work at a hospital so the people I work with also know.........dislike that......
  • Celestialfairie
    Celestialfairie Posts: 134
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    My beau knows almost exactly where I am at, and not only because he's on MFP as well. I've always found it important to be open with these things. Not because weight matters, but because it was something I was serious about and serious about changing. And by being open with things he knew where I was, how far I've come and just how supportive to be.

    Since then (not at goal but close enough to be happy while still trying) he's seen just what I can do and wants to do the same thing. Now the roles are reversed.

    It's never easy to admit to something that's embarrassing, especially to the one you love. I want him to be so madly, truly and deeply in love with me that I hate to admit to things that can look negative. The best thing about love though? Is that the number on a scale won't matter. I'm sure he'll agree, and actually be happy that you feel comfortable enough to open up to him (if and when you do).
  • LoraF83
    LoraF83 Posts: 15,694 Member
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    i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and have never told him how much i weigh. now i have been dieting and losing weight he asks me every now and then and i just make up a excuse not to tell him cos i am so embarressed. I weigh more then him and i know its just a number and it wont change anything but i am still too ashamed :( anyone else in this position?

    No offense, but he already knows how big or small your body is. What he can see and feel is more important than a number, IMO.
  • Angie_1991
    Angie_1991 Posts: 447 Member
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    I don't even like it that my Dr. knows what I way....and I work at a hospital so the people I work with also know.........dislike that......

    But I did post it on here somewhere...where someone asked what size and what you weigh......but no one knows me here.
  • xoTammyox
    xoTammyox Posts: 74 Member
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    I don't know why it's such a big deal for some people. My husband has always known how much I weigh. Even before we were maried. No biggie for me.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
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    Honestly, I think most guys don't know what an optimal range for a woman is. I don't for guys. I remember my bf being surprised when I told him how much I weighed. Don't know if that was a good thing or not, I didn't want to ask!

    But you shouldn't have to tell him! It's one of those few things in a relationship you really don't need to share.

    I think this is really true. My ex (who I am good friends with) once said to be he didn't think he he attracted to a girl over 150 pounds and at that moment I weighed like 152 or something. It really hurt me then, but I didn't say anything about it. 5 years later we were talking about the good old days and I told him that was probably the most hurtful thing he'd said and probably one of the main reasons I looked for an escape and he was SHOCKED that I weighed anything over 120 pounds and had me get on the scale -- I weighed 149 pounds. He about died and was really embarrassed that he'd been such a douche.
  • cheerforsteelers
    cheerforsteelers Posts: 686 Member
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    I used to feel this way and I dated this one guy who would not stop asking me how much I weighed. He was determined to find out, but it only drove me crazy and upset me. At this point in time I'm not sure if I would share the number until I get down a bit more though I'm waaaaay more comfortable with it then I used to be. Before, I wasn't working to lower it. Now, it's moving down.
  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
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    My hubby knows, but I don't care that much. If I did, my answer would be "Still more than I want to, but I've already lost X lbs!!"

    That way, he can still cheer you on your successes. :)
  • Caroline1803
    Caroline1803 Posts: 16
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    My partner knows how much I weigh and he is my biggest supporter now. I had lost 4 stone when I started going out with him and after a few months he joined me on my diet and says I am his inspiration. He weighs in with me each week and keeps me going when I start to waiver x
  • lilmissymoo90
    lilmissymoo90 Posts: 324 Member
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    im the opposite my partner helps me threw it and saports me every time i weigh mysef i dont look and he does and tells me if ive lost or gained lol
  • Kelsbellz
    Kelsbellz Posts: 142 Member
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    No, I have never told my husband how much I weigh...it's for my eyes only. I always tell him whether things are going well or if I'm stuck and he's always supportive but I just can't bring myself to tell him that stupid number - especially the starting number.
  • texnurse
    texnurse Posts: 33 Member
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    I didn't tell my fiance until I started losing the weight. We have been together for 5 years. Now he knows and also knows how much I have lost and is my biggest support.
  • her4g63
    her4g63 Posts: 284 Member
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    i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and have never told him how much i weigh. now i have been dieting and losing weight he asks me every now and then and i just make up a excuse not to tell him cos i am so embarressed. I weigh more then him and i know its just a number and it wont change anything but i am still too ashamed :( anyone else in this position?

    No offense, but he already knows how big or small your body is. What he can see and feel is more important than a number, IMO.

    Truth.
  • Laura8603
    Laura8603 Posts: 590 Member
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    I used to feel the same way, but since I've lost weight, I tell him. He can even guess my weight within 2 pounds, which freaks me out...lol. He's very observant (and very supportive). He loves me no matter what my size is.
  • ShiloughCoy
    ShiloughCoy Posts: 73
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    I told my partner and he exclaimed "That's what I SHOULD weigh! Damn!"

    Bottom line - men are not good at censoring themselves so maybe less information would be best unless you have feelings that cannot be hurt :)
  • DaivaSimone
    DaivaSimone Posts: 657 Member
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    My boyfriend sees me naked every night when we go to bed and every morning when we wake up, and probably at some other time of the day when I just feel like laying on the couch in panties, when I'm coloring my hair and I don't want to stain my clothes or when I remove my workout clothes in the middle of the kitchen because it's half way between washing machine and shower. He is probably aware that I am obese (if not: hello dude, we live together for seven years now !), so what's the point about hiding my numbers ? I really don't understand that. Do you think your boyfriend will juste realize that you're heavy because you say how much you weight ?

    You know, he is probably already aware. If he loves what he see and touch every day if is life, he wont run for a number...

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