Wives/Girlfriends and Gentlemens Clubs......
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it's not like I haven't THOUGHT it was a trap but, she's brought it up a few times and usually after she has a couple of drinks so, I know her inhibitions are a little less when she says it. But, I always blow it off and think "oh, she's just buzzin and talkin crap" Maybe we'll just have to seriously talk about it and give it a try. I've passed trap tests before...as long as I mind my own and give her most of the attention even in the club...might work out.
How about this...take her out for a nice dinner and some drinks...get her nice and buzzed and when she says "we should go to strip club sometime" you say "well how about right now"? boom! then once you are there enjoy the show of t&a in your wifes face. (:0 -
My thoughts exactly... coming from a female perspective, if she's the jealous type, it's a total trap for her to find something to get annoyed about how that stripper was paying attention to you.0 -
Been there and done that, waste of money and a couple of evenings that could have been better spent. Wouldn't do it again but my guy would never go even if it were my idea.0
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That's crazy talk! I would stick with something safe, like making pottery or taking a cooking class....because taking your wife or girlfriend to a strip club is a recipe for disaster. Does your wife really need to see you get a lap dance?
I say turn the tables on her and take her to a club that is for the ladies.0 -
if she is jealous over something little, what do you THINK will happen when there are gorgeous,scantily clad women with their breasts out in your face, thonged crotch grinding yours going to make her do?0
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ok, here's the deal....My wife has mentioned several times over the course of the past few months that we should get a sitter for the kiddos and go to a strip club. What does that mean?
A little wifey background....she's the jealous type, if I comment about how another woman looks, it better be a derogatory comment or I'm in the doghouse for a day or two. So, I don't get it......who's going to get in more trouble at a strip club....me or her?
Go for it, could lead to the dream we all have, three ball baby HIGH FIVES0 -
Married 7 yrs and happily.
7 yr itch.0 -
My husband and I have an understanding that our hearts are each others but our eyes are our own. As long as we come home to each other looking ain't no thang!!
If you have a jealous wife and now she's offering this up... RED FLAG!!! She maybe only jealous or getting after you because she's doing some shady stuff on the side and because of the guilt accusing you. Or maybe she's into women and wants to find someone for you to play with.0 -
Next time she mentions it, tell her to plan the date then. That it's not really your thing, but if it's something she wants to do, you'll tag along with her.
1) You pass the test
2) You may even end up at the club
3) You show her than you support her "interest"
Sounds like a win all the way around to me!0 -
Ask her why she wants to go. She could just be looking for your reaction or she could just want to see what it's all about.
I go all the time with my husband and as some people pointed out the girls are the ones who get the most attention when they are there with their guys.
ETA: I'm also not the jealous type and there is no way I could be in a relationship with someone who is not only jealous but sets "traps" to try and "catch me" doing something wrong. That's just wrong all around. How can you have a relationship like that?
Married 7 yrs and happily. I just know she has some insecurities from her previous marriage and I respect that.
Wow. After 7 years she needs to get over those insecurities. I mean really. If you're happily married and you're ok with your wife setting traps for you then power to you.0 -
I say turn the tables on her and take her to a club that is for the ladies.
If she is wanting some girl action and wanting some boobies in her face, this will not be a good solution.
I'd be all for seeing beautiful women with my man but being around half naked muscle dudes around him would just be uncomfortable.0 -
Next time she mentions it, tell her to plan the date then. That it's not really your thing, but if it's something she wants to do, you'll tag along with her.
1) You pass the test
2) You may even end up at the club
3) You show her than you support her "interest"
Sounds like a win all the way around to me!
^ Best advice so far! :drinker:0 -
She probably wants to see how many of the strippers know you by name...0
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Seriously?!?! A trap?? Who would do that.
Hey hun... Let's go to a strip club
OK
But if you look at those women I'll be mad
that's like putting hot fresh bacon on a plate and saying "don't eat that!"
Women!0 -
Perhaps you know a couple who is a bit more liberal who could "suggest" a double date for you guys to the club? That way it doesn't come directly from you and you get to test and see if she is actually interested? :huh:0
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Just say no.0
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Maybe she actually meant a club on the strip? Don't project your own desires when listening to she who must be obeyed.....0
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it sounds like a trap....
this is how it'll go down
she'll mention it to you again in the near future....and this time you'll say "yeah, we should go, friday night maybe?" and then she'll hit you with the " I can't believe you would ACTUALLY TAKE ME to the STRIP CLUB, obviously you wanna go .....bla bla bla bla...." and it all goes down hill from there.... I could be wrong but,
thats just my two cents!!0 -
Ask her why she wants to go. She could just be looking for your reaction or she could just want to see what it's all about.
I go all the time with my husband and as some people pointed out the girls are the ones who get the most attention when they are there with their guys.
ETA: I'm also not the jealous type and there is no way I could be in a relationship with someone who is not only jealous but sets "traps" to try and "catch me" doing something wrong. That's just wrong all around. How can you have a relationship like that?
Married 7 yrs and happily. I just know she has some insecurities from her previous marriage and I respect that.
You've been married 7 years and she's still insecure about her previous marriage?
You, sir, are a saint.
Not a saint but, definately consider myself a decent guy....Her ex was a cheater and a crackhead. We've raised his two kids without a dime from him....oops, wrong thread
It could be a fantasy thing for her. I've noticed her raise an eyebrow during a lil porn foreplay at the lesbian and threesome scenes. But, 99% of the time she's pretty modest. I will just have to ask her more about it next time she brings it up...mention to her I feel like it would be a trap for her to throw at me later on.0 -
A cheat and a crackhead, tough act to follow, bar murdering her mother and shaggin' her sister feel free to do as you please0
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I would try it. Simply because she asked, and asked again. Go have some fun!
Good luck!0 -
I can relate to your wife. I'm the jealous type and I'd be more than willing to go with my husband to a strip club. Know why? Strippers aren't a real threat. If you go together be prepared to hear her degrade them for being ugly, overweight, having cellulite, having fake boobs, seeming trashy, etc.
Also, be prepared to fork over 2 consecutive lap dances for her with the one girl she seems to admire and NEVER buy one for yourself. Just watch her when she's receiving lap dances or let her buy you one... that way there's no reason to fight about it.
Another way to get on her good side? After you buy her 2 consecutive lap dances from her favorite stripper tell her that you're so turned on from seeing her enjoy herself that you want to go home and get busy immediately (this also keeps you from being in the dog house for inadvertantly staying too long). You'll make her feel like a million and avoid catastrophe.0 -
Sounds like a trap to me.
I don't consider myself a jealous person. I mean, yes, if he's "hanging out" with some chick I don't know without me that's going to be a problem. But if we're walking through the mall and he notices someone who is attractive.. Well, chances are that I noticed it first and pointed it out. But at the same time, there's a balance. If either one of us sees someone that makes us want to cry or laugh or hurl, that's pointed out too. But it's probably because we both like women. I'm not threatened by other women because I know he'd rather see ME with another chick than be with one himself.
Personally, I love going to the strip club with my fiance. It's not often, but we always have a lot of fun. Some nights it's the B Team and we just sit back and judge. Other nights it's the A Team and he hands me a wad of singles to go have fun with.
Maybe tell her that SHE should go. Have a girls night or something and see if she likes it. If she wants to go back, you'd love to take her because you want to make her happy. Don't just be like "*kitten* YEAH I WANNA GO!" Try to approach it like, "if that's what YOU really want to do.." but you may want to ask her why she wants to go in the first place. Act like you have no interest in going and make it all about her wanting to go. She might have a great time. Strippers love women.
DO NOT TELL HER IF YOU KNOW WHERE THE GOOD CLUB IS. Tell her you're going to ask your friends for a place to go or something. And DO NOT tell her you think it's a trap. If it IS, in fact, a trap.. You're digging a deeper hole.0 -
I can relate to your wife. I'm the jealous type and I'd be more than willing to go with my husband to a strip club. Know why? Strippers aren't a real threat. If you go together be prepared to hear her degrade them for being ugly, overweight, having cellulite, having fake boobs, seeming trashy, etc.
Also, be prepared to fork over 2 consecutive lap dances for her with the one girl she seems to admire and NEVER buy one for yourself. Just watch her when she's receiving lap dances or let her buy you one... that way there's no reason to fight about it.
Another way to get on her good side? After you buy her 2 consecutive lap dances from her favorite stripper tell her that you're so turned on from seeing her enjoy herself that you want to go home and get busy immediately (this also keeps you from being in the dog house for inadvertantly staying too long). You'll make her feel like a million and avoid catastrophe.
LOL. This was really good advice! I have a lot of girlfriends who set "traps"....this is probably the best way to still get to go and avoid the trap.0 -
it's not like I haven't THOUGHT it was a trap but, she's brought it up a few times and usually after she has a couple of drinks so, I know her inhibitions are a little less when she says it. But, I always blow it off and think "oh, she's just buzzin and talkin crap" Maybe we'll just have to seriously talk about it and give it a try. I've passed trap tests before...as long as I mind my own and give her most of the attention even in the club...might work out.
Okay...this accompanied with the other comment about the porn thing tells me she definitely wants to go see naked women. Take her...but take her for her. You don't get to do anything but watch her.
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Best answer yet!A cheat and a crackhead, tough act to follow, bar murdering her mother and shaggin' her sister feel free to do as you please0 -
"ewwww" and "weird'...that's all I got0
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I think your wife's inner lesbian is about to come out!0
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I enjoy strip clubs, in fact the husband and I are going to one on Monday for happy hour.0
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that sounds like a trap......
I agree0
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