Harsh opinions wanted!!!
Ok, so I've noticed that since I've lost weight, I can't go out without anyone trying to take me home. Now, I have mixed feelings about this and it's not limited to guys. My.girlfriends also try (I'm not offended and actually flattered). My ordeal is that I don't truly believe that it's because I'm attractive. I've met beautiful girls who are overweight who get attention and, have friends worth awesome bodiesv and terrible faces and bad attitudes. All of whom get hit on. I want to be the total package so I would greatly appreciate any critism to ground me and give me something to work toward. I'm being conscious about who I am and trying not to become a *kitten* while I lose weight like I've seen do many times before. I want to ground myself and start humble.
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I don't think it has anything to do with the way you look. Maybe it's that you are more confident. A lot of guys like confidence in a girl for a relationship, but if they're just wanting to get in your pants they look for the most emotionally vulnerable woman they can find. Just don't go around thinking you are better than everyone else and everything should be fine.0
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That's honestly what I'm trying to avoid.0
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You've only lost 11 lbs, it's not the weight because I'm sure you looked the same in clothes before. I have heard men say they try to pick on the easiest girl in the group, could be the way you dress or present yourself.0
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I may be that you are more confident but as a guy, we look at the physique first then we talk and decide if it's worth our time.
You are pretty and you have a great body IMO! Keep your humble attitude, be confident and that's about it.
Get used to guys talking to you cuz you look great and if you have a great personality, well, then bingo! Oh and you might get haters too. Expect it from close friends. Seriously, it happens.0 -
You've only lost 11 lbs, it's not the weight because I'm sure you looked the same in clothes before. I have heard men say they try to pick on the easiest girl in the group, could be the way you dress or present yourself.
That's crap. And 11 lbs.. will be noticed. My ex was Asian and petite. I helped her lose 12 lbs and everyone noticed.0 -
Ok, so I've noticed that since I've lost weight, I can't go out without anyone trying to take me home. Now, I have mixed feelings about this and it's not limited to guys. My.girlfriends also try (I'm not offended and actually flattered). My ordeal is that I don't truly believe that it's because I'm attractive. I've met beautiful girls who are overweight who get attention and, have friends worth awesome bodiesv and terrible faces and bad attitudes. All of whom get hit on. I want to be the total package so I would greatly appreciate any critism to ground me and give me something to work toward. I'm being conscious about who I am and trying not to become a *kitten* while I lose weight like I've seen do many times before. I want to ground myself and start humble.
I'm not understanding the problem. You already sound grounded. The fact that you would ask for criticism is proof enough. So what are you really after?0 -
My opinion is that you should stop basing your opinion of yourself on the opinion of others
It truly is what is inside that counts. :flowerforyou:0 -
there's nothing about you, you're gorgeous in fact, i think perhaps men are simply intimidated by you and the ones who aren't are merely overconfident douches who think they can bring anyone home, what i would recommend is perhaps you making first approach or changing surroundings0
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That's honestly what I'm trying to avoid.
There's a huge difference between confidence and arrogance. From where I sit you have alot to be confident about but . . . you need to recognize that in yourself.0 -
harsh: you are really gorgeous! you have a beautiful face and i love your hair. your body is amazing as is, but as you progress i bet you will have a tighter tummy and be even hotter.
i find that people do hit on people who are either hot or vulnerable. i disagree with the confidence thing. confidence scares others. it welcomes them on a friend level, but it scares them in every other way possible. i could be wrong, but this is how i read people. when i am alone and not having the greatest day i get hit on a lot. when i am on top of the world people seem like they couldn't care less....or maybe i just don't notice. i don't know!0 -
I don't think it has anything to do with the way you look. Maybe it's that you are more confident. A lot of guys like confidence in a girl for a relationship, but if they're just wanting to get in your pants they look for the most emotionally vulnerable woman they can find. Just don't go around thinking you are better than everyone else and everything should be fine.
omg this!! i only read the confident part at first. but i fullllly agree!0 -
You've only lost 11 lbs, it's not the weight because I'm sure you looked the same in clothes before. I have heard men say they try to pick on the easiest girl in the group, could be the way you dress or present yourself.
I'm sure you looked the same in clothes before.
Bull.
As for the question... OP, as mentioned before, there's a difference between confidence and arrogance. You don't seem arrogant, to me, but only you can change how you feel about yourself, here.
Have fun, enjoy it. You've worked hard for it. 0 -
Oh hell yes, I know its such a burden to look as good as we do :smokin:0
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How old are the people that pick you up?
Just asking cause guys my age will go for 30+ year olds cause they're the most vulnerable and sexually deprived.
Anyways you seem to be confusing your confidence with arrogance. Don't be so harsh on yourself.0 -
I don't understand the problem...you go out...guys hit on you...this is the way of the world.
No one can definitively tell you the reason because it is different from person to person, but I would guess that generally the person thinks you are good looking and is talking to you to see if you are a cool person as well.0 -
Ok, so I've noticed that since I've lost weight, I can't go out without anyone trying to take me home. Now, I have mixed feelings about this and it's not limited to guys. My.girlfriends also try (I'm not offended and actually flattered). My ordeal is that I don't truly believe that it's because I'm attractive. I've met beautiful girls who are overweight who get attention and, have friends worth awesome bodiesv and terrible faces and bad attitudes. All of whom get hit on. I want to be the total package so I would greatly appreciate any critism to ground me and give me something to work toward. I'm being conscious about who I am and trying not to become a *kitten* while I lose weight like I've seen do many times before. I want to ground myself and start humble.
Just so I have this straight, you mean that your own friends that are girls are also trying to take you home?0 -
Is this a serious question, or another one of those facetious threads?0
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I don't want to take you home. My wife would kill me.
Let's go to your place.0 -
I don't want to take you home. My wife would kill me.
Let's go to your place.
Good one! :laugh:0 -
are you asking why everyone wants to take you home and you want to know how to get people to not want to do that?0
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Without seeing you in person, based solely on your pictures, my only suggestion would be to strengthen your arms a bit. Not so they are body builder large, but in the pic's they look long and very thin, so a bit of muscle in those arms would make a big difference.0
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Looking at your pics, your body is fine. Reading your post, your attitude makes me think you are a witch with a captial B.
(You said be harsh :bigsmile: )0 -
Seriously? Would you like some cheese with that wine? "I'm so gorgeous that everybody wants to take me home! But even ugly fat girls get taken home. How can I be sure he'll respect me in the morning!!??"
You can't. Go home, ride the bologna pony and wait for him to call you. Or you can call him. Ain't brain science.0 -
Oh I'm so cursed. Everyone wants to take me home. I'm need a harsh opinion to ground me. Really? How about you sound vapid, shallow and narcissistic. Someone needs a reality check.0
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I really have no idea what this thread is about.0
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You're in denial. People are not trying to take you home for your personality. That harsh enough?0
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I really have no idea what this thread is about.
It's about a 31 year old former cheerleader trying to recapture her glory days. Nothing to see her people....move on.0 -
I really have no idea what this thread is about.
It's about a 31 year old former cheerleader trying to recapture her glory days. Nothing to see her people....move on.
Bwahahahahahaha0 -
you need more muscle on your frame. you should start doing a heavy lifting program.0
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I really have no idea what this thread is about.
Agreed. Wtf0
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